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TW: I was totes misgendered at a restaurant the other day, so this post is really long because I’m still not myself. When I was a baby English Lit major in college, I really, really, really enjoyed...

"Even in the early 90s, before Women’s Studies was hijacked by dudes, we acknowledged that gender was a construct that impacted both males and females, but that males, unlike females, were the beneficiaries of the construct as gender existed to keep females subordinate to men. It’s not rocket science.

Part of acknowledging that gender is a construct is that you can then, if you’re in a privileged enough position, fuck with it. Men can wear lipstick. Women can cut their hair short. Who fucking cares, it’s all a ruse! Do what you like, and like what you do!

Gender is malleable, because it is a pretense. It doesn’t really exist, but as a social construct that is DESIGNED TO OPPRESS WOMEN. And not all women have the luxury of sitting in a classroom debating the classification of genitals or wondering what pronoun they would prefer. Not all women can sit around naval gazing about all their special gender preferences or sexual preferences because they’re busy, um, surviving. And yet, even when they don’t have the kind of privilege afforded to me, or to this writer, or to Judith Butler, women still suffer because of gender and the bullshit belief systems promoted by gender.

Gender is only “fun” to those of us fiscally stable enough, white enough, or male enough to sit around and fucking think about it.

For the vast majority of the world’s female population, gender is a pernicious, toxic, life-threatening construct that benefits men."

- Hypotaxis, 12/13/14

spacesanta-deactivated20131225

incomplete list of things girls like:

homicide

double homicide

triple homicide hell yeah

witchcraft

lesbianism

human sacrifice

dead things

monsters

summoning satan

mushroomsoupofficial

As a girl I can say this is 100% true

problematicselfie-deactivated20

The theory of "cis privilege" cannot withstand a simple test for logical consistency. Women are targeted regardless of their mode of presentation, be it masculine or feminine. Whether they conform or not, they'll get shit for being AFAB. Men are only targeted when they are gender-nonconforming. They are safe as long as their presentation is masculine. This is not a difficult concept.

the-uncensored-she-deactivated2

They can’t even explain how female genital mutilation, female infanticide, sex-selective abortions based on male preference, child brides, acid attacks over dowries, misogynistic/sex-based discrimination, domestic abuse, human/sex-trafficking, “corrective rapes” of lesbians and girls being denied an education based on their sex, all fall under “cis privilege” and the “perks” of being female in a heteropatriarchal world.

chamomileyes

This is total fucking transphobic bullshit. Fuck you. It is not a hard concept to wrap your head around: you may be privileged in some ways and oppressed in others. It is absolutely a privilege to have your gender match your sex, to not feel body dysphoria, to not have to deal with the work and expense of hormone therapy/ surgery or the huge level of transphobic violence etc. Saying that they can “choose” to conform and thus be safe in male CISGENDER PRIVILEGE is just as much bullshit as saying women should to the best of their capabilities pretend to be men so that they will have MALE PRIVILEGE. People should be able to express who they are without the threat of violence. When this expression does not meet you with violence, when your expression is accepted and normalized, that is PRIVILEGE.

You want to talk about logic? You know nothing about fucking intersectionality. You can be oppressed by your class and privileged by your gender, sexual orientation etc. etc. You know nothing.

This is not feminism. Claiming that if you’re a “woman” you have to be a certain way, conflating sex and gender, is not feminism.

Do you remember what feminism is based in? That gender is socially constructed? That the oppressive nature of “woman” is socially constructed? So how come when transwomen ask for feminism to integrate them into their struggles it’s is so fucking revolutionary? Transwomen face BOTH misogyny and transphobia as their genders. While it is true they may have some sex privilege, propagating the idea that it’s a “choice” for them to be who they are whereas for cis-women it’s biologically determined is the epitome of anti-feminist.

Cisprivilege is never having to worry that people will attack you for daring to perform a gender on your body that does not match their naturalized ideals. Cisprivilege is being able to be who you are without people asking you “why you have to be that way”. Cisprivilege is not being misgendered, demeaned, dehumanized, or called an “it” because you cannot fit the normalized gender-sex binary.

Not to mention, something I’m just realizing, you are aware transmen exist? And trans people who do not even fit the binary? You’re arguing that cisprivilege doesn’t exist based on one group of people-transwomen. Just… fucking logic, man.

