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disruptivebychoice

Roses are red

Hurt is blue

I’m still mourning

But I can’t stop loving you

You walked away

And since that day

I’ve been nothing more

Than a love sick whore

Realizing there’s no more us

I’m left with internal lust

Replaying your touch on my skin

Over and over as a timeless sin

Left all alone

Constantly daydreaming about the unknown

Sheeeeesh this song hit me hard tonight. Either way 10/10 recommend❤

#AbelSZN #theweeknd #valerie #love #sad

This video of my son hyping himself up over drawing a circle by himself is the most pure thing you will see today.

Remember when we would pat ourselves on the back over something as small as learning how to spell a new word, or correctly using math to count how many M&Ms we had, or learning how to draw a circle.

Nowadays, I could cure cancer and publish a best selling book about it and I'd still feel useless.

I'd give a lot to expirience the wonder of being a carefree child with my whole life ahead of me, again. Still, it's the most amazing thing in the world getting to see this from a parent's perspective❤

fixyourwritinghabits

mentalcentral

be proud of yourself. i don’t care if your default mindset is self deprecating. act against it and find something to be proud of today, no matter how small.

"So, in my place no hate shall enter, livin' high up there, up there. Copin', copin', floatin', I will find peace somewhere.."

-Kid Cudi

fragilevixenfic

If you were to give me any advice on writing, what would it be?

I have to preface this by saying that I have never considered myself an expert and I think it's one of the reasons I haven't lost my passion for it.

One of the best pieces of advice is just keep writing. Even if you think it isn't good. Even if you think it sounds amateurish or unpolished. Every sentence you put on a page is hard earned.

No sentence is a waste.

Never feel like you're being too detailed...if you can make a reader feel something with your descriptions then you've accomplished a massive goal with that alone. If you read it back and you can imagine your scene vividly then you have the foundations set.

Reread everything. Edit. There's no such thing as a bad draft...as long as your thoughts are on paper then your first draft is always good.

Maybe some of the other writers could put their own view into this one?

@monikafilefan @rationalcashew @admiralty-xfd @gaycrouton @frangipanidownunder @kyouryokusenshi @sarie-fairy @suitablyaggrieved @poolsidescientist @baronessblixen @peacenik0 @xfficchallenges

ineffable-writer

Something newer writers don’t always realize: when you hit a certain aptitude, it gets harder, and you might feel like you’ve suddenly gotten worse as a writer.

No one tells people about this stage, and I know so many writers who’ve gotten disillusioned with themselves and stop writing because they’ve decided they’re just not good enough. That’s just not true. It means you’ve hit a point where you know enough to think about your work more critically—you’re actually better than you used to be. It’s normal and it’s a sign of growth.

Appreciate how far you’ve come, give yourself permission to write badly, and let yourself move through it.

randomreasonstolive

Reason to Live #2445

So you can stay up all night laughing with someone you love. – Guest Submission

(Please don’t add negative comments to these posts.)

Random writing prompt I found online: "Find a photo and write what's not in the picture."

This old "family" photo from a few years ago was the first thing that came to mind when I found this prompt. On the surface, this picture appears to show that we accomplished something that a lot of people don't get to experience; a small, but whole and happy family. When this picture was taken, I was engaged to the girl and our son was just one month old. So, what does this picture not show you?

This was easily the most conflicting period of my life and it's not even close. On one hand, I had an absolutely gorgeous family and a healthy son. Unfortunately, I was too immature at this particular time to be accepting and grateful of the perfect life I had laid out right in front of me. When you look at this picture, you'd never know about the infidelity we had put each other through. You'd never know about the legal troubles I had found myself in at the time. You'd never know about the pressure she got from her family to leave me.

You see, social media has turned a majority of the general public into narcissists. It was narcissistic of KJ and I to take this photo to give others the impression that things were going good for us, even though we were largely unhappy in our relationship. Rarely do people post about their trials and tribulations on social media; not that that's a bad thing. Social media should serve as a reminder of the things and moments in your life that brought you the most happiness. With that being said, you shouldn't feel obligated to paint yourself to be anything besides exactly who you are when you post to social media. Because, in the end, things are NEVER how they appear to be on the surface.

P.S. Today, KJ and I are no longer together, but we're very accepting of the past and we've become the best of friends. I post this today, because I think this picture holds a valuable lesson and I think it's a lesson that she would want to be taught. Thanks for reading.❤

jaynewm

01/09/2020 @ 11:05 am

Night turns to morning.

Yet again, my mind tricks me

into missing you.

jaynewm

#poetry #haiku #love #good morning #mentalhealth

reasons-for-recovery

Reason #1817

I want to recover for the bravery it takes to face the choice in the first place

01/08/2020 @ 9:59 pm

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A post shared by Mac (@macmiller) on Jan 8, 2020 at 8:00am PST

Music is easily the most powerful weapon I have at my disposal to combat crippling anxiety and depression. Especially when the music comes from people like Mac Miller. And next week, the world gets to hear his voice again.

#mac miller #rip #depression #anxiety #music #be free #kids #good morning #circles #january 17

and-how-to-heal-from-it

Positive Message of the Day

Your worth is not defined by your own self-image.

Even if you struggle to love yourself, you’re still worthy of love from others. You’re still a human being who brings value into this world, even if you can’t see it in yourself.

Don’t listen to people who say you can’t be loved until you love yourself.

I just spent the whole day with my godmother. Keep in mind..this woman helped raise me, and she was a huge factor in shaping me to be the man that I am today. So I'd like to think I know her very well. Yet, after a whole day with her, spent laughing and having drinks, I had no idea about the pain she was hiding. She found out the other night that she had her third miscarriage in two years. She was literally taking "bathroom breaks" to cry. I would've never known that anything was wrong had it not been for my mom telling me what happened after we left. And remember, this is somebody I've known for my entire life (24 years). Always be compassionate and respectful to everybody you come into contact with. You never know what demons they're fighting behind their smile.