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i really like the definition of “adult human female” because it says “thats all it is. its not femininity, makeup, submissiveness, softness, anything. all it is is biology. the rest is up to the individual”

anomalys-bane

does he respect and love women or does he just find femininity endearing. does he admire the strength of women when its unrelated to childbirth and motherhood. does he get along with women or does he just find them easier to be around than men. does he respect and appreciate unconventionally attractive women. how does he treat abrasive, autonomous women.

so many 'respectful' men run around having a noble savage view of women and we're expected to gush over him and treat him like some rare god. and unfortunately women are so starved of anything close to respect that they eat it up every time.

#misogyny

tabbycatcarnival

Train yourself to refer to “The World Cup” as “the Men’s World Cup”

#men as default

hadesoftheladies

bisexuality is specifically threatening to heteropatriarchy because it brings “untainted” heterosexuality within proximity of “unnatural” homosexuality inside a human being. bisexuals destroy the idea that homosexuals are fundamentally less human than heterosexuals. that homosexuality is an alien deviation: heterosexuality gone wrong in some stage of human development. the inverse. the polar opposite.

yet if both same-sex attraction and opposite-sex attraction can co-occur within a human being, then what does that say about the diverse spectrum of human sexuality and the bullshit boundaries patriarchy draws around what orientations are or aren’t acceptable?

interestingly, what biphobes always seem to fixate on is that bisexuals somehow bring heterosexuality closer to homosexuals or homosexuality closer to heterosexuals (in whatever way), which feels threatening to both parties, albeit for different reasons. but it’s the fundamental heart of biphobia. the fear of shared humanness and diversity in humanity’s sexual expression. i’ve observed it plenty of times: the straight man/woman’s terror that they could be gay. that the “other” could look—on some level—exactly like them. could relate to them. that same-sex attraction can come as naturally to a person as opposite-sex attraction.

and for striking that fear—showing the flimsiness and absurdity of heteropatriarchal constructions—bisexuals are often then punished, silenced, delegitimized, disenfranchised and erased.

hadesoftheladies

-because bisexual asylum seekers fleeing their countries are more often rejected compared to homosexual asylum seekers since they’re assumed to be lying about their persecution (and the biphobia also negatively harms homosexual people who have had a history of sexual assault with heterosexual people)

-because bisexual people are at higher risk of intimate-partner violence, with bisexual women being 61% more likely to experience domestic violence compared to heterosexual women (because biphobes like you still insist that heterosexuals like and celebrate bisexuals and so being het-partnered automatically shields us from being discriminated and abused for our sexualities when it's oftentimes the opposite--and if we are abused, too many of you are comfortable saying we "earned it" for "choosing the wrong side" because you still hold to the biphobic belief that bisexuality is transient)

-because bisexuals are punished and ostracized for not being heterosexual or homosexual enough, leading to them having the highest rates of suicide, drug abuse and even poverty within the LGB community (if they even have access to such a thing)

-(this trend might also suggest bisexual women and youth are at a slightly higher risk of being trafficked or otherwise sexually exploited for money, since lack of support/community, poverty and homelessness are risk factors for sexual exploitation)

-because biphobia like yours is part of a long-running tradition in LGB spaces that discourages bisexuals from calling themselves bisexuals (many bisexuals have identified as gay or lesbian because of the disdain bisexuality gets—adding to bi-erasure and intracommunity discord when "previously gay/lesbian" people come out)

-because bisexual men were demonized by straight women and overall society during the AIDs crisis and that is still a continuing trend today (treating bisexual men specifically as filthy, disease-riddled, inhuman cheaters solely for their bisexuality), which has led to obstacles in their access to help compared to gay and straight men

-because bisexual people (including children) are met with hostility both from homosexuals and heterosexuals, contributing to their isolation and the resulting mental health issues (community is often the only saving grace of oppressed groups)

-because there have been multiple attempts from homosexuals to erase bisexual contributions to gay and lesbian liberation and history

-because heterosexuals have committed to erasing bisexual people from history in general

-because when bisexual people die or are murdered, they are retroactively painted to be either entirely gay or entirely straight—never bisexual (Whitney Houston, Freddie Mercury, Jamey Rodemeyer, etc)

-because bisexuals have historically and are currently treated as mentally unstable due to bi-ness alone (which persists to this day)(also, bisexuality is seen to be an unstable/transient sexuality which has allowed both straight and homosexual people to co-opt the identity with little to no regard for bisexual people)

