the problem with water is like. it's the cleaning fluid right. that's the obvious part. you stop drinking and you stop peeing and your kidneys are like ough. ough. ough. ough. but you don't die. unless you're not drinking anything At All and not eating watery food either. so all it is is you pee less but you're okay. kind of.
BUT THEN when it gets too hot it starts being the coolant! and suddenly there are so many ways it can get out! you have so many sweat glands and so much skin and they all need to be cooled down before you DIE.
but then. you realize the least obvious one. it's the transmission fluid. it's the fucking transmission fluid. you can't transmit SHIT without your fliud. which is still fucking water somehow.
so now you're LEAKING your transmission fluid out of every goddamn pore and your kidneys are like hey. gimme that cleaning fluid cmon dude. while your pores are like ITS COOLANT. NEED COOLANT. FOR THE FIRE. NEED MORE COOLANT. SO MUCH FIRE. KILL IT. KILL IT MORE. MORE COOLANT. and then. the rest of you. that uses all that fluid to transmit things. it's like hey. hey. hey what the fuck.. i need that. hello? can anyone hear me? hello? it's so dark in here..
I'm coming to realize how vital it is to keep a running list of shit you did in the past few weeks so that you can participate in small talk. It's literally not anything to do with them being interesting at all it's just having Something to say to give people even the barest thing to hold on to. It's so you don't get into the "what have you been up to" "nothing much what about you" "yeah same" trap. Literally just say something.
What have you been up to? Um well it's getting warmer so I've been having to brush my cat every day.
Like no it's not that interesting of a thing to say. But now they can respond to it. They could say, man yeah it really is heating up, I've been trying to think of things to do inside more often. Or, oh you have a cat? What's their name?
Like. It's Something. All you need is Something. And if you're like me and your brain immediately goes blank upon entering small talk then keeping a list will help you remember things to say.
every time I mention how many days sober I am I appreciate people congratulating me and telling me to keep up the good work. it is nice. but I also wish that milestones in addiction recovery werenât still so pinned to length of sobriety/abstinence
yeah yeah Iâm 50 days sober who cares. how about the fact that, when I do drink, it tends to be nipped in the bud after two days nowadays instead of weeks or months? how about the fact that drinking has been condensed to a six pack because Iâm at the end of my tether, instead of browning out every night? how about my friend who has decided to stop drinking alone, and is actually sticking to that? recovery doesnât always look like sobriety and I wish it was more normal to talk about that. yknow. when addiction is normal to talk about at all
i think trans people need more fun stereotypes. so many groups get at least one that is like, offensive but also kinda baffling, like "gays walk fast" or "germans are obsessed with efficiency." all we get are like "evil sex predator" shit
we need to convince transphobes that trans women love to fish. so much that we will destroy our lives to go fishing. we will lose our jobs for the sake of a good reel. this is not based on anything but i think it would be funny
when i leave my family reunion i want my slightly shitty uncle to turn to me and go "hey, see ya by the riverbank," with a wry laugh that makes me have to awkwardly chuckle in return. i think this would be a fun reality to live in for a few weeks before i get tired of it
this is everything to me. this is my light in the dark. This is why I am still alive. If you want to find your local trans scene. Check out the independent fish stores. I have been given a new main story objective
please remember there are two kinds of top surgery!! i see loads of art of characters with mastectomy scars, which is awesome! but i never really see art of characters with breast augmentation scars? it's true that estrogen makes your breasts grow, but lots of transfems still do choose to have breast augmentation, and that's completely ok and should be celebrated with just as much love !!
lately it seems like the term "top surgery" is treated as synonymous with mastectomy, which can feel a little sad cause it feels like people almost forget transfems also get top surgery sometimes. breast augmentation is underrepresented and people aren't as educated on it i feel.
for reference, here are the possible scar locations for BA- though inframammary is by far the most common!
Itâs really wild to me how ppl are like âamerica is becoming fascistâ as itâs never been fascist before. What would you call a country that wrote âall men are created equalâ as slaves toiled away? What would you call a country that had legally established segregation on the basis of race? Forcing groups of people off the land theyâve known their whole lives to reserved plots? Internment camps? The bombing of unionizing citizens? The forced eviction of townships to demolish and pave over their homes? There are many instances of cruelty where if you read about happening in some other country, youâd feel your stomach turn in disgust. But since it happened in the good olâ u s of a, itâs just yâknow a complex historical event.
just made it to incel tiktok on accident and their latest trend is filming themselves asking random girls if they have a boyfriend and then mocking the girl if she says no, and it really is making me realize how much of this is pure projection. you personally feel entitled to a romantic partner so you assume these women will be equally as crushed by some random guy insulting them for being single.
all the women in the video didn't have a major reaction either, they just looked kind of confused or surprised and went back to talking to their friends like one second later.
also it's funny seeing comments like "finally someone humbled them" humbled them for what??? the crime of not wanting to date you?? again, projection - they assume they got rejected for the reasons they would reject a woman then take offense to it. literally just hitting yourself in the face constantly as an ideology.
are intersex and gnc men oppressed for being intersex and gnc or for being men? like it's so obvious.