It completely disgusts me that such transphobia is accepted within the feminist movement. And I find it very revealing that so manypeople who are “anti-gender” are not agender in their own lives and have no issue with people when gender is in line with its accepted sex, but when an oppressed minority group wants to express their genders the same way cis-people do, suddenly it’s unacceptable “bc like de sexz is supposed to match ze genderz and wtf are intersez people? no i only know binary logic.”

transgender-harms-women-deactiv

" It is absolutely a privilege to have your gender match your sex, to not feel body dysphoria, to not have to deal with the work and expense of hormone therapy/ surgery or the huge level of transphobic violence etc"

A person can not have privilege for being female, ever. Under patriarchy, males as a class oppress females as a class. Women who identify as women do not hold institutional power or actively oppress males who identify as women. The modern trans movement says you don’t have to suffer from dysphoria to be considered trans, and anyone who considers themselves a trans woman should have access to female areas.

"Cisprivilege is never having to worry that people will attack you for daring to perform a gender on your body that does not match their naturalized ideals. Cisprivilege is being able to be who you are without people asking you “why you have to be that way”. Cisprivilege is not being misgendered, demeaned, dehumanized, or called an “it” because you cannot fit the normalized gender-sex binary."

Have you never met a butch lesbian? Do they have cis privilege? A gender non-conforming homosexual male who identifies as a man? Do they have cis privilege? Also, I don’t think you understand how privilege or institutional power works.

"Not to mention, something I’m just realizing, you are aware transmen exist? And trans people who do not even fit the binary? You’re arguing that cisprivilege doesn’t exist based on one group of people-transwomen. Just… fucking logic, man."

? Trans men exist, and are still oppressed by males under patriarchy, our male-dominated society. Cis privilege does not exist. Male privilege does.

"And I find it very revealing that so manypeople who are “anti-gender” are not agender in their own lives and have no issue with people when gender is in line with its accepted sex, but when an oppressed minority group wants to express their genders the same way cis-people do, suddenly it’s unacceptable"

Being gender nonconforming is great, but it can be dangerous, that’s why radical feminists don’t shame women who do conform but ask them to critically examine their behavior. One can not identify out of the gender hierarchy, so the term agender is meaningless. A male who identifies as agender still benefits from male privilege, and male domination, the consequences of gender. Gender is not fun or something you express, it’s a hierarchy that places males in a higher position in society than females. It’s the socialization we receive based on our sex, grooming females to be submissive and males to be aggressive and dominant.

Radical feminists do not have a problem with people not conforming to gender roles, we have a problem with males demanding access to female areas like bathrooms, locker rooms, changing rooms, victim shelters, etc. We have a problem with males shaming and silencing women who do not agree with them. We have a problem with males “identifying” with sexist stereotypes of what females are supposed to be, according to men. Feminism is a female liberation movement, gender non-conforming males will benefit, but have no place in determining the agenda and should not be prioritized over females.

stfutransactivistbullies

They’re SO into their bullshit they actually think women have privilege for being women. Pathetic.

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invisiigoth-deactivated20160831

I feel like a majority of the notes on this are coming from libfem blogs. It’s actually perfectly fine if you don’t like sex. Asexual people exist. Hate to break it to you. And the problem with the word “slut” is that it’s sexist, degrading, and leads to victim blaming. The problem isn’t people “not liking sex”. This is why I worry about the sex posi movement going mainstream because it seems like all people care about is the “no slut shaming!!!1!!1” aspect of it.

fab-fro-blog-blog

B-but wut abut teh sssseeeehhheeeeexxxx????

Apparently if there is no sexxxay time then there is no point in even living.

stfutransactivistbullies

MASSIVE eye rolling @ the idea that anyone who doesn’t like sex is strange.

yoursocialconstructsareshowing

[T]he rationale behind forcing women to accept intact males in their bathrooms and changing rooms, etc., is that these “gender nonconforming” males will be attacked by other males if they use the bathrooms specified for males. In the instance of school children, what this means is that rather than teaching boys that gender nonconformity is ok and that abusive, bullying type behavior from other boys is wrong, school administrators tacitly consent to this type of behavior by sending the non-conformers off to the (presumably) less violent realm of the girls. Altogether, such policies reinforce and promote the belief that it is only “natural” that “boys will be boys”- violent, abusive, intolerant- and that girls, because of their “nature”- submissive, empathetic, pacifistic-will be welcoming and tolerant. Further, it is a declaration, via policy, that non-compliance to the artifice of gender stereotypes somehow transforms one into a different sex. In sum, they are policies that preserve and engender the behaviors which they are meant to eliminate.

