living life plural

sideblog for the hybrid system. currently fronting: Katie (they/them). read the about and byf for more information.

[trans-affirmation]

To trans people with DID/OSDD:

To alters who don’t identify with the body’s assigned gender:

To alters who do identify with the body’s assigned gender, but the body is transitioning medically and socially and eventually won’t identify with it:

To systems with alters of many different genders:

To systems with alters of multiple genders who are considering transitioning medically or socially, for whom such a decision is hard because of the gender variance of the alters:

To alters/systems whose whole relationship with gender is muddled because of the system:

To systems who transitioned and later detransitioned because of system-related gender troubles:

I see you. You are loved and you are valued and you are valid.

[non-trauma-headspace]

If you know you are in a system, then I think you are real no matter how your system was created. You are valid. You deserve support from the community.

-Mod Squidle

[multiplicitymemes]

[system-comforts]

System members working through trauma are such brave people. Please remember how strong you are and know that your strength will bring you a brighter future.

[system-comforts]

Sometimes your system will have good days, and some days will be rough. Remember to try and not let the bad times outshine the good.

[control-alter-did]

Tips for a healthier system

(We are not professionals, these are just things that we have found help with our specific system. Everyone is different and these may not work for every system.)

-Communication: This might be said a lot, but it’s really important to be able to talk with one other. Have an inner world? Visit one another. Hear each other in the headspace? Talk things over and get to know one another. Can’t communicate at all? Write in notes or journals; anywhere another alter could see. Write letters to one another to work towards communication. You are all living together, you don’t want to not get along. Don’t want to talk to a specific alter? See if someone else will speak to them for you. -Set schedules: This goes with communication, as you have to talk to set schedules. Even if you can’t follow them exactly, it helps if everyone is trying to work together towards when it is safe to switch and when it isn’t. Make sure everyone that wants to front gets some time to come out and be themselves. Schedules are good, however:

-Don’t Force Them: It’s not good to force an alter to not front, as that might cause in-system fighting or mess with any and all communication. Don’t make an alter do something they don’t want to do. Don’t force yourself to be happy. You are an alter too and you all deserve happiness and health. Just do what comes naturally to your system. -Personal Objects: It may help with scared or angry alters if they have something that belongs only to them when they front. If possible: give your littles some toys, get your male alters (if in a female body) some binders, get your female alters (if in a male body) some feminine clothing, get some sketchbooks/notebooks for you all to share things with each other. Just try to make sure everyone is comfortable and happy when fronting to help with everyone’s overall mood.

-Don’t Compare to Other Systems: Every system, every alter, every body; we are all different and unique. Some systems have 2 alters, some have 20, and some have 200. Don’t compare yourselves to others and don’t stress that you can’t communicate as well as other systems. You are allowed to ask for advice, to make your own rules, to do what you think is best for your system and not even follow these tips.

In the end just do what you guys feel is best for you and try to be happy together. Whether your goal is integration, communication, or even just to get by one day at a time. Be who you want to be, do what your system thinks is best for all of you. Take your meds if you need them. Cry if you feel like crying. See a therapist and get professional advice. It’s going to be okay, you’re not alone.

[system-comforts]

Shout out to age sliders! It’s ok to be a difference age as the body, and ok if it changes. You are still a valid and important member.

[system-comforts]

Be patient with your system mates. They deserve it.

[bandaidkits]

heyhey!

Are you a DID/OSDD system?   Are you interested in being a part of a community of supportive peers? Do you like activities, events, and games? Do your littles/syskids need a place to interact safely? Do YOU need a place to interact safely? 

Look no further than Apricity, a system discord server for DID/OSDD systems!

Perks include: -45+ members: lots of friends! -Great moderation: very safe environment! -Regular activities!: Streams, games, calls, and more! -Application-based: Keeps everyone safe! 

Interested? Here’s the link! https://systemserver.typeform.com/to/ZIXXgd

[hybridmiscellaneum]

Tfw your headmate accidentally gets you an appointment to check out a college none of you want to go to in a city you don't even live in because they were too awkward to say no and then switches with you on the way there

[ghghhghffgvdfhvf]

I made system pride flags!! The one on the left is for systems in general, and the one on the right are for median systems! These are of course free to use, and suggestions are welcome!

[system-comforts]

Give your system members a break if they get tired! Being in a system is all about teamwork!

[system-comforts]

Not every system will be purely traumagenic!

Not every system will be purely endogenic!

Not every system will be purely spiritual!

Not every system is the same!

[system-comforts]

All systems deserve to have a wonderful day!

[multiplicitymemes]

Tfw your alter does something awesome so you gotta pop into co-con and

[courbet-deactivated12311877-dea]

Reminders for fictives

You are your own person. You are not too little or too much like yourself. You ARE yourself.

You do not need to spring into the world knowing everything about yourself with every opinion and personality trait you’ll ever have. Most people have years to figure out who they are, don’t rush yourself into a box you don’t fit in.

It’s okay to not have any canon memories. It’s okay to have a ton. It’s okay if they don’t make sense or don’t match up with what they’re “supposed to be,” hell it’s ok if they don’t match up with your other system mates.

You were created and shaped by trauma. It will affect you, and it will affect you in unexpected ways.

Growing and changing does not mean you aren’t yourself, it means you are having experiences that affect you, and that is the realest thing there is.

You are wonderful, you are important to your system and the world, and you are worth so much. 🌹☀️

[thepineappledidsystem-deactivat]

We don’t have fictives but know many systems that do and all fictives are wonderful. -Izzy

[systematicblues]

Im here for:

systems who didnt discover they were a system till a few years/weeks/days ago.

systems who are still trying to get a diagnosis.

systems who didn’t know how or why their system came about.

systems who cant ever remember their trauma.

fictives, factives, introjects, nonhuman and object alters.

systems with fictives from popular or recent media

systems without child alters or with primarily child alters

alters who feel extremely uncomfortable in the body

systems without an inner world

systems with a universe full of inner worlds