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Heya! This blog is to share tips and else that are interesting for me but also might interest you! One big fav is the ND Masterpost and the ADHD and Autism Masterpost but if you go in nav you can find other tips!

If anyone wants to support me, know that I have a ko-fi! (It basically was for my art account, but guess it’s for more now.)

#ko-fi #support #pinned

beenovel

Ok I’m having a slight mental breakdown about the sun the last couple days (idk what’s happening but every time the sun touches me I get these horrible intrusive thoughts like “I’m not wearing sunscreen, my skin is going to peel off my body, I’m going to get melanoma and die of sun cancer”) so to reassure myself and spread awareness here are the signs of melanoma and when to get it checked by a doctor:

my-autism-adhd-blog

Honestly this is very helpful for this summer for those who work out in the sun. Thank you for sharing. 🥰

#Health

only-tiktoks

mellifluousbenthictones

this shit is no joke. It took me a year of stretching at every possible opportunity to get rid of the pain

juelzsantanabandana2

I'm known for making jokes on the internet but I'm actually a Sports Medicine person and all of this is very accurate if you're foot has plantar fascistic start small and do little stretches and it will help you. don't say'' how old you are'' or how late into the ailment you think you are and give up because you think You Are too far into it doing exercises always help

yomikoreadsbooks

Helpful feet stuff! ✨

#physical health

jthm-moved

hobo-rg

“spicy pillow” jokes aside, I think @flowerkrone’s tags deserve a serious reply:

#my old phone looks like this on my shelf lmao #im too scared to touch it to throw it away #idk what trash this even goes into when its at this point

The pillow-shaped object here used to be the phone’s battery. It’s not a battery anymore. Now it’s a balloon full of corrosive, pyrophoric chemicals and hydrogen gas and it’s one puncture away from burning your house down. I am 100% serious. You should be scared to touch it.

But you gotta touch it, because you gotta get it out of your house before the pressure builds up to the point where the balloon pops. This isn’t going to happen soon – there is no need to panic – but it will happen eventually.

And, indeed, it doesn’t go in the ordinary trash. You put this in the ordinary trash and you’re gonna set the garbage truck on fire. Don’t do that to the garbage collectors, their job is hard enough already.

The first thing you need to do is get a fireproof container. The most common household item that qualifies as a fireproof container is a cast-iron cookpot with a cast-iron lid – often sold as a “Dutch oven.” Any other cooking container that’s unreactive, has a very high melting point, and has a lid made of the same materials will also work: enameled or stainless steel, Pyrex with glass lid, etc.

However: Do not use a pot with a PTFE-based non-stick coating. If the battery does explode, the fire will probably be hot enough to degrade a PTFE coating, producing toxic smoke. (Not that you should breathe the smoke from the battery fire either, but PTFE breakdown products are worse.) Do not use a pot made of aluminium or copper. The fire might even get hot enough to melt those.

Whatever container you use, you might have to throw away along with the phone, so don’t use your good Dutch oven for this. Go to a thrift store and buy a cheap one.

Once you have the fireproof container:

Gently pick up the phone and put it in the fireproof container. If possible, gently tape the phone to the bottom of the container to prevent it from bouncing around. Don’t put any padding in there, that’ll just make a fire worse if it does happen. Put the lid on and tape it shut.

Put a label on the container, something like “DEFECTIVE LI-ION BATTERY – FIRE HAZARD”.

It is now reasonably safe to move the container around. However, if the battery does explode, the container is very likely to leak smoke and get hot, so keep it in a well-ventilated area and away from things that will be damaged by heat. Don’t leave it exposed to the weather, either.

You need to find either a hazardous waste disposal site, or an e-waste recycler that will accept defective Li-ion batteries. I can’t help with that because I have no idea where you live.

However, your local fire department, if you have one, will probably be happy to help. Call their non-emergency number. Nothing is on fire yet, so this isn’t an emergency, but things that can easily start a fire are still within the fire department’s responsibilities. Tell them you have a phone with a bulging lithium-ion battery, you put it in a fireproof container, and you want to know how to dispose of it safely.

If the fire department tries to tell you this isn’t dangerous or it’s okay to throw it out in the regular trash (with or without fireproof container), hang up on them and write a cranky letter to your local government representatives, then keep looking for a proper disposal site.

When you do find a a hazardous waste disposal site or an e-waste recycler, call them and make sure they will take defective Li-ion batteries, before showing up. That’s also a good time to ask if they will let you have the fireproof container back.

lolbatty

Reblog to save lives.

colorsofsocialjustice

The above is a great resource, and if you want more information, here is the FAQ post from the subreddit r/spicypillows.

