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aro and ace are not the same. aro and ace are not the same. aro and ace are not the same. aro and ace are not the same. aro and ace are not the same. aro and ace are not the same. aro and ace are not the same. aro and ace are not the same. aro and ace are not the same. aro and ace are not the same. ARO. AND. ACE. ARE. NOT. THE. SAME. AROMANTIC ≠ ASEXUAL!!!!!

#my lesbian ace ass is a perfect example of this!

akiragatr

Tumblr is super big on the "I didn't say it was good, I said I liked it" but really need to discover the value in its opposite of "I didn't say it was bad, I said I hated it".

You can acknowledge that something is good, great, a masterpiece even, and just straight-up not enjoy it.

emily-axford

until we get it right (in•sp) happy freakin' birthday @rosamundpkes 🎁🎉

#the wheel of time

seanconneraille

BAN ON CONVERSION PRACTICES IN THE EU. GO SIGN IT. DEADLINE IS FUCKING MAY 17. WE'RE STILL MISSING 800.000 signatures. FUCKING DO IT.

Give your support !

petruswine

Please sign this if you are a citizen of an eu country

prideknights

Everyone(!) please also reblog this so we can reach as many EU citizens as possible!

agapi-kalyptei

not to be political but i hate migraines. and nazis

jv

But you know what I love? Migraines ON nazis

amemait

Reblog to give your migraines to Nazis.

conarcoin

ivan-fyodorovich-k

just-antithings

Your daily reminder that exclusionists are scum

a-polite-melody

This is. Absolutely fucked up.

First of all, unless you and the other person/people in a relationship have sat down and agreed upon it, sex is generally not going to be the most important thing in a relationship, and it shouldn’t be assumed that it is. If you’re going to assume anything is the most important thing in a relationship, the safest thing to assume is that it’s communication. Because, then if communication doesn’t end up being the most important thing in the relationship, at least you’re focused on trying to communicate about what else is important.

Second of all, as someone with a high sex drive who initially entered into my now 6-year-long QPR with my aroace partner thinking that they were entirely sex repulsed and that sex would not be on the table for the relationship… actually fuck off with this attitude. That wasn’t my partner abusing me, that was us entering a relationship and agreeing upon the terms.

Fuck you if you think that just because I have a high sex drive that I can’t decide that, because I love someone with my whole heart and want to be with them for the rest of my life, I’m happy to be in a sexless relationship with them. Fuck you if you think that choice of mine was necessarily coerced or came from my partner attempting abuse, rather than two adults choosing what they want.

And fuck you if you only can agree with the above because my partner turned out to actually be interested in sex with me after all. Or because part of the things we communicated about is that I’m poly and want other relationships as well. Neither of those things specifically matter, because regardless of them I still freely and willingly made the choice to enter that relationship with terms we both contributed to and agreed upon.

hawkeyetoo

Let me tell you a story. I was 16 when I first started going out with my ex. He never once pushed me, though when we turned 18 he did ask if i'd like to go away for my birthday for that purpose. I said no. He accepted that and asked me to let him know when I was ready. When I was 19 I finally figured out I was Ace. He was one of the first people I told, because I didn't want him to stay with me expecting something he wasn't going to get. He was a little dissapointed, but he said he was ok with it, and things carried on as normal. When I turned 21, he took me to Cardiff for my birthday. I again made it clear that nothing was going to happen. He told me that wasn't what he wanted anyway. While we were there, HE PROPOSED. We had been together almost 5 years, but we were still super young. In the next few months we moved in together, and bit by bit, spent less and less time together. I was seeing him less in the house we shared than I had when we lived in seperate villages. He NEVER shared a meal with me, he stopped inviting me to help at his scout group, and anytime he was off at the same time as me, he didn't want to do anything with me. Was he cheating on me? Was he just struggling to be away from his parents for the first time? I dunno, but when I brought up my lonliness to him, he said something I will never forget: "We won't feel like a real couple until we sleep together." He was trying to guilt trip me into it. He wanted to make me do something I REALLY did not want to. Something that, had it happened, would not actually have been consensual. But sure, in that 5 year relationship that started when we were kids, during which HE made the major moves, It was obviously ME who was abusive.

#not saying he was abusive to be clear #but at the end there it could have gone that way very easily #and it would not have been my fault

radicarian

Oh and if literal grass-touching IS viable, I also advocate for touching invasive grass. Many parks in the US have invasive plant removal volunteer work days. You get some air and some exercise and you can talk to other volunteers if you want or you can just march off into the trees on your own and start wreaking havoc with various hand tools. If you want to do something that is both useful AND destructive, I have found nothing better

queenlua

funnily enough i did this for the first time today & yeah, i highly recommend, it rules hard

you just show up & they give you a bunch of pre-sharpened loppers & are like "here's what an invasive blackberry bush looks like, go kick its ass"

and then you just get to hack and maim and wreck for FREE for as many hours as you so desire??? good as HELL

pnwnativeplants

Removal of invasive species is one of the best things you can do for the environment. The task can feel overwhelming, you impact may feel small. But each plant you remove stops thousands and thousands of additional invasive seeds from wreaking havoc on our native wildlife.

hawkeyetoo

in the uk you can volunteer with national park rangers to do this. My old scout group used to do it at weekends in the Peak District. We'd remove hawthorn and rhodedendron, and set up fires to burn them, which as scouts was obviously the best part.

#did we get distracted all the time and end up climbing trees or sledging in the snow?#yes #but we did genuinely get a lot done mostly cos we wanted to keep the fire going