faith of the falling axe

I'm Kaelin. 30s. Guitar nerd, hopeful romantic, whoa-oh connoisseur.

[parkayquarts]

limewire, the annoying orange, "lemon" fanfiction: these are just a few of the amazing digital citrus

[sandmandaddy69]

[beardedmrbean]

[kureiois]

[delta-domine]

never seen anyone fucking kill a man on reddit

[website-com]

ive heard if its all gone wrong and is fucked beyond repair you can actually use it for banana bread

[jakeperalta]

not using AI genuinely feels like the rest of the world is experiencing some kind of mass amnesia. if someone says they never use it, the immediate response is that can't be true because "everyone" uses it to write their emails or answer their questions. saw a comment suggesting that not using chatgpt to write an essay is "like the 90s". girl I graduated in 2021 and we weren't doing that! how is it that everyone has suddenly forgotten that they were entirely capable of doing these things all by themselves for their entire lives up until the past few years!! am I going crazy!!!

[moniquill]

[taavicleric]

My personal experience with being asked this question and then given that line, is that the neurotypical person expected you to feel shame. I have some slightly less anecdotal evidence to back up this anecdotal experience. I took substitute teacher training once, and we were told that the best thing to do with middle schoolers "acting up," was to shame them, to figure out how to draw attention to them and this negative attention in front of their peers would shame them into good behaviour, or at least silence. I raised my hand, having already distinguished myself as the "weirdo" of the group, and said, "Is this the reason I spent a lot of time in the principal's office for truthfully, loudly, and clearly answering questions like, 'would you care to share your thoughts with the class?'" And was told yes, that was a perfect example, but I was the rare case where it backfires.

Since then, I have responded to that type of question with, "Do you want an explanation, or was your intent simply to indicate that I need to feel inferior, right now?" and it does tend to turn the tables a little bit.

[passion-of-l0vers]

girl, i specifically told you to put your records on

[necrotranscjk]

An important tweet

[sighinastorm]

This is such a "common sense" way of putting it. Everybody memorize this for spitting it back out whenever needed.

[skin-slave]

Never thought I'd have the opportunity to say this again: Reducing women and girls to their vaginas and then forcing them to show those vaginas to strangers is not a feminist ideal.

[badcyka]

The only reason competitive sports are segregated by sex in the first place is that we've been taught to believe that one of them is naturally inferior and that intersex people don't exist, which obviously isn't the case.

First of all, our species is not nearly as sexually dimorphic as people like to believe. For example: the average representation of a human male is not built like a professional NFL player, nor is the average female built like a runway model. Both sexes come in a wide variety of shapes and sizes and there's no "one true" or "natural" archetype for either.

This also includes our genitalia, and opening the door for young girls and women's genitals to be examined and judged based on what someone else thinks your vagina should look like is a whole other can of worms, nevermind subjecting people they "suspect" to blood tests in order check their hormone levels when those can also vary wildly between individuals.

As a biologist and brown belt in BJJ who regularly spars with men, I can say with the utmost confidence that there is no logical reason why men and women shouldn't be allowed to compete against eachother in ANY sport other than to reinforce society's gender stereotypes and norms.

There's a reason why boxing, etc. is done by weight class. You wouldn't put a heavyweight in the ring with a featherweight, but if i'm roughly the same height and weight as you and we're both at the same skill level, you're not going to have some inherent advantage based on whatever genitalia you currently or used to have. It's nonsense.

I also find it very telling as well that the "evil trans" narrative being pushed in which people are transing their gender to sneak into bathrooms and have a competitive edge in sports only seems to apply to trans women.

[stagrunner]

Help An Unemployed Trans Dude One More Time 🙏

More or less what it says on the tin lmao!

TLDR: I lost my job in November of last year and have been job hunting ever since. I should have an offer letter this week (potentially by EOD today), but I won’t likely start for another few weeks and I’ll need, like, dog food and person food before then

So for (hopefully) one last time, I am panhandling on this website!

You can throw me a few bones at my Ko-Fi right here:

https://ko-fi.com/stag

(A few people have asked me for my Venmo in the past, so if that’s more your speed: my name is stagrunner over there!)

And again like. Thank you in advance. I cannot lie, it has been an absolute morale destroyer having to keep asking. I’m really grateful for the support folks have shown me and am like… desperate to be employed so I can start reciprocating the generosity I’ve been shown.

