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[jujusjunk]

Arabs are scary

Do we speak of the same Arabs?

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My voice is completely gone and I’m at a party and my feet hurt from heels and I have full face makeup and I’m wearing a new and expensive dress for the first time. I am exactly where I wanna be.

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If I’m talking to you and I get access to voice notes just know that will never shut up. I swear to god I’m much better at voice notes than texts.

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I saw them and Robert Wun is my biggest inspiration. This show genuinely had me hypnotized.

[jujusjunk]

Guys ok, there’s like a public opinions thread on Arab TikTok right now. And I want others people opinions because I honestly don’t know what to think.

There’s this woman. I didn’t know if her before but she has down syndrome and she’s an activist for people with down syndrome ok, lovely amazing. She *got married* and then a well known woman, also very present in the like human rights space but she’s not known for being an activist or anything, she went online and said she doesn’t think that people with down syndrome should get married. And she makes good points about consent and the amount of pressure marriage puts on a person. The activist with Down syndrome just said she wanted to and she did but like, I kind of agree?? Not with the activist but with the woman who said they shouldn’t. I have a family member with Down syndrome. And he’s almost 50 and unmarried and is living his life. But again, unmarried. Idk what to think, so I’m asking here because most people are bringing religion into it, and I kind of want answers from other people.

[homochadensistm]

Not 2 be messyyyyy

But there's an account on here that's run by a Palestinian who wants to have conversations with Jews/Israelis and that's so amazing

It's just that they have said multiple times that Hamas aren't rapists and that Hamas is good 😭

I understand that for conversations to happen you'll have to disagree and whatnot. However it's just that even though I will never view what's happening as genocide, I personally have no issue with Palestinians viewing it as such. I am willing to talk to people with different views beliefs etc. I just CANNOT get behind Hamas praise or Hamas rape denial. That's fucking insane.

Am I tripping?

I think ur placing too many expectations on ppl who must not only wrestle with their upbringing and cultural-political identity, but also with documented Reality. What is obvious and natural to you isnt going to be the same for ppl on the other side of the mirror whether because of propaganda or disbelief that my blorbo could ever do such a thing. This is a recurring pattern with every group of ppl that has been radicalized (e.g., Israeli rightoids going 'well my soldiers couldnt possibly shove a stick up someones ass!!'). Its rarely ever personal, and patience is a virtue.

[jujusjunk]

IM THE PALESTINIAN RAHHH. Also I take back everything I’ve said about Hamas being good. I was naive and I only ever listened to what my mommy said but literally for the last 3 weeks I’ve been heavily researching about hamas and I have changed a few (all but I won’t be going into all cuz well) of my opinions. But once again I repeat I am not in a free speech country.

I think you guys take free speech for granted but it’s a pretty big problem round here.

Anyways I do like talking to people because I like taking opinions and I like that I always do my best to make sure that respect and understanding still stand no matter our views.

I don’t know how to explain how hard it is for me to come to a conclusion like this, my whole family is Palestinian and it’s hard for me because it feels like I’m betraying them and my own people, but I’m learning slowly that this is a step forward and not a step back, that killing isn’t a logical just because it’s against a group I was raised to hate. That making someone suffer the same violence their ancestors inflicted on my ancestors DOES NOT MAKE SENSE. Because I have been taught that what I am doing is wrong, that the person I am slowly becoming is the traitor of the Palestinians, the one who works against them but I’m not, I love my people more than anything. And that’s why some ideology isn’t more important that their safety. Just because these really powerful people are trying to push this agenda on us doesn’t mean it’s correct and it’s taking me so much time and a lot of learning.

I do want to apologize to everyone I have harmed in the process, it wasn’t an easy process but that’s not an excuse. I never meant to hurt anyone but I was hurt and I was in a bad place and honestly the first ever person who genuinely made me question the way I think is Mrs.Homochad because she was the exact opposite of what I had been taught an Israeli should be and it made me rethink everything so everyday I am SO grateful that I decided to reply to her random post at I think 5 am lmao. Domino effect I swear.

[jujusjunk]

Hope you feel better soon! Sending love your way. I am Jewish but I have a question about Islam if you feel like answering. I know in the original the Quran is very beautiful and poetic. I think I even heard that at one point the Prophet even challenged people to write something of similar quality as proof that no human could create something so perfect. Given this, how do you and other Muslims feel about the Quran being translated into other languages?