Rede Roberts (via hereticswords)

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spacedyke reblogged your post and added:

projecting much boyo?

p>dude, i don’t get the vapors if misgendered as gender is bullshit

you believe lies, stupid ones, like penis aint male if a man says he’s a woman and this is some laughable shit but seems to...

gaydiationpoisoning-deactivated

If you are an adult on the receiving end of sexual attention from a minor, the only appropriate response is a firm, non-negotiable “no.” Not an “I would, but the darn law…” not, “maybe when you’re eighteen,” a “no.” It is your job as...

danielle-mertina

Most girls are relentlessly told that we will be treated how we demand to be treated. If we want respect, we must respect ourselves. This does three things. Firstly, it gets men off the hook for being held accountable for how they treat women. And secondly, it makes women feel that the mistreatment and sometimes outright violence they face due to their gender is primarily their fault. And thirdly, it positions women to be unable to speak out against sexism because we are made to believe any sexism we experience would not have happened if we had done something differently. I cannot demand a man to respect me. No more than I can demand that anybody do anything. I can ask men to be nice to me. But chances are if I even have to ask he does not care to be nice. I can express displeasure when I’m not being respected. But that doesn’t solve the issue that I was disrespected in the first place. I can choose to not deal with a man once he proves to be disrespectful and/or sexist. But even that does not solve the initial problem of the fact that I had to experience being disrespected in the first place. As a young girl, I wish that instead of being told that I needed to demand respect from men that I had been told that when I am not respected by men that it’s his fault and not mine. But that would require that we quit having numerous arbitrary standards for what it means to be a “respectable” woman. It would mean that I am not judged as deserving violence based on how I speak, what I wear, what I do, and who I am.

excerpt from “FYI, I Cannot “Demand” Respect From Men so Stop Telling Me That!" @ One Black Girl. Many Words. (via daniellemertina)

🙌🙌🙌🙌 this. In it’s entirety.

(via theherproject)

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When they’re babies, people will come up and say to you ‘Are they a boy or a girl?’ when the kid’s in the pram and you can’t tell. And immediately when you tell them which gender it is they will behave differently according to what you tell them. It got to the point where we didn’t want people to know what gender the baby was. Just treat it as you’d treat someone you wanted to be nice to! Why is it so important to you to know? And then you hear people saying ‘Oh, look at him, he’s a little flirt isn’t he’, or ‘Oooh, she’s gonna wrap you around her little finger’ and all this. What are you on about? She’s two months old, she’s just shat herself.

Alan Davies completely and utterly demolishing gender roles (via vanillanice)

gender*

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radical-bias

if men were tragically unaware of their oppressor status they would be much less specific than “feminists are all fat ugly and lesbians”

men know exactly what they are doing as evidenced by their claims that feminists are exactly that which does not service them correctly

when men say that...

selucha-blog

Gender can only be considered a “spectrum” if we accept that its two opposite poles (spectrums require endpoints, after all) are *not* completely arbitrary categories imposed by a patriarchal regime, but rather that their existence has some legitimate basis which, at the very...

lilmentyb

“So long as I confine my activities to social service and the blind, they compliment me extravagantly, calling me ‘arch priestess of the sightless,’ ‘wonder woman,’ and a ‘modern miracle.’ But when it comes to a discussion of poverty, and I maintain that it is the result of wrong economics—that the industrial system under which we live is at the root of much of the physical deafness and blindness in the world—that is a different matter! It is laudable to give aid to the handicapped. Superficial charities make smooth the way of the prosperous; but to advocate that all human beings should have leisure and comfort, the decencies and refinements of life, is a Utopian dream, and one who seriously contemplates its realization indeed must be deaf, dumb, and blind.”

Helen Keller (letter to Senator Robert La Follette, 1924)

I hate the way that most historians like to erase Helen Keller’s political activism, specifically her socialist ideals, from stories about her.

The hard truth of being disabled is never having your stories told, especially not the way you would tell them yourself.

(via elizabitchez)

gender-hurts

"I salute the courage and tenacity of those radical feminists who are making it possible for radical feminists to speak, and furthering radical feminist analysis. I intend this book as a contribution to the considerable struggle that is presently taking place between mainly male transgender activists and radical feminist over who has the right to define what a woman is: women, or men who fantasise about being women."

Sheila Jeffreys, Gender Hurts (via gender-hurts)

I wrote something on Wordpress, for a change.

#wild women and the untamed heart #lesbonaut #beauty standards

gaydiationpoisoning-deactivated

"There are different kinds of violence" is one of the most confusing (and, frankly, enraging) things to come out of modern activism. Language is a system that can and does support violence, let no one tell you different, but language itself is not violence.

If you tell...

manrepeller

Why I don’t wear makeup http://manr.pl/1ejWtac

isepalase-blog

If you need any more evidence that the fashion/makeup industries are misogynist, some prickwad called this beautiful woman "ugly as fuck" because she doesn't paint over very much of her own face.

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