Just a dude

He/Him, 16 I'm not used to venting, but I'm trying to open up more about my mental health because bottling it harms me. I want to find more trans men that relate to me and see me. Of course, this goes without saying, but feel free to block me if my posts are too mentally draining on you. Don't feel guilty for protecting your own mental health.

[this-is-transandrophobia]

I feel confused when people say that trans fems are being more targeted by the US government than trans mascs are. Most of the transphobic laws/actions I hear about affect all of us, and for the ones that only specifically talk about trans fems, there are also ones specifically about trans mascs (binder companies being threatened, bans on any person using any level of testosterone in sports). A lot of laws/actions do mention both, but only the part about trans fems gets attention. Even some counter laws/actions meant to protect trans people only talk about trans fems (saw something from Europe declaring trans women are women, nothing about trans mascs or nonbinary folks, can’t recall exactly what tho so take with a grain of salt).

on top of that, horrible laws/actions against anyone with a uterus are happening, which also affect trans mascs, but no one talks about that, only that they hurt cis women.

I’m tired of hearing that I should be grateful for my “privilege” and protect trans fems, when I’m just as terrified and at risk as any other trans person.

This is transandrophobia

[iamarobotguys]

Happy pride month to everyone!! Happy pride month to EVERY queer person! Especially black queer people, or queer people with “conflicting” gender identities. I love you all!!!

[this-is-transandrophobia]

One of the people at my school said I can't call myself queer because only trans women can call themselves queer. What

This is transandrophobia

[this-is-transandrophobia]

Assault/SA/medical SA

I was forcibly stripped & made to display my breasts for two cis female nurses. They backed me into a corner & forced me to my boxers & binder, then forced me to lift my binder to observe my chest. I was crying & begging the whole time.

I'll never forget being made to feel like my body isn't mine to own but theirs, that I am a circus act or an experiment in perversion at best. They seemed amused & mainly rolled their eyes at my protest. It was definitely a power trip for them.

I also had a nurse tell the other patients "you know what that actually is right? That's a female. She's a woman." when I would leave the room lol

This is transandrophobia and severe medical abuse. Im so sorry.

[oceanamethyst]

i saw the most stupid take ever

someone was talking about how it's weird that their tmasc friend is uncomfortable using the men's restroom when they pass and this is an example of "afab privilege"

like gee i wonder why he would feel uncomfortable

it's almost like transmascs have the highest assault rates

it's almost like the discrimination/misogyny one has faced from not being born a perisex man doesn't go away simply from being trans and transitioning into a man

it's almost like going into spaces that were technically built for cisgender perisex men is subjecting yourself to more situations where abuse can happen due to not being born a perisex man

it's almost like the very idea of "afab privilege" being a thing is misogynistic in itself

[tboy-cock]

It bothers me when people claim that trans men pass easier because it ignores the fact that many of us have boobs? I know binding exists but for many reasons people can't or won't bind all of which are valid. Someone who doesn't bind is automatically going to struggle to pass. Like for example I have literal g cups and I don't bind all the time cause I know I'd forget to take my binder off so I don't pass very well. I've had issues cause of this where I've felt unsafe because I'm read either as a trans person or a gnc woman and people hate anyone that doesn't fit into nice boxes. I know there are others who who don't pass for various reasons and I hate that people ignore and deny our lived experiences

Sorry to come to your inbox to complain about this but idk who else to talk to about it

my issue with the claim that trans men pass easier than trans women is that its not true. the inverse isnt true either. a lot of the way you look on hrt, including passing, is genetic. my wife is intersex and just started estrogen in february, and if she shaves their face they regularly get gendered as female by strangers when we're out in public, and that was true before they transitioned, and when i was early transition i could pass as a teen boy or a girl/woman depending on context (essentially i could use either the mens or womens restroom and look like i belong there) and thats obviously not true anymore. i know trans women who passed as cis women long before they even medically transitioned, and this is including trans women who didnt transition as kids, and i know trans men who have been on t for years and dont pass as cis men and are still visibly trans. and i know trans men who passed very early on t and trans women who don't pass after multiple years of hrt. a lot of the people who say this arent actually friends with any trans men so understandably they dont know anything about trans men but like. dont pretend then lol

