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Aight friends I’ve officially started posting my Destiel / The Mummy AU

Cast list:

Dean as Evelyn

Cas as Rick O’Connell

Sam as Jonathan

Eileen as Ardeth Bay

AND MANY MORE

I’ll be updating it once a week on Sundays you can check it out here:

https://archiveofourown.org/works/33114964/chapters/82206802

An Archive of Our Own, a project of the Organization for Transformative Works

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Posted the final chapter today!

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I don't post on here much anymore but I saw a post yesterday that has been on my mind and I just need to get some of my thoughts out about it. It was complaining about governments requiring AA/NA attendance in order for alcoholics/addicts to get housing/get their kids/whatever other kind of rights get stripped when you get into a run-in with the law that surrounds drinking/using. That in of itself is a pretty complex issue that a lot of people have a lot of opinions about and I'm not going to delve too much deeper into that here.

The thing that tripped me up was the number of people in the comments/reblogs talking about how these programs are a cult that preys on the vulnerable and that they don't actually help people. I understand there are as many varied experiences with 12 step programs as there are people who have attended them, and that I am extremely privileged to live in an area with a thriving recovery community. I can't truly speak to AA because my experience is primarily with NA, so I am going to use NA language from here on out.

NA is the last house on the block. Addicts don't come to NA unless they have no other choice, because the disease of addiction will do everything in its power to convince you that you don't have to stop using. I did not want to stop using when I came to NA. I didn't think it was possible for me. I thought I needed drugs to live. I don't. I have going on 9 years clean and I wouldn't have ever been able to do it without the community that NA gave me.

This post is already long so I'm going to put the rest under a readmore. I'm not going to engage with anyone who responds in bad faith. If you are an addict and you are reading this please know that it is possible to reclaim your life from this disease.

"But it's religious". I am not religious. I have a terrible relationship with religions. NA drives home repeatedly in its writings that you do not have to be religious to get this program. The number of references to God in our literature is a controversial internal issue which addicts discuss to death. Addicts who are not religious, like me, like to use stand-ins like "Good orderly direction", or "Group of druggies" as a way of referring to a higher power. I personally chose to use the group/fellowship as my higher power - I believe that there is an energy and force of love that comes from decades of addicts striving to stay clean that aids me. Trying to stay clean on your own is like trying to swim upriver during a flood. It takes a power greater than any one person alone has. The love and care of my fellow addicts is my greater power.

"It's not evidence-based". There are hundreds of addicts in my metro area alone who get to be clean on a daily basis because of NA. There are thousands in my country and there are supposedly 76,000 NA meetings on a weekly basis across the world. Assuming each of those meetings have at least 3 members (in my experience meetings can range anywhere from two to forty attendees), that's 228,000 folks who get to experience at least one hour a week clean. I don't know if it's possible to explain to someone who hasn't gotten to experience that how important that is. Addiction is a prison and every moment that I get to experience outside of that prison is a life-affirming breath of fresh air.

"It's not evidence-based 2.0" This pamphlet is a review of several scientific studies of NA. This is a line directly from this pamphlet:

"In a 2018 survey of 28,495 NA members conducted by NA World Services, members with a wide variety of past primary drug choices reported an average of 11.4 years of continuous abstinence, with 85% of members reporting five or more years of stable recovery."

Five to eleven years of continuous recovery is HUGE. When we are in active addiction we can’t imagine a day clean. Years feels impossible. It’s not.

"It's based off outdated writings" AA was originally written in the '30s. NA started in the '50s and piggy-backed off the AA 12-step model. The basic text of NA was written in the 80s. This video talks through the 2nd ever NA world literature conference, where addicts took 800 pages of material submitted from addicts across the program and literally (LITERALLY LIKE WITH GLUE AND PAPER) cut and pasted it into a cohesive work. The Basic Text is a labor of love, made up of the knowledge and wisdom of hundreds of recovering addicts.

"It's a cult"

Borrowed from this website: According to the Cult Education Institute, there are specific warning signs to look out for when considering whether a group might be a cult. Cults are characterized by:

Absolute authoritarianism without accountability

Zero tolerance for criticism or questions

Lack of meaningful financial disclosure regarding the budget

Unreasonable fears about the outside world that often involve evil conspiracies and persecutions

A belief that former followers are always wrong for leaving and there is never a legitimate reason for anyone else to leave

Abuse of members

Records, books, articles, or programs documenting the abuses of the leader or group

Followers feeling that they are never able to be “good enough”

A belief that the leader is right at all times

A belief that the leader is the exclusive means of knowing “truth” or giving validation

NA service structure maintains that the ultimate decision making rests in the hands of the group, which is made up of individual addicts (NA service concept #2). We do not have a leader. It literally takes AGES to get anything done (for example, modifying the language of the literature), because we have to get and receive input from literally. everyone. in the program. There is always an avenue for accountability, criticism and questions (NA service concept #5, #10). “Lack of financial disclosure” try being a treasurer on an NA service committee and then come talk to me about whether or not there’s financial disclosure.

As I stated previously, I am lucky enough to live in a community where the NA fellowship is thriving. I have no doubt there are places where that is not the case. I have no doubt there are places where the NA fellowship manifests in ways that are unhealthy. That is a result of the people who are involved in the program in that place. It is not because the program itself is unhealthy. We often state that it is a perfect program run by imperfect people. This is a hyperbole but the concept holds true - we are simply humans trying the best we can to do what we think is right. Sometimes it doesn't work. Sometimes we're wrong. That doesn't mean we stop trying.