-because some people still believe bisexual people can’t be gender non-conforming when they very often are (interestingly, transgender people in one study were more likely to identify as bisexual than anything else, which correlates with the fact that in the US at least, trans people are the only demographic within the LGBT to be generally more impoverished than bisexual women, though not by much)

-because bisexual people remain in the closet at higher rates than homosexuals

-because there is still a trend of homosexual people being hostile to dating bisexual people on the basis of bi-ness alone (in a small dating pool where a good chunk don’t want to date you, heterosexuals are a comparatively over-abundant pool—yet they still abuse their bisexual partners)(this also isn't to say that not wanting to date a bisexual is necessarily biphobia, but that basing one's decision on whether or not one should date a bisexual on biphobic stereotypes like "I don't want to sleep with a slut" or "can't date a bi-man because he'll give me HIV" without considering the individuality of the person is biphobic)(you are allowed your preferences, but that doesn't mean they are somehow divorced from politics and how people talk about bisexuals shows that many "preferences" are due to their own deeply cherished dehumanization of bisexual people)

-because heterosexuals hate bi people because they're bi and not just because they're attracted to the same sex (most negative stereotypes about bisexual people being inherently suspicious, confused or promiscuous are created and perpetuated by heterosexuals)

-because any attempt to discuss the specific ways in which heterosexism affects us results in biphobes like you coming to silence the discussion and deny that we have anything going on outside either homosexuality or heterosexuality and that serves as a barrier to our self-definition in data and history (which further fuels your confirmation biases about us since bisexuals will continue to hide their true selves from both hets and people like you in order to survive) and gets us erased and harmed even more efficiently by heteropatriarchy

-because bisexual experiences cannot be subsumed by heterosexual experiences or homosexual experiences (even while intersecting with both) no matter how many people keep insisting they can

Please note: most of the available information on bisexual demographics are pulled from US/UK studies because they're difficult af to come by anywhere else, and so it cannot represent the experience of bisexuals all over the world, merely start the conversation on the unique (not worse!) social pressures bisexuals face compared to homosexuals (and vice versa) under heteropatriarchy. If aiming to describe these differences upsets you so much, really ask yourself why.

#ref #biphobia

sea-of-rains

The invisibility of bisexuality is usually taken to be inherent to it (with the implication that there’s not really a point in trying to do anything about it).

In reality, you cannot actually see that someone is straight or gay based on their current (or last) relationship either. You don’t know who they’ve loved before, you don’t know who they will love in the future.

The assumption that you can tell someone’s past, future and all the sexual attraction they personally experienced solely based on who they’re currently with is not the consequence of bisexual invisibility, but the cause of it.

sea-of-rains

This is also in a way shows how powerful language can be in shaping your perspective.

Like I mentioned previously, you can't tell how someone's internal attraction/orientation works based on the relationship type they're in. You can't tell whether they're exclusively into people of that sex or whether they like both. But because people apply sexual orientation labels to relationships, that has created the illusion that you can. Someone in an opposite-sex relationship must be heterosexual because it's a "heterosexual" relationship. Someone in a same-sex relationship must be homosexual because it's a "homosexual" relationship. Bisexual people are then treated as the sole exceptions to this, with our options being: constantly asserting our orientation, behaving like a stereotype, or letting ourselves be defined by our current (or last) partner.

We then also get treated as being unreasonable for wanting language to describe relationships (among other things) that is ultimately more accurate than what we're currently working with. It would put everyone on an equal level of having their orientation only known through actively expressing it, and monosexuals clearly do not enjoy this idea (even though they treat bisexuals as silly for caring about it) because the current language means their relationship status confirms rather than obscures their sexual identity (contrary to how it works for bisexuals).

#bisexuality

the-bi-library

Bi books of November! Hope you like the post!

October

#bi #to read

sea-of-rains

A number of hypotheses have been put forward to solve the puzzle, including the idea that homosexual behaviour increases male attractiveness to females, or that SSB [same-sex sexual behaviour] reinforces a cooperative bond between partners. More recently, a team led by Julia Monk from Yale University at New Heaven, USA, has proposed an alternative view, namely that SSB is an ancestral trait that has emerged at the same time as sexuality itself. Under this scenario, animal species mated indiscriminately, with individuals of all sexes, and different‐sex sexual behaviours appeared only subsequently along the evolution of the sophisticated and costly mechanisms needed for mate recognition, such as sexual polymorphism (Monk et al, 2019). “[W]e suggest that selection would only act against SSB in ecological or social contexts where its costs become prohibitive. Absent such costs in particular lineages, SSB may be retained, because reproductive fitness is likely often maximized at intermediate mixtures of sexual behaviours that balance the costs of specifically targeting fertilization‐compatible mates with the benefits of an increased number of mating opportunities”, the authors explained. However, the new theory has not been universally accepted at face value, with several evolutionary biologists asking that the claims by Monk and colleagues have to be tested. We are just at the beginning of a long journey that will eventually lead us to understand why SSB is so common in the animal kingdom and why it evolved in the first place.

