[kittyit]

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[kittyit]

how to understand the rage economy, 2021

[11thfempachi]

Men are like "i can barely afford to survive. Time for a baby"

[11thfempachi]

"my father became an alcoholic because he had 5 kids he couldn't feed" was your father a bankrupt billionaire who lost all his prosperity at the worst moment or did was he already a broke ass who discovered children require resources to be spent on them only after the 5th one and decided to take away what they had by becoming an addict instead of being responsible?

[11thfempachi]

"i was a bit hungry all the time because my family had 10 kids and barely enough food for everyone" okay why didn't your father pull out then

[realist-fortheloveofwomen]

Fathers always a fat fuck too when their kids are hungry

[niiwa-angel]

Father always has money to go to the bar, go fishing, go out with the guys, etc. but the kids can't do any extra curriculars because "we don't have the money"

[11thfempachi]

Children and mother could eat like orphans in sieged Leningrad but the father can always afford a beer

[unrespectability]

battered women caught in a cycle of separation-manipulation with the battering men will actually say the most extreme and radical "blackpilled" shit when at their lowest and in touch with the severity of their situation, before they snap back into forced denial and dissociation. i think the severe and profound cognitive dissonance may be at the very core of their mindsets when navigating and surviving the chronic abuse, and i think they do not have ways of rectifying the extremes of judgments their minds go to. i think they are primed for feeling profoundly embarrassed for how openly and categorically they expressed the truth of their situation when crying on your couch. i think their abusers and batterers make them feel stupid, dramatic, hysterical for the things they will say to you. i think there is cultural push for making these women think that accusing a man of abuse openly is a maladaptive over-reaction to "normal" relationship friction. i think it makes them profoundly vulnerable to face you after laying things out so plainly, because it brings them in touch with the severed part of their being that is ready to say it all again once things get bad enough, and that severed part does not want to think that when she was confiding in you, she was being merely "dramatic" - but what else would make sense when the other part is busy convincing you to disregard her?

the shift between the two polarized states is profoundly turbulent, disorientating and vulnerable - and the abuser capitalizes on it, harnesses the inherent embarrassment and says "yes, you are stupid, you are irrational, you do not know what you're talking about, you cannot trust yourself, your flip-flopping does not make sense, so you must disregard and silence the part of you that protests my treatment of you".

i think there is inherent risk when jaded women meet the polarization on similar terms but in the opposite direction: accuse the part of the battered woman that is susceptible, is manipulated, is attached to the batterer, the relationship, the institution of heterosexuality, of being stupid, vapid, senseless, ridiculous, irrelevant, deserving of being entirely disregarded. when jaded women push the internally polarized, cognitively dissonant battered women to "pick a side and stick to it", stop the back-pedalling, back-tracking, stop seeking out The man or men in general, they are - unintentionally - speaking the language of the abuser. and the reason why the language is so dangerous is not our - feminists' - fault. those groundworks were laid down by the batterer. and the impact of our words is never going to be the same: we will never have the hold and sway of an abusive, manipulative, baby-trapping sociopathic male. i am not accusing the jaded women of being equally - or at all - abusive.

what i am trying to say is that, the way i understand it right now, the polarization needs to be resolved before a woman can be free. her consciousness and clarity cannot be continuously compartmentalized away from her attachments, affections, conditioned responses. she needs to find ways - and be given tools - to reconcile them. and for that, she needs to not - ever - feel "stupid" for any movement and expression of her psyche. if she allows herself to feel stupid about any part of this, she will feel embarrassment, and she will feel distrust of her own intense emotional experience. her inventory of her own experience and behaviours needs to be perfectly clear, mindful, lucid, and in that borderline non-judgmental.

if we choose the language of shame or mockery, we are speaking the language of the batterer - and he is the one proficient in it, it is native to him, he invented it. he will always prevail as long as the woman is encouraged to feel shame about the disconnect between her forced inner polarities. whatever frustration, anger, pain we must feel, we cannot see her as stupid, and we cannot make her see herself that way. if she is stupid, she cannot trust herself. if she cannot trust herself, she will always have to trust him instead.