Hiii, I’m answer all the anons I have from when I was away and I saw this! Thank you for your interest! You’re right! The prophet did ask people to try and write something as poetic as the Quran and it was basically impossible. (Mentioned in the Quran in 2:23 “And if you are in doubt about what We have revealed to Our servant,1 then produce a sûrah like it and call your helpers other than Allah, if what you say is true.” And in 17:88 “Say, ˹O Prophet,˺ “If ˹all˺ humans and jinn were to come together to produce the equivalent of this Quran, they could not produce its equal, no matter how they supported each other.””)

Honestly, I think it’s really great! It gives people an opportunity to understand the Quran and makes it more accessible to them. I don’t think it captures the poetry or the literally linguistic genius that is the Quran but it does have a lot of interesting elements that are very similar to the original Quran.

In a way, I see translations more as an interpretation of the meaning rather than an actual Quran if that makes sense. That’s why you’ll often see translations titled “The Meaning of the Qur’an” rather than simply “The Qur’an.”

I recommend that if someone read a translated version and truly wanted to join Islam they learn Arabic so they can just experience the language in the Quran.

[lmsr-lilitu-sephiroth]

The way you explain it makes it make a lot more sense. The Quran as it was written is an inherently unique text. And if you really want to understand it, you need to put it into its cultural context, including the language it was originally written in.

At the end of June, one of the people in my local temple (third service as a conversion student) said that he'd heard a rabbi once say that we're actually made in the imagination of God. It changed something in my brain and something important finally snapped back into place that I'd forgotten.

Everything has a context. Everything makes sense when you understand the words originally used to describe and explain it. You have to see language as an art to even think of getting it. Art is made in the context of life, and language is an art of communication.

So the prophet produced something completely unique tailored both to and for the time and place he was in, all based on what he knew and learned from life. And now the rest of the world has to go and study if we want to understand the original context and the core of what's being said.

Translations are mostly just approximations, and that's how I see all language. I actually used to be really confused about Islam, but then I listened to people explain it, like on youtube, and talk about historical Islamic scholars.

Something, something, the greatest struggle is the one against yourself, right?

Honestly, when it comes to history, my favorite kind to study is religious history. I had an overly dogmatic Christian childhood, though at least the family who were fundamentalists were still kind enough to show me how different even the extreme branches can be. The better people in my life are the ones who were less close minded. I also need to keep learning as a rule, and religion, as a matter of culture, is one of my favorite things to learn about.

[jujusjunk]

I think we kind of see religion in a similar way because I also think context matters so much, like the language, the time, the culture, all of it. You can understand something completely differently when you only read one translation or one quote without knowing what was happening around it.

I do think this is where Muslims would explain it a bit differently though. When you said the Prophet produced something unique for his time and place, Muslims believe he did not produce the Quran himself. We believe it was revealed to him by Allah, which is why the challenge to create something like it is so important in Islam. So to us, it is not only beautiful writing, it is part of the proof that it is divine.

And yes, what you said about the greatest struggle being against yourself is definitely a thing in Islam. It is called jihad al-nafs, like struggling against your own ego, anger, desires, pride, bad habits, all of that. Basically trying to control yourself and become a better person even when it is difficult. There is a famous saying calling it the “greater jihad,” although the exact narration is debated by scholars, but the idea itself is still very important in Islam.

Also I really liked what you said about translations being approximations because that is basically how Muslims see it too. A translation can explain the meaning, but it cannot fully carry the same rhythm, depth, and wording as the Arabic Quran.

I am actually curious though, what was the biggest thing about Islam that you misunderstood before, and then changed your mind about after learning more?

[jujusjunk]

hi juju!! glad you’re back, i hope things are going well for you 🫶

i straight up forgot i sent that ask about the crumbl dirty sodas but i have since tried one and it was literally just. fine ™️. it was a dr pepper with cherry flavor added in and heavy cream. it was kinda overpriced for what it was but i don’t have any major complaints? mostly just tasted like a normal soda with flavoring. i also tried to make one at home but one unfortunate thing i Didn’t realize is the citric acid from the soda causes the cream to curdle… it’s still safe to drink and doesn’t really affect the taste but u kind of have to not look at it or think about it too hard. i think the places that sell them have ways to keep this from happening tho because it wasn’t a problem with the crumbl one 😭 maybe other more Dirty Soda Experienced americans will know why this is. anyway imo dirty soda is like a 7/10 nothing crazy but maybe worth it for the fun factor

HI AMERICAN ANON

Sorry I took so long to answer, I literally loved talking about American lore. Anyways, I think I’m more like you in being down to try something for the experience but I very very highly doubt it’d become an everyday thing or even a more than once thing for me because I simply love coffee. I’ve tried replacing it with so many options but I was never able to. Now about the curdles I actually asked google about it! Basically they use very high fat cream+ they mix with simple syrup (which is just sugar and water) + the creams they use have stabilizing emulsifiers (which are apparently cosmetic additives that force water and oil to mix and stay mixed) + they pour the cream very gently over the ice. So yeah the more you know.

