Jessi Ⓥ @kanirules - Tumblr Blog

For all my fellow oversharers out there.

As a chronic people-pleaser, this is my advice for success.

Offer as little as possible. Be terse. Get rid of all those exclamation marks and tidbits about why you want to take a sick day. State your needs clearly and concisely without reason. Start saying “No, I’m unable.” more often. Say Thank You only when the other party deserves it.

whatbigotspost

I agree with this as a big time over talker who often regrets it. I have verbal impulsivity issues and my 1st knee-jerk response is usually fawning (apologizing, explaining)

If you relate to that I have a couple of things you can try…

1. Just try to create a moment of time between what is said and before you reply. Just take a deep breath or tap your palm or take a sip of water for a second, anything to allow you a moment to not just knee jerk reply, so you can make a poised response. Create space to allow your brain to respond not react.

Silence is not bad, but a lot of people are uncomfortable with it so if you allow there to be some, sometimes the other person will talk first.

2. Forgive yourself for the times when you impulsively do apologize or fawn or w/e. We all slip up. It’s ok, next!

koiagain

Stop saying “do it scared” i do everything scared I sleep scared Boy i’ll kill u

autistobrat

this too shall pass but the fuck was that for

Aaaaaahhhhhh, he recuperado mi cuenta de Wattpad!! 🥳

#personal

audreyrosepromise28

When I look at animals I see beautiful little wonderful lives who just want to live, who enjoy the sunshine and the feeling of having a full belly, and it completely fucking baffles my brain that I ever saw anything less than that

willgrahamscock

ai fatigue

willgrahamscock

ai books, fanfics, ai google assist, ai short form content, ai summaries, ai memes, ai artists

averyfortshire

I cant even go and see some street food trucks without their damn menus having AI images on it. you have a camera. take photos of your goddamn food. I would rather see a photo of the most weirdly lit burger than the fake monstrosity you're showing me.

ceruleanheaven

religion is so fucking funny the world is just too beautiful there must be a higher entity behind all this. lets oppress women

desinteresse

My boss was like “Do you have any idea how much money we’re losing” like who cares, it’s not like they would give it to me otherwise

desinteresse

Have our investors tried making coffee at home and not eating out so much?

danielhowell

who’s ready to get drunk on main?? https://youtu.be/TwQ71nyCcVs

We Tried 7 More Cocktails From Around The World

skopostheorie

imissthembutitwasntadisaster

Watching any movie before 2000 reminds you that people in movies used to be hot but like in a normal way

luna-azzurra

What helped me write trauma better is remembering that the nervous system learns predictions. If danger used to come after quiet, calm can feel threatening. If kindness used to come with a price, kindness can feel suspicious. So healing is not just “they know they’re safe now.” Healing is the slow, annoying, deeply unfair process of teaching the body that the old prediction is not always the present truth.

luna-azzurra

Something neuroscience-y that helps with prose: attention is selective. A character will not notice everything in a room. They will notice what matters to their goal, fear, desire, training, wound, or obsession. A jealous character notices hands. a hungry character notices food. A soldier notices exits. A lonely character notices pairs. Description becomes character when attention has a bias.