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swarnpert

it really is so funny that google just lies to you now

dduane

Meanwhile, via Bluesky...

(See also the video here from ITN.)

this month is just "kalvander loses her mind but not really" and if anyone judges me for drinking two cans of beer at 7am I'm going to eat their face off.

In all seriousness: it is incredibly weird that 2026 has felt like the year I finally start feeling sane, and then everyone and everything around me -- from people I know, to local events, to the broader WTF??? that is the world -- feels like it's all going insane.

Talked to my 80 year old grandmother about this recently, "has it ever been like this within your lifetime?" No. She said categorically: no. This is a kind of WTAF that she can't even parse.

Riding home last night on my bike after a day spent trying to wrap our minds around someone we know being murdered, as fires are raging around us, the world is going insane, the people we respected have lost their moral compasses, and to top it all off the moon was high and bright red from the wildfire haze -- it feels like the world has become fictional and unreal.

And I've had issues with DRDP my whole life, but this is something new.

#kalv personal post

cannot even begin to describe the internal scream that exists when I have to listen to other women go off about "sex work is real work" and they're just talking about what amounts to dancing in front of peers in a safe space or risque photography on a profile they control

weird how those of us who have experienced prostitution in our lifetimes don't carry the same views and how our history of sex work gets invalidated because we are a bit uncomfortable with the way it's spoken about and lumped together

almost like one is a raunchy hobby for fun and the other is intense dehumanization where the voices of those in the sex trade are often unable to be heard

#like I just experienced the 'benign' of underage prostitution in my control via hookups on craigslist #it's a thousand times worse for victims who have ZERO voice #maybe just call what you do modelling or NSFW dance or something and not sex work #because it's not the same.#at all. they shouldn't even exist in the same universe of categories.#I do not support sex work. I do support sex workers. That isn't controversial yet the 'burlesque' and OF women I know feel it is #blows my mind jfc have you ever traded sex with a disgusting old man as a lesbian teen because you were couch surfing? no? stfu #if a woman or girl wouldn't do it if she didn't have to survive it's a form of assault I don't care what people claim otherwise

elaenathedefiant

countries where prostitution is legal have higher rates of human trafficking. that’s like an actual fact. not an opinion or anything. so tbh it seems a bit ‘swerfy’ to completely ignore that

darthvatrix

Why would trafficking increase when you have legalized prostitution.

aneurysmsandanalogues

Because if prostitution is legal, demand increases. And if it is legal, pimps and traffickers have more room to exploit and sell women under the guise of legal sex work.

In fact, in countries where it is legal, pimps and brothel owners are considered sex workers themselves.

gorgonology

Just because you legalize prostitution doesn’t mean women are going to be anymore willing to do it, but more men expect to go to prostitutes, so the demand for prostitution increases. Where do you get prostitutes if women aren’t willing to be them? you kidnap and traffick them!!

thereallifesnowwhite

Thank you for explaining this so concisely. I always thought trafficking would decrease if prostitution was legalized, so this is good to know.

tr1angl3

it’s worth pointing out that Germany, who’s always touted as very progressive for legalizing prostitution and instituting prostitution unions, has become the human trafficking hub of Europe since those laws were implemented.

kopfkinoes

In 2009, there were around 900 victims of human trafficking in the Netherlands. In 2017, there were over 6000 and this number is estimated to fall prey to human trafficking every year. Over 4000 are sex slaves and over 1000 are children. This is getting progressively worse. I honestly cannot believe people aren’t educated that this legalization adds to an increase in human trafficking. Isn’t it obvious that’s how the world works? Also, men don’t care. I remember a post over here with men that were going to prostituted children and one of them was saying “I don’t care to know how the sausage is made”. That should tell you everything you need to know if you’re still having doubts about which side of the barricade you should choose.

notcisjustwoman

The notes on this post gave me 17 types of cancer. The fucking mental gymnastics people will pull to justify men’s right to pay to rape women is just staggering.

kiefbowl

People in the notes keep saying “correlation does not mean causation” as if that means correlation will never apply causation. But I think the causation between prostitution and trafficking is pretty clear so…I don’t know why people want to live in a world so badly where women can be bought and sold

gcdk

When Germany legalized prostitution just over a decade ago, politicians hoped that it would create better conditions and more autonomy for s

addictedtocaring

That article describes what I imagine hell to be like

wyvern-of-the-evening

I’ve also learned recently Germany can deny women unemployment/disability because they can technically still “work” in brothels and by selling their bodies. Not that it always happens, but they *can* deny it

etirabys

I deserve more credit for not picking stupid fights on the internet than a nice person who doesn't pick fights does, because I have an unpleasant personality and it's harder for me

leona-florianova

rewatched my fav Odyssey adaptation.

#these are such great likenesses

catsofyore

When you sits but you’re not happy about the fits. Photo from my collection, 1973.

so someone I knew IRL since childhood was murdered downtown yesterday by a mentally ill boy who the system repeatedly failed and who I know for sure definitely doesn't even understand what he did (knowing both of them, I suspect that he probably behaved inappropriately and the boy defended himself)

so now this boy with a traumatic history and severe mental illness and likely schizophrenia is probably going to go to prison and his situation will be even worse for it. he's the actual victim of an entire shit society that doesn't care about mental health or homelessness and the local politicians actively engaged in crazy shit to suck the dick of a larger MLA and larger business to block what would have been a fully approved funding from the province for a shelter.

and meanwhile the group that was supposed to be helping him obscured from their board that there were complaints about the employee who interacted with both of them in the (hot lunch/food) capacity was an individual who issued violent threats to members of our community and who threatened to unleash her dogs on a homeless client... and who is being taken to the supreme court level for her dogs maiming someone

and meanwhile the fucking people I used to respect didn't fire her and hid it from the fucking board

and the reaction to this from someone I loved wasn't accountability it was instead reacting to me assisting the employee who was the whistle blower by suddenly dumping months of random things on me that they decided meant I hated them (wtf I'm transparently autistic of course I walk out of conversations situations when I'm overwhelmed I've been like this since the very first day we met???? how does that mean I secretly wanted to end our friendship?????)

but yet this 'dump' on me only happened... after I confronted them for hiring a literal white supremacist

manipulative b.s., confront your own immoral behaviour or just scream at me about how I made you mad for helping the whistleblower/ex-employee, don't try to moral highground over perceived slights just to self-soothe. peak fucking white liberal bullshit. whines and moans about MAGA down south and then doesn't stop white supremacy when she was the one who fucking hired this turd

just small town bullshit

I'm so fucking done with people. Like I'm just legit done. I'm unironically becoming a hermit.

#kalv personal post #kalv vents #i was so horrified I hurt anyone's feelings I immediately broke down crying and apologizing #then my therapist intervened and was like REALLY ARE YOU SURE ABOUT THAT after seeing/hearing it all #thank you therapist #because yeah actually wtf is this