define “restraint”?

27, he / they | 18+ content | expect violent, sexual, or unpleasant whump themes | do NOT panic if an invader zim blog follows you :/ 

[havebruises]

I reblog OC ask games as a form of collection! These are here for you to pick through if you’d like to reblog them for fun, so it’s not awkward or anything if you reblog an older one. IDC.

Common Questions!

You reblogged an ask game for your collection. Does that mean you’re open for it? | In theory! I won’t get mad if you send one, but the likelihood of it being filled....not much.

Do you do general requests? | See above!

Can minors follow you? It says 18+! | I pay attention to a person’s age when creating or sending content to them directly. I don’t have the weird obsessive energy needed to constantly filter minors from my blog. If you’re avoiding adult content, my naughty tags are ‘nsfwhump’ and ‘intimate’.

“Ummm I’m sure you didn’t know but you reblogged something from so-and-so,” | I have no interest or presence in any current whump drama. I won’t be blocking strangers at a stranger’s request. Content curation is at my discretion.

Do you want to be credited when your original content inspires me? | Common courtesy aside, I don’t think the current ‘credit culture’ some of the bigger whump content creators have desperately pushed into this community is healthy- so I’m not worried about whump related credit. I’m not coming for you. I’m not gonna be that guy. It’s all been done before whump was even coined as a term. But bro, if you wrote or drew a trope you liked from one of my posts, that means I’m a fan of it too. Let me consume your content. @ me!

[writeouswriter]

The point of fiction is actually to put that guy in a situation™️, and he might try to tell you the point is to then get him out of the situation, WRONG, second situation

[rohirric-hunter]

One of my writing teachers in community college told me that the first step of writing fiction was to run a character up a tree, and the second step was to throw rocks at him. Words to live by

[harukami]

Mercedes Lackey has been quoted as saying that she wrote the Vanyel books (and other main characters) like this: "Drop a mountain on them. Recover them, make them happy again. Then drop another mountain on them."

[prophetic-writer]

Becoming a writer is great because now you have a hobby that haunts you whenever you don’t have time to do it

[flogisto]

big fan of stories that, while undoubtedly being about the power of friendship, acknowledge that the power of incredible violence is just as important

the love was there. the love changed everything. the crowbar helped also

[euforri]

was craving some action

[for-the-ouchies]

Mutual nonconsent is such a horrifying trope.

Like, it's bad enough for one character to get raped. Now you have another, in the same situation, but also potentially with both blaming themselves / seeing themselves as a rapist? Or feeling like the other is the perpetrator and then feeling awful about that because it was just as bad for them? Flinching from them in the aftermath even though they know it's not their fault?

The hurt, the angst, the complicated recovery... you can get a lot out of this trope. (You know, provided you're comfortable with writing it. I'm still working on that part.)

[annabelle--cane]

I think one of the ultimate thesis statements of tma is that, even if it doesn't matter, it matters. your life may be controlled by forces beyond your comprehension, the outcomes may more or less be decided already, and you may be doomed to ultimately fail whenever you try to enact good, but it still matters that you tried. or, that you didn't try. or, that you stopped trying. your suffering and your joy and your kindness and your cruelty still have meaning and value, nothing can be defined by its ultimate fate alone, and submission to a predetermined path is as much a choice as resistance. sure, you're on a journey to tragedy, but on that journey you might fall in love, or you might become a better version of yourself, or you might betray people's trust, or you might decide to take up serial killing, the options are as endless as they are worthless as they are vital. you are cosmically insignificant, but you aren't living on a cosmic scale, you're living on a human one. so tell me: the train's coming down the tracks, and the lever is right in front of you. you know you could turn and run and not have to watch, and you know the lever's probably jammed up with spiderwebs, anyway. you know that it might just give way if you slam your whole body into it, and you know that even if you succeed you'll still be responsible for a tragedy. do you try?

[boingmann]

my favorite Martin monologue (incomplete) 

[defire]

Realistic reactions to being struck pt 2

Pt 1 here

Kicked in the ribs (while they're down!)

People depict a rib kick as either something that knocks whumpee flat on their stomach or that throws whumpee across the room. Please keep in mind that:

The reaction to any torso attack is to curl in protectively! The victim would not willingly expose their whole body by laying flat; we know instinctively that a curved structure disperses impact much better and our bodies will do that!

A 2nd kick is going to have to deal with flailing hands, shins, elbows, as victim tries to defend themselves

People (wisely) try to stay on their feet in a fight--unless they were conditioned otherwise.

A kick that throws someone across the room should be a heel kick. EVEN SO! It still takes a tremendous amount of strength to toss like 150 pounds of awkward weight across the room with a kick. Think of how light your foot is compared with a whole body--you'd have to be an expert at employing weight, torque, and momentum to actually send someone flying across the room if they're starting on their hands and knees.

