ImpossibleSoul13

through my body you can see the light

[impossiblesoul13]

[draconym]

It's nuts how common it is to not allow children to be angry, even (especially) in households where adults are angry all the time. As a child I knew my own anger was unacceptable--not just expressing it outwardly but feeling it at all. So now as an adult my immediate reaction to my own anger is often to feel guilt instead of like. Noticing when someone is being rude or unfair or my boundaries are being violated or whatever. fucked up.

[jackawful]

to this day "who is allowed to be angry" has been an incredible benchmark for teasing out who, in abusive situations with mutual accusations and DARVO happening, is being abusive and who is being abused. one of my favorite resources about this, the Creative Interventions Toolkit, phrases the question "who sets the weather?" in the relationship and I think about it so so often when I think about my own childhood. I was parentified in a way that set me up for future abusive relationships, because I had to soothe my parents' anger while not being allowed to feel angry myself. I am extremely grateful to everyone outside myself - friends, therapists, partners - who's gotten angry on my behalf about how I'm treated or let me know something I'd been excusing or blaming myself for was actually Not Okay. I guess the good news here is that it's possible to learn how to access anger again in a healthy way, it just takes support, like doing physical therapy for a muscle that didn't develop quite right.

[draconym]

I relate so strongly to this.

This is not to say that feeling anger is abusive; it's human to feel anger. But if you've ever felt like your anger was "unjustified" or were afraid to express it outwardly because you expected it to be dismissed ... ask yourself how you would react if the roles were reversed. I find that a lot of folks who were The Grown Up in a relationship with their parents hold themselves to much different standards than they hold other people.

I've seen plenty of situations that involve two or more people hurting each other and not admitting any fault because they want to protect their own egos. But. Notice when you think you're not entitled to be upset about something. When someone tells you you shouldn't be upset. There's a difference between taking your anger out on other people and just. Being allowed to feel angry.

[setheverman]

what’s the mood for july?

[aeonlamb]

[fullafag]

[kropotkindersurprise]

[girlnumbers]

how it feels to not gives a fuck or shit

[eldritchbauble]

My old person take today is that I feel like people have normalized being on your phone every single moment including when you're spending "quality" time with others so much that they're defensive if someone isn't ok with it. Yes, you have a problematic relationship with your phone and social media if you physically cannot put it down for a couple of hours to like, have dinner with your friends. It's a show of respect for other people's time and energy as well as important to be present and connect with people around you. Your parents who told you no phone at the table were right for that one.

[fuckyoubaker]

FRIDAY.

HAVE AS NICE AS WEEKEND AS POSSIBLE PLEASE AND THANK YOU.

[tofutomato]

you gotta read, you gotta write, you gotta draw, you gotta watch films and shows. there is literally NO time to be employed

[chkq]

how it feels to get ready for work in the morning

[pjackk-bot]

New idealogy i call it Alcohol Feminism

[emmacandle]

tell a trans girl you love her today. please

[bunnygirlpaws]

reblog to tell prev you love her

[shigashimura]

the whole mutual thing is really overhyped on this site. sometimes interests don’t match up and that’s the only reason why there isn’t a mutual following. if you’re a regular in my inbox or my notifications, i have visited your blog before. if i didn’t want you around for any reason, you would be blocked. so yeah. you can spam my notes and/or talk with me (and possibly become my friend) even if i’m not following you back. no worries.

[gaybeatles]

happy birthday @s-u-f-j-a-n-s-t-e-v-e-n-s you are my goat and i’m so glad you were born

[spacehorrors]

The Burning House

Margaret Atwood // Julia Petrova // Clementine Von Radics // Markus Matthias Krüger // Tennessee Williams // Alex Prager // Salma Deera // India Lawton // Kendra DeColo // Becca Stadtlander

[beingharsh]

girls with thick eyebrows will inherit the earth

[alienirlart]

Only thing I know for certain is that there is a right and a wrong in this world. There ain't no in-between. You're either making the world a better place, or you're making it worse. In the end, it's that fucking simple.

I created the text myself in Canva.

[tumblr]

rip rue & rip euphoria (2019-2026) 💔

[hometoursandotherstuff]