i really like the definition of “adult human female” because it says “thats all it is. its not femininity, makeup, submissiveness, softness, anything. all it is is biology. the rest is up to the individual”

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i really like the definition of “adult human female” because it says “thats all it is. its not femininity, makeup, submissiveness, softness, anything. all it is is biology. the rest is up to the individual”
PSA: Biphobia is not a coherent theory but a collection of disperse arguments meant to symbolically obliterate bisexuality in different contexts. The arguments change according to what sounds better, not what's consistent.
I’d say the only way radfems tend to focus too much on the trans issue is when it comes to discernment. A lot of conservative women’s points and accounts are often propped up for some time if they happen to be anti trans ideology. Even if the women who speaks them are pretty openly pro-life, traditionalist, religious, etc. It’s even worse on twitter where radfems will go out of their way to even hype of men as long as they have anti trans male takes, even if the reason for these people having these takes are usually vastly different and tend to stem from homophobia and traditionalism. In these contexts I do wish a lot of radfems were a lot more critical on which place someone’s opinion on such a big issue comes from. Do they genuinely care for women’s safety and female only spaces and our right to having conversations about our issues, or do they just hate the idea of something ‘other’? No need to hype every take up IMO even if it is, given context, something you do actually agree with.
Agreed.
Honestly, people from all walks of life being irked by a massive lie and disinformation campaign is very natural and expected
Personally I don’t need the asshole normie man from the gas station to have a radical feminist lens to be glad that he’s willing to tell the truth. The more people who reject it and are willing to say they do- the better overall imo.
But yes, elevating people to feminist savior for saying the most basic truth “men aren’t women” is a real problem. And people need to learn how to agree with someone on one singular point without throwing their hat in with them on everything.
actual female women are too busy criticizing the misogyny from the type of man who pretends he’s a woman, than from the type of man who doesn’t pretend he’s a woman.
“ITS CULTURE!!! ITS THEIR RELIGION!!! ITS THEIR TRADITION!!! YOU ARE BEING RACIST!!!”
i do NOT care ! 😍 if it’s misogynistic i AM going to hate on it ! 🙏
RFK: to protect women we are only recognizing two sexes
Radical feminists:
boils my blood when biphobes open their big mouths and say that bi people’s oppression is essentially over the moment they have an opposite sex partner. such atom-brained thinking. let’s deconstruct!
The idea that queer people are only punished for their queerness in lieu of a same-sex partner is laughable. Many gay and lesbian people are read as queer before they’re even out to themselves. Homophobic structures in society still make it so that despite the freedom to choose date or marry the same sex (where it applies) there are other social barriers in place that can and do cause minority stress. Why is this exceptional for bisexuals?
Not every homosexual person marries or is in a relationship. Does their being single (and yes, they can be contentedly single and even aromantic) make them exempt from homophobia? No. Why is this exceptional for bisexuals?
Following the previous point, does loneliness for homosexual people reference solely whether or not they have a partner? Is it important to the health of a homosexual person to be in community with people like them? Yes? Great. So why are bisexual people the exception?
Is refusing to refer to a lesbian as a lesbian because she had a sexual experience with a male person once and didn’t like it grounds to refuse to acknowledge that she’s lesbian? Is it homophobic to refuse to acknowledge a homosexual person’s homosexuality? Yes? It doesn’t make them annoying whiny bitches for wanting to accurately be understood to be homosexual? Fantastic! So why are bisexual people the exception?
Is it possible for a lesbian/gay person to have varying experiences when it comes to them coming out and how it is received? Yes. Does that make any of these people exempt from systemic homophobia if they had favorable coming outs? No? Interesting. Now why are bisexual people the exception?
Are the issues and struggles homosexuals face entirely dependent on whether or not they’re partnered? Are there no other problems outside of being partnered that a homosexual person may face in a heteropatriarchal society? Did being able to legally marry make homophobia disappear? No? Hmm interesting stuff.
Here’s a hard one: is conversion therapy bad? Is there any harm done in convincing someone that an impassable part of themself is inherently harmful, disgusting, dangerous, corrupting, a result of trauma or hedonism in order to have them conform to something more “normal?” It is? So why is this an exception for bisexual people??!!!
not to mention, why would being partnered with the opposite sex automatically protect a bisexual person? with the disproportionate rates of domestic abuse bisexual people face, it should be common knowledge that bi people are just as likely (if not more likely) to be at risk when partnered with the opposite sex than not.
yet because this isn’t a popular problem with homosexuals in marginally liberated societies, it’s not considered worth, well, considering. because people genuinely do not see bisexuals as human.
anyway, biphobes can eat shit
I will always reblog this
still remember how revolutionary this ad felt 10 years ago
excuse me but it still feels revolutionary
Keep reblogging until it feels normal everywhere.