They are oppressed for being intersex/GNC men, thank you for this stupid ask. You can't separate the intersexuality from an intersex man because at that point you're just talking about a pointless hypothetical of "what if you weren't intersex would you still be oppressed? Checkmate incel MRA"
How on earth does "if you weren't intersex you wouldn't be oppressed" help intersex men (+ queer/GNC/trans men generally) who are oppressed under patriarchy for their specific form of variant manhood?
This is a genuine question, by the way. How does it help my material conditions to make up a magically non-oppressed version of me in your mind by changing everything about what makes me who I am?
I would simply not be the same person if I wasn't GNC & intersex. You're making up a fanfiction AU about me for the sake of an argument. Why is a made-up person relevant to how I speak about the oppression I, as I am right now, face under patriarchy?
How? What does this do? What helpful insight does this provide to me or you or any other marginalized person? SERIOUSLY, what benefit is there to this??
"You don't need to talk about how gender affects oppression when it's with a man" is treating being a man as the default experience, and it's baffling people have convinced themselves this is a feminist way of looking at things.
Sorry to be in Sex Work Advocacy mode but the way Transfems so frequently have to turn to it and already have our sexuality so policed, we MUST include advocacy for sex workers in our transfeminism
On top of that you just have to respect sex work as something people do because they like it. The industry is fucked but that is not unique to sex work. The amount of stigma I see, using onlyfans as a joke, the rumor that someone might have sex for money, stigmatizing uploading to pornhub or something. These are not tenable ideas
You know the thing about having basic human empathy, respect for other cultures, and caring about the environment as an American it makes you fucking hate your government as you listen and realize the damage your country has done to everyone. âYou American hating leftist.â Dawg we are like factually the greatest evil on earth right now. If you wrote an evil empire with Americaâs current foreign and domestic policy in fiction itâd be called grimdark and ridiculous.
"Why not make female heroes more feminine so girls know you don't have to be masculine to save the world" is misguided. The target audience of heroic adventure genre is not children who actually save the world in a literal sense, it's children who want a cathartic outlet for the struggles and injustice they face. And one of the most common types of injustice that many girls and children assumed to be girls are subjected to is forced feminization.
really not sure when it happened or why but personally I'm pissed that the queer community at large seems to have given up ground on the "people with penises/vulvas/testes/ovaries" language to sex & gender essentialists in exchange for the much less precise, much more demeaning "AGAB" language.
is it because you're scared of the word vulva? of acknowledging out loud that some people have penises? of recognising that many many people, including but certainly not limited to trans people, have mixed sex characteristics that cannot be accurately summarised by "afab/amab" as shorthand for "female/male"?
"in [GENITAL RELATED] situation AFABs will need to do X and AMABs will need to do Y" there are "afabs" with penises and "amabs" with vulvas. Saying this shit makes you look so unserious & honestly transphobic (given the ongoing erasure of post-op trans people within broader community). Intersex people and GRS have both existed for long enough (fucking forever and, decades, respectively) that we should well past making this basic fucking mistake.
quit referring to people by a vague & often violent event that happened at their birth as though it defines ANYTHING about how they & their body currently operate, and start using precise language so you at least look like you know what you're fucking talking about.
Being a committed pedestrian in a major city will make you hyperaware of the ways urban areas will attempt to make themselves hostile to homeless people and the ways that these efforts also make life worse for everyone else. The needlessly narrow sidewalks, the uncomfortable and inconvenient seats at bus and train stops, the noise pollution from convenience stores piping loud music outside. It all sucks, it all has a negative impact on everyone simply trying to exist within a community, and itâs all in service of cruelly trying to drive a class of people from public view.
Gender essentialism is still cringe if it is directed against cis people btw. Ive basically had someone say to me that cis people are biologically incapable of understanding less normalized gender identities because "their brains work differently". If anyone has this opinion please come forward now so i can block you thank you. The reason cis people dont understand gender in the same way trans people do is because trans people are naturally more exposed to the discussion about gender because we have to think about it a lot. Cis people, who have never doubted their identity, obviously dont think about it as much, if at all.