[phosphorusab]

I hate this saccharine, cloying, infantilizing way trans men are talked down to by their own community when speaking about the words they choose to describe their experiences and oppression

‘Oh yes, you do experience a valid intersectional form of oppression - but you’re just so fucking stupid, that you’ve chosen a terrible word to articulate your experiences. So we aren’t going to listen to anything you say! You’re just so silly and stupid, you can’t possibly be trusted to articulate your own thoughts and experiences, let alone be trusted to do your own research. In fact, don’t even think or talk at all! Leave all the thinking and talking to the smart people whose suffering actually matters.

Also, no your experiences aren’t unique at all, negating the previous statement of you experiencing a valid intersectional form of oppression’

The tone of voice is no different than when people try to manipulate trans men into detransitioning - overly sweet, infantilizing and concerned while also being incredibly backhanded and demeaning

Nothing will ever be good enough. I just roll my eyes at this shit now

[this-is-transandrophobia]

people (including other transmascs?) acting as if transmasculine bottom surgery is inherently gross and everyone will be disappointed with the results and that all (perisex) transmascs should just become comfortable with having female genitalia.

This is transandrophobia

[iamarobotguys]

EW EWWWWWW this bitch just tried to reblog my post 😭😭😭😭😭 HELL no get your WEIRD ass off my page with that transphobic bs 😭😭😭

[this-is-transandrophobia]

people constantly talk about trans men having power over trans woman but I genuinely cannot fathom where?

every time someone ask they answer with "because they can perpetuate transmisogyny" but that´s such a vague way of framing it

cis people can perpetuate transmisogyny and they also statistically and systematically MORE LIKELY TO FUCKING MURDER US AND GETTING AWAY WITH IT

unless I'm missing something how are trans men able to systematically use whatever privileges they have allegedly have to systematically power over trans woman specifically that cis people are not also a massive and general bigger population of oppressors

it´s like me saying trans woman can hold systematic power over trans men because they can also participate in transphobia

This is transandrophobia.

As I have said before:

Trans men do not oppress trans women

Trans women do not oppress trans men

We are all faggots in the eyes of the state.

[memewhore]

[bananahomo]

I reblogged this last month, tagged it, and said “might as well see if it works.” I used this video as a reference to find all the forms that i needed (which is A LOT, especially if you’re a dependent) and sent them through the mail, not really allowing myself to hope.

dude.

$2,714 of medical debt from my top surgery - gone. im shaking this was such a weight on me for 2 years and it fucking worked. what the fuck.

[minakittengaming]

This is huge. Sharing for my US friendos.

[zillyblog]

Hospitals like to hide these policies under a lot of successive links in obscure places, so if you don't see anything right away, keep looking! Get friends to help! Make it a scavenger hunt. A game where you're assassins sent to slit capitalism's throat

[vagathathegreat]

Always remember who started to fight back first. Intersectionalty is so important!

[lost-and-kinda-dumb]

[depsidase]

[depsidase]

[eptck]

you have to be kinder to people with memory issues.

you have to be kinder to people who are slow processors.

you have to be kinder to people who don't understand your jokes.

you have to be kinder to people who forget important dates.

you have to be kinder to people with cognitive decline.

you have to be kinder to people who were always this way, too.

you have to be kind. you have to be kind.

[iamarobotguys]

I am a trans person and I will always be a trans person. I will never detransition, even if someone held me at gun point. I was born a trans person, I will live as a trans person, and I will die a trans person. I’m proud of who I am, who I’ve become, and who I will be continuing into the future. And no one, absolutely no one, will stop that.

There is nothing that will stop me from becoming an elderly trans person one day, no matter what life throws at me.