For context: this came out in 2011 in Australia. Same-sex marriage would not be legalized until December 2017.
It was only legalized in 8 US states (the 8th only a few months before), and wouldn’t be legalized nation-wide until 2015.
It was only legal in TEN COUNTRIES in 2011. We wouldn’t hit 20 countries until 2017. (Australia was 23rd)
As of today (April 14, 2026), I believe only 38 countries have fully legalized same-sex marriage. Out of somewhere around 200 countries in the world. That’s only ~19% of countries.
This is still revolutionary.
Something that really peaked me was how stupid the response to transrace was. It's obvious to everyone that the only reason a white person would identify as black would be because they are an ignorant, racist idiot using black people as a prop for their own self discovery, and nobody cares how much alleged trauma or or mental distress they have. Because there is no way the only solution is an act of targeted bigotry
Trans people are exactly they same. They make excuses, claiming that trans race people don't have dysphoria or that black people have important lived experiences, but it's all nonsense. There's no actual way to measure dysphoria or the severity of it and you don't even need it to be trans. The only reason ppl don't also see trans people as extremely misogynistic is that people don't think misogyny as a real problem. The feminists who complained even when trans people where just sad gnc gay men were right. We shouldn't have tolerated this for a second. There's nothing unique about gender based dysmorphia that demands transition and it would be long gone by now if we continued promoting actual gender nonconformity and feminism
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Just saw a video of Kat Blaque speaking about autogynophilia ("she" think it's fake or overblown), and I'm reminded that these men who identify as women really love men. When I say love men, I mean they have the most loving, forgiving, hopeful view of the male species, and they refuse to entertain what women are seeing and experiencing. People who say autogynohilia is fake genuinely want you to believe it's unrealistic and far-fetched for a misogynistic man to be so sexually obsessed with women that it turns into a paraphilic fetish. And that it's more realistic and believable that more men with feminine gender souls innocently want to express themselves. Transwomen have rose coloured glasses for men, just like MRAs. Speak to any transwomen, "she's" full of apolgia and ready with excuses for men. And this is what I mean when I say they identify as us, but not with us. Their allegiance is to men and male people, always.
Same with Contrapoints. He said autogynephilia wasn't really a thing. Lo and behold, he revealed that he cracked his "egg" when his weird gf made a habit of dressing him up and feminizing him as part of their kinky time. He seriously denied the connection 💀
Kat is willing to admit DL men or chasers can be autogynphiles but somehow we're supposed to believe any man who actually makes the leap to transition full-time has motives pure as driven snow. The cognitive dissonance is insane. Men can be misogynistic weirdos as long as long as they don't present trans but as soon as they do, any weirdness or fetishism you notice is transphobia. In the video I saw, Kat was literally defending Lily Tino, who is obviously an abusive male fetishist. If Lily never transitioned and was just an undercover crossdresser, Kat would say he's an AGP. But because he actually attempted a transition, Kat is defending and making excuses for him. There's that male solidarity.
I was thinking recently about how much I envy the solidarity men have. Just in general, but especially transwomen, even glancing at any of their blogs they riot around each other no matter what. They establish and reestablish the fact that no matter if it's pedophilia, zoophilia, antisociality, abuse or bigotry they will always stand hand in hand. It's male supremacy on steroids. The ways they empower each other are insane.
Convenient how traditionally male tasks like changing a tire or fixing something only need to be done every once in a while, meanwhile traditionally female tasks like cooking, cleaning, and childrearing need to be done every day.
Convenient, also, how embodying “masculine” ideas of fashion and appearance involve wearing comfortable clothes and largely not acting on one’s physical appearance, while “feminine” ideals require effort both in terms of clothing and in terms of physical upkeep, such as makeup and shaving.
It’s almost like….the system is set up so that men have it easier.
Exhibit 3355
Why don’t women wanna be our sex slaves anymoreeee is it too much to ask ?? For a Happy Marriage???
33 years since spousal rape was made illegal in the United States and they’re still malding about how much equality feels like oppression to them.
Youd think if its just "5 minutes twice a week" men wouldnt be "destroyed" over it
Resources about bisexuality
I have put together some resources about bisexuals, bisexuality, our history, our community, the issues that we face and about the infamous bi/pan discourse.
Here you have a folder with a ton of PDFs about the most various topics regarding bisexual people (from biphobia to the health problems of bisexual people to studies about bi youth to representation in media to asylum seeking).
