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i love you. i cant tell you. the sun on your face will do it for me.
i get so miserable off that scenario i made up in my head
it's arguable that a good 90% of the emotional pain we feel as humans is unnecessary and a result of overthinking. a lot of the time, your brain is trying to find certainty in a situation that isn't certain, and by doing so, you end up in a cycle of black and white thinking, catastrophising, and wounding yourself unnecessarily.
by virtue of being alive, we are going to hurt, because that's a part of being a person and having emotions — just like if you go for a lovely walk in the forest, you might get bitten by a bug or stung by a nettle. if you're constantly upsetting yourself with scenarios that might never happen and probably won't, consider how you could try and stop yourself itching that bug bite or nettle sting when it happens.
if you're waiting to hear from somebody and they're not replying in their usual timely manner, instead of automatically assuming they hate you now or they've been in a car accident, instead, sit with the discomfort of uncertainty a little while. maybe even try putting a little cream on your bite or sting to soothe the itching — call a different friend, journal your feelings stream-of-consciousness style, say what you're feeling out loud so it's out of your head. give yourself the advice you'd give a friend if they were having these worries.
name and notice the feeling. don't just try and push it away, because that avoidance makes it worse. more often than not, you'll find that in acknowledging the feelings and recognising that theyre there, instead of spiralling out or repressing them, that pain lessens and goes away on its own. the discomfort of waiting it out is far less prominent and painful than the spiral of "what if" until you're sobbing. 90% of the time, that pain you were anticipating will never come, because the catastrophic circumstances you invented will never come true.
you can't protect yourself from pain and suffering — it's an unavoidable part of being alive. but you can control how you respond to that pain, and what you do with it. this is, of course, far easier said than done, especially taking trauma, illness, and neurodivergence into account. but if you can catch yourself at the start of these spirals and say "i'm not going to do this to myself, i can't make certain what is not yet known, i deserve to have a good day", you can save yourself a whole lot of anguish and unnecessary pain. the more you stop yourself spiralling, the easier it gets not to spiral in the first place.
“The most precious thing is vitality – not in any sinister Lawrentian sense, but just the will + energy + appetite to do what one wants to do + not to be ‘sunk’ by disappointments. Aristotle is right: happiness is not to be aimed at; it is a by-product of activity aimed at.”
— Susan Sontag, Reborn: Journals and Notebooks 1947—1963 (via sartreuse)
This 1930s Art Deco condo in London, UK is just my style. Love it so much. 2bds, 1ba, 2,000sqft duplex. £1,250,000 \\ $1,669,225 [£3,000 \\ $4,006.29 per yr. HOA]
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I will make a beautiful life for myself no matter how long it takes. I will I will I will
reading ur lil reflections on ur tags bae like omggg sending u luv ♡ but WHAT is the story behind the tenant one need to know how that went down
haha omg hi soga!! ok so first of all he was a tenant in a commercial space so at least it wasn’t like we were living in the same building or anything. We worked on the same floor so we would see each other in the hallway and yeah I thought he was cute but 1) he was 16 years older than me and I figured he wouldn’t be interested in someone so young (I was like 23-24 at the time) and, more importantly, 2) I knew he was married. But as we ran into each other more the more I felt like he was flirting with me. And I mean I liked the attention and leaned into it. Things progressed to the point that he invited me over for a drink in his suite after hours. He got handsy but he didn’t want to kiss me because he didn’t want to get covid (lmao at the fact that we were otherwise in very close proximity and he would’ve gotten covid anyway if I had it). Then I think the next time was a drink at my place and we had sex and it was very anti-climactic. Like I pined over him for months wondering what it would be like and it really was just meh (I mean partially because he wouldn’t kiss me like ok goodbye romance). He also tied up the used condom and took it with him to make sure that I wasn’t going to try to get myself pregnant (???). Also when I asked about the whole wife thing he told me not to worry about it so idk it’s possible they had an open relationship but considering his politics and where we live, I doubt it.
Nowadays when I see him he’s nice to me but it’s normal between us, like nothing never happened. My mom adores him so I’m honestly not sure I’m ever going to tell her..
lets simultaneously be something and nothing together
deep breath now. so what if it hurts. you can survive hurt. you’ve survived every hurt until now. breathe thru it. let it pass. don’t be afraid of it. i’ll hold your hand
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remember when it was fun here 🙄🙄🙄 stop being so serious……tell me about the person you slept with that you shouldn’t have. what’s your fantasy for your life if you didn’t have to be so serious all the time. what song makes you shake ass. what would you say to your ex if you knew they’d stfu and just listen lol
I wonder if work just.. got harder in the 2000s, comparatively.
So like... ok. I haven't researched this and I'm mostly thinking out loud, so forgive me.
I entered the working world in 2005. I had a few odd jobs for a few years and then finally just bit the bullet in 2009, got a job at a grocery storeas an inventory clerk. My job was to count surplus items in the backroom and update the counts. Additional responsibilities included helping stock the front end. I left that job in less than a year.
A friend of mine now works at the same chain, different location, same job title, in 2022. But where I shared that title with two other people, he's the only one with that job title. Additionally, there are less stockpersons, and he is often called out to the floor to help them, which impedes his primary job function. He is also expected to clean bathrooms and some other maintenance things that I cant imagine doing as an inventory clerk.
And I thought maybe it was just that his location is understaffed, but looking back on the past few years where I was expected to do everything (be the front end, the dispatcher, the manufacturer, the teacher, trainer, janitor, delivery driver, account handler... christ, how did I do all this?) I'm looking at the issue with fresh eyes.
I hear sometimes about the 'slim down,' where a lot of companies took on a trend of hiring less people than they need to cut down on the cost of labor, and I look at how fast a person can burn out at a job. And how many jobs are considered 'high pressure sales' when they dont need to be.
