Juniper 🐈‍⬛

27 | Trans-Lesbian | Personal blog

[ace-disgrace-on-the-case]

There’s something so uniquely terrifying about memory issues. I feel like my self is slipping away from me.

[ace-disgrace-on-the-case]

Here’s the thing I feel like a lot of folks don’t get: I’m not trying to forget what you said. Honestly, I really tried not to. I can’t control what I do and don’t remember—forgetting things just happens. It’s annoying for you, I know, but for me it’s distressing as hell and when you make a big deal out of it rather than just reminding me you make me feel ashamed. I’ll remember that, at least.

It costs you nothing to be kind to people with memory problems. Please. It’s scary enough without people treating memory lapses as a personal failing.

[ace-disgrace-on-the-case]

Hey, reblog this version instead, please!

[m3s-txt]

it/its are normal lesbian pronouns, everyone knows that

[st-just]

Warhammer 40,000 is of course, uh, not unproblematic. But patterning orks specifically and incredibly blatantly off English football hooligan culture was probably simultaneously the least bigoted and most creative thing literally anyone did with the concept of 'the orc' at any point in the 1980s

[tpwrtrmnky]

People on this website react to mentions of forcefem like it's a serious, real thing, when in fact it's more like... You're looking at someone who says "I'm a warlock" and panicking because you genuinely think they're communing with an evil force from beyond this realm, and not just being a nerd on the internet.

Basically I'm saying you're the same people who think D&D is satanic, or that pokemon is satanic, or that violent video games cause real life violence.

[tpwrtrmnky]

The many, many iterations on the "oh no I'm being fooooooooooorced" fantasy aren't about how forcing people to do stuff is morally good.

The fantasy is an outlet for people in deeply repressed societies to enjoy the fantasy of a scenario where they simply have to do the thing they secretly want to do anyway.

Whether that's being fooooooooorced to transition, or the staple hero's journey trope of being fooooooooorced to go on exciting adventures instead of staying on the farm, it's completely media illiterate to think these are pro-forcing in general!

It's equally ridiculous as going on a moral crusade against Star Wars fans for their sick fantasies about having their aunts and uncles killed by an evil empire!

[ariaste]

Goes for all kinks, tbh. Too many people have forgotten how many ways you can play pretend. And that it is still fun to play pretend even if you're a Very Serious Grownup Who Must Be Taken Seriously.

They're like those parents who have a 5-year-old kid in the backyard with their friend going "Let's play orphans :D" while the parents are freaking out and crying and shaking like "Our child actually wants us literally dead T_T" rather than realizing that Playing Orphans is a fantasy subconsciously practicing the idea of "Whoa, what if we didn't have anyone to look after us? What if we had to look after ourselves?", just like how Playing House is about "What if *I* was the mommy or daddy? (translation: What if I was in charge of other people? What happens if I'm kind of a tyrant? How DO adults cooperate, anyway?)"

So yeah, OP is exactly right, all "forcing" fantasies boil down to either "What if I got to have agency and use it without apology? What if I got to have control for once?" or "What if I didn't have to be responsible for the burden of wanting things? What if someone else was in control for a bit instead of me?"

It is as harmless as fantasizing about, "What if someone came over to my house and did all the dishes AND the laundry AND cleaned the bathrooms AND vacuumed, just because they love me?" and if THAT doesn't get you a little hot and bothered, you probably haven't been an adult for long enough yet to understand what it feels like when someone lovingly shoulders the weight of your to-do list and suddenly frees up a bunch of RAM from your cognitive load.

