Hearthkeepers Haven

🏵️Hearth/Tav 🏵️ 27 🏵️ He/They/It 🏵️

[hearthkeepers-haven]

[thisisexorsexism]

this is exorsexism and transmisogyny

[sorin-sunchild]

I wish people like this would see that they can't just say 'having a penis makes you an abuser' and 'I need to know what's in your pants because not knowing means I'll assume and judge you on that assumption' but in progressive language and expect everyone to agree.

'Every single one I've met has-' I have my doubts honestly. Unless they run in some very bad circles. Or do they mean they've seen cis queer men who are misogynistic? Even so that's not going to be every single one they meet and it would still be weird to say that 'every' queer person AMAB uses their queerness to exploit every queer person AFAB.

Considering they say 'AMAB who is queer' you can argue it's homophobic, biphobic, acephobic etc etc too

I'm so tired of anyone of any kind doing this 'if you don't label yourself as X or Y I'll assume you're the one I think it's unsafe' bullshit.

[vexatiousvic]

I was once talking to a terf who said the she absolutely NEEDED to know someone's agab and what's in their pants. I asked her "if you met a new coworker, would you need to know?" and she said yes, to feel safe.

I've talked to other terfs who told me that "everyone with a penis is a potential rapist, because a penis is used to rape"

I need people to understand that this line of thinking, this "I need to know agab" and "I've never felt safe with someone amab" is 10000% terf. "Nees to know agab for safety" is BASELINE terf rhetoric.

Stop falling for it

[bugshroom]

you have only experienced one singular lame as fuck blunt rotation in your life or what… “safety tips” is killing me Who does that. ykw actually everyone in this blunt rotation is my nightmare blunt rotation.

[untitledrockshow]

dream blunt rotation

[pigswithwings]

the fascinating thing about being abused is that years later youre gonna be there sitting around going "okay so what now". cause like theres no instruction manual is there

[pigswithwings]

youre gonna be buying groceries and then youre gonna remember you went through all that for literally no good reason and youre gonna go Oh Okay and put paper towels in your bag or whatever

[lickingandsuckingchristmascoins]

[evilvillain123456789]

You're not allowed to watch morally questionable movies because you're prone to evil and it can corrupt you. Whereas I'm allowed to watch morally questionable movies because I'm such a good person that the movies are actually redeemed by my consumption of them. If I write a favorable letterboxd review the rehabilitative effect is even stronger. But you are still not allowed to watch them in that case. Ok?

[i-suggest-transing-your-gender]

Maybe this is a controversial take but honestly, I don't care even if you only mean cis men when you say "kill all men" or "all men suck" because you're contributing to bioessentialism/gender essentialism and generalizing an entire group of people to be bad and even perpetuating the idea that men who do shitty things to them because "they can't help it due to being men". You're not dismantling the patriarchy, you're contributing to it.

[totalmoralfag]

i feel like a lot of people on this website who hate the term "transandrophobia" have this like. made up strawman of a trans man in their head and this theoretical "transandrobro" thinks cis men are systemically oppressed because they genuinely dont care to make any distinction between us and cis men. theyre still stuck on "transandrobros think misandry is a form of systemic oppresion" because they do not see us as trans at all and they do not see our discussions about transness as such because they see us as functionally indistinguishable from cis men. they are genuinely imagining us as 4channer MRAs and if we try to argue otherwise they just bring back their theoretical strawman to shut down our arguments and further push us into isolation and invisibility

[fryeshiverbigman-deactivated202]

normalize having more than one best friend. "best friend" shouldn't just be a title reserved for one person... best friend is a species...

[senhor-do-escuro]

No. You can't "transition into privilege". And there is absolutely nothing you can say, no amount of "feminist" bullshit, that is gonna change my mind.🙂

No. Trans men don't become "privileged and valued members of cis patriarchy" just because they start identifying as men and putting "He/him" on their bio. That only happens in the fictional reality you made in your imagination. Not in real life.

[bimmyjimmy]

It’s become a regular thing now for Bimmy to chill on my printer

[cadaverer]

most transmascs experience misogyny and sexism from the moment they're born. this is not an attack on people who are not transmasc. this is not saying people who aren't transmasc don't experience misogyny and sexism or experience them less. this is just a factor of being assigned female at birth in a sexist society. the fact that this is controversial is insane.

[transmasc-is-life]

'Why does every nonbinary person want top surgery' I dunno maybe because having visible breasts immediately makes everyone assume you're female and only female, and therefore put you into a binary. Also why are you assuming every nonbinary person has breasts.

