A Well Rounded Life

All about my life: husband, babies, social activism, feminism, body positive, fashion fun, food.

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Cheers to everyone who has to work today! I'll be counting down the hours of work as well. Yay for mid-week holidays! 😏😏😏

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Same. 😂😂😂 #bodypositivity #allbodiesaregoodbodies #riotsnotdiets

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Fake it til you make it, babes. ❤️ #ra #fibromyalgia #chronicillness #chronicpain

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I I have never and will never say this. 😂 #imobsessed #makeupjunkie #eachoneisunique #theyaremyfavorites

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Alright. It's time for a heart to heart, friends. My Gram calls it a "come to Jesus" moment. Gather round and listen up. I want every single person in existence to love themselves. Even the people I don't like very much. I want there to be a society where all bodies are accepted regardless of differences. However, body positivity is a political movement that was created a long time ago (before the internet), born out of the civil rights and feminism movements of the sixties and seventies. It was created for fat people. It has been expanded, especially in more recent years, to be inclusive of allies and other body types because everyone can benefit from body positivity, just like everyone benefits from feminism. However, even though it has been commercialized and watered down to appeal to mainstream culture, it is still very much a political movement for marginalized bodies, especially fat people. So, if I am posting things that seem like they exclude certain bodies, it's because I'm promoting fat bodies. Regardless of anyone's opinions, all bodies are good bodies, but some bodies are not seen that way. I feel compelled to help change that. So, please enjoy any of the good feelings you get from the amazing stuff that comes out of the mainstream body positivity movement. However, if you have body privilege, consider using it to promote the marginalized bodies that are still fighting for acceptance in the mainstream.

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At first, I was all, yes! This is lovely and inspirational! But, what if you aren't? What if circumstances, illness, or other adversities have made achievement of those dreams impossible? Here's what I want you to know. What you are capable of doing is enough. Who you are is enough. Even if you never find a way to do the things that you hold in your heart, your existence is valuable. Please work on finding ways to appreciate yourself and your value as a person outside of goal achievement. Your worth is not tied to a production amount. #feministaf #bodypositivity #rebelliousselflove #chronicillness #invisabledisability #selfworth #youareenough

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Yep. You may appreciate me all month long. I'm good with that. #birthdaymonth #gemini #yayforbirthdays #acceptingtributes

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Day 2! Feeling cute! 😉 #motd #ootd #fatshion

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Today was my first day of my new job. ❤️ #motd #ootd #fatshion #sparklyhairclip #adulting

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😂😂😂 #itsfunnycuzitstrue #grossbuthilarious

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Word. ❤️ #happypride #isupportyou #iwillbeyourfamilynow #lgbtq #equalrightsforall

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Um, why?!? Why would this be a thing? 😲😲😲 #nothankyou #gtfoh #spidersareevil

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Brows were especially good today and I wanted a photo to commemorate the moment. I forgot to take a picture this morning. We were in a hurry to get out the door and spend the day with my grandparents. So, this is after twelve hours out and about. Lol #lowkeymakeup #naturallook #wellnaturalish #abhmodernrenaissance #nyxcosmetics #maybellinefitmefoundation #bhcosmetics #elfcosmetics #butterlondon #tartecosmetics

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The struggle is real. #myexpectationsaretoohigh #especiallyformytalentlevel #ineedamuaoncall

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I'm done breaking my own heart. I will wear what I want, eat what I want, live how I want, and pretty much do what I want. If that gets you all riled up, too bad. #bodypositive #allbodiesaregoodbodies #livewithoutregrets #diemadaboutit

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10/10 would watch the hell out of this. #realitytvjunkie #allhailscience #flatearthers #stupidconspiracytheories #itwouldbeepic

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I had to get a comprehensive physical for my new job. The doctor who examined me asked me what I plan to do about my weight. She told me that, despite being relatively healthy overall, I needed to lose one hundred pounds. I asked if weight loss was a requirement for the position I was offered and she said no, but that she felt obligated to mention it. Keep in mind that I have never met this doctor before. She is not my primary care physician and has never treated me outside of performing this physical for the purpose of employment at a job where I will be sitting about 90% of the time. Additionally, I passed the physical with flying colors, despite having a lingering sinus infection. This is what pervasive fatphobia looks like. Could I have mentioned my recent weight loss or my regular exercise habit or my tendency towards mindful eating and portion control? Sure, but I refuse to present myself as a "good" fat person to people who will only treat me with respect if I'm checking off their boxes of acceptable fatness. #fatphobiaisbullshit #fatphobiaisreal #pervasivefatphobiainthemedicalfieldkills #concerntrolling