#like cleansing

only-tiktoks

#cleaning #video #like cleansing

liache

ok kids repeat after me

vinegar and bleach makes chlorine gas, which is highly toxic

ammonia and bleach makes chloramine, which is highly toxic

rubbing alcohol and bleach makes chloroform, which is highly toxic

hydrogen peroxide and vinegar makes peracetic/peroxyacetic acid, which can be highly corrosive

be careful about your cleaning products and dont get yourself injured or potentially killed ok

gutsygills

why it so dangerous to be clean

catholic-aviator-deactivated201

As someone who’s job is to handle chemicals like this, I need to state that this information is IMPORTANT. Plenty of people have accidentally injured or killed themselves at home because they didn’t know what kind of reaction certain substances have with one another. Play it safe and don’t mix chemicals.

thegoodfoothousehold

Also don’t use bleach to clean up urine it’ll create chloramine bc of the ammonia in it and you can give yourself chemical pnemonia that way

theraphos

Every time I see “helpful” posts telling people to mix these things while cleaning I cringe with my entire body.

#cleaning

jjeremysstash

Fixing Windows 11 - A Masterpost

Windows 11 is absolute crap for a good bunch of stuff so yeah, have a masterpost with most of the things I've found around to fix it haha (they're not all here because I did stuff around and I don't remember what)

I also have a ko-fi if ever you want to help.

Stopping W11 from making you create an account/setting up your computer without internet (with a way to create gpedit.msc if your version doesn't have it)

If gpedit.msc doesn't exist, you have to create a .bat file on your desk. Open the basic text editor (idk the english version) and type in/

Fixing the Taskbar (in case you also don't like the grouped Battery/internet/sound or the way the windows look)(there's more to it, check the settings)

This project aims to enhance the working environment on Windows - GitHub - valinet/ExplorerPatcher: This project aims to enhance the working

How to move the volume and luminosity pop ups (so you can finally see those sweet sweet subtitles)

A modern Fluent Design replacement for the old Metro themed flyouts present in Windows. - GitHub - ModernFlyouts-Community/ModernFlyouts: A

In case ModernFlyouts doesn't automatically start up, possible solution

Fixing the Start Menu

The Windows 11 classic Start menu is a hidden menu that looks more like the one you're used to in Windows 10. Here's how to get it with a re

How to show all options right away

Truncated context menus are Windows 11's worst feature.

How to remove Copilot if you have it (I don't, but it might be because I'm in Europe??)

If you're on Windows 11 like I am for my "main" computer (in my case for school purposes and because I can't get Baldur's Gate 3 to play on

Apparently Copilot is being forced on people so hummm

I use Mac so I can't even read some of this, but this looks like a confirmation from howtogeek: Window Copilot is great, but it's not for e

Other stuff not specifically related to the shit W11 did

Changing the size of the scroll bars

If you're finding it hard navigating through apps and web pages, you may need to make the scroll bars wider on your Windows 11 PC. This guid

How to fully remove Cortana

I am on a Lenovo laptop. When I click Ctrl + Fn, it automatically pulls up the Cortana screen. This is very annoying because I need to use t

Website with tools to fix W10 and W11

Tools to fix known Windows 10 & 11 issues

#computer #Windows 11 #W11 #Windows

taoistyuri

this is among one of the funniest ask i have ever seen someone get sorry

kuromi-hoemie

spank-the-villain

On a serious note, this is why I hate vague or unexplained medical advice. "Take this before bed" Is it because you think I go to sleep at night? Does the medication causes sun sensitivity? Is it because you think it will make me sleepy and you don't want me driving on it? Is it because I'm supposed to not eat anything for several hours after taking it? Let me know. My lifestyle may not be what you think it is. "Take this with food" Is it because it's slightly better absorbed that way? If I don't, will it give me mild nausea or put a hole in my stomach lining? Be clear. "Take this the same time every day" Very strictly or is it okay in the 20-26 hour range? Trust me, this matters.

moorishflower

Hi hello I work in the medical field and I can actually answer this, at least for some medications! Firstly: everyone saying to ask your pharmacist for clarification is correct! That is what pharmacists are for. If they make you feel stupid for asking, or cannot answer, switch pharmacies.

Secondly: our bodies do different things while we're sleeping! Our metabolic rate is different, our blood pressure is different, there are fluctuations in hormones and other important chemicals. When a medication says "take before bed," it isn't assuming that your sleep schedule is the same as everyone else, it means *take it before you go to bed.* As in, before you go to sleep. Some medications are better processed or metabolized while you're asleep. Same if it says take with a meal, before a meal, take in the morning, etc.