[marbleguard]

is anyone keeping up with this thing where the body of a madoka magica cosplaying trans woman was found in a german river and everyone immediately with no evidence started theorizing it was a horrific transphobic hate crime only for it to be revealed it was a likely suicide and the trans woman in question was wanted for kidnapping an underage girl and was a sex offender for "sex acts with child under 15"....

and after that was uncovered, netizens immediately, again with literally no evidence at all, started accusing the kidnapped girl who was groomed when she was a child, of murder, despite the trans woman who died constantly posting suicide fantasies on social media dating back many years. Imagine trying to frame the victim of grooming as a murderer just to maintain the victim narrative of the literal sex offender

can't make this shit up

[marbleguard]

most of the discussion and sources coming out about this are not in english so its proving a bit hard for me to follow the full details (here is the government sex offender page), but is this not just a real life example of the exact sort of shit that has been going on here on tumblr too? Reminds me of all of the blogs that were deleted for posting literal pedophilia, incest, and rape fantasies, who are then rallied behind by the entire site and portrayed as victims, just because the people running them were trans women. And how about how that same circle of bloggers have been posting about how the sex offender registry is fascist or whatever?

it is disturbing but not unexpected that this is not just an online phenomenon. it's obvious, but these people exist in real life.

[girlnumbers]

The sexualization of women is putrid and a thin veil disguised as “yas queen liberated and free” so that men can fantasize about raping you, further the progression of rape culture and degrade your existence while you play along thinking you’re creating a feminist #win

[vintage-bentley]

Source: @/horriblemeanbadwoman on Instagram

[pseudonaivete]

I am a journalist and a researcher. In my work, I analyze journalistic texts to spot bias.

While in spaces like Tumblr, it is a known that conservative media tends to distorts reality and uses rhetoric manipulation to form their audience opinions, I must heavily point out, that so does the left. And particularly so about transwomen matters.

This article about the UK Supreme Court’s ruling on what a woman is from The Nation, written by Sophie Lewis, is a shocking example of how little objectivity is found in her work and how deeply manipulative and inaccurate her claims are. Nearly every sentence is filled with fallacies.

In just 362 words of the text, I have found TWENTY-SEVEN attempts to manipulate the audience with claims that aren’t testifiable but emotion-driven. Journalism is in crisis, and many outlets produce pieces not to inform but to spread political activism.

I ask you, please, be critical. Transgenderism is an ideology, not a fact. Trust sources like AP, Reuters, and BBC, for they are the least biased.

And do not trust my word for it. I am just a junior scientist. Use this toolkit or search for your own (persuasive language, rhetoric devices, logical fallacies, tentative conclusions, etc.) to critically evaluate the media you consume.

[fuckcrumpets]

It's a shame your a terf. You'd be so much cooler if you were a cute lil enby like me, you could be spending your time getting kisses and cuddles and headpats from other enbies, and resisting capitalism, and sacrificing to ancient gods, and covering your body in cool tattoos and piercings, and maybe getting top surgery or nullification, and never having what society considers a real job. Instead you're stuck living the miserable life of a conformist, becoming angry at those more free then you are.

“It’s a shame [you’re] a [woman]. You’d be so much [more palatable] if you were [to assume a performative, trend-driven identity] like me, you could be spending your time [seeking validation] from [others], and [prioritising superficial aesthetics over meaningful action], and maybe [undergoing unnecessary, invasive medical procedures to disassociate from the reality of being female], and never having [financial independence]. Instead you’re stuck living the miserable life of [an adult], becoming angry at those [who choose to live in fantasy].”

[marbleguard]

I wonder when society is gonna realize that sending abusive men to therapy does nothing but equip them with new official sounding therapyspeak terms to use when guilt tripping their victims

[marbleguard]

women STOP working like a dog to financially support your bfs/husbands through advanced degrees or passion projects. "he says he'll do the same for me after," that is what they always say and then conveniently there is almost always an excuse why they can't when that time comes. "but when he achieves his goal it will pay off for us both" i know you think you can trust him but it is very common for these men to leave or cheat the second he lands the position he was aiming for. this is the #1 way i see young professional women getting their precious and hard earned resources funneled away from them and into a non-refundable deposit into a man who is not guaranteed to follow through on his promises. This is the oldest fucking trick in the "modern" man's book, please stop falling for it i am begging on my hands and knees

[a-florenceblack]

was looking through Goodreads for "Why Women Are Blamed For Everything: Exploring Victim Blaming Of Women Subjected to Violence and Trauma" by Jessica Taylor and something tells me I should really buy the book lol

[partycitywigsale-deactivated202]

imagine buying a book called “why women are blamed for everything” and then writing up a review that just accuses the female author of being a woman and writing about women.

[radgoblin]

Jessica Taylor is a radical feminist academic and a lesbian. Brilliant woman and very funny. If y'all want to follow her on Twitter, she's @drjesstaylor.

