Imagine if you would, a woman who owns a successful daycare business. She maintains her own standards because she’s the boss.
Now imagine that that a gay man who applied to the job was rejected. He womders why and looks up the owner’s twitter account. It reads
“One of them tried applying again. I three his application right in the trash. We dont hire those people. Safety of the children first.”
The gay man goes to the media with this information. He was a victim of discrimination! She gets blasted online and on the news as a bigot. She tries to defend herself by stating that she only wants to protect children. That this applicant would likely rape or abuse the children because that’s just what people like him are like.
Everyone calls her homophobic. How dare she refuse someone an oppurtunity due to her own biases. How dare she assume the worst of an innocent person for how they were born. To defend her bigotry with “my/children’s safety over your feelings”. What a closed minded individual.
But it turns out that she was actually discriminating against and assuming the worst out of this gay man, not for being gay, but for being male. She thought he would molest or harm the children, not for his sexuality, but for his sex.
If you are the kind of person who was angry at the original scenario but find the real reason completely acceptable, you are guilty of having a double standard. You are guilty of bigotry. If you sudebly sided with the daycare owner, you are in the wrong. There are tons of very popular posts on this website encouraging treating people as criminals and as suspicious for how they were born. “My safety over your feelings” is often used to justify bigotry. If you wouldnt be fine with it when it happens to gay people or black people or whoever, you shouldnt be fine with it when it happens to men. You arent #woke. You arent supporting equality. You arent a good feminist. Youre a bigot. Plain and simple.