(Source, though the rest of the article doesn't deal with this hypothesis at all)

If this hypothesis is correct that would suggest that sexual interest regardless of an individual's sex is the original "orientation" (if that is even a word you can apply so far back in evolution). Still has to be supported by evidence but it's interesting at least that some people are willing to think outside the box and not immediately assume that heterosexuality absolutely had to have been the default since the dawn of sexuality.

#sexuality #interesting

in-my-bisexual-opinion

Sadly, this article is still relevant in the big 26. TikTok and Twitter are absolute cesspools.

How resentment contributes to bi women’s experiences of intimate partner violence and toxic relationships. (Contains discussions of sexual…

#biphobia

saintgoodlove

girl the bisexuality was pretty hard to miss

#bi

saintgoodlove

”everybody’s a little bi” is just as biphobic as “no one’s really bi, they pick eventually” because both reinforce the idea that bisexuality does not truly exist as an independent orientation and bisexuals have no right to identity and community as a result. both are bi-erasure.

saintgoodlove

babe, i hate to sound so insufferably pedantic (and no hate to you whatsoever 🫶🏾), but while it is true that bi people remain heavily closeted (probably in even higher rates than gay and lesbian people), “bisexuality is actually pretty common” is also biphobic rhetoric used to paint bisexuals as a privileged majority that share equal or near-equal class power with heterosexuals. it’s oftentimes a dogwhistle for the biphobic ideas that bisexual people are a nefarious/secret underclass hiding inside/infiltrating spaces they don’t belong in, that bisexual people are surrounded by a community of people just like them (hence have no real need of systemic change or larger community outside of their current lives), and that bisexuals aren’t a true minority after all. it also insinuates that bisexuality is already a central part of general culture (since if we’re so many, we must be affecting culture greatly), when, really, bisexuality is the most erased of the orientations. hence the seeming scarcity of bisexuals who identify as everything and anything but.

it really does ride on the coattails of “everyone is a little bi” by perpetuating the same sentiments.

saintgoodlove

it would be really cool if bisexuals stopped reblogging the biphobia bad post with a rephrasing of said biphobia 🫶🏾 bisexuals are NOT the majority.

i know it sucks to acknowledge that the overwhelming majority of people will always be heterosexual, but when my mom told me at 16 that everyone had friend-crushes on their female friends when she was a teenager, it wasn’t her battling with internalized biphobia/homophobia, it was her telling me to forget about being bi by erasing the possibility.

y’all at some point are going to have to start acknowledging when straight people use “everybody’s a bit bi” to delegitimize our sexuality or make excuses for their fetishistic/risqué behaviour

#biphobia

capricorn-season

#jk rowling #so many of these explain exactly how i feel abt the pronouns #gender ideology

majchic

CONTINUATION

#jk rowling

hurupasyt

My first rule of feminism is to simply not believe men and their institutions. I don't believe men's stories about the creation of the universe, their religions are bullshit, what the fuck do men know about the creation of life. I don't believe men when they tell me they are women, what the fuck do men know about womanhood. Internalizing this disbelief of men is one of the most important things I have ever done.

And it has to be disbelief. If you try to instill hatred and disgust in yourself, you are setting yourself up for failure, because men are people. And people are complex and varied. Men aren't some evil unknowable creature, they are capable of kindness and competency, and that will disprove whatever foundation you had for your hatred. That's why feminism can't just be founded on manhating. Disbelief keeps you questioning, keeps you sharp. And it makes you realize how little men truly know.

#save

europe-abolitionist

(popular leftist voice) these right wingers are so mad because they get no women. if you are a Good Person a woman will appear and suck your dick.

tockthewatchdog

we need to give this tweet more credit for im pretty sure coining "die mad about it"

invertprivileges

checks out, thank you melanie

#sex #fav #womanhood

butchpeace

We talk a lot about how it’s homophobic to tell lesbians that they need to be open to dating males. Which is true. It’s a huge problem and the majority of the hate is directed toward us.