I’m gonna be honest here and say I’ve never tried a doctor pepper. Honestly I’ve had a sip when I was like, 12? And I never did again. I must’ve not liked it. But I have no memory of how it tasted like. Anyways, I think I’d go for a more like, well known one. Like the Diet Coke with coconut cream. I think I’d be ok with trying that.

I also wanted to say that I’m much less horrified with the idea of a dirty soda than I am with the calories in them. Because what do you mean there’s 130 grams of sugar in one cup??? (It was rumored to be 186 which is why I rounded to 200 but it’s been clarified it’s 130, like that’s any better) that’s 2/3rds of a cup. That’s actually insane I’m sorry. It’s almost 840 calories for one drink. One. I might be taking it too far but it’s mind blowing to me. And all that while not having free healthcare is also insane to me.

On the other hand, there is a list of things I really want to try. And on the very top, is wingstop and chick fil a.

[jujusjunk]

So one of my hobbies is cruising the Middle Eastern subreddits. Lebanon, Algeria, Egypt, Syria etc. It's fascinating to read even though I never like or comment. Suffice it to say they are all horrified at what is happening in Gaza.

With that said, the question always comes up "Why doesn't Egypt/Lebanon do more or take on some Palestinian refugees?" and the answer is always "Because that is just enabling the Israeli genocide and then people will then lose claim to their homeland."

Think about it - if there really is a "genocide", how would sheltering the victims be aiding he oppressors? Was Miep Gies aiding the Germans when she sheltered the Frank Family? The only conclusion I came come to is one of two options:

1) The Arab world knows that there is no Genocide in Gaza, or...

2) The Arab world believes there is a genocide but is willing to sacrifice Palestinians in order for Israel to take a PR hit.

Because the point of this isn’t to kill Palestinians but rather to take over the land! Hope that helps!

[freegazafromhamas]

1) So if the goal isn't to wipe the Palestinians off the face of the Earth but to take their land, then by definition it is not a genocide. Genocides are about erasing a people from existence. In a genocide the goal is to kill off an entire ethnicity from the face of the Earth. Like what Nazis wanted to do to the Jews and what Hamas and Hezbollah want to do to the Jews (not even just in Israel). You have admitted what we all already know: there is no genocide taking place in Gaza. Just the usual horrors that come with war.

2) In general, right wing Zionists that are in control of the Israeli government do not want to take over and keep Gaza. They do want the West Bank. What's the difference? Two differences. One is that the West Bank was once part of Jewish indigenous land. Whereas our ancestors never really controlled ancient Gaza and the rough area of what is now the Gaza Strip. So taking Gaza is NOT a Zionist idea by the definition of Zionism: "Jews having autonomy on our native lands". Gaza is not our native lands. But places like Hebron are in our native lands and have been continuously inhabited by Jews for thousands of years. Hebron is one of 4 "Holy Cities" of Judaism that have all been continously inhabited by Jews since the inception of our people. Those cities are Yerushalayim, (Jerusalem), Hebron, Tzfat (Safed) and T'varia (Tiberias). The other main reason for wanting West Bank but not Gaza is military/geographic in nature: The West Bank sits on high ground overlooking the rest of the country. Letting Palestinians have the whole thing without a robust peace framework is asking to get bombed and shot at by those on said higher ground. Gaza doesn't have this geographical problem.

Netanyahu doesn't want Gaza. He has said so many times. He strongly supported giving Gaza to the Palestinians to run it in 05. He has shot down those in his party like Ben G'vir who want to put settlers there - he has no interest in doing that. Why would he? Taking Gaza means taking responsibility for everyone living there. Does Israel really want to be responsible for 2.2 million people over half of whom have lived under Hamas basically their entire lives and have neen brainwashed since infancy to hate the Jews? Israel doesn't want anything to do with that. This is why Bibi is on board with the American plan to install Palestinian technocrats there to run the place.

