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[probuccalfat]

i cannot emphasize enough how important it is that you should ideally give birth in a fully equipped and staffed medical facility or if you insist on giving birth through an alternative method you should be within minutes of a hospital and i mean under 5 minutes if you’d like me to be really fucking frank

[probuccalfat]

like i can get on board with so much feminist theory and stuff, truly, and i do acknowledge that obstetrics and gynaecology as a field holds blind spots that are egregious (e.g. infant and maternal mortality in the black community) but there is no empowerment in risky birthing practices that our foremothers, and i’m not mincing words, often suffered through. birthing is natural, but it is not “easy” or even “innate”, it is best practiced guided and witnessed by those that know what to do in an emergency. you are not reconnecting to any innate feminine nature by practicing dangerous birthing practices—you are recreating a time when the bodies and lives of women barely mattered and it was expected that death would/could occur at insane and tragic rates.

[probuccalfat]

this is a hill i will spend the rest of my days fighting on because while i am not interested in birthing children myself, i have an incredible passion and interest in the field of labour and delivery. it’s been one of my greatest joys to play even a small part in delivering neonates. i do not want anyone to risk their babies over a deeply, deeply misguided idea of free birth being “the natural way” when natural is not always synonymous with the safest way.

[anarchohellenism]

So many people think it's either midwife or doctor. It's not. Have your midwife or doula in the hospital room with you, I promise the doctors don't give a shit. Hell, you can have her do the delivery itself and just have the doctors there as emergency backup! But for the love of your baby, go to the fucking hospital.

[probuccalfat]

yup. a lot of hospitals are willing to work with you to realize your birthing plan as much as they can within safe limits and parameters. my hospital is closely and highly allied with midwives all up and down the coast, with the explicit instruction to call the midwife when we know a labouring patient is about to deliver so we can respect their plan. genuinely, you can have almost any kind of birth you want—just make sure that there are qualified professionals in attendance, and it’s not just midwives or OBGYNS you need. you have no idea when you’ll need a respiratory therapist on call, you have no idea when you will need a blood transfusion within minutes or risk certain death, L&D nurses do not have the same training as NICU nurses if a baby declines rapidly. it’s a literal thousand things that can go wrong and you should be in the best place for them to go wrong.

[cheshirepirouette]

Actually yeah, while I'm still thinking about this.

@creatingblackcharacters is hosting another CBC Book Club, starting on 06/14/2026. We'll be reading "Medical Apartheid - The Dark History of Medical Experimentation on Black Americans from Colonial Times to the Present." I would recommend it.

I'm putting my previous thoughts on this thread below:

#I can't go fully into this rn #but I think there should be much more than a footnote about misogynoir and Black maternal death rates #even IF you have someone to advocate for you. a doula a midwife or a family member #that doesn't negate the racist practices that go on in hospitals #Especially pertaining to Black and Native pregnant peoples #up to and Including straight up just taking your child away. #advocacy is one thing but you have to discuss the actual options presented #because as is hospitals are staffed by people. who may be racist #and if so will leave you to death or worse

[janedoodlee]

my sister is insisting on getting to write her own tumblr post🙄

Post of sister below:

kitty cat 😺

[totally-cis-offical]

Curse of 10k

[curseof10k-offical]

you called?

[leebrontide]

Younger people, one thing I want you to understand about Millenials is that, overall, our parents taught their daughters to aim for careers and employment, but they didn't teach their sons to keep house. This causes a whole lot of Situations.

[sweaterkittensahoy]

My brothers are my half-brothers; they spent summers and some holidays with us. I love my brothers.

Their mother picked up after them. They were not required to take plates the kitchen or do the dishes or anything like that.

My mother, who would tell you she is for equality, came home one day, sighed at the mess of dirty dishes scattered about, and said, "Gayle, help me pick up."

"Those aren't my dishes," I said. "I picked up my dishes."

My mother sighed again. "Just help me pick up."

"No," I said again. "I didn't make that fucking mess."

She never approached my brothers and said, "Boys, in this house, you take your dishes to the kitchen." She did not tell our dad, "Hey, tell the boys they need to pick up after themselves."

