i think this would be a level headed take if only the outside reality reflects something differently than what we're seeing and living through right now. if patriarchy never existed, then you would be correct that abstaining from having heterosexual sex would seem peculiar. but because we live in a misogynistic world, women aren't afforded the luxury to throw caution in the wind and have sex with men.
i say this as a woman who's had a couple of long relationships with men, but having sex with men nearly ruined me. i was exposed to violence, especially the sexual kind, from men and it induced ptsd symptoms in me that lasted for many, many years. i was also assaulted by unrelated males throughout my life, and the trauma goes beyond the bedroom.
there are so many risks involved with straight sex that affects women in so many different ways, that of course radblr believes that celibacy is the best policy we have to mitigate these risks. unwanted pregnancy and sexual diseases aren't the only two that can harm women en masse, but it can also be:
damaged reputation (yes, women who have sex aren't evil. but again, we live in a patriarchy that's obsessed with purity and the idea that the second a man touches a woman sexually, she will forever be seen as a bad person by everyone around her.)
if she had sex before the age of 18, she'll have a worse life outcomes than those who waited at least to their 18th birthday. i can't find the source for this, but i heard about it years ago and it's honestly eye opening.
if she has sex with men, she risks getting raped. and sadly, once she is raped, she is statistically likely to get raped again and again by other men. how do i know this? well, she's me!
extensive trauma means she may suffer from sexual dysfunction, such as vaginismus.
social contagion. if more and more girls and women can be coerced to have sex with men nilly willy, then other girls and women are going to be forced to do it even if they don't want to, too. "she did it, so why can't you?"
again, because we live in a patriarchy, a woman who's had sex with men will also have trouble down the road in finding a relationship if that's what she wants because people look down on so called "damaged" women. it goes both ways: men will see her a slut, and other women (whether she is lesbian/bi) will see her as too damaged to be with her.
there's probably more i can't think of right now, but these should cover at least the baseline of why radfems are so against having relations with men. there is nothing wrong with a woman having a sex drive or even wanting to hook up with men-that's not my point. my point is, is that because we do not live in a world that can be normal about female sexuality, celibacy is usually the end result.
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