It has quite a huge section with entire books about bisexuality that you can read completely for free. In order to access all the contents in an easy way I heavily recommend using the guide to the folder, in which you can find a link to each PDF organized by topic and by number.
Here you have four google docs that I have put together:
Defining bisexuality (a collection of definitions of bisexuality by various bisexual activists and associations)
The Cultural Impact of Pansexuality (a collection of statements about pansexuality made by pansexuals or mainstream media outlets/celebrities like Marie Claire, Teen Vogue, the Rolling Stone and Miley Cyrus, among others)
Statistics, studies and articles about bisexual-specific issues (a collection of studies and articles about the issues that bisexuals face)
Debunking pro-pan arguments (a short thing I wrote doing exactly what the title says)
All these resources are also linked in this carrd.
(original post under the cut)
people have many thoughts and feelings about why conversion therapy is bad until it comes to bisexuals lol
studies will show that in many cases, bisexual individuals show staggering amounts of self-loathing, suicidal ideation, substance abuse and mental illness, and this is only ever attributed to homophobia (or internalized homophobia). somehow. when homosexual people--technically the most hypervisible of the lgbt--are not pulling the same numbers. they'll tell stories about poverty rates and how bisexual people tend to be "closer" to heterosexual people or how bisexual people are more populous anyways (like these studies don't factor that in), so that's why they're pulling those numbers. or they're hypersexual so of course they're confused and fucked up. of course.
when one simple answer to all these trends is that biphobia as a prejudice distinct from homophobia makes the closet and the conversion camp a continuum for bisexuals--even in designated "safe zones." endless coming-outs and going-back-ins. because people ignored you the first time, debated you the second (treated you like a hypothetical for a mental exercise), and convinced you the third time that now that you're one of them you can finally be "accepted" and "happy." you can finally "settle down" into your "true self."
"i knew deep down you weren't gay. you're too much of a man." "i knew you were too cool to be bisexual. you like women too much." "i turned him straight." "i turned her lesbian."
tactics of conversion therapy include (but are not limited to) talk "therapy" and several cognitive behavioural techniques that treat an individual's orientation as an obstacle, addiction, disease, etc. more religious methods would resort to prayer and "counselling" and shaming (e.g. "bisexuals are sooooo annoying/cringe")
these tactics (among others) are responsible for decades-worth of precious lesbian, gay and bisexual lives being destroyed or taken altogether.
now let's look at the common things bisexuals often hear from friends, family, peers and the media:
"Bi now, gay later" "it's just a phase" = both re-enforce bisexuality as transient but also unnatural since it is always moving towards something more acceptable/normal. this creates guilt in a bisexual when they do not "outgrow" themselves and fail to "achieve maturity."
"pick a side" "bisexuals are greedy" "hasbian" = make conformity to monosexuality a moral imperative, creating guilt and distress within the bisexual person when they cannot conform to anything else, making them believe they are inherently harmful, dangerous, evil, sinful and untrustworthy.
"you can't be bi if you're married to a man/woman"/"how do you know if you haven't been with both?" = coerces the bisexual individual into endless performance meant to appease and please the biphobe, since there's no other way to "prove" said sexuality because it cannot exist and is not accepted as a legitimate, independent orientation.
"you're just confused" = denies the plausibility of bisexuality and also pathologizes the bisexual person so that they distrust their feelings, emotions and memories.
all these (and more i have not mentioned) are routinely told to bisexuals by their partners, parents, friends, family and strangers. monosexual models in education, law and advocacy make it so that this form of prejudice is not acknowledged or legitimized, and is thus invisibilized. the core of this rhetoric stems from the prevailing refusal to acknowledge bisexuality as a distinct orientation--separate from both homosexuality and heterosexuality--not a mix of the two.
the idea that a bisexual is "half gay" or "half straight" is also part and parcel of conversion rhetoric at work: bisexuality is not an orientation, but an availability of homosexuality OR heterosexuality to a monosexual, and thus the decision to pick one is always within the power of this individual who finds themselves in possession of such power. they insist we can pick sides because our orientation is not innate, but akin to being two roads we have the liberty to walk down on (and must walk down on).
yes, that too is conversion rhetoric. because it assumes the unnaturalness of bisexuality (as innate) thus its external-ness (a mysterious power/illness acting on another human being) which further presumes its transience ("it's a phase") HENCE we ought to be (indeed, can be) either cured of it or freed from it by the love of a true human being (a monosexual) who will collapse the superpositional state of bisexuality into its true, complete and whole form (homosexuality/heterosexuality). or we could take on the trouble ourselves and just make up our minds on "which path" to walk down on.