The goal of Israel in the West Bank is clearly to take the West Bank, nobody will argue this. But in Gaza, the goal isn't to take Gaza. It is to get Oct 7 hostages back which has already been completed, and removing Hamas from power and disarming them, which has yet to be done. Still neither of which are genocidal goals that involve exterminating an entire people from the face of the Earth.

The lack of desire to exterminate Palestinians is why Rafah and Gaza City were emptied out before major ground operations and why over 2 billion kilograms of aid have been let into Gaza by the Israeli government. Neither of those things happen in a genocide.

[jujusjunk]

I don’t think we’re gonna agree on everything, but I do have a few actual questions because I’m trying to understand how you see it.

You’re saying the goal isn’t to kill Palestinians, it’s to remove Hamas. But like, at what point do the amount of civilians killed, almost everyone being displaced over and over again, hospitals and universities and homes being destroyed, and aid being restricted become morally or legally unacceptable, even if the goal is still said to be Hamas?

Also, you said that because the goal is land or defeating Hamas and not killing every Palestinian, then it can’t be genocide. But isn’t the legal definition about trying to destroy a group in whole or in part? Like it doesn’t have to mean literally killing every single person from that group. So how do you see that difference?

And if Israel really doesn’t want permanent control over Gaza, then how do you see the statements from some Israeli ministers talking about resettling Gaza or encouraging Palestinians to leave permanently? Do you see those people as just extreme fringe people, or do you think their statements still matter when we’re talking about intent?

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[jujusjunk]

So one of my hobbies is cruising the Middle Eastern subreddits. Lebanon, Algeria, Egypt, Syria etc. It's fascinating to read even though I never like or comment. Suffice it to say they are all horrified at what is happening in Gaza.

With that said, the question always comes up "Why doesn't Egypt/Lebanon do more or take on some Palestinian refugees?" and the answer is always "Because that is just enabling the Israeli genocide and then people will then lose claim to their homeland."

Think about it - if there really is a "genocide", how would sheltering the victims be aiding he oppressors? Was Miep Gies aiding the Germans when she sheltered the Frank Family? The only conclusion I came come to is one of two options:

1) The Arab world knows that there is no Genocide in Gaza, or...

2) The Arab world believes there is a genocide but is willing to sacrifice Palestinians in order for Israel to take a PR hit.

Because the point of this isn’t to kill Palestinians but rather to take over the land! Hope that helps!

[jujusjunk]

OH BTW I TRIED A BIT OF DUBAI CHOCOLATE ICE CREAM & IT WAS GOOD 😭

DUBAIR CHOCOLATE DOESN’T RASTE BAD I JUST THINK IFS OVERHYPED AND IT IS STILL TAKING OVER SWEETS, WHAT HAPPENED TO NUTELLA ICE CREAM WITH HARDENED BITS OF NUTELLA HUH?

[jujusjunk]

hiiiiiii juju so you're definitely not obligated to answer this because of recent events & not to mention super personal because it's a Lot™ but do you &/or your family plan to return to palestine at some point now that the war's ended (HOPEFULLY because i'm cautiously optimistic, humans please don't fuck it up netenyahu & hamas & israeli settlers i'm looking Directly at you) or like after you finished school in lebanon? because i'm hoping that everyone can return back to their homes / homeland by right of return & here's hoping things are okay for y'all in palestine & lebanon! ✡️🇵🇸🪶🇨🇦

Hiii! This is so old I’m sorry, I don’t think we’ll be returning unless Palestine is free and if we do it’ll mostly be to claim land we have in our name (we have UN documents of where our houses were) I never lived there or have ever been there but this is only if it becomes easier for us and we’re actually allowed to do that. After I finish uni I plan on going to maybe Italy or the US because I’m perusing a career in fashion so I have to hustle lmao. But if the opportunity arises, I would love to live in Palestine if it’s actually safe, because if it isn’t I don’t plan to raise my kids anywhere where war is a possibility (that sentence is a mouthful omg).