[timemachineyeah]

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[poztatt]

DPC and DPL.  Dead People’s Clothes and Dead People’s Leather. Their toys, their paintings of half naked, naked, screwing men.  The statues.  The leather.  The sling.  The posters.  The ... all of it. We’d literally Straighten homes.  Depending.  Some families knew and were fine. Or more ok.  But pictures of other guys on phones was the least of it. I have... leather that’s been passed through three or four men who’ve died before getting to me.  They’re the heirlooms now, passed down chosen families.   Sometimes there were crews.  We’d show up as soon as possible, as a unit.  We’d hit the bedrooms first.  Clear out closets, under beds, bedsides.  We’d donate, throw out, take mementos.  Pass on.  Secret lives and secret, us only treasures.   Then we’d leave.  For some family’s you never talked about it.  They never knew.  It was better all around.   I have vests, gloves.  A belt.  Arm bands.  Paintings.  T-shirts.  Photos, undeveloped film that’d I’m still somewhat terrified to try to get developed (lol).  We live on in the living rooms of others.

[theequeerstrian]

This is. A very important message for the younger generations of queers.

We still have so much father to go, but y'all. Don't let our past be forgotten.

[stemmehistorian]

I was born intersex. It is a condition in which a child is born with reproductive or sexual anatomy that doesn't seem to fit the typical definitions of female or male. I came to America seeking asylum because the condition made me a target in my country, where being associated with the LGBTQ community is illegal and could get you killed. There, people are bullied into remaining in the closet. They can never reveal their true identity, leading many to commit suicide or endure the endless pain and feeling of constant rejection.

After college, I moved South Africa, where I knew I could probably find a doctor who would understand. I did. He confirmed that I was intersex. That led me back to Zimbabwe, where I started running an organization for intersex and transgender people called True Identity. I wanted to join the fight for equality for people like me. At first, I started secret support groups because such advocacy was still illegal. I began receiving funding and tried to create a dialogue between the community and transgender and intersex people. I wanted to foster understanding and awareness. I wanted more people to see it as normal—because people like me are normal. That didn’t stop me from being physically and emotionally abused for doing that kind of work. Sometimes, the police would raid our offices. Sometimes, people would say: “You are an abomination to the culture. You are the reason we don’t get rain. You are a taboo.”

America didn’t welcome me; it didn’t even understand me. Americans don’t know what intersex means. That includes many within the LGBTQ community, the community where I was supposed to find empathy and love. And it includes the black community. Most of the intersex people I’ve met in America are white. Intersex people are not celebrated in communities of color. We are not represented on their platforms, in the media or anywhere else. It hurt even more after I found out about intersex infants here who are forced to undergo unwanted surgeries that violate their bodies. When those children grow up, they will have felt robbed, as though their body, their voice, was stolen from them before they could even speak.

As a black woman who is an intersex, immigrant asylum seeker, it feels as though America was built to silence me. Though I’m allowed to work now, the asylum process takes years and I can’t visit my parents until that is resolved. And I miss them dearly. But I have work to do here. Ignorance and hate and stigmatization will not stop me. I represent too many voiceless human beings who live with unbearable pain. I will persevere. I will use that pain to build beauty, to show others the struggle is worth it. I will keep speaking to remind other immigrants that they are not alone. I will keep speaking so that any woman, or any man, who society tells to be ashamed will know that nothing can ruin their spirit, that they can conquer the world.

I'm an Intersex Black Woman. My Voice Matters. Listen. By Tatenda Ngwaru for QWear Fashion (2019)

[libraford]

Sometimes you mention that progressives (liberals, leftists, whatever) have their own biases and knee-jerk reactions that make certain topics difficult, which gets misinterpreted as 'both sides are equally bad.'

No, there is an obviously, heinously, and indisputably worse side. But I think it's mature to look in the mirror and say 'yes there are things I do that get in my own way.'

[selene1311-n]

One thing I find gets in the way of any group further left in general is a sort of self loathing that evolves into self-advocacy in general being perceived as bad and/or talking over people, which ends up being really easy for bigots to exploit.

We don't talk about our own issues, cause there's always somebody that has it worse; and it gets to the point where some minorities don't get any advocacy at all, cause members of such minorities are too busy helping out with movements for others, and everybody else just forgets they exist. And when they do start speaking for themselves, everybody gets on their asses about not talking about whatever the big topic everybody else is discussing is.

The big one right now is trans men, who have been so silenced that the moment they aren't speaking for other trans people over themselves they're accused of bigotry.

And then there's minorities like plural peeps, who are so generally forgotten that mainstream acceptance ends up feeling less like a cause to fight for and more like a completely unrealistic pipe dream...

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