ਕਰਮ ਕੌਰ

O dear beloved mind, my friend, reflect upon the Name of the Lord of the Universe

[callistomist-deactivated2020091]

I decided to create a masterpost that would help you with what you are struggling with. Hopefully any of the links below will help you! Reminder; You’re going to be okay. What you are going through will pass, just remember to breathe. 

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Distractions;

Here are some distractions to help keep your mind occupied so you aren’t too focused on your thoughts. 

-Draw something

-This website translates the time into colours.

-Create your own galaxy.

-Play flowing.

-Make a 3D line travel where ever you like. 

-Listen to music.

-Calm.

-Ocean mood, do nothing for two minutes.

Sleep issues; 

- 8 hour sleep music.

-Rainy mood. 

-Meditation.

-Coping with nightmares.

-How to cope with nightmares, 11 steps.

-Calm

-Foods that can affect your sleeping, both positive and negatively. 

  Uncomfortable with silence; 

-Rainy mood.

-10 hours of rain and thunder.

-3 hours of rain and thunder.

-Human heartbeat.

-Rainforest.

-Sound of rain on a tin roof.

-Autumn wind.

-Rain on a tent

-Traffic in the rain.

-Soft traffic. 

-Fan.

-Train.

-Simply noise.

-My noise.

-Rainy cafe.

Anxiety; 

-How to stop worrying. 

-Tips to manage anxiety and stress.

-The 10 best ever anxiety management techniques. 

-Self-help strategies for anxiety. 

-Helping a friend with anxiety. 

-All about worrying.

-8 myths about anxiety. 

Sad, angry and depressed/depression; 

-“I’m always sad”

-Feeling sad.

-Going through trauma.

-“I’m always angry”.

-Anger management. 

-All about anger.

-National helplines and websites.

-Self-help strategies for depression.

-Dealing with depression at work.

-Dealing with depression at school.

Isolation and loneliness; 

-Pets and mental health.

-All about loneliness. 

-“I feel so alone”

-10 more ideas to help with loneliness. 

-How to deal with loneliness.

  Self-harm;

-Alternatives to self-harm and distraction techniques.

-146 things to do besides self-harm.

-More alternatives to self-harm.

-Self-harm alternatives.

-How to take care of self-harm wounds/injuries.

-Getting rid of scars.  

Addiction; 

-How to help a friend with a drug addiction.

-What is addiction?

-All about alcohol and addiction.

-The facts about drug addiction.

  Eating disorders; 

-Helping a friend with an eating disorder.

-Eating disorder treatments. 

-Support services for eating disorders. 

-Self-help tips with eating disorders.

-Eating disorder recovery. 

-Recovering from an eating disorder. 

-100+ reasons to recover. 

-Understanding and managing eating disorders. 

  Dealing with self-hatred;  

-3 ways to ease self-loathing. 

-How to turn self-hatred into self-compassion.

-Self-hatred resources.

-10 step plan to deal with self-hate. 

  Suicidal; 

-International suicide hotlines (1)  (2)

-Preventing suicide. 

-Reasons to stay alive.

-Dealing with suicidal thoughts and feelings.

-Coping with suicidal ideation.  

  Schizophrenia;

-All about schizophrenia.  

-Helping a person with schizophrenia.  

-Understanding and dealing with schizophrenia.  

-Delusions and hallucinations.  

OCD;

-Managing your OCD at home. 

-Overcoming OCD.

-How to cope with OCD. 

-Strategies for dealing with the anxious moments. 

Borderline personality disorder; 

-Helping someone with BPD. 

-All about personality disorders.

-Treatment for BPD.

Abuse; 

-Healthy relationships VS abusive relationships. 

-Emotional abuse

-Overcoming sexual abuse. 

-Hotlines services. 

-5 ways to escape an abusive relationship. 

-Domestic violence support. 

-Signs of an abusive relationship. 

-What do to if you’re in an abusive relationship. 

-Surviving abuse. 

-What you can do if you’re sexual harassed. 

-Sexual assault support.

-What to do if you’ve been sexually assaulted or abused. 

  Bullying;

-How to stand up against bullying.