When we put prescriptions in and send them to the pharmacy, we have a very limited amount of space to described what we need you to do. We've gotten around this by inventing medical jargon that's read by the pharmacist and then translated into directions for you. I'll put in Instill 1gtt OU qhs for 1 week, and what that means is "instill 1 drop both eyes before bed for 1 week." If I want to add additional instructions, I have a character limit. Usually less than 60 characters. If my directions go over that character limit, then it won't fully print on the label and the pharmacists have to make an additional label, and they hate doing that. This is why we keep the instructions as short and sweet as possible.

Some people have different lifestyles, and if that's the case for you, you need to discuss that with your doctor. But there's no way for your doctor to fit all the very specific instructions for your medication on a single label. They'll put it in your chart notes instead, and they'll most likely tell you to get a copy of them if you feel like you won't be able to remember the instructions they give you.

tharkuun

Hi, im a medical doctor. Above is so correct that pharmacists know better than anyone why meds need to be taken in certain ways and are so good to ask. But in general, the reason you are told to take meds at certain times are usually because of one of four reasons:

1. Because people usually have a morning routine and wake up at similar times/brush teeth/ etc so its easiest to add meds to the routine. This reason means that any time you have a reliable ritual/are reliably in a place where you can take meds, you can schedule your med ritual.

2. Because they have a certain side effect that you want to minimize, such as certain anti depressants that might keep you awake, or drugs that make you sleepy. These meds should therefore be taken on waking, or before sleeping. I'd also add in diuretics here (like those taken for heart failure) that make you pee, so you shouldn't take them after 2pm unless you want to wake up every couple hours to pee at night.

3. Because they have an effect that needs to be active when you are doing certain things, such as diabetes meds that you need to take in the morning so they are active throughout the day as you are eating, or anti-anginal meds (those that help prevent feeling heart-blockage-related-pains) that need to be active while you are active.

4. Because the time from dose one to dose two is exquisitely important in determining how well the med will work. Certain antibiotics NEED to be taken every x hours, because if you take a dose at x+2 hours, those 2 hours your body had without sufficient antibiotic in the blood just gave all those horrid bacteria a chance to rebound, become more antibiotic resistant, etc. Antibiotics and birth control are to my mind the only meds that are so time sensitive, but that's just off the top of my head.

And the with/without food thing is usually because of risk of ulcers, or because foods can interfere with the drug absorption.

But yeah, please ask your pharmacist these things. That's what they're there for! And they'll certainly know better than your doctor -- our job is to prescribe the right meds, theirs is to know all the ins and outs of how to/how not to take them etc.

coinandcandle

Local house witch telling you to please learn basic housekeeping skills.

It’s not your fault if no one ever taught you but YouTube is a magical place and can teach you at your own pace.

coinandcandle

Someone asked me what housekeeping skills I'd recommend learning.

Keep in ming that this is not me shaming you, I know you have your reasons, folks. This is just a guy who enjoys clean spaces asking that you start learning now.

Here's what I suggest as an adult who has lived with other adults who didn't have housekeeping skills:

First and foremost, learn about all the places in your house that need to be cleaned and understand how often they should be cleaned. the American Cleaning Institute (I guess that's a thing) has a good article about basic cleaning info. Plus this video on cleaning tips is great!

Learn how to do your dishes. HOT water is the only way to clean your dishes.

Learn how to clean your shower head, especially if you live in a place with hard water. Same goes for your sinks.

Learn how to do your laundry correctly. Even without the whole "separating whites and colors" thing, there are things you need to learn about washing your clothes. Learn what the tags mean, too.

Also, you don't have to use fabric softener and you shouldn't use it on towels or any fabric meant to absorb. (Learn about laundromats) And please learn how to clean out your dryer vent, it's a safety hazard!

Get a disinfecting cleaner for your high-touch areas, especially the gross ones like the bathroom. Just because it doesn't look dirty, doesn't mean it's clean!

Learn how to sweep, mop, and vacuum effectively.

You'll also want to make sure to change out your home's air filters.

TL;DR, here are some cleaning videos.

How to Clean Everything in Your Bathroom

How to Clean Everything in Your Kitchen

Livingroom Cleaning Routine

How to Clean Everything in Your Bedroom

Now these resources are not the end-all-be-all, but I think if you don't know much about cleaning your space this is a good way to start.