Personally I don't believe that addicts should be barred from housing/welfare simply because of their active addiction. Surprisingly (/s) it is a lot easier to get/stay clean if you don't have to worry about where you're going to sleep that night or where your next meal will come from. It is an incredibly tricky subject to talk about kids because the fact of the matter is that many children are put in danger on a daily basis when living with addicts in active addiction. There are many people in the program who talk about how their kids being removed from their care was the wake-up call they needed to face their problems. There are also people who the system abused and who will never get to see their kids because of incidents that occured with the law during their active addiction. The idea of addicts as 'unredeemable', which was perpetuated by the war on drugs, is incredibly harmful and something our community still has to reckon with today.

I know by posting this I'm probably inviting a lot of nonsense and I'm ready to block those engaging in bad faith and turn off reblogs. I’m not under the illusion that I’m going to change the world’s view of NA - I have four sponsees and multiple service positions, I’d rather keep putting my energy into building my community than fighting on the internet. I just really couldn't stand letting the shit talking on something that has truly changed my life go unaddressed. I was a shell of a person before NA because of what the disease of addiction brought me to. Today I am a part of my life, my family's life, I have friends and can travel and enjoy living again. If you want to hear about the experiences of people in NA I would suggest looking up speakers on youtube as there are a ton of good ones out there. This is a favorite of mine - I heard her speak in person at a convention and she has an incredible story. (“But she starts by thanking god”. She's allowed to have her own higher power of her own understanding, same as the rest of us. If you have a problem with her saying God, imagine it as the acronym I put earlier. Try a little open-mindedness and see what happens.) If you want to know more about NA there are many resources out there. If you think you may be an addict and want to chat with other addicts I’d recommend checking out your local NA meetings. There are plenty of online meetings these days too. I hope you find what you’re looking for.

ILS - an addict

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Reservation Dogs S02E09 “Offerings”

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HOLLOW KNIGHT: SILKSONG ▴ 19/--

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my life for a mobile phone idle civilization developer game that forces you to balance growth and conservation

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“I know I’ve told this story before, but my abusive ex refused to let me take birth control. I was on the pill until he found them in my purse. I went to the Student Health Center—they were completely unhelpful, choosing to lecture me about the importance of safe sex (recommending condoms) instead of actually listening to my problem. Then I went to Planned Parenthood. The Nurse Practitioner took one look at my fading bruises and stopped the exam. She called in the doctor. The doctor came in and simply asked me: “Are you ready to leave him?” When I denied that I was being abused, she didn’t argue with me. She just asked me what I needed. I said I need a birth control method that my boyfriend couldn’t detect. She recommended a few options and we decided on Depo. When I told her that my boyfriend read my emails and listened to my phone messages and was known to follow me, she suggested to do the Depo injections at off hours when the clinic was normally closed. She made a note in my chart and instructed the front desk never to leave messages for me—instead, she programmed her personal cell phone number into my phone under the name “Nora”. She told me she would call me to schedule my appointments; she wouldn’t leave a message, but I should call her back when I was able to. And that was it. No judgment. No lecture. She walked me to the door and told me to call her day or night if I needed anything. That she lived 5 blocks from campus and would come get me. That I wasn’t alone. That she just wanted me to be safe. I never called her to come to my rescue. But I have no doubt that she would have come if I had called. She kept me on Depo for a year, giving me those monthly injections in secret, helping me prevent a desperately unwanted pregnancy. I cannot thank Planned Parenthood enough for the work they do.”

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Curious Georgiana (via grrrlstudies)

I know I’ve reblogged this before, but it bears re-reblogging (?).  This is how you respond to abuse, this is how you give people control over their bodies/uteruses, this is how you act as a generally non-judgmental and compassionate person.  I love this story so fucking much.

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When BoJack Horseman (2014-2020) said "you can't keep doing shitty things and then feel bad about yourself like that makes it ok. you need to be better" and "all we have are the connections we make" and "I really should've thought about the view from halfway down" and "sometimes you have to take responsibility for your own happiness" and "you do the hokey pokey and you turn yourself around, you turn yourself around, THAT'S what it's all about" and "things have to get worse before they can get better" and "in real life, the big gesture isn't enough, you need to be consistent" and "if we hadn't met each other until now, we wouldn't be the people we are now" and, my personal favourite, "every day it gets a little easier, but you gotta do it every day, that's the hard part, but it does get easier".

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this comment under a bookstore video of all the first editions of the hobbit they have… i’m going to start crying

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waiting for coop to come back :(

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Watching 8-year-old Percy think his mom was trying to get rid of him for something he couldn’t control after we’ve already seen 12-year-old Percy try so hard to tell his mom that he tried to be “good” and feel so adamantly that something was wrong with him said so much about compounded experience and neurodivergent kids

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Detroit zoo: Bear cubs Jebbie grizzly bear and Laerke polar bear playing

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Looked up context for this video and Detroit Zoo (AZA) lost one of their two newborn polar bear cubs and the mother rejected the survivor, and Jebbie was found wandering orphaned in Alaska so they’ve been moved in together for companionship! certified cute video

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Walter Wick working on various I Spy books, from his instagram

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Night at the museum, Nicolas Krief

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Happy Percy Jackson Tuesday 🦉✨