Cis people arent inherently more stupid than us, or less capable of talking about gender on a biological level. What would that even look like???
Also, there are cis people who have doubted their identity. I always encourage cis people to explore their gender identity, because usually theyâll come away from that experience with a better understanding of who they are, whether they still identify as cis or not. Believing that cis people inherently canât understand the nuances of gender is just a way to gatekeep those nuances from them.
John Lithgow, Paapa Essideu, and Nick Frost have joined a âfaithful adaptationâ of J.K. Rowlingâs novels that the controversial author will
To sum up: they still think that trans peoples human rights are an online conversation, and expect the series to run for 10 consecutive years.
So let's get ahead of this right now.
I propose a media-wide blackout of everything Harry Potter related when the first season is released. No tweeting about it, not even to trash it. No posting online about it at all - No Instagram stories or posts, no TikToks, no snaps, no memes on FB, not a word on here, nothing. They will not commit themselves to 10 consecutive years of something if the first season flops. They might attempt a second season, but we can shoot that down, too.
I cannot still be dealing with the hate this woman has for us in 10 years. I cannot still be having this conversation when I'm in my mid-30s. I need her to be dead & forgotten by then, or used as a cautionary tale after her death. We can revive the fandom after she has died, depending what her will stipulates will be done with her bloodmoney. Okay? Is that a good enough compromise for you? You just have to wait for her to die, and not leave her estate & bank account to anti-trans stuff, and then you can get back to loving Potter. Deal?
But in the meantime, we need Warner Bros. to see that they cannot make money from this show. We need them to lose money. We need them to lose enough money that even JKR funding the entire project won't be enough for them to take the risk. Right now, they're saying that JKR's reputation & blatant transphobia have not impacted their ability to find more than enough people to audition for the series. We need them to rethink that. We need them to see that this is not the next Marvel-length franchise to get rich on.
Since I know some of you haven't participated in a media blackout protest before, here's how it'll work:
Don't hype the series / fandom / author / cast up in the lead-up to the series being released. Don't trash it, either. Ignore it. Forget about it. || This means that they won't get good word-of-mouth rates online, which means they will need to really push advertising to get enough people interested.
Don't watch the adverts online. Don't like or comment on the videos, not even with hate or pro-trans stuff. || Engaging with online ads or videos in any way gives them positive data, because it feeds the algorithm & let's them make money from the adverts. We don't want that.
When the series is released, don't watch it. Don't talk about it. Don't tweet about it. Don't post about it. Don't tiktok about it. Don't complain about it. Don't trash it. Pretend it doesn't exist. Ignore it. Forget about it. || They need their launch to earn them money, and even if you're posting about how bad it is, or posting anti-JKR content using the show's hashtags, even if you're watching it in order to know exactly what to complain about & critique, you are still giving them money. They still earn royalties from you watching it, regardless of your intentions. They still get word-of-mouth and clout from you posting about it, even if what you're saying is negative. You know the expression "There's no such thing as bad press"? This is what that refers to. It doesn't matter if you're sharing love or hate for the franchise, because you're still promoting it by saying its name. Also, an overwhelming amount of negative press online can and does lead to other people deciding to watch it to see why everyone is complaining, and arguing about it online, all of which feeds the creators more royalties. We don't want them to earn money from this.
Spread news about other shows & films & franchises & books. Get a fandom which has been dead for 10+ years trending again. Get anime shows & Futurama & ATLA & Adventure Time & Owl House & Over the garden Wall & some really obscure franchises trending across all social media platforms. Get something from the 80s trending in the Top 3 on Twitter. Engage with fandoms you're not even part of. Get BL shows trending in Netflix's Top 5. || This will completely skew analytics online, and it will flood people's dashboards with cmenough content that they won't see promotional content for the series we are blacking out. It will also show spikee data for which genres & shows are more popular & getting more attention & more royalties.
Share media with transgender actors / directors / crew. Share media with LGBTQIA+ storylines. Share pro-trans & pro-LGBTQIA+ content. Share & donate to fundraisers which help Trans & LGBTQIA+ people. Share Trans & LGBTQIA+ history. Show & Share Trans & LGBTQIA+ positivity & love & pride. Do all of this without acknowledging the series or creator we are blacking out. || This will show overwhelmingly positive & inclusive analytics, which will prioritise showing more of the same content. This is what we want the data to show.