But by focusing only on how harmful this is to lesbians, we leave bisexual women behind.

Many trans people have an attitude of “If lesbians/gay men don’t want me, at least bisexuals do.” And that’s just not true, and not fair to bisexuals. It leads to a culture of expecting bisexual women to be okay with any configuration of biological sex, hormonal status, and body parts.

Bisexuals are therefore framed as a group of women who are supposed to be available as a potential partner for anyone who wants them.

So it’s not just homophobic, it’s part of rape culture. Because it aims to teach (mostly) women that they’re not allowed to form their own feelings about their sexuality and their attraction. It teaches women that their sexuality isn’t for them. Their sexuality is a political statement, and there is a right and wrong statement to make.

The fact of the matter is that no one has to date someone they’re not attracted to. No one has to try to develop attraction for someone they’re not innately interested in. No one has to “examine their preferences” when it comes to who they want in their bed. This includes bisexuals.

Yes, women standing up for ourselves does lead to a lot of lonely mtfs who can’t get dates. No, that is not women’s problem.

This affects all of us, and it affects bisexuals in a unique way that’s worth talking more about.

lo1bits

Ok but if someone straight up says “I won’t date trans women but I will date cis women” (applies to men too) that’s going to trigger a dozen red flags in my head. It’s not lesbians or bisexuals job to date specific people but if they won’t date people because the people are trans and nothing else that’s just transphobia.

butchpeace

Respectfully, no one cares if it "triggers red flags in your head". But it's not because we're mean or transphobic. It's because no one should ever be shamed for their natural orientation or expected to change what they're attracted to, in any context for any reason.

No means no. If someone says they're not attracted to trans people, that's the end of the story.

Ask yourself – Why don't you want to respect that? Does it make you feel insecure about your own dating options? Does it clash with your view of how the world and how orientation works?

That's your problem, not ours.

#biphobia #gender ideology

asukam

In light of the pedophile manifesto fiasco that happened several months ago, I want to say that while I do not necessarily think the stated pro-pedophilia views reflect that of the average terminally online leftists, these views are the natural end point of the logic/sentiments followed/shared in gender ideology & liberal feminist circles:

1. "Children can consent to transition" - the idea that children are fully autonomous individuals who are capable of making tough calls about their lives and future naturally gives rise to the sentiment that children should be able to consent to anything. This in tandem with the "youth lib" movement, which seeks to take power away from parents and encourage children instead to trust "like minded adults" who are more likely to treat them with "respect," primes children for grooming. Theres been a push to convince children that their parents who, for example, do not respect their pronouns don't care about them, whereas trans identified adults do. Who seeks to dissolve a child's trust in their parents if not predators?

2. Consent absolves any harm - self explanatory. If "age play," "bdsm," and degradation/humiliation of others is fine as long as both parties consent, of course one would extrapolate this to even more taboo and violent "kinks" or paraphillias. This is how we've landed on the push to accept beastiality, incest, and pedophilia; the online left has given predators the ability to redefine what constitutes harm.

3. The dismantling of your trust in your gut feeling - when you force yourself to look at a predatory male and call him a woman, you are training your brain to not trust your instincts. Transgenderism asks you to not trust your eyes or ears and completely rewire your brain. It degrades your trust in your ability to discern reality and make judgments. This is why so many young people were reblogging the s*ggestrog*n posts with comments like "this makes me really uncomfortable but I know I need to unlearn my biases" -- that voice in the back of their head, which is meant to inform you when something is wrong, has been eroded.

4. Creating an untouchable class of males -- when you create a group of men who are viewed as if they can do no harm, predators will try to join this group. Its why child abuse is rampant on the right and left: both have their group of males who are viewed as above criticism and are therefore given unfettered access to children (and at least you have to put in some effort into being a priest; any old run of the mill pervert can claim transgenderism or become a drag queen).

Therefore, I don't particularly care whether s*ggestrog*n's sentiments are held by a small minority or not. The social conditions that have been created by online leftists have emboldened predators to share these disgusting viewpoints online and endanger children. Better yet, online leftists have offered predators the very vocabulary they can use to disguise their predation as leftist viewpoints.

This is what happens in a society that fundamentally lacks values and substance, and which prioritizes the purity of language and terminology above all else. You can get away with any disgusting sentiment as long as it's worded correctly because you're presenting an argument to an audience that is incapable of actually thinking deeply/critically.

#i find 3 particularly insidious and is my main gripe with this stuff #gender ideology #the gaslighting of it all drives me crazy

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