[jujusjunk]

this isn’t really Relevant to anything, just an american culture tidbit i thought you might appreciate:

i think you’ve already mentioned crumbl, which is the cookie company that makes a bunch of unique flavors, but they also make other stuff. or try to, at least— there was a brief venture into ice cream in 2023 which quickly got discontinued in most states, also an attempt at branded water(??? why), and this summer they started making dubai chocolate brownies and it was literally fucking insane, like they had people lined up out the door for it and the one in my area was sold out before noon every day. i got (half of) a dubai chocolate brownie later on for placing an order for a graduation cap and gown with my school (btw, do they have that in lebanon too, like caps and gowns or other special graduation apparel? or is this also just an American Thing??) and it was so profoundly mediocre, like i cannot believe people were doing all that about it. anyway. their latest thing is dirty sodas, which are very popular in utah where they’re originally based out of, since they have all the mormons there. basically, since mormons aren’t allowed to drink coffee, they like to use all the syrups and creamers and whatnot that would normally go into coffee and mix them with soda instead. it’s functionally the same thing as the super sugary drinks served by other fast food chains, which could barely be considered coffee anyway, but with a non caffeinated base. unfortunately, since we do have the other aforementioned chains selling their own sugar drinks and really not many people outside utah have a need for a non-caffeinated variation, it’s unclear how long this will last; my prediction is there will be a big popularity boom for like a week or two and then it’ll taper off and we will never hear about it again. they might be able to keep it going in utah because they’re already very popular there and there is definitely demand for dirty sodas because of the mormons, but they also already have a popular chain, swig, which is specifically dedicated to fulfilling that niche. so the crumbl sodas might have to be, like, really good to keep up their momentum. despite being american i have actually never tried a dirty soda but now i feel like i kind of have to, as a Sugar Drink Connoisseur ™️, before they maybe probably go extinct and become something you can only buy from the salt lake city airport during layovers. i will update if it’s good or not

anyway sorry i think i just fulfilled another American Stereotype of talking like a whole lot but i thought you’d enjoy this since it involves utah mormons and crumbl. also you can read it in your head with like, a valley girl accent if you want because that is unironically what i sound like 🦅🦅🦅🇺🇸🇺🇸🇺🇸🇺🇸🇺🇸🇺🇸 there is the USAmerica Lore for today

First off happy belated birthday to America.

This is so old but I love that crumbl is still relevant right now lmao. I don’t understand the Dubai chocolate craze to this day. I mean yeah it’s not bad, but like, not omg I’m gonna die if I don’t eat it bad yknow, I think the US is so unique with the amount of calories they can pack into sweets it actually baffles me. I saw a cookie at crumbl for over 1,200 calories?!! How!?!? Why?!?! I also saw the dirty sodas and honestly I’m intrigued. I watched the secret lives of Mormon wives and obviously I know it’s not a good representation of the religion but I have also watched the documentary about the FLDS, keep sweet pray and obey, it’s on Netflix. If I remember correctly they split from the Mormon church though. All I know is they wear weird underwear and can’t drink coffee 🤷‍♀️.

I would love to try it though, BUT now there’s a drink at crumble too that came out now that has almost 200 grams of sugar??? For a woman she should (maximum) consume around 26 grams of sugar a day and men 36 grams. That’s almost 10 times the recommended daily amount and it’s baffling to me that this can exist. Also why does it exist?? Are people in the US not as conscious when it comes to things like this? I know that we take it a bit too far in Leb where most non-fast food restaurants have calories on them and they, most of the time, offer a half option of whatever you want, but like still, it’s insane to me.

I would like more US lore please, my family there does not indulge in basically anything none Arab so I’d love to vicariously live through your lore please. 

[jujusjunk]

Hope you feel better soon! Sending love your way. I am Jewish but I have a question about Islam if you feel like answering. I know in the original the Quran is very beautiful and poetic. I think I even heard that at one point the Prophet even challenged people to write something of similar quality as proof that no human could create something so perfect. Given this, how do you and other Muslims feel about the Quran being translated into other languages?

Hiii, I’m answer all the anons I have from when I was away and I saw this! Thank you for your interest! You’re right! The prophet did ask people to try and write something as poetic as the Quran and it was basically impossible. (Mentioned in the Quran in 2:23 “And if you are in doubt about what We have revealed to Our servant,1 then produce a sûrah like it and call your helpers other than Allah, if what you say is true.” And in 17:88 “Say, ˹O Prophet,˺ “If ˹all˺ humans and jinn were to come together to produce the equivalent of this Quran, they could not produce its equal, no matter how they supported each other.””)

Honestly, I think it’s really great! It gives people an opportunity to understand the Quran and makes it more accessible to them. I don’t think it captures the poetry or the literally linguistic genius that is the Quran but it does have a lot of interesting elements that are very similar to the original Quran.

In a way, I see translations more as an interpretation of the meaning rather than an actual Quran if that makes sense. That’s why you’ll often see translations titled “The Meaning of the Qur’an” rather than simply “The Qur’an.”

I recommend that if someone read a translated version and truly wanted to join Islam they learn Arabic so they can just experience the language in the Quran.