-How to protect yourself when it comes to cyber bullying.

-How to help stop people bullying you. 

  Loss and grief; 

-How to cope with a suicide of a loved one.

-Grieving for a stranger. 

-Common reactions to death. 

-Working through grief.

(Other loss and grief)

-Moving away from friends and family. 

-Coping with a breakup.

  Getting help; 

-Seeking help early. 

-All about psychological treatments. 

-Types of help.

-All about age and confidentiality. 

Things you need to remember; 

- Don’t stress about being fixed because you’re not broken.

-Remember to remind yourself of your accomplishments. Tell yourself that you’re proud of yourself, even if you’re not. 

- This is temporary. You won’t always feel like this. 

-You are not alone. 

-You are enough. 

-You are important. 

-You are worth it. 

-You are strong. 

-You are not a failure, 

-Good people exist. 

-Reaching out shows strength. 

-Breathe. 

-Don’t listen to the thoughts that are not helping you. 

-Give yourself credit. 

-Don’t be ashamed of your emotions, for the good or bad ones. 

-Treat yourself the same way as you would treat a good friend. 

-Focus on the things you can change. 

-Let go of toxic people. 

-You don’t need to hide, you’re allowed to feel the way you do. 

-Try not to beat yourself up. 

-Something is always happening, you don’t want to miss out on what’s going to happen next. 

-You are not a bother.

-Your existence is more than your appearance. 

-You are smart. 

-You are loved. 

-You are wanted. 

-You are needed. 

-Better days are coming. 

-Just because your past is dark, doesn’t mean your future isn’t bright. 

-You have more potential than you think. 

- Your value doesn’t decrease based on someone’s inability to see your worth.

Please remember to look after yourself and know that you are more than worth it and you deserve to be happy. Keep smiling butterflies x

[invisiblemusings]

God bless the person who made this

[evergreenempress]

It makes me happy to think how much time this person put into making sure strangers were okay. Now it’d just be rude not to even try it, wouldn’t it.

[yeet-my-soul]

Wow… this is so amazing. Thank you.

[whitepeopletwitter]

[atlantisinsirri]

[hellokittyismyspiritanimal]

Listen.

It’s not okay to have your child be scared of you. That isn’t respect. That’s control. 

It’s not okay to have your child obey you at all times in order for you to love them. That isn’t high standards. That’s manipulation.

It’s not okay to force your child become what you wanted to become. That isn’t wanting the best for them. That’s living vicariously through them.

It’s not okay to take away your child’s basic needs as a punishment. That isn’t teaching them. That’s hindering them. 

It’s not okay to dictate your child’s sexuality or gender. That isn’t normalizing them. That’s repressing them.

It’s not okay to berate your child’s appearance or intelligence for being what you think is sub-par. That isn’t toughening them. That’s bullying them.

It’s not okay to take out your stress on your child. That isn’t parenting. That is abusing.

It’s completely okay to distance yourself from your parents. That’s not unloving. That, sometimes, is self care.

[furiousgoldfish]

Common experiences with abusive dad:

acts like you don’t exist until the second they want smth from you

pretends he’s your boss and gives you orders, treats you like factory worker

doesn’t know absolutely anything about you except what vulnerability to hit to trigger you into thinking you owe him obedience

demands you to be interested in his opinions and forces you to participate in activities he likes, never considers your interests

completely ignorant of you most of the time, then over-controlling, strict and ruthless when he wants something

disregards your personal space, enjoys poking and physically disturbing you, humiliates you in front of other people

is extremely strict on how you’re not allowed to embarrass him in front of other people, will treat you differently if others are present

clings to “traditional” values where children owe obedience in return for shelter, claims himself as the “provider” and expects endless gratitude

disregards your time and personal activities, expects you to be ready to receive orders from him at anytime

gets extremely angry and aggressive if called out, reaches for violence and terror if he’s not obeyed instantly

doesn’t hold back with yelling, shouting and heavy threats if his status is challenged

values his reputation more than entire family

values money and his personal pleasure more than family members

pretends to be the victim in absolutely any situation, if you as much as don’t idealize and adore him, you are hurting his poor feelings and you should know better that he actually cares deep inside about you even if it doesn’t show in any of his words or actions whatsoever

