lancer? i hardly know 'er!

Owen - he/him or it/its - 20s

[ips-n-caliban]

it is in your best interest to find a way to become cringe & annoying

[decapod-of-the-day]

Decapod of the day: Coenobita scaevola | Red Sea Land Hermit Crab

[luckyladylily]

Well meaning people are not always going to be able to understanding an issue. The way the human mind works, you have to practice thinking in a specific way to be able to do so, especially if you are used to thinking about that subject in a different way. It's like back in the days wagon wheels, over time, would wear away at the ground and create a pair of channels in the ground. Breaking out of those channels to go somewhere new takes more effort than just following the old path. Sometimes doing so is prohibitively difficult and great effort will be required to resurface the road. It will not happen over night.

For example, 20 years ago, many people i knew simply could not comprehend the idea of a trans person. The idea simply would not compute. You could practically see the gears grinding to a halt as they did their best to understand and completely failed. People often respond quite poorly when this happens, but not always.

These days in my little corner of the world everyone has at least some intellectual understanding of the idea of being trans, so you don't get the failure to compute reponse basically ever. It doesn't mean they are going to be nice about it, but at least they can comprehend.

These days the thing I see most often resulting in a fail to compute response is disability (especially mental disability) and alternative relationship models, like polyamory or queer platonic partnerships. The idea of forever injured or forever sick especially is hard to get across to people, and the idea that I might be happy that my wife is finding romance with another person is so foreign that people often just refuse to belive it is possible.

The thing to understand is that:

1. This will happen to you, and you need to be prepared to be completely, brain grinding to a halt and smoke pouring out of your ears confused about something without reacting poorly to it. Understand that sometimes your brain is just going to fail you and you have to be prepared to fall back on general ethical principles to minimize harm.

2. Be prepared to help someone who's brain is blue screening with practical steps of how to act they can follow without actually understanding what is going on so they can minimize harm and even help make things better without ever really having a clue.

[synthetic-ultramarine]

OK

[mikufanclub]

2000s anime angel girl

[hagiomoto]

How did you read and watch the Apothecary Diaries with all the interesting women on the series and end up fangirling over Jinshi

I'm gonna beat you up

[tamamita]

[yenthecat]

HOLDING PAWS

[corvidaedream]

imagining a late 18th/early 19th century young lady standing proudly in a fine gown with a labubu clipped to her chatelaine

[thevampirecrow]

fellatio sounds like a supporting shakespeare character rather than oral sex on a penis to be honest

[sexybritishllama]

just finished this month's book club book, went skimming goodreads reviews afterwards as you do, got my breath taken away by this absolutely brutal ending to one of the multi-paragraph 1 star reviews

[satanfemme]

if you ever really want to radicalize yourself in favor of youthlib, you should do even some cursory reading about the troubled teen industry and how these schools/camps/jails function. truly truly depraved, and all of it is the system working as intended. parents incentivized or coerced by larger structures into trafficking children for their own benefit and looking the other way as those children are tortured. children as property in need of "training" or "correction" with the end goal of upholding the family's hierarchy if not aesthetic image, all taken to its logical extreme.

[ugagradlady]

REALITY

Elan School (no longer operating):

Joe vs The Cult

Tiffany Sedaris' Suicide

Provo Canyon School (close to shutting down):

Paris Hilton

Judge Rotenberg Center (operating after multiple lawsuits):

Torture/death of neurodivergent kids who can't fight back. DO NOT READ IF ANY OF THAT IS A TRIGGER FOR YOU.

More reading material

FICTION

Horses-Italian horror game with a troubled teen facility. Ready to saddle up?

In Every Girl's Heart by Myla Goldberg-More horsey rides, now with girls. I had a horse phase like a lot of girls, but does everyone have them in a special place in their heart?

Holes by Louis Sachar-A classic. There's a movie too!

[arctasy]

when the character is obsessive and desperate and guilty and scared and ashamed and traumatized and repressed

[ricefriedshrimp]

Let's do parallel play and kiss occasionally

[seungkw1]

"mOnEy WoN't SoLvE aLL yOuR pRoBLeMs" speak for urself $5000 would heal me

[sexhaver]

locusts are SO fucked up. imagine if your apartment complex got too crowded during a drought so everyone in it started overproducing serotonin until they gained 100lb of pure muscle and then chewed through the drywall of every building in the neighborhood

[powerburial]

they do this over in philly

[7777777awawawa7777777]

someone dropped a bitcoin on my head from on top of the empire state building in an act of guerrilla trepanation but since there weren’t any evil spirits in my skull the hole just sprouted a flower and now everybody says i look like a damn pikmin smh

[meanbuddhist]

you have to withstand it bro. you have to endure it patiently