She recently published a study on sexual assault and domestic violence that surveyed over 22,000 women in the UK. The study found that 99.7% of UK women have experienced some sort of violence, including assault, harassment, and rape.

Here's a summary of their findings.

[g1rluninterruptedd]

speaking of drag again, i don’t get why ppl aren’t allowed to be upset by trixie mattel’s old anne frank bit.

“everyone could laugh at fucked up stuff because life was fucked up”. i feel like some of you look through such a narrow, rose colored lens of “marginalized males can do anything they want without criticism, they are never wrong” and it’s unfortunately very prevalent in this community. life being fucked up does not give you the right to laugh at a bit of a real life young girl who was murdered in a genocide. this is disgusting, i don’t care if drag is meant to be weird and different, there is a line and this most definitely crosses it. it’s not “conservative” to say that you shouldn’t make a mockery of a child.

[houseonthemoors]

if theyre allowed to laugh at this then why are we shamed for laughing at them? some woman should do a drag perfomance of that trans british teenager who got stabbed to death in a park. and then when they all bitch and moan about it just say "we like to laugh at fucked up stuff because life is fucked up". boooooohoooooo

[myke-litoris]

An afghan womyn shows us how the world looks through the veil she is forced to wear 💔 I pray she along with all other afghan womyn will get to experience the day she can walk outside and feel the wind in her hair, see the movements of the wind in the grass without mesh to block her view, hear the birdsong without heavy fabric over her ears, smell the fresh air and feel the sunlight on her skin and talk to another womyn about the beauty of the world, all without fear of violence or worse.

This is sex based oppression distilled to its purest form. Some call it “gender apartheid” but frankly even that downplays the severity of the situation for afghan womyn. I don’t even have the language to describe it in only a few words, if that language even exists yet

— source—

Found From sufi495 on twitter: (translated to English):

“This is her Instagram account. She risks her life and films from inside Afghanistan, speaking in English to convey the suffering of women living in Afghanistan to the entire world. https://www.instagram.com/behind.chadari”

93K Followers, 34 Following, 76 Posts - See Instagram photos and videos from Behind Chadari | Zahra Abbasi (@behind.chadari)

[meanevilwitch-deactivated202601]

“i would rather you call me a slur instead of a man”

translation:

“i would feel less angry and dysphoric if you fueled my victim complex instead of contextualizing my misogyny. i don’t want to be held accountable as a man & i would prefer it if you bullied me, so i could comfortably frame you as the persecutor and me as the persecuted.”

Yeah basically.

I've noticed that "just call me a slur" is a phrase I see thrown around a lot amongst the tq+ and I wonder if they realize that it's not generally standard practice for marginalized people to beg their oppressors to call them slurs.

It's almost as if...

[g1rluninterruptedd]

“but it’s a part of kweer culture” okay?. women are allowed to see drag performances that cross the line and say something about it. and no, i don’t give a shit what the males in makeup have to say, men don’t get to tell women how to feel, the fuck? 💀 if a man walks on the stage making fun of “fishy pussy” or “saggy titties”, i don’t get why women aren’t allowed to say “oh, i think that was in poor taste.”

i’m sorry but i feel like a lot of yalls “pro women” and “feminist” feelings jump out the window the second a man in makeup and nail polish says something lolz.

[dj-hyperbaedel]

It's funny when terfs think THEY'RE the main target of misogyny in drag performances, and it tickles me that they think it's trans women doing that

[doingitatmybirthdaydinner]

neither terfs nor trans women were mentioned a single time in the original post. only the words “women” and “men” were used. do you have a rebuttal to her main point, which is that women have a right to criticize actions they perceive as misogynistic, regardless of the cultural context of those actions, and there is no type of man who is above criticism? do you? or do you just want to make up something that the op never said, and then refute that because it’s easier than refuting her actual statement?

[foggychapters]

also, love how the person backhandedly agreed, that men-in-makeup means trans women, and not only women. Cuz none of it was said in the og post. Everyone including them knows what's up, but keep the gaslighting on with the flame up high lol.

[grunfeld-river-archive]

River admitting he infiltrated radblr while he was still a TIM and pretended to be a radfem online.

[uvb76fan]

in a year he will be a retransitioned transfeminist and his wife will immediately follow him because she's a misogynist whose life revolves around hubby. extremely classic case of mtf obsessed with passing as a female terf. literally bragging about tricking lesbians into thinking he's a woman online. so creepy. notice how communities for gendercrit / detrans males have existed for years that he could easily have gotten involved with instead and he chose not to.