[jujusjunk]

Hi, I just wanted to check in and see if you're ok. I'm the one behind the anon Squiggles, and I was mostly just shy and honestly afraid of being creepy about things. I did try to send off anon once, including a picture of my childhood cat, but I don't know if the wifi connection ate it instead. If it did go through and was uncomfortable for you, I do want to apologize. My social skills were massively in the works. But after that, in any case, it was just easier to send asks anonymously.

How is university treating you? I hope you're well, in general and beyond just being a student.

And for the cat tax: this is my childhood cat.

Here's a picture my mom took while I was in high school more than fifteen years ago. His name is Sammy, which was short for Samson. I miss him, and he was amazing therapy for the both of us. He even endeared himself my dad to him when he was a kitten by curling up in his cowboy hat and falling asleep in it. My parents went nuts looking for him while I was at school. We had so many nicknames for him over time, like Measey. I was nine years old when I adopted him as a barn kitty. We had him until just after I turned 21.

AWWW HES ADORABLLLLEEE I LOVE HIMM.

Squiggles how do I explain how much of an important role you played in my brain chemistry. I swear to god I used to look forward to every single anon you sent and was always sooo excited to answer you. Plus I used to reread what you sent during the war because it was comforting.

I did not get a picture of your cat:( he’s adorable. I religiously answer cat inboxes but it must’ve gotten lost in the multiverse so I’m sorry about that.

Squiggles if you let yourself out there I swear you would be amazing because every convo I’ve had with you I’ve been grateful for. I’m so proud of you for working on your social skills and I’m giving you a virtual hug.

I’m doing ok, my friend is trying to to set me up with her boyfriends friend so I’m kind of excited tbh, they’re getting engaged soon inshallah and maybe I’m on the way too. Other than that really my life revolves around being a student tbh.

How are you? How’s life treating you? Are you studying anything? If you’re comfortable with it what’re you studying?

[jujusjunk]

"He's delicious physically, yes, but did you consider that he payed for my dinner on a date and didn't rape me when I told him 'no' to sex"?

Jujuuuuuuu cmon girl people can be fun and spontaneous at any mental age we're talking about what happens when things get any amount of challenging, complicated, difficult, which they frequently do with this type of man because as teenagers they bring the drama of a teenager. That's the BEST you can hope for in these situations. Otherwise?

Otherwise, they're there to slowly trap you, cut you off from your friends and family, control your finances, control your movement, control you. Even easier to do in an Arabic country, where, as you say, an older male in power-imbalance-heavy relationships with very young women are normalized. So in America eventually someone might start asking questions about why nobody sees or hears from Juju much anymore after dating or marrying that older, possibly religious (or not) man. Few will ask this in a Muslim country, am I right? Oh Juju, she is busy with the new children she keeps having, you know how it is!

It becomes harder to say no to sex when you are somewhat or even completely financially dependent on him and live in his home and this saying no means becoming homeless, or beaten, or punished in other ways.

Let's hope you get the 30 year old with the emotional maturity of an 18 year old (again, emotional maturity and growth, not willingness to go do fun shit)

ok here's the thing, i need you to look at this through the arab perspective. it's a very shitty thing in our society but rape is pretty easy to get away with and it's why i am extremely weary of men i have around me. i rarely go out with guys i know from uni, i have literally never been online friends with a guy and agreed to meet up, i have dated 1 person and i dont even regard him and genuinely just erase him from memory. so meeting someone who genuinely respects boundaries when it comes to you is *amazing*. its sad 100% but its the reality.

i don't know him too well and i genuinely doubt anything serious will come out of this because i've only spoken to him via calls and text since that date and i haven't seen him since. i'll slowly get to know him, i don't mind a controlling man but i also like a man who's controlling in the right way if that makes sense.

i will never be 100% financially independent on a man, that's 100% not something i plan on, i make a lot of jokes about marrying a rich man but i will never never allow myself to genuinly lean fully on a man. i always have money saved up, i do now and i always will, and all the money *i* make is mine, when i eventually get married he will be responsible for all the bills but i will still work and make money for myself.

a power imbalance isn't something i'm truly worried about because that's just the way it is and i don't think there's anything wrong with that. i don't want to be the person in control and i'd rather have someone to lean on (NOT FULLY AND NOT FINANCIALLY) but (my belief i am not trying to say this is the right way to think im saying this is my way to think) is that a woman needs a strong male presence in her life and i want a husband like that.

(This was in my drafts from last year, but I do like my way of thinking hehe)