[tpwrtrmnky]

Yeah like for example, I'm so ruined by the stress of being a functional adult with executive dysfunction at this point that the main thing about (kimmy) that got me going was just... having an automated checklist of tasks that need to be done, and defaulting to doing those tasks when not actively trying to do something else, while the android's mind is free to just zone out and go online

[umarell]

[hatchan]

I need to see someone do this exact bit as a drag performance

[devilmaycry3dantesawakening]

kill la kill is one of those things where it's just like. yeah ok there's things to be said about the sexualization of high school girls and the rampant imagery of such a thing in otaku culture and that's probably not a good thing, i get it. i am not going to act like the show was made out of pure benevolent feminism either; there are a lot of bits where trigger very clearly tried to have their cake and eat it too, and while i don't think this is necessarily a bad thing because sexualized art and horny design is just as artistically valid as more strait-laced storytelling, i could not tell someone they're wrong for being made uncomfortable by all of the gratuitous ass shots of satsuki.

but if you change basically any single "problematic" facet of the show i just feel like all the intended themes don't work nearly as well. you can't make the characters not high-schoolers (the fascist imagery of japanese school uniforms is brought up by satsuki herself in the second episode) and you can't make senketsu and junketsu more modest (proud bodily autonomy and free-spirited nudity is thematic empowerment against the fascist antagonistic forces that want to garb themselves in clothing and only use sex as a nonconsensual means of humiliation and control). like it's so embarrassing to say "no dude you don't get it they look like that because of the story" but in kill la kill's case that's entirely it. they can't not look like that or else it's a completely different show thematically! ryuuko and satsuki are some of the best characters ever and are so refreshing for women in any sort of action fiction. please watch kill la kill.

[thydungeongal]

People have objected to the comparison between D&D fans and gaylors in terms of imagined gayness but like. I'm sorry babes, but the gayness of D&D literally is imagined.

D&D has queer representation in its art and fiction, this is true. Does that representation actually matter for the sake of the themes of the game and its gameplay, as presented in the game? No. You can decide that your elf is gay, and hey, who wouldn't, but the game will just stare at you blankly and not do anything with that information. It's literally fluff in the same sense that your character having blue eyes or being left-handed is. As written the game has nowhere to go with from that information.

But even more so, the thing that inspired that post was people insisting that D&D's gameplay and fiction does somehow interface with queer experiences and is, actually, meaningfully about the experiences of a queer found family and sorry I'm not going to mince words here but that part you straight up did hallucinate.

[thydungeongal]

It's actually a similar type of historical revisionism as with the game's reputation and original target audience: ignore the fact that the game was made by white straight guys for a primarily white, straight, male audience until you can just paint it as a cozy "D&D was always for the freaks and weirdos." Now do the same with adventuring parties. Turns out it was never about would-be medieval lords trying to carve out a fiefdom in the "untamed Borderlands," it's about a queer found family trying to find a place where they belong.

[thydungeongal]

Like, yes, D&D has changed for the better in these regards. But it hasn't changed by turning itself from a game of playing (medieval fantasy) soldiers into a game of elf-kissing. It's just gone and said "Actually, gay people and women can also play soldiers!"

[thydungeongal]

You're so real for saying this

[maxknightley]

everyone more pretentious than me is an insufferable poseur and everyone less pretentious than me is a clueless philistine

[maxknightley]

romantic and sexual partner.

[fallout-lou-begas]

it's finally that time of the year again for the clinically depressed newscaster describing february with disco elysium music

[small-bambi]

Harrison Wood Hsiang

[idionymon]

first time you talk to me: What's wrong with you? You make me sick to look at. Go and get eaten by wolves.

second time you talk to me: Well, aren't you a strange one. I know… Why don't I teach you my hidden sword technique?

[avalynramsaygames]

What it's like to be a trans woman who """boymodes""" at work.

[yuriartillery]

Aww, did my sweet little STEMprincess do some surface analysis of themes? Behind mommy's back? After you were acting so much better than those humanities majors? Perhaps you'd rather be her literaturepiggy instead~

[mollyjames]

A pretty girl calls me her knight and I fold like a wet paper lesbian

[toskarin]

I had to cancel my game, project highguard (awful coincidence but things happen) after I learned the other game was also about wresting control of the shieldbreaker in a world where the legends are true and mythic tales of old are more than just words. fifteen years of development down the drain.

[sylviii]

whoa, cool! a new queer comedy series featuring a diverse cast of queer actors with a queer director and production team. are there trans women in it.

[sylviii]

i said are there trans women in it.

[sial-nawfed]

[goatedgreen]

i love this image because not only is it accurate but also every time i see it i subconsciously scan the image to make sure its not somewhere i know. because everywhere in england looks like this. could be literally anywhere.