#Tips #Cleaning

turbro

Dear people living on your own for the first time:

Here’s some advice I wasn’t told from the myriad of posts before that I wish I’d been given before

Wash the OUTSIDE of your pots and pans as well as the cooking surface. I’ve had a few roommates now who have only cleaned the inside and I’ve had to replace a $150 set of cookware twice.

“its only one time, how bad could using metal on nonstick cookware really be?” very bad. don’t do this.

Buy a rice cooker. Buy the middle tier rice cooker. Cheap ones will burn your rice, high tier ones are too expensive. Rice is good and cheap and, really, you don’t actually have to wash it if you don’t care about making gourmet food.

Buy band-aids. You don’t think you need band-ads until you need a band-aid, and by then it’s too late. (if you don’t follow this advice, a paper towel and some tape is an acceptable solution while you go get real bandages and neosporin)

You are on tumblr, which means you probably spend most of your time in one spot on a computer or phone. if this spot doesn’t have a trash can in arm’s reach, put one there.

I spent 4 years piling trash on my desk in increasingly precarious ways until I had a designated area to put it. Trash cans can and should go anywhere there is a frequent generation of trash, typical locations be damned.

If you live with one or two roommates, discuss placing empty boxes in the back of your fridge and freezer. You probably don’t need all the space that the standard 5-person-family fridge provides, and tupperware will be shoved back there and left to stink up the entire appliance.

Get a wall calendar, put it somewhere communal, and have everyone put their household-relevant schedules on it. Communication is by far the weakest link with roommates (even good ones!) and having something to reference for appointments is always good

thesunshinydays

Hey this post is pretty good but please always wash your rice. It’s not to make it taste better, it’s to remove aflatoxin, which is created by a very widespread type of fungus and as such is present on most unwashed produce. Chronic exposure to aflatoxin leads to higher risk of liver and gallbladder cancer. I don’t blame anyone for not knowing this, as I didn’t until I started taking classes about cancer for my microbiology degree. Please always wash all of your produce and especially your rice, as it has a much higher surface area to volume ratio meaning that it can have a lot more aflatoxin on it than other produce if you don’t wash it.

noelle-ism

Also - look for rice cookers that only have the single Toggle between “Hot” and “Cook”. Technology Connections has a great in-depth video on why these cookers are basically perfect - but to summarize, they use magnets and the chemical properties of how rice absorbs water/how water boils to ALWAYS cook rice the perfect amount. Unless you really want more options - this rice cooker will be a blessing. Just set it to cook (make sure you get the rice/water proportions right!) and check on it in a bit.

hrshl-is-spouse-material

To go with the band-aid: have freaking disinfectant too.

Also buy scissors and a toolkit (IKEA has one with a screwdriver, hammer, etc), you won't be able to borrow those from your parents anymore

#I second the rice cooker #I don't have the place for one and decided on an oven rather than a rice cooker bc I'm French but omg rice cooker #each time I make rice I think 'it would be so much better with a rice cooker'

only-tiktoks

#important #aquaphobia #fire

iknityounot

Listen I am not going to name anyone specifically, but pattern makers need to talk to one (1) fat person before they can post their patterns online.

I am so sick of finding a cute pattern, getting all the supplies, checking my gage, and starting to knit, only to find that my sleeves are a foot longer than a normal human because the pattern maker just multiplied all their numbers by 10 when they sized it up. I can't believe I have to say this but, just because my ass is fat does not mean my arms go down to my knees???

icterid-rubus

Ravelry: Designs by Lydia Morrow

If you are a fat knitter, please check out Lydia Morrow on Ravelry!

Her design focus first and foremost on the fit and comfort of plus size people, most offering optional bust AND hip shaping. She’s a neuro divergent and disabled creator and really relies on the sales of her patterns, which very generously offer a sliding pay scale for people who can’t afford the full price. Her pattern sales have dipped these last few months which is a terrible shame because she is doing so much great work to make accessible patterns for all.

#Knitting

hrshl-is-spouse-material

ND masterpost

Hey everyone!! This is a masterpost for blogs and websites linked to neurodivergencies!

I will cut it into several parts for each neurodivergencies and update it over time, so don’t hesitate to give me more links, no matter the language. 9 blogs/websites max in a category, more will lead to a special masterpost for the sake of readability and view of the other categories.

When there’s a tumblr blog, the @ is added after the name/acronym if there is one, for the website, the link is connected to the name/acronym. The language is added in [].