In the interim, though: a grateful Josie (who is getting more treats today!)

[grimmscythe]

Reblog to cast heal on prev

[autumntides]

[k1nky-r0b0t-g1rl]

i have never been more attracted to anyone ever in my life,,,

[kinky-and-cuddly]

She's named Jeri Ellsworth and her channel is https://youtu.be/_kDhpFaf4EY?si=YecUa2DG-PSKMwC3

Please share a version of the post that allow to discover her work if you share this video.

[filmgifs]

JOSIE AND THE PUSSYCATS (2001) dir. Harry Elfont and Deborah Kaplan

[estrogenerational-trauma]

if ur a girl and a loser I love you

[estrogenerational-trauma]

please remember

[meretbannerman]

i love that tumblr is a website for pathetic people who have never gotten over anything. it makes me feel much better about being a pathetic person who has never gotten over anything

[stagrunner]

brother I require money for meds

(Sorry, did not have a title in mind 😔)

This was actually going to be my “would anyone like to buy a fat dog some 4/20 pizza”, but alas! My insurance is fighting covering some of my medication: I’ve already reached out to my doctor’s office and the insurance company itself, but I would very much like to be able to have my meds and not wait for their decision!

All in all, I need about $70 to cover out of pocket medication costs. I know money’s tight, but if you’d like to throw me a few bones, you can do so here:

Buy Stag a Coffee

Become a supporter of Stag today!

[yremystar]

Steve-O and Johnny’s house on MTV Cribs (2002)

[doe-eyed-disaster]

it's exhausting to see constant TMA/TME discourse that fundamentally does not understand intersectionality. Transmisogyny affected, TMA, describes someone who cannot leverage your assigned gender to mitigate the oppressive force of transmisogyny. Transmisogyny exempt, TME, describes someone who is able to leverage their assigned gender in some way to mitigate the oppressive force of transmisogyny. They are not identity labels; they describe a person's relationship to transmisogyny.

[doe-eyed-disaster]

these labels also do not categorize people as ontologically "victims" or "oppressors". everyone, including TMA people, can wield transmisogyny and everyone can wield it most effectively against TMA people. just as cis women can perpetrate and enforce misogyny against other cis women, so too can trans women leverage transmisogyny against one another. however, given the relative lower social status of TMA people, we are less able to advance their own social standing by leveraging transmisogyny. Caitlin Jenner is both TMA and openly transmisogynistic, but she is less successful in advancing herself compared to TME people like Marjorie Taylor Green. this is similar to how cis women can wield misogyny against men (like suggesting that an fashionable man is inherently less masculine), but a similar criticism from another man will generally be a more potent attack.

[doe-eyed-disaster]

oppressions can look similar: racialized women, particularly black women, are often degendered in ways which superficially resemble transmisogyny. for example, Michelle Obama was mocked for having supposedly "mannish" features. to the extent that transmisogyny might have impacted her, she was able to mitigate it by leveraging the fact that she was assigned and conformed to expectations of women. she was unable to leverage her race to deny the full extent of this public abuse because degendering is a tactic empowered by both racism and transmisogyny. a black trans woman who is similarly degendered cannot leverage TME privilege because of her gender assignment at birth. both people are targeted and harmed in some way by degendering, but one is more able to mitigate that harm due to being able to exempt herself from transmisogyny.

in a similar example, Imane Khelif was subject to simultaneous pressure from transmisogyny, racism, and intersexism. because she is TME, she could leverage her gender assignment and was not barred automatically from competing in women's events at the summer Olympics (an option unavailable to TMA athletes facing similar scrutiny). she also enjoyed an outpouring of public support in favor of her continued participation, whereas TMA athletes received little sympathy or support in the press (in fact, the event that prohibited them was hailed as especially inclusive for lgbtq+ athletes). however, she was still pressured sufficiently by racist and intersexist policies to undergo invasive medical procedures and to publicly reveal medical details that she might have preferred to keep private. the fact that Imane Khelif was subject to other systems of oppression in no way disproves the validity of transmisogyny because she was able to do the thing that defines being TME: she leveraged her assigned gender to exempt herself from transmisogyny.