Like I'm looking at the possibility of starting a business and I'm looking at the jobs I've had that burned me out and why. And it's almost always been 'I was always juggling responsibilities because we needed more staff'.
Like it seemed like I was doing everything, but getting paid the same.
And I think about that backroom job, where occasionally i would have to help out the stockers on big days, but mostly my job was one function.
It's not like that anymore, is it?
So when I hear someone bemoan that 'no one wants to work anymore' I just think... y'know, work ain't what it used to be. When you're working the work of 3.5 people because someone at corporate decided it was right and good to hire less people than they need because it saves them 20$ per hour per store, but you still dint get your bonus because shrinks too high or they didnt make the amount of money they thought they would or you gave too many coupons ONCE. And it's like they're actively trying to chase people away, and then threaten you with automation but they do t make work attractive enough for people to show...
Work dont want no one anymore.
Oh damn, the notes on this. Apparently it's not my imagination and y'all have lived some horror stories.
I feel like we should be able to do something about this. Like we should be able to say 'no' to lean staffing and we should have a say in what our responsibilities are.
I'm thinking about all the times i should have just straight up said something. Like I think I had it in my head that if I took on all the responsibilities in the shop, eventually I would be rewarded with higher pay. But it doesnt work like that anymore. The reward for digging the best hole is a bigger shovel.
That's no way to live, though. And I just put up with it like it was normal to be so tired at the end of the day that I couldnt move. Maybe I should have just said 'no, you do it' when they started making me work outside my title.
Because that took a serious toll on my mental health.
i know so many people have said it but
UNIONS UNIONS UNIONS UNIONS UNIONSUNIONS UNIONS UNIONS UNIONS UNIONSUNIONS UNIONS UNIONS UNIONS UNIONSUNIONS UNIONS UNIONS UNIONS UNIONSUNIONS UNIONS UNIONS UNIONS UNIONSUNIONS UNIONS UNIONS UNIONS UNIONS
I HAVE A UNION JOB AND LET ME TELL YOU SOME THINGS
It is part time, contract, hourly, full remote. Because it's union? They have to offer me a minimum of 25 hours a week. If I *voluntarily* go under, that is on me, but they ALWAYS offer me up to that. If I ask for the hours, they HAVE to give them.
Overtime doesn't trigger until 40 hrs/wk... but any time spent on emails, spreadsheets, my timesheet, ANY admin task that's more than 15 min? I can bill for that. ALL training, meetings, etc? I bill for that.
I get holiday pay. Seperate from vacation, sick leave, personal time; if it's a federal or state holiday I *automatically* get 5 hours of pay for that day. Period. Unlimited. I got paid 5 hours to do nothing on MLK day and presidents day, no questions asked, nothing taken away from my other pay.
I get sick leave, vacation leave, "personal" leave (anything that isn't the former two -- like, "my friend had an accident and I need to drive them home"). I get health insurance, dental insurance, life insurance. I get access to the credit union. I get access to job search help if my position gets dissolved / I get laid off!
It costs about $80/month in union dues, but I MORE than get that back in terms of benefits and peace of mind, and it's automatically deducted from my paycheck.
U N I O N S.
as we are living through a new resurgence in unions, after they were systematically decimated for decades, people might ask ‘how do i join a union?’ or ‘how do i unionize my workplace?’. the IWW isn’t a union union in the sense that it will automatically give you benefits like the above. BUT it is the single best place to start if you want to begin unionizing your workplace, connecting with other workers (including prisoners), and generally learn about unions and the international labor struggle.
https://www.iww.org
The Industrial Workers of the World (IWW) is a labor union representing workers worldwide. We are known for our high standards of democracy,
Whenever unions being destroyed comes up, some asshat's always like "but the duuuues" like, STFU. I'd HAPPILY pay the dues to not be fuckin exploited.
The slim down has affected everything. It's why most of the movie theaters around me are nasty, the retail stores are always a trainwreck, and you constantly have long wait times at restaurants and grocery stores. It's the captains, NOT the crew.
We were waiting for tires at Walmart, and they'd called someone to a section on intercom a buncha times and some ol fart customer was so offended "Why don't they send a MANAGER there???" WOMAN. It's WALMART. They do not hire the goddamn people! I get unreasonably pissed about this cuz too many people have no idea what work is actually like now and make dumbass complaints and harass workers, bitching at the wrong thing.
Food service has gotten way worse thank staffing slim downs, ghost kitchens and online ordering. Seriously, look up the ghost kitchens. Tons of big chains try to pass off hokey "local" sounding food on grub hub and door dash that comes straight outta IHOP and Applebee's. It leaves the people working those restaurants effectively running numerous restaraunts of the same kitchen for single restaraunt pay. Ghost Kitchens have come under serious litigation in Houston specifically for having such poorly maintained spaces, workers have gotten seriously hurt.
It is so fucked how we're conditioned into saying yes to everything till you end up doing 5 people's work under the false promise of a better future. It burned my careers and bridges to the ground. Don't make my mistakes. I'm hopeful that GenZ and the rest of the up and comers will continue to take less bullshit at work and justifiably cry on TikTok behind the service counter cuz work is NOT working.
More Perfect Union is an excellent YouTube channel doing fantastic labor journalism that I can't recommend enough.
So, "lean staffing" was mentioned above. Not only do I hate the practice, I hate the term... calling it "lean" implies that what you cut away was fat. That it was healthier for it. But what you cut was SLACK. And slack is what allows lines to tighten without breaking. I call it "taut" staffing. A taut line is a line under strain. Strain too long, and it breaks. Increase the tension and it breaks. A taut line is one that cannot absorb changes.
sorry for the mixed signals I don’t know what I want or what I’m doing mostly
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