a rejection of bisexuality as a legitimate orientation is never innocent. biphobic conversion tactics are a direct consequence of this persistent belief, nevertheless, and should be treated as the threat to bisexual health they are.
because guess what the psychological effects of conversion tactics are?
depression and suicidality (it doubles the odds)
PTSD/CPTSD (symptoms include bad cognitive functioning such as brain fog, memory loss and insomnia)
anxiety and panic attacks
sexual dysfunction
low self-esteem
substance misuse
lower economic attainment
loss of community and relationships
interesting, isn't it? very interesting how easy the data is to interpret when you take biphobia seriously.
and yet, you will not find internalized biphobia (while you will find internalized homophobia/transphobia) listed as an outcome of such abuse. abuse that causes bisexuals anxiety and distress over their sexuality, others and isolates them from their peers, creates "hypersexual" bisexuals who stereotypically "struggle with commitment," or who numb their dissatisfaction with faux-acceptance using alcohol or drugs. abuse that convinces them they are all alone and better off not being in a relationship (where they can harm someone) or even dead.
"why does it matter so much that people know you're a bisexual?" because it is foundational to being accepted. because love accepts the person whole. why is that easy to understand for everyone else but the bisexual?
NOTE: the coercive nature of heteronormative society is bound to negatively affect every individual that deviates from heterosexuality in any way. this post is not asserting that homosexual/transgender/asexual individuals do not or cannot have such experiences with erasure and conversion rhetoric being used on them in a more private setting, but that there is a unique way in which biphobia propagates itself in broader society due to how bisexuality is perceived and how bisexuals are treated. do not derail.
The idea that sexual orientation should be decided based on what “feels right” is a… problematic one.
“The word bisexual makes me cringe at times, but saying I’m heterosexual or a lesbian feels inaccurate - regardless of who I am in a relationship with. So, cringing all the while, I use the label. Because of my relationship to the term feminist, I have learned that cringing is often a sign of unfinished political business: the label bi sounds bad because, at least in some ways, bisexuals are an unliberated, invisible, and disparaged social group.” — Look both ways : bisexual politics, Jennifer Baumgardner, 2007
By encouraging this idea that a word can “just not sound right” or “makes me cringe”, we encourage internalised biphobia, internalised homophobia, and other internalised prejudices.
Making new identity labels can be an elaborate system of avoiding using words based on internalised prejudices. Are people basing their sense of self on what makes them unique rather than what unifies them with a marginalised group they hold prejudices towards? Those prejudices are going unexamined.
I’ve found that people who avoid the word bisexual generally know nothing about it. They’ve never read a book on bisexuality, they don’t know anything about the history, about bisexual political activists, about existing organisations or conferences, about whether in reality bisexuals date nonbinary people or not (we do). People don’t reject the word based on educated opinion, although there are people online who do their best to create false definitions to discourage people from using it, which I suppose is in their best interest if they want to avoid analysing their own prejudices.
Back in the day, many thousands of years ago, when I was young, we had to work through our prejudices to be comfortable with who we were. I hated the word bisexual. I didn’t want to call myself that, I didn’t like how it sounded coming out of my mouth. But in the end I realised that was purely because my culture saw bisexuals as a joke, as cheaters, as nonexistent. I worked through that. But if I was coming out now, someone online would tell me that work was unnecessary and I should just pick a word which sounds nice to me.
okay so you guys know the whole “bisexuals vastly outnumber homosexuals” biphobic myth? get this. in most LGBT studies, bisexual men and women are grouped together while homosexual men and women aren’t, making us out to be the “majority.” do you know WHY bisexuals are often grouped together? because otherwise the data sample would be too small. do you know why? because bisexuals (especially men) are exceedingly less likely to be out. i thought it was just data bias against bisexuals, but really, it’s just structural biphobia sabotaging the numbers before the researchers even get there. wild. especially wild how this example of systemic biphobia is used once again to suggest that we as bisexuals are threatening to the entire LGBT community—or just not in need of the community or advocacy at all.
An additional issue is that the number of bisexuals can vary pretty wildly from study to study because researchers will use very different definitions/criteria.
For example, in a lot of health-related studies they will go by sexual behaviour in a certain timeframe. Meaning that bisexuals need at least two sexual partners instead of one for straight and gay people, it needs to be one man and one woman and obviously if you are in a committed relationship you simply will not be counted as bisexual.
It makes it pretty difficult to get any sort of solid idea for exactly how many of us there are, so whenever people make confident claims about bisexuals outnumbering homosexuals you have to wonder what sort of definition they're even working with and whether it's equivalent enough to even allow a proper comparison with homosexuals in the first place.
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