Lizzie 🦋

my utterly random thoughts

[remanence-of-love]

[remanence-of-love]

[heyitsmelizzie]

A well needed break or detachment from the "outside world" or "outside noise" so I can reconnect and reattach to my inner world/thoughts. I want to restablish who I am, what I truly want and aspire and what I truly need - not what the world or society or social media recommends or dictates or expects of me.

It's so easy to get caught up in unnecessary timelines and deadlines and comparisons when you do that - when you measure your life against others or society's expectations. & In the end, what do we gain from that? What do we truly gain from living a life that is not our own? A life made for outside gaze and applause and not for inner peace and joy? What do we gain? Often numbness, often the need to distract ourselves with different things to fill the hollowness that our day to day performance of living the life expected of us leaves.

It's so much easier said than done though - to detach and recenter yourself, especially in a world where doomscrolling for hours has become the norm. In a world where many of us now have become proudly parasocial - excessively obsessing over singers, actors, streamers, influencers, love island contestants and/or YouTubers as a form of a escapism.

It's lovely to read beautiful flowery quotes and words of inspiration - telling us not to give in to peer pressure or not to care what others think! Yet every minute, every hour we are constantly tested - we see ads telling us to buy this or buy that to look/feel/be better. We watch people's curated lifestyles online and feel compelled to compare, to measure up to them. It's not necessary. Yet we do it. Again and again and again.

That's why it's so necessary to unplug from outside noise - delete that app which gives you anxiety, put your phone on DND for a little while, spend time meditating with your thoughts by asking yourself some hard questions on things you've maybe been avoiding, listen to yourself, reflect on your mistakes and how you want to grow.

It won't necessarily be easy, but that doesn't mean it is impossible. Baby steps, day by day. Let's be ourselves. Live a life that you truly love. You only have one - be sure it's yours.

[heyitsmelizzie]

As a man thinketh in his heart, so is he.

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“worrying is such a terrible use of your imagination”

[heyitsmelizzie]

Your brain will invent fake problems for you if you don't go out and find real ones

[heyitsmelizzie]

There's a level of not caring about others' opinions and perceptions that's so powerful. So freeing. I'm always immensely inspired when I see people who are so confident in themselves and their own beliefs; people who ignore the "noise" and push through and continue being and doing what they want. They're not easily swayed or moved by others' thoughts on their life, their choices, their looks or who they are. They know themselves for themselves, and they don't listen or wait for others to tell them or affirm to them who they are. Now this may just be how it looks like on the outside (perhaps inside they battle with insecurity, self doubt etc like most, if not all, humans do at times) but just for the mere fact that they don't allow others to see them sweat or be easily affected/swayed by their criticisms - *chefs kiss*. So beautiful to see.

[heyitsmelizzie]

sometimes we don't get the things we want or haven't reached the places we want to be because we're simply not ready or prepared. we're not ready for that "next level" or to receive that "thing" and wouldn't be able to handle it at all. it's not enough to simply want or desire something, we have to also ensure that we are able, prepared and ready to receive those wants and desires.

[heyitsmelizzie]

sometimes you HAVE to think about yourself first, and doing so is not being selfish but self-preservation, because others will often think about themselves first and will leave you to fend for yourself/ignore your needs. who will provide for or consider your needs while you're busy excessively and unnecessarily worrying about other people's needs and ignoring your own? you not thinking about yourself or sacrificing your needs/wants can be self-neglect and habitual self-neglect is NOT a virtue or noble act. please remember that. please be kind to yourself and as you try to care and think about others please also remember to think and care about yourself too.

[heyitsmelizzie]

[04k96]

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Trust in the LORD with all thine heart; And lean not unto thine own understanding.

In all thy ways acknowledge him, And he shall direct thy paths.

— Proverbs 3:5-6 KJV

[heyitsmelizzie]

[heyitsmelizzie]

i want to be distracted 24/7

too distracted to think

too distracted to worry

too distracted to reflect

too distracted to contemplate

and i know it's wrong

i know it's a bad habit

i know why i want to be distracted

but the truth is

i can't run away from myself forever

[heyitsmelizzie]

[heyitsmelizzie]

honestly found this so inspiring (and funny) so wanted to share

[heyitsmelizzie]

i just heard a saying/phrase and wanted to share because i found it very thought-provoking:

"a bird and a fish can fall in love, but where will they live?"

this was specifically said in reference to a certain long-distance relationship which had ended (i.e. saying how long distance has/can kill a lot of budding romantic relationships) but I think this saying can apply to many other things/areas and in a broader sense too (e.g. sometimes the realities of life can be harsher than we would like to accept, sometimes things may simply not work out due to circumstances outside of our control).