It was, "Gayle, pick up the dishes."

And when I refused because it was not my fucking mess, I got lectured about being difficult.

See also: My brothers--in a classic dick-move of all siblings--figured out they could pop the lock on the bathroom door and throw it open, and I would freak out because I was in the shower and trying to get five fucking minutes of peace.

Guess who got yelled at for being "unreasonable"? Not the boys. Because a lot of moms of millennial boys still said shit like "boys will be boys" when they should have said "Boys, if you got body-slammed on the concrete, I'm not taking you to the hospital."

[gwydionmisha]

It was similar for Xers. I spent a lot of time in my 20's teaching romantic partners and friends basic household skills and having to be really hard ass about them carrying their weight.

It is stupid and infuriating and I hate that the "Boy Mom" trend is setting yet another generation up for unfairness and domestic strife.

[vaspider]

Yep.

[rhincodono]

One time when I was in high school, my mum came home w/ groceries. She needed help bringing all of them in. Did she ask my brother who was already outside playing basketball? No. Did she ask her husband who was sitting on his ass watching TV in the living room? Nope. She walked past both of them, through the house, and into my room where I was doing homework and yelled at me for not immediately coming out to help her.

I have been told that I am "the last of the millennials" or that I'm a "gen zer" or that I'm "on the cusp" by so many different people that I am 100% convinced this is not a generational problem. It is a societal problem. And millennial parents are not immune to raising their kids this way just bc they're younger than x'ers and boomers. Same goes for gen z'ers and every generation after us so long as misogyny remains the bedrock of society that it is.

[rockatanskette]

My parents did a lot to teach my brothers to keep house but the one that sticks with me and drives me a little crazy when it runs up against social expectations is that when we were 13+, everyone was on the dinner rotation. We didn’t have to make anything fancy and we didn’t have to do it alone, but once a week, dinner was our responsibility.

When I tell people this, they always, ALWAYS, assume I have sisters. They say shit like “oh I’d love to do that, but I have boys” and when I tell them I only have brothers, “oh you must have eaten a lot of burned dinners then!”

Like, no. To both of those statements. Sure we burned stuff when we were younger but we all learned to cook before 13, that was just the age where it became a scheduled chore. You know who did burn everything? My MOM. My Boomer dad did all the cooking because my mum didn’t want to and he was the one to help when we needed it, though my mum did help with prep/chopping things.

Fast forward to now, middle brother can make the best risotto I’ve ever had and my youngest brother is vegan and makes almost all his own meals because his partner isn’t and he doesn’t expect her to make two meals so he can eat.

The worst part of this social conditioning is how bullshit it is. I know this is not ingrained, I know people are teaching their sons to be assholes, and I look at my middle brother in his immaculate apartment with tasteful decor that he picked out himself and I look at my youngest brother who does all the clothes shopping for him and his partner because she struggles with it and it makes me want to just start biting people.

Men can be better than this, I GREW UP WITH THEM. I SAW IT. The parenting described above is fucking bullshit and it can be unlearned. My mum’s Russian and my dad’s a Boomer and they unlearned it, which means anybody can.

[satan-offical]

wow! i didn't know that satan from the bible was a 15 year old bisexual cis girl british person teenager living in the UK born in 2010 that wears a white shirt and black skirt/pants with a red tie and black/brown hair and wearable red horns thing on her head that has a tumblr blog with 18,000+ followers called "satan-offical" that goes to school and goes to church and is a popular person in school and makes dnd campaigns and writes fanfiction and uses she/they pronouns has started their blog in december 2024 and acts in plays and has made a post about having sexual intercourse with trout and watches anime and plays videogames and has a family and says she is the devil from the bible and hates ai and is in hell and in the uk at the same time and has many friends and loves transgender people and has changed their pfp dozens of times and makes tumblr posts every day and has good grades in all school subjects and has parents that are divorced and isn't romantically attracted to any of her classmates and reads manga and has a pink wallpaper on their phone and likes things such as the summer hikaru died, mob psycho 100, my hero academia, the amazing digital circus, deltarune, undertale, james gunn superman, among other things and is in tenth grade and is an artist and probably a lot more things that i don't know

It's crazy right?