Generally ribcage strikes don't really hurt immediately and may not even be frightening if your character is used to fights/violence.

Except the sensitive ribs at the bottom of the ribcage. Combine aching pain with some hit-in-the-gut panic.

If you want to kick whumpee face-down from hands and knees you will have to either move their arms and kick them down between the shoulder blades, or grapple them from behind with your feet on their thighs.

It's HARD to kick someone flat from their hands and knees. Unless aggressor is much heavier, or has goons to stretch victim out for them.

People will protect their heads more than their torso. If victim is struck in the head or neck they will cover the areas with their forearms, leaving their torso vulnerable. (On their hands and knees, they may cover their head and lean onto their elbows.)

[homunculus-argument]

Hey, random writing tip: Instead of having something be a ridiculously unlikely coincidence, you can make the thing happen due to who this particular character is as a person. Instead of getting stuck on "there's no logical reason to why that would happen", try to bend it into a case of "something like this would never happen to anybody but this specific fucker." Something that makes your reader chuckle and roll their eyes, going "well of course you would."

Why would the timid shy nerd be at a huge sketchy downtown black market bazaar? Well, she's got this beetle colony she's raising that needs a very specific kind of leaf for nest material, and there only place to get it is this one guy at the bazaar that sells that stuff. Why would the most femininely flamboyant guy ever known just happen to have downright encyclopedic knowledge about professional boxing? Well, there was this one time when he was down bad for this guy who was an aspiring professional boxer...

I know it sounds stupidly obvious when written out like this, but when you're up close to your writing, it's hard to see the forest for the trees. Some time ago I finished reading a book, where the whole plot hinges on character A, who is 100% certain that character B is dead, personally getting up and coming down from the top rooms of a castle, to the gates, at 3 am, to come look at some drunk who claims to be this guy who died 17 years ago. Why would A do that, if he's sure that B is dead?

Because he's a Warrior Guy from a culture of Loyalty And Honour, and hearing that someone's got the audacity to go about claiming to be his long-lost brother in battle, there is no other option than to immediately personally go down there to beat the ever-loving shit out of this guy. Who then turns out to actually be character B, after all.

[meaculpameahugeculpa]

I believe it is 100% valid to say that you don't like Lady Whump because your life experiences have been strongly associated with gendered violence, and I think it's 100% valid to not like lady whump at all, and I don't believe that individuals should provide any explanation whatsoever for this, but I find the commonly stated argument of: "Women are already suffering in all kinds of media, being pathetic and so on, and I don't want to repeat it in my writing" to be false: because, honestly speaking, are you comparing the dead wife trope, the damsel in distress trope, the trope of the crying woman without an autonomous participation in the narrative and the opportunity of a character development, without any kind of recognition obtained by that suffering, to Whump? The pity genre? The genre of literal blorbofication? The genre in which the entire narrative stops to cater to the needs of a singular individual who's suffering? Seriously?



[lostlite]

1. Be tormented by it

2. Convince yourself you like it actually, to survive

3. Seek it out, because you like it

4. Return to top of list

[elementofhunger]

sign under institute camera that says "Smile, you're a goner!"

[annabelle--cane]

important Character traits:

paranoia

control freakism

sense of self-worth so low that it loops back around into being totally dismissive of everyone else

a warm-hearted kind center beneath 200 protective walls of bitterness that doesn't actually make the bitterness better in any way at all even a little bit

bisexuality

crushing feelings of responsibility

zero understanding of own bodily autonomy that bleeds out and affects how they treat others

a lil petty vindictive sadism they maybe don't wanna look at too hard or acknowledge

full self-awareness of all their most negative traits without working to fix those traits at all

internalized misogyny

a mysterious undefinable hunger that cannot / should not / must not ever be sated

asexuality

[curaheed]

[meanao3thoughts]

a feel like the new generation of fanfic readers NEED to understand that clicking on a fic (interaction) does nothing. ao3 has no algorithm. your private discord discussions of fic do not reach the authors. if you do not actively engage with writers they will stop posting. this isn’t social media this is community.

[venndaai]

people are so weird about cnc and I always just want to look them in the eyes and say “you are getting mad at people for playing pretend. you are getting mad at people for saying ‘raaar! I’m gonna getcha!’ you are not a serious person.”

[venndaai]

so much ink and tears have been spilled theorizing that rape kink is about trauma and social anxieties and power fantasies and sure maybe. but I think we’re just mammals who like pretend danger in our play just like every other mammal ever. because we have evolved to find that fun. and the only difference between play-wrestling in bed and pulling out the fuzzy handcuffs is commitment to the bit