[doe-eyed-disaster]

in Kimberlé Crenshaw's formulation of intersectionality, she describes the unique marginalization of black women. unlike white women, black women cannot leverage their race to mitigate the impacts of racism. unlike black men, black women cannot leverage their gender to mitigate the effects of misogyny. thus, black women are demonstrably subject to a unique synergy of white supremacy and misogyny (misogynoir) from which others are able to exempt themselves to varying degrees and by various means. the same formulation can be applied to TMA people, who are unable to leverage either their gender assignment or social identity, to mitigate oppositional and traditional sexism, thereby rendering us uniquely vulnerable to the synergistic oppression of those forces. (and of course, we cannot forget that TMA people can also be subject to other discrimination from which they cannot exempt themselves; TMA people can also be variously racialized, disabled, poor, intersex, and so on.)

[doe-eyed-disaster]

great tags from @futchlingg

[doe-eyed-disaster]

I'm glad the tone i struck was accessible to you. I'm going to continue to be very generous right now: this response is transmisogyny. one of the kinds of privilege that TME people experience is getting to be judged as individuals whereas TMA people are always judged collectively. TMA people should not have to be as precise, nonjudgmental, and even in tone as i was in this thread. i chose to put in the effort to explain things in these terms, but i did so because when TMA people like me aren't, we get taken with the worst possible faith.

if a cis woman wrote a post like mine about the ways in which men leverage misogyny against her, it would be obviously misogynistic for someone to reply "oh thank goodness. i never really got feminism because they're always just so bitchy about men". this would be the case regardless of who said it or what their proximity to misogyny is. the same is true here: i made a long post with very precisely chosen language, and this reply contrasts me against all those other, apparently uncouth trans women who don't haven't decency to be nice about our oppression. (if you know trans women like that, please send them my way. they sound based.).

TMA people do not owe any deference to TME people's feelings when talking about our oppression. y'all can get away with shit on the regular, usually against us, that is far crueler than incivility. TMA people shouldn't have to make posts that are hundreds of carefully chosen words long with step-by-step logical constructions from first principles and real-world illustrations whose relevance is spelled out on exacting detail. this was a high effort post and WE DON'T OWE THAT TO ANYONE. we shouldn't have to do that every time we want to talk about the fucked up things that happen to and around us, especially not to TME people who benefit from doing those fucked up things to us.

(and if you think my reply here is veering into incivility, let me invite you to examine why it is that you're feeling so defensive. let's internalize and practice those analytical skills which i described apparently so well in those first canonically non-bitchy posts.)

[doe-eyed-disaster]

a common (and exhausting) misconception seems to happen around the word "exempt". let's be clear: transmisogyny isn't just "misogyny that happens to trans women". transmisogyny is a social force which influences *all* people which posits that differently gendered people are intrinsically different in some meaningful way and that one gender is in some way socially superior to another. the ways that we construct, define, inscribe, navigate, and relate to gender are all influenced by transmisogyny. if getting to wield misogyny without consequence is the carrot of patriarchy, then the threat of faggotization for being too great a failure to one's assigned boyhood is the stick. I've seen transmisogyny described as the psychological lynchpin that holds patriarchy together. some people can leverage their gender in some way to mitigate the impact of this force, but it is a fundamental part very sea that we all must swim in.

the same can be said for other marginalizing forces. temporarily nondisabled people can experience negative consequences of ableism, but feeling burnt out from an excessive workload is a fundamentally different experience when not fully exposed to ableism. for instance, you might have your exhaustion taken more seriously by your doctor if you are not yet disabled and consequently receive better medical care. a straight man might be mistreated if others believe him to be gay, but he's dealing with one moment of interpersonal bigotry rather than an entire lifetime of being under threat (for example, his right to the social and financial benefits of marriage are far more guaranteed than they might be if he was gay). and so on.

TME people experience transmisogyny but they are not its primary targets and can exempt themselves from scrutiny and mistreatment by leveraging their gender in some way that TMA people cannot. one pernicious way that this happens is through a kind of affected incompetence, positioning themselves to always be seeking education from TMA people about transmisogyny and offering shallow rebuttals and critiques such as the images attached (which they may not even consciously recognize as such). this positions TMA people as bearing the expectation of answering and clarifying on demand and being held to account for all the other TMA people who have come before her.

like i just spent nearly a thousand words giving the piss easiest "intersectionality 101" and you're complaining that the language is unclear or flawed in some way that precludes your understanding or prevents you from internalizing what you've just read, complaints which would be irrelevant if you just read the first paragraph again in which the terms were defined in clear, simple language. if this is your response, you are exactly who i was complaining about from the beginning.