[defilerwyrm]

Let people grow.

When I was younger I was very right-wing. I mean…very right-wing. I won’t go into detail, because I’m very deeply ashamed of it, but whatever you’re imagining, it’s probably at least that bad. I’ve taken out a lot of pain on others; I’ve acted in ignorance and waved hate like a flag; I’ve said and did things that hurt a lot of people.

There are artefacts of my past selves online – some of which I’ve locked down and keep around to remind me of my past sins, some of which I’ve scrubbed out, some of which are out of my grasp. If I were ever to become famous, people could find shit on me that would turn your stomach.

But that’s not me anymore. I’ve learned so much in the last ten years. I’ve become more open to seeing things through others’ eyes, and reforged my anger to turn on those who harm others rather than on those who simply want to exist. I’ve learned patience and compassion. I’ve learned how to recognise my privileges and listen to others’ perspectives. I’ve learned to stand up for others, how to hear, how to help, how to correct myself. And I learned some startling shit about myself along the way – with all due irony, some of the things I used to lash out at others for are intrinsic parts of myself.

You wouldn’t know what I am now from what I was then. You wouldn’t know what I was then from what I am now.

It distresses me deeply to think of someone dredging up my dark, awful past and treating me as though that furiously hateful person is still me. It distresses me to see others dredging up the past for anyone who has made efforts to become a better person, out of some sick obsession with proving they’re “problematic.”

Purity culture tells you that once someone says or does something, they can never go back on it. That’s a goddamn lie. While it’s true that some remain unrepentant and never change their ways and continue to harm others, it’s important to allow everyone the chance to learn from their mistakes. Saying something ignorant isn’t murder. Please stop treating it that way. Let people grow.

[got-zayn]

Still call it out and question it ….

[defilerwyrm]

Bruh. No. Listen. Call out what people do now, absolutely. If they haven’t changed, call them out on their record. This post is explicitly not about people who HAVEN’T changed. What this post IS saying is, if someone is making an effort to be a good person, don’t go digging around in their past for evidence that they were once for what they’re now against, or once against what they’re now for, as “proof” of what they “really think,” because people’s opinions and beliefs can change. 

The obsession with finding shit in someone’s past and then claiming that a questionable or even sordid past negates all possibility of a good present needs to become extinct. Gold-star activism and purity culture are bullshit and we need to collectively reject the fuck out of them.

If someone has changed for the better, don’t harass them about what they were like before they fuckin’ changed. That’s shitty and it needs to stop.

[sepdet]

We can’t change the world if we decide people can’t change.

[sarasa-cat]

Gold-star activism and purity culture are bullshit and we need to collectively reject the fuck out of them.

We really need to start asking where this purity bullshit came from. I’m not  Christian and was not raised Christian but there has been a lot evidence that much of gold star activism and purity culture originated in of evangelical youth movements and then infiltrated progressive left-wing and center-left politics when those youth left their churches but failed to leave behind the black-n-white puritanical “you’re going to hell if you stray one inch from the righteous path” style of thinking they were taught.

I distinctly remember some conversations I had in the late 00s and very early 2010s with long time social justice activists who were baffled and disturbed by the new crop of youth activists who were practicing something that was decidedly NOT social justice despite stealing that phrase from us.

In the decade and a half that has passed since then, all of this gold-star activism and purity culture has done exactly what I predicted back then: empowered the far-right while sowing division everywhere.

Folks. This shit needs to stop.

[notaplaceofhonour]

The extremely important part is that trust should be proportional to how much they actually demonstrate that they have changed. Especially when it comes to power.

A random person who had a moderately shady past or fucked up views before shouldn’t need to flog themselves to show how penitent they are beyond just doing better now, just to be able to live their life in peace, but if someone is campaigning to get political power and all they have to say for their life up to that point being a field of red flags, it isn’t enough for them to say “well I’m not like that now” if they haven’t actually achieved anything that makes up for it in the opposite direction.

We can’t allow ourselves to be our own worst enemies. We need an approach that allows for Oskar Schindlers without making excuses for Graham Platners.

