Overthinking is my Hobby

I'm trying to make a kind of diary here. Sharing Thoughts and stories(even if I don't have a lot sitting at home all day). Sorting out my own head.

[bloggingboutburgers]

Since asexual awareness week is on, here’s some experience-sharing nobody asked for

[kyri45]

WHAT’S UP IT’S THE GAYEST MONTH OF THE YEAR

[firestarclone]

bitches be wondering if their internalized homophobia forced them to like men or if they are actually attracted to men and just haven’t found the right guy yet or if they are actually a lesbian bc all their crushes on men were forced

[saltycharacters]

Happy Valentines day everyone! I decided to make a comic about something I’ve wanted to talk about for a long time, which was my relationship with romance while being on the Aromantic spectrum. Sorry for the length, enjoy!

[lehthelah]

It’s aromantic awareness week!

An aromantic person is someone who doesn’t feel romantic attraction. This is the briefest description ever though, so if anyone wants to know more about it just shoot me a message and I’d be happy to answer any questions!

Note: Obviously not all aromantic people value friendship or other relationships more than alloromantic people (people who DO feel romantic attraction), and those aro people are just as valid and nice! <3

[iamfinallyme]

Wenn du zu Hause bist und Heimweh hast, dann weißt du, dass du nicht zu Hause bist.

[sal--eh]

I treat them like they have a heart like mine, and that's where I go wrong.

[romanticnihilists]

I love this 💓

[pukicho]

You flirt and kiss and for what??? Sex?????! Love?????? Pathetic.

[aphuckingbeesechurger]

To level my charisma stat

[pukicho]

Ah a gamer, you may pass

[animatedtext]

[feel-the-lyrics]

I’m a mess, I’m depressed, I’m alone and it’s all my fault

gnash - dear insecurity ft. ben abraham (via feel-the-lyrics)

[anxietyproblem]

[vodkakilledtheteen]

How do you feel?

[backgroundasexual]

Reminder that Real People are NOT stereotypes

If you’re an autistic asexual you are 100% valid

If you’re a disabled asexual you are 100% valid

If you’re an abuse survivor asexual you are 100% valid

If you’re a mentally ill asexual you are 100% valid

lf you are a real person who identifies as asexual you are a valid asexual, don’t let anyone make you feel otherwise just because you fit certain boxes

[spacezeros]

wanting and not wanting at the same time

a comic for asexual awareness week

[spacezeros]

bringing this back today for the start of pride month. still overwhelmed by how well this comic went down and with how many people relate. it’s easy to think aro-ace people are all totally accepting of their identities and really proud of who they are. i guess on websites like this you see a lot of people proudly putting their identity in their bio, a flag in their profile picture.

in fact i think a lot of aro-ace people really hate that part of themselves, hide it, and struggle for a long time to ‘accept’ who they are and feel any sense of ‘pride’. that’s the feeling i wanted to capture here. the disappointment, the loneliness, upon realising that you can’t feel what is such a wonderful thing. the embarrassment of not being ‘normal’, of being some random sexuality that nobody irl has heard of, and letting down those around you because you can’t be who they want you to be. how desperately you want to change, how desperately you want to feel. but you just can’t.

i know not all aro-ace people feel like this. i know lots of aro and/or ace people feel able to be in relationships, to feel closeness and have partners in other ways. but i think it’s important to be aware that some aro-ace people do feel like this.

the comments on this comic have mostly been great but a few have been very frustrating. a comment it got a lot was along the lines of ‘aw!! you don’t need to have sex to be in a relationship!’. you completely missed the point, hah. this is not a comic about sex. it’s about a lack of feeling, the lack of something beautiful other people seem to have. another comment that popped up a few times was ‘maybe she’s a lesbian’. well maybe lesbians and aro/ace girls have more in common than people think - maybe they both often struggle to accept that they feel no attraction to men, even though society has conditioned them to do so, sometimes spending years trying to force themselves to like men in that way, when they just can’t.

this comic is called ‘wanting and not wanting at the same time’ because she wants to love. but when it comes down to the reality, she can’t fulfil the requirements of that. she wants to love someone forever, to get married and have children and grow old with her soulmate, but she doesn’t want it with this person. or that person. or anyone she meets or will ever meet. a sort of catch 22, i guess.

hope that makes sense. thanks for listening, and have a lovely pride month ❤️

[cryptspren-moved]

aro culture is asking ur friends what romantic love feels like

[jay-aro]

a reaction picture i edited for the arocalypse discord! feel free to use it, credit isn't needed