Do not give in to temptation to look the show up. Do not look up the cast. Do not look up the directors or producers or executives. Do not look up the soundtrack. Do not put anything remotely related to the series into a search bar of any kind. || Search algorithms still store data, and if enough people look the same stuff up, it will show positive online engagement. We do not want this.
Do not give the actors hate. Do not tag them in hateful content online. Do not abuse them & do not bully them. || This is just unnecessary.
Give the blackout a cool-down period. Continue to ignore it for at least 10 days after the launch. || This forces the show's analytics to fall into negatives. If you suddenly start engaging with something immediately after blacking out the launch, the analytics show a delayed uptake - but it still shows them that people will engage with it, and that they will make money from it. We do not want this.
After the cool down period, mock it. Remember the mocmery that the Velma show got? And you've seen the mockery of the Rachel Zeigler version of Snow White is getting? And how that is impacting the ratings for Songbirds & Snakes because people don't want to watch her, at all, in anything? That is what we need to create on purpose. || If a show gets hate, the creators can use it to feed controversial interest in the show - 'Come watch this to see why people are hating!'. It's as beneficial as positive reviews. They can recover from it. But mockery? Mockery & dismissal is far more difficult to recover from, as it does more damage to their names and reputation. People do not want to be associated with a project which was mocked after it lost them a lot of money. Audiences are also much less likely to engage with a series which has been publicly mocked, compared to hated.
Only mock it for the same amount of time as the cool-down period. || This prevents the series from getting a large spike in analytics.
After this, ignore it. Move on. Talk & post about other stuff. Watch other stuff. || This will result in the show's analytics returning to negatives, and remaining there.
This is a strategy which is proven to work. It has worked for multiple franchises. It is behavioural analytics. It will work for this, but only if we commit to it & get enough people taking part.
All we have to do is:
Do not watch the HBO HP series
Do not post about it online
Ignore it
Do not play, stream or buy any games related to HP
Do not rematch the movies on a streaming service - JKR will still earn royalties from that
Do not post about JKR during the media blackout
Share pro-trans & pro-LGBTQIA+ content & history instead
Support trans creators & actors
Mock the series after the cool down time & then move on
Stick to this method. It WILL work.
And to dispute any attempted justifications for engaging with it:
"But she won't be involved!" || She is listed as an executive producer for the show
"But it's not the actors' fault!" || Actually, it is. The adult actors should know better than to involve themselves with this franchise, and the child actors' parents should know better than to exploit their children's desire to be famous &/ or their love of the series, because the adults should be socially aware enough to know that this franchise will harm their children in the long run.
"But what about my childhood nostalgia!" || What about trans people's human rights & dignity? What about trans children who don't think they'll make it to 18? What about the fact our Prime Minister is selling out transgender rights of his people for Trump? Wht about all of the trans people in the UK who are now facing the possibility of losing more of our rights? What about all of the little trans girls & boys & envies who saw those TERFs celebrating stealing their legal right to identify as their gender, with champagne on national TV? What about trans children who won't be able to go on 100% reversible hormone blockers because JKR funded the vitriol which made them illegal? What about all of the trans women & girls who just lost their legal rights this week? What about our right to legally exist? What about privacy rights and medical & legal autonomy for women & afab people in the UK? What about all the trans people who just watched 21 years of work & progress go down the drain in one afternoon? Are we not worth as much as one of the many memories of your childhood?
Nobody is saying you're not allowed to watch the DVDs or pirate it or read the books or listen to CDs or records of it. Just do not use streaming services for any of it, do not use YouTube, do not talk about it on Twitch & don't post about it online.
We need this franchise to die. We need the producers to see they can't make enough money from this to justify continuing it after the first season. We cannot still be having this argument in the mid 2030s.
We need to get ahead of this right now and stamp the fire out before it kills more trans people.
You understand that buying a Tesla = supporting the Elongated Muskrat & Trump. You understand that buying McDonald's or Starbucks funds Isreal & harms Palestinians. You understand that watching Sandman supports Neil Gaimen.
So why is it so hard for you to apply that exact same logic to JKR, when you can see the harm she is causing in real time to real people?
by the way, if you're weird about aromantic heterosexual cisgender men, i kill you. if that man wants a purely sexual relationship with a woman and communicates that with her, and she agrees, hell yes. good for them. you have no right to be a bitch about that. that's frankly none of your god damn business. he's not "emotionally abusive" for wanting a specific type of relationship. you're being stupid and weird. and weirdly misogynistic, by assuming that women are inherently these helpless victims that have no agency or autonomy.
you're literally being the "the myth of consensual sex" meme when you talk shit about cishet aro men in purely sexual relationships with women.
