Okay, I wanna add more to the double standards between Octavia and Charlie. In particular, about how Charlie treats her father.
As much as people say that there are things that should be up to the parent to do, that it's unfair to put it on the child even if said child is an adult, I believe that any adult should be held to adult standards, especially when they go higher and higher up in age. (The only exceptions would be that they're too mentally unequipped for one reason or another and no, I'm not talking about neurodivergency). So that means that there some things that adults should know when it comes to how to treat their parents. Besides, in order to have healthy relationships, whether it's platonic or romantic or familial, then love and care is a two way street. It can't be all take and no give.
That seems to be Charlie's problem. She keeps focusing on what she wants to the point that she only sees in what others have to give her to help accomplish what she wants.
Inviting Vox and Velvette to the hotel and still trying to prove to them redemption works after Angel made it clear how uncomfortable and scared he is? Angel's discomfort and fear doesn't matter as much as proving to Hell that redemption works, which she can show with Vox's TV studio and networks and Velvette's social media sites
Wishing that Alastor was at the hotel when he's held hostage? Well, it's because she wishes things to be easier for her hotel if she had Alastor's 'help' so she just sounds annoyed that Alastor's held hostage. Even then, she doesn't go and rescue him or anything, which means she doesn't know that it's all part of Alastor's 'plan' for him to be a captive (unless I'm wrong about that, I'm just going on tumblr posts to know what's happening in season 2)
Angel going back to Valentino because he's been brainwashed and not in the right state of mind? That doesn't matter as much as guests pouring back into her hotel and there's nothing that Angel can contribute that would warrant saving him. After all, she seemed to just go to Angel's studio to get him time off to focus on the hotel rather than caring about Angel himself so I'm inclined to believe that she doesn't care about Angel because he's got nothing left to give her now that she got one thing that she wanted
And of course, she screeches ungratefully at her dad for trying to help with the hotel like he promised he would because he's her scapegoat for Vox once again twisting things to make heaven look bad. Because she's apparently in hard denial that Vox would have twisted things regardless of whether Lucifer showed up or not. And Charlie keeps constantly calling a mom who never answers any texts or returns any calls and Charlie's probably been doing that for seven straight years even though she still has a father who still calls her sometimes and immediately came to the hotel at her request. Because apparently it's Lilith's approval that Charlie wants; Lucifer's approval isn't as valuable. In fact, maybe Charlie has Stolas's problem to a lesser extent, that she wants things that she can't immediately have or is denied of. It would definitely explain why Charlie is obsessed enough to keep trying to contact Lilith 24/7 despite having no real reason to believe her calls and texts would ever be returned, especially if, again, she's been doing that for seven consecutive years. Fuck, Charlie even tried contacting Lilith again at the end than take a moment to check up on her father to see how he's doing after everything (Because it shouldn't matter to someone how strong their parent is; that's still their fucking parent and the love and care should still make someone concerned)
I do wanna end this by saying that it should definitely never be put on a child to deal with their parents' marriage problems, just to list an example of what children, even as adults, shouldn't have to deal with. Seriously, as much as kids are right there and free, they're still not therapists or something to soothe people. So no, Octavia shouldn't have to keep defending her dad and forgiving him every time she gets hurt personally by him; that's just forcing her to grow up faster than she has to, which the dad doesn't think is happening because it's nothing bad happening to him. If anything, Octavia already defended her father even though she was pissed off at him and was fed up with him, which goes to show how much she still loves him. Yet some people still rag on her for not, I think in their eyes, not loving Stolas as much as he should be loved