Can someone please remind everyone that friendships are not transactional relationships?
like just because you “gave your all” into a friendship doesn’t mean you are entitled to anything out of it. if you get anything for simple kindness, it’s because they care and trust you. it doesn’t mean you automatically just get things in return. that not how this shit works.
please remember that when someone says no to hanging out or going on a trip somewhere. they don’t have to just because you said so. if they go, it’s because they want to and not because you “gave your all into the friendship and now expect them to just do it”.
you don’t get to bully them into it either. just because you want to, doesn’t mean they do. you can’t use your years of friendship (as little or many there are) as a way to make people to do things because you believe you are entitled to it.
and if you think that’s okay? that’s manipulation. you should be ashamed. and you don’t deserve that person’s friendship. end of story.
i will go to bat for any of my friends, and against them if i have to. i don’t care if we’ve been friends for 1, 5, or 10 years. i don’t care if you are my best friend or one of them. if you do any of this shit to me or to anyone, i will fight you on it. i don’t care if that means we aren’t friends anymore. i do not play around when it comes to those i care about. do not test me on this. i do not fuck around with toxic friends. you don’t get a free pass because we are friends.
