keep passing the open windows

anne  //   pro cats - pro feminism

[a-drama-addict]

well what can i say. i will like all characters better if theyre women instead of men

[damndorothea]

i saw this somewhere else but reply / tag what you did today so everyone can see that we all did something different today

[withmatchingscars]

I love being a swiftie we're always right and we never lose

[a-silly-poll-side-blog-yay]

have you ever had a beef with a teacher/prof

yes

no

hard to say

results

Voting ended onJun 3

[hyphenatedmess]

Why am I so scared of feeling hungry at work? I swear it’s gotten worse recently. I end up eating a ton in the morning in an attempt to stave off future hunger, but like? I’ve worked this exact schedule since 2020. Why am I suddenly like this???

[dreamy-xo-deactivated20260209]

mutuals for like 10 years but never have spoken a word to each other. the true tumblr experience

[haveyoureadthisbook-poll]

Have you read The Degenerates by J. Albert Mann (2020)?

yes

no

I didn't finish it

I've never heard of it

Remaining time: 3 days 12 hours

[brothermouse-skeleton]

Rocky: we built our spaceship by unifying every mind on the planet to create a super hive mind, pooling out collective knowledge and problem solving skills to come up with a plan.

Grace: we gave the scariest woman I've ever met two coffees every morning, an unlimited budget, and enough legal immunity to cuss out any world leaders she wanted to and boy did she want to.

[hood-ex]

[aropride]

if your animal is lying on the floor, furniture etc, it’s important to take a picture of them. then, if they move or shift in any way, it’s important to take another picture. with this technique, you can take many pictures of your animal

[hyphenatedmess]

Adding to the list of reasons I need a new car:

My coworkers know it’s mine. Need something nondescript and unfamiliar.

[hyphenatedmess]

A coworker just stopped by my office and was like “do you need your car washed? Is that what you need?” And I said yeah it’s pretty bad and will need to be truly scrubbed because the drive thru car wash isn’t cutting it. And she said she’d get back to me and like ? 1. Embarrassing that my car is so bad people are like “um are you ok” and 2. What’s she gonna do? Does she own a car wash or something?

[dailymanners]

Do not ever be rude or condescending to someone who asks "obvious" questions, no matter how obvious or silly you think the question is.

For one, in some cultures asking an obvious question is just a polite way of acknowledging the situation. So for example, if you just put your jacket on and start clocking out, a co-worker asking "oh, you done for the day and heading out now?" doesn't deserve you sneering at them like an idiot, scoffing, and saying "uh duh, just like I do every day at this time" when it's likely they knew the answer, but were just asking as a polite way of acknowledging the situation.

But even if they were genuinely unsure that you're leaving even though it seems obvious to you from context clues, so what? What does being rude and condescending to them achieve? Maybe they couldn't sleep last night so they're really out of it today, maybe they're dissociating, maybe they're about to pass out from low blood sugar, maybe some other employees sometimes put on their jacket and only clock out briefly but come back.

There's all sorts of reasons they could be confused about whether or not you're leaving, but intentionally making them feel bad achieves nothing except, well, making them feel bad. Either way, they're not hurting you or anyone by asking a "stupid" question, so there's no point in being rude about it. If you still want to make them feel bad about themselves for looking "stupid" when they weren't hurting anyone, that is the mindset of bullies and abusers.

[dailymanners]

Thank you everyone who is pointing out in the notes that this is usually an attempt to connect with someone and/or strike up a conversation. Because honestly in my experience 9 times out of 10 when someone asks an "obvious" question that's what they're trying to do. If someone walks into the kitchen and asks "oh are you cooking?" while you're standing over the stove holding a spatula, they probably already know the answer, but they're just trying to start a conversation with you and connect to you.

All the more reason it's sad and hurtful when these attempts are met with sneering and being treated like an idiot.

[sarcasticmothwrites]

There are no stupid questions, only assholes providing snarky non-answers. Because aside from the bid for connection or genuine confusion, sometimes there are REASONS why you might get an obvious question.

“Oh, are you cooking?” asks person who thought you were going out tonight.

“Are you leaving?” asks time-blind person who’s surprised it’s 5:00.

“Are you going to lunch?” asks person who remembers there’s a meeting in 30 minutes.

This is where I make my occasional reminder that Emily Post said the reason for manners is to make others comfortable and foster kind, thoughtful human interactions.

[the-haiku-bot]

“Oh, are you cooking?”

asks person who thought you were

going out tonight.

Beep boop! I look for accidental haiku posts. Sometimes I mess up.

[midnightportals]

[kragehund-est]

challenge for tumblr: view a post that says "it's good when women reject societal pressure and forgo shaving + make-up" and accept it at that. maybe even add something productive. anything but tired what-about-isms. please

[kragehund-est]

[miamignonette]

“ariel changed herself for a man!!” ok buzzfeed girlboss feminism let’s get you back to bed

[targetedknowledge]