How to tell a person “hey you are responding to a narrative that you’ve made up in your head rather than what’s actually happening” without sounding like a gaslighter.

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How to tell a person “hey you are responding to a narrative that you’ve made up in your head rather than what’s actually happening” without sounding like a gaslighter.
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can you reblog a two-part post in the correct order?
I love when a meme gets so many steps away from its source material that it would be completely incomprehensible if I didn't know what today's date was
Question. Why are y'all doing this in March
To make sure we get the meme jn the fridge to dethaw in time.
you'll get the urge as an artist or a writer to say out loud the things you're worried about "the proportions are off" "kind of out of character" "i'm not good at summaries" "didn't get as much detail as i wanted" "i made a mistake and here's how" and that's the self-conscious part of your brain telling you "it's bad and if you don't tell them you know it's bad then they'll think you're stupid" but you've got to ignore that little voice and pretend you think it's good or else that little voice is going to ruin your life
Some of the best advice I have ever gotten was from a creative writing professor. She said never apologize for your work. Never critic it before someone else does.
Her reasoning was you are the creator. You made your work from nothing and can see all the flaws and seems and holes. But your audience may not see any of it. Maybe they will; maybe they won't. But if you TELL them about the holes and the mistakes and the problems....they will 100% see them. So don't tell them. Don't sabotage yourself just because you think you're not good enough.
proxy relationship not a trope to anyone else but me which is a shame. Does no one else care abt the beautiful dynamic potential of conducting an entire shameful affair with someone just to get closer to their partner...Indirect kiss through some other guy. Possibilities !
some dynamics under this umbrella (feel free to add more im gonna forget some)
a wants b, b is with c, and a cant have b, so a gets with c
a and b both want c so they form a relationship out of mutual Well You Also Know C So You Get It And Also You Are Close As I Can Reallt Get To Them
a and b both want Each Other but they dont believe they can do that (whether or not theyre right is frankly irrelevant!! i dont care if they are cursed or just stupid) so they use c as a vehicle for their relationship
"this sounds really toxic and objectifying"yeapppp. 👍
IMPORTANT ALSO THANK YOU PIPER !!
crabs are so gentle, they can be so kind. their claws? precise little things, so careful in the sand, so careful with food. they do what they must to live and wave their claws to express their joy to the world for giving so much to them, for giving such kindness to these creatures known as crabs. please be gentle to crabs
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I love love love the psych pilot bc it introduces shawn as this really gritty bad boy who rides a motorcycle and is a perfect shot and has just enough charisma to be having sex all the time but also just enough drama to be calling in tips to the local police (and then pretending to be a psychic about it instead of doing literally anything else) and in opposition to that it introduces lassiter as this mean nasty cop who’s having an affair (?) and hates everyone but in a serious way not a funny way and then for the rest of the show shawn never acts like that again and lassiter does act like that but in the most pathetic meow meow extreme you’ve ever seen. AND YET the homoerotic tension from the pilot never changes ever. actual cinema.
the holy grail types of fanfic
Friendly reminder that these only happen slowly, carefully, with lots of reader encouragement, engagement, reflection, and support, and an ending is never a guarantee.
Writing communities are gardens, not subscription services
Writing communities are gardens, not subscription services
One of my fav Psych (2006) gags is when Henry will just be vibin, living his best life, and then BOOM there is Shawn Being Shawn.
Enjoying the morning news? Surprise! Yes that’s your idiot son now running for mayor. Are you just trying to enjoy your favourite Spanish drama? BOOM how about Shawn dressed as FedEx driver enters on stage left.
Best part of season 1 of psych is when Shawn just starts explaining how he knows who the bad guy is with common sense and Gus has to nudge him so he remembers that he needs to pretend to be psychic
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*puts a dandelion in your hair*
Reblog to put a dandelion in prev's hair
Oh what's that? You only read books with lots of "spice" in them? Well then I've got a great one for you, practically the whole plot revolves around "spice". Ahem. In the week before the departure to Arrakis,
Everybody get more anti war right now
What is even there to say? I can't keep waking up in a world where I read the news and I see schoolchildren bombed, millions of people displaced, old ladies carrying their cats and while their houses get turned into rubble, the waste of industry and human talent into bombs that shoot down other bombs.
Am I insane? what the fuck is going on?
Even the most just war of liberation is painful and regrettable, but you well know I'm not talking about that, we're watching first world countries sell weapons to feed endless war and just bombing targets like if it's a reflex act just what they do, the complete surrender of any hope of building a better world or coexisting and we're all treating this like it's just the natural state of things.
I'm sorry if I'm being dramatic but genuinely, get more anti war right now.
Warfare is not an inherent state of humanity, in any case, and it can and it will be abolished. I'm tired of people treating this like it's just the weather or nature. We know the material reasons behind war and they don't hold up and won't hold up forever.
an aspec just minding their business: I sure do wish fandom explored more things that aren’t romantic or sexual-
approximately every allo under the sun about to explain how someone not making something about romance or sex for 0.3 seconds is puritan and personally oppressing them:
best thing about uncle iroh is that if you pay attention he is actually just as much of an idiot as zuko but has just mastered the art of coming across as a wise old man. the even better thing is that zuko is the only one on the planet who somewhat realizes this and no one would ever believe him because he's zuko
like uncle iroh 100% does dumb shit on purpose sometimes to get people to underestimate him and keep zuko from capturing the avatar, but other times he just, and i cannot emphasize this enough, does impulsive dumb shit for no reason other than the fact that terminal stupid presumably runs in the royal family's blood
uncle: "you never think things through, prince zuko!"
also uncle:
once got captured by the earth kingdom army buck ass naked bc he really wanted to go to a hot spring in enemy territory
betrayed zhao at the Northern Water Tribe with no escape plan and then spent 3 weeks starving on a boat
immediately went to a spa resort upon publicly committing treason
ate a poisonous plant and, in the spirit of Two Fish Hook Sokka, was going to solve the problem by eating another potentially poisonous plant
decided the safest place in the world they could go was the city he once FAMOUSLY laid siege to for 600 days
instead of lying low or giving a modicum of a shit about people recognizing him, overachieved himself into becoming one of the most well-known restaurant owners in said city
in fact overachieved so hard that he got an invite to meet the earth king (whose city he, again, once FAMOUSLY LAID SIEGE TO) which he fucking? accepted????
#no wonder zuko was constantly frothing at the mouth! he's the only one who knows the truth!#god just imagine the number of times people have seen zuko yelling at iroh#and assumed zuko was just being mean#when zuko was actually yelling at his uncle for wasting all their money bartering with pirates AGAIN#everyone assumes iroh is babysitting zuko but really they're pingponging responsibility back and forth#and zuko at least has the excuse of being 16#anyway I love Uncle Hypocrite so much; funniest motherfucker on the planet (via OP)
Me: *opening my email* Oh! I have a bunch of comments on my fic!
The comments:
So, alas, the notifications were lies :,)