Multi-ND (who regroup several neurodivergencies without focusing on just one)

Made By Philo

OCD + ADHD (+ ASD) Things!: @meintheadhd-ocd

ADHD:

ADHD answers: @tfw-adhd

good ADHD vibes: @adhdmorelikeyaydhd

ADHD Help Blog: @theydhd-help

That’s ADHD, babey!: @adhbabey

ABCs of ADHD: @abcsofadhd

Oh it’s just my executive dysfunction: @yayydhd

My ADHD Life: @adhd-chaos-queen

ADHD Alien: @adhd-alien

Autism:

ASAN: @autisticadvocacy

AWN: @awn-network

Autistic people are speaking for ourselves. are you listening?: @autistics-speak

Jumbled Beans: @autistic-apple-sauce

Autistic Questions and SpongeBob Stuff: @spongebob-autisticquestions (also talks about ADHD sometimes)

Schizo-spectrum:

SARDAA

@schizosupport

NPD:

Psychology in Seattle (Youtube): It talks about different things but there’s good ressources for NPD, you can use the list of episode to find links and titles more easily

@psychemoss: Talk mostly about personality disorders such as NPD, ASPD or SzPD.

You are loved!: @npdsafe (he made a NPD server!)

BP (Bipolar) :

Bipolar positivity: @bipolarings

BPD:

pure chaos: @bpd00m

ASPD:

Sweet Trench Coat : @sociopathica

ASPD Advice & Information: @your-aspd-dad

DID

This is Not Dissociative: @this-is-not-dissociative

@facesofone

New Alter Carrd [En]

AvPD

Actually AvPD: @actuallyavpd

hell brain: avoidant edition: @avpdpossum

AvPD community: @avpdcommunity

Give me more blogs and websites

The point of this masterpost is to help people understand the different neurodivergencies, to help the persons who have them to connect to others and understand themselves, and to help them on other levels (stim blogs for example). Which is why it’s important that the blogs and websites are run by people having the neurodivergency and that it isn’t ableist or eugenic. Example: autism speaks is an absolute no.

If there are problems with the way I word things or anything else (blogs/website, readability of the post, etc) let me know! If you’re the owner of one of the blogs/links and do not want to be in here, tell me.

The date of the last edit is in the tags.

#Last edited on the 24th of June 2023

dlanadhz

In case no one told you growing up

Bras last longer if you let them air dry. Don’t put them in the dryer.

If you have a problem with frizzy hair, don’t dry your hair with a towel. It makes the frizzies worse. (I recently read an article that said to use a t-shirt? I brush mine out and let it air dry.)

Whites wash best in hot water. Everything else can be in cold - save on your electricity bill.

You can kill 99.9% of germs in a sponge by putting it in the dishwasher for a cycle or by microwaving it for 2 min (be sure to make the sponge damp before microwaving and to put a cup half full of water in with it and please DO NOT squeeze the sponge until it has cooled off)

Airing out your room/house and letting sunlight in every so often can decrease the number of household pests like silverfish and ants.

Black underwear is best during your period as stains are less likely to be visible.

To save money, put aside 10% of each paycheck into a savings account. It’ll add up.

Unless your hair has something on/in it (like grease or mud or something), using conditioner first can actually be the better choice. The conditioner holds in the good oils that help you hair look sleek and beautiful, which shampoo would otherwise wash away.

Speaking of shampoo - if you have long hair, washing just the bits that touch your scalp is generally enough. The rest of your hair gets cleaned with just the run off from your scalp.

If you put a tampon in and it’s uncomfortable/you can feel it, you didn’t do it quite right. A properly placed tampon is virtually unnoticeable by the wearer.

Apply deodorant/antiperspirant a couple hours in advance of when you need it. This gives the product the chance to block your sweat glands. Using deodorant just before going somewhere where you’ll sweat (this means walking outside for people in high humidity places) results in your sweat washing the deodorant off and starkly limiting its usefulness.

After running the dryer, use the dryer sheet from that load to brush out the lint catch - it gets everything off in a fraction of the time it’ll take you to get it clean with your bare hands. Paper towels also work well.

Wash your face everyday, or as often as possible. Forget which brand of cleanser is best. Just washing your face everyday will guarantee you clearer skin. And do you best not to pop pimples, as tempting as the urge may be.

Fold laundry asap after taking it from the dryer to avoid wrinkles. This may seem obvious for dress shirts and silly for things like t-shirts, but you’ll notice the difference even then once your shirts stop looking like unfolded paper balls.

home-is-where-the-wifi-is-blog

To all the kids whose parents couldn’t help you with this kind of stuff

#likes cleansing #tips #life tips