[herainsorcia]

[fox-bright]

That is DIABOLICAL museum design, A++, no notes

[byjove]

‘Nuclear Family Month’ is so funny as a concept. I have never seen a nuclear family worth celebrating.

[dragonessmiralis]

The Addams

[byjove]

Do Grandmama, Uncle Fester and the rotating cast of possibly existent cousins mean nothing to you? 😔

[wolveria]

Most vegans and vegetarians are fine in my book. The only ones I dislike are the ones who try and force their beliefs down others throats. All that does is make other vegans look bad.

Vegans are no more aggressive than anyone else who takes an ethical stance for something. I’m not sure why they need to be quiet and unnoticeable in order to be palatable.

[acti-veg]

“The only ones I dislike are the ones who actually stand up for victims of oppression because that makes me feel sad while I eat my cheeseburger.”

[zyei]

"the only social justice movement i support is the one that doesn't push back against the violence i choose to engage in for my own selfish pleasure." wow, so brave.

[barbievspredator]

Examples of how I (and other vegan people I know) forced veganism onto people, according to carnists:

Ordered a vegan dish at the restaurant

Said "I'm vegan"

Cooked and served a vegan meal IN MY OWN HOUSE

Posted a vegan dish in the culinary group on Facebook

Didn't giggle and agree with the unhinged tangend about the stupidity of vegans

Ordered coffee with oat milk

Used vegan skincare

Don't look weak and sickly

Didn't agree with some carnist that taking medication makes me not vegan

Cooked vegan food for homeless people

Refused non vegan food

And there's probably a shitton of other examples I can't remember now. It's not even like, actual activism and advocacy here, or any discussions that turned ugly.

[astropeony]

As someone who has been on both sides, I can say that no SINGLE FREAKY vegan is as pushy about veganism as meat-eating regulars are about meat

The only way vegans can "promote" their diet is by pointing out that non-vegan products involve unnecessary and inhumane methods of animal slaughter(which is just fact lol)

While meat-eaters consider it their duty (almost to their homeland🤦‍♀️) to post photos of murdered animals (sometimes not even for food, but just as a cruelty to animals, including from farms) and how great it is to eat slaughtered animals, and in real life start to brainwash vegans for the fact that «killing is a part of life™»

Those who are most vocal about "imposing" are usually the ones who are trying to impose their own opinions on everyone around them

[autistobrat]

I think about the last time I did something without knowing it would be the last time and how normal it felt. just a regular thing. and then never again. and I didn't know to notice.

[k1ntsug1-r0b0t-g1rl]

eh fuck it making a post about it.

Age gaps are not inherently predatory and it's kinda weird how quickly you all jump to call someone a predator.

An older man that dates younger women is not automatically a predator for it. Sure it probably says a lot about how he views women, almost certainly a lot of misogyny going on there but that does not make him a predator.

Starting to feel like some of you are willing to call anything you don't like predatory.

[going2hell4everythingbutbeingbi]

my corner store guy is a 50 year old man who's my best friend in the world and recently he was like "you're too pretty to be single I have some nephews you should meet. very handsome!" and I was like "a niece might be more up my alley" and he just got more excited and said "ah even better! I was overselling my nephews but my nieces are very beautiful"

[caustic-pixie]

OP the tags!!

[terryfphanatics]

You're so tall you can change their minds 💜

[cletusthurstonbeauregard]

Tumblr fic writers - have y'all seen this???

[jackietaylorslesbianthoughts]

[have-a-duck]

i wanna read an isekai webtoon but every single character is secretly an isekai’d person

[satan-offical]

I can't believe grindr has gone woke with the pride icon... I mean honestly...

[have-a-duck]

nooo not grindr!! What’s next, is heated rivalry gonna introduce “inclusive characters”??

[satan-offical]

I can't believe grindr has gone woke with the pride icon... I mean honestly...

[rhinco]

i understand that it's unreasonable to expect a band on world tour to play in every country in the world but i do think they should only be allowed to call it a world tour if they play in every continent. we need to make it embarrassing to say world tour and then not even step foot in africa