Just a dude

He/Him, 17 I'm not used to venting, but I'm trying to open up more about my mental health because bottling it harms me. I want to find more trans men that relate to me and see me. Of course, this goes without saying, but feel free to block me if my posts are too mentally draining on you. Don't feel guilty for protecting your own mental health.

[easternhognose]

Too many people on Tumblr never moved past their edgy highschool reverse misogyny phase and now are on here saying the same things there dad says about women but about trans men, intersex men, black and brown men, and disabled men, but thinking there being cool and progressive not just like... an asshole

[ronikarting]

If trans men talking about their issues provokes a "its not a competition" "others have it worse" etc response in you

CONGRATS YOU ARE PART OF THE PROBLEM.

[azurepinkgothic]

randomly came across a video discussing the omegaverse and not one person was discussing how it hurts transmasculine people and now i’m lwk pissed

one commenter was like “the appeal of omegaverse is making a male character experience misogyny” sis i’m not gonna hold your hand when i tell you this that’s just a trans man

ya’ll will read omegaverse fanfics, mpreg fetish content, watch cuntboy/boypussy porn and then when a transmasculine person is just trying to exist ya’ll are like “ew gross, i’ll just pretend you don’t exist for my own comfort” or fetishize them

i’m a femme gay trans man, if you genuinely think trans men like me (and every other kind) aren’t affected by fandom culture like this and that only cis gay men or cis women are affected i’m just gonna assume you’re extremely ignorant

i should’t have to go to omegaverse to see a crumb of my experience as a trans man, it’s made me feel like i need to sexualize myself for the tiniest bit of respect within the queer community, because honestly that’s just how some of you will only see trans men, if we’re not sexual fantasies then there’s no need to talk about us. It’s also made me feel like i’m not queer enough, since a lot if ya’ll will only see my relationship as heteronormative or straight with extra steps or even harmful to the gay community

[han-the-human]

Imagine for a moment that we were having a discussion about trans womens struggles.

Someone says something like:

"Trans women are often viewed by society as being predatory men and this stereotype is incredibly harmful to trans women"

This is reasonable and true, it is backed by the material realities and experiences of trans women.

But what if someone responded with:

"Remove the word "trans" from this sentence and it sounds incredibly stupid! Women (cis women) aren't viewed by society as predators! Any trans woman who says she's been viewed as a predator for being a woman must not understand how the world works!"

We can agree that this is a ridiculous argument that ignores the reality of being a trans women in favor of projecting a cis-hetero-patriarchal view of gender onto trans women, while invalidating those who don't fit that framework.

Now take this and apply it to trans men.

[zk-j]

Black people have been hidden and whitewashed from history so much, I PROMISE you that a random teen making black vocaloid edits on Pinterest is not gonna kill anyone's representation

[iamarobotguys]

”blackwashing” is literally so made up and such a non issue. Like guys I PROMISE you’ll be okay if someone wants to draw a character as black because it makes them feel represented. Literally why do racist ass bitches have to care about this

[dumbass-transboy]

If you are not a trans man or in active community with trans men in real life, you cannot comment on the lived experiences of trans men. Full stop.

[imbadwithusrnmes-hrfansfuckoff]

Pretty sure my mom doesn't "believe" I'm trans, you know despite me "coming out" to her multiple times.

Every time I bring up top surgery or even just ask my mother to see if my gym progress is looking like my dream bods from other dudes she always tells me to "stop talking nonsense" lol.

Hahaha What if I shoot myself in the head right in front of you mother? Will you "Believe" me now?

[iamarobotguys]

I’m too woke to gender-bend/swap characters. sometimes I genuinely feel like nothing about their design would change lmao

[boycreaturefeature]

”transandrophobia/anti-transmasculinity isn’t real” When i was younger one legitimate thing i had against transitioning (in the future) was that instead of being a women scientist, instead of being progressive and boundary breaking, i would just be a man. What would all the little girls think if i abandoned them, left the harshness of female hood to become a man instead, became not an idol they looked up too?

[e-von-dahl]

“Trans men don’t make good music it’s all cringey ukulele indie pop” name a trans male musician who makes music like that other than cavetown

You know what? Name any trans male musician at all who isn’t cavetown

[iamarobotguys]

and doesn’t Cavetown not even make ukulele stuff anymore? Like wasn’t that a very specific era when he was younger 😭

[aaronisntreal]

Hating trans men is transphobic even if you "hate all men". You wouldn't hate me if I wasnt trans, you wouldn't hate me if I was still a woman. My transition made you hate me. And that has a fucking name.

[underdogarts]

One of those pick-me girl tiktok sketches except it’s a transman who hasn’t figured it out yet and REALLY wants to be one of the boys for some reason

[that-grassbro]

I feel like some people on tumblr genuinely cannot fathom the idea of relating to transmascs/admitting transmascs were right about something.

Every time I come on here, I'll see another 'transfeminist' with hundreds or thousands of notes, talking about a phenomenon that is supposedly unique to 'tma' people, and then I'll squint at it and its literally something transmascs have also been talking about on this site for over a year*.

The entire concept of malgendering (only being gendered one way when it can be used against you)

Invisibility messing with statistics

Being in cis men's spaces often being more dangerous than cis women's spaces as a visibly trans person

Permanent health issues because of gendered expectations growing up even if thats not the gender you identify with

*Im not necessarily saying transmascs talked about it first because no one knows who 'did it first' and thats a dumb way to think about it. I mean stuff trfs have been making fun of transmascs for talking about but suddenly understanding when the same logic is applied to transfem issues.

[anarchysin]

who up decaying and decomposing

[useless-stray]

gotta hate being affected by a unique intersection of transphobia and misogyny which is not allowed to be called transmisogyny but also isn’t allowed to be given any other name or else i’m evil

[t4timekeeper]

sometimes people will insist a character is butch/masc and then you look at the character and they’re just fat. or muscular. or black. or indigenous. or some combination of the above.

[trilobite-memorial]

if you told someone : "trans women are more likely to be seen as predatory and have to be careful in many interactions because their actions are likely to be seen in negative light"

and they removed the trans part and went: "no, women don't have to worry about being seen as predatory when interacting with people, either you are lying about that or you are not really a woman"

you would rightfully be pissed off

SO STOP REMOVING TRANS FROM TRANS MEN WHEN DISCUSSING ISSUES TRANS MEN FACE