will patronize you, compete with you on how smart he is, gross you out, do childish pranks, act like a toddler and have zero emotional maturity

very blatantly prioritizes his social circle over you and will put much more energy and willpower into pleasing and impressing his “buddies” while you can go and raise yourself if you like

threatens to kick you out of “his” house as if he was renting you your place and not living together with his family members in a home meant for that

pretends your worth is nothing compared to his, works on lowering your confidence and will put you down especially when you are feeling a bit encouraged and happy with yourself

tries to control your opinions and makes you feel like you’re stupid for having independent thought that differs from his

shamelessly indulges in perverse, disgusting, dehumanizing and cruel behavior right in front of you

generates dumbest and most disgusting excuses for his behavior, however you are not allowed to put one step out of line or you’re deemed a waste of space and ungrateful brat

ready to explode with anger when confronted with even little truth about himself

[poemsofangela-simone]

[worldsaint1]

I hate you for how you treat me. I always hate you. You had the opportunity to show me how someone should love me but you blow it instead showing me the worse humanity had to offer.

[karamkaur]

Thanks Dad

[furiousgoldfish]

Common experiences with abusive dad:

acts like you don’t exist until the second they want smth from you

pretends he’s your boss and gives you orders, treats you like factory worker

doesn’t know absolutely anything about you except what vulnerability to hit to trigger you into thinking you owe him obedience

demands you to be interested in his opinions and forces you to participate in activities he likes, never considers your interests

completely ignorant of you most of the time, then over-controlling, strict and ruthless when he wants something

disregards your personal space, enjoys poking and physically disturbing you, humiliates you in front of other people

is extremely strict on how you’re not allowed to embarrass him in front of other people, will treat you differently if others are present

clings to “traditional” values where children owe obedience in return for shelter, claims himself as the “provider” and expects endless gratitude

disregards your time and personal activities, expects you to be ready to receive orders from him at anytime

gets extremely angry and aggressive if called out, reaches for violence and terror if he’s not obeyed instantly

doesn’t hold back with yelling, shouting and heavy threats if his status is challenged

values his reputation more than entire family

values money and his personal pleasure more than family members

pretends to be the victim in absolutely any situation, if you as much as don’t idealize and adore him, you are hurting his poor feelings and you should know better that he actually cares deep inside about you even if it doesn’t show in any of his words or actions whatsoever

will patronize you, compete with you on how smart he is, gross you out, do childish pranks, act like a toddler and have zero emotional maturity

very blatantly prioritizes his social circle over you and will put much more energy and willpower into pleasing and impressing his “buddies” while you can go and raise yourself if you like

threatens to kick you out of “his” house as if he was renting you your place and not living together with his family members in a home meant for that

pretends your worth is nothing compared to his, works on lowering your confidence and will put you down especially when you are feeling a bit encouraged and happy with yourself

tries to control your opinions and makes you feel like you’re stupid for having independent thought that differs from his

shamelessly indulges in perverse, disgusting, dehumanizing and cruel behavior right in front of you

generates dumbest and most disgusting excuses for his behavior, however you are not allowed to put one step out of line or you’re deemed a waste of space and ungrateful brat

ready to explode with anger when confronted with even little truth about himself

[king-of-my-heartt]

eldest daughters show so much strength whilst bleeding the most inside

[openblogtomyabusivemother]

I am angry at my parents for abusing me.

I am just as angry at society for letting them.

[cripplepunk-sylveon]

I’m angry at society for contributing to their abuse.

[jennathedestroyer]

I’m angery at society for normalizing the abuse we went through, and that when ever we try to bring it ip so we can talk about these types of things, they say we’re just over sensitive.

[sombraluz-the-shibe]

I’m angry that I would be seen as ungrateful for saying something about the emotional trauma I went through, just because I was provided with nice things and a good education.

[soren-poet-blog]

I’m angry at society telling me it’s not my parents fault.

[the-other-scared-bear]

I’m angry at society for making it seem like it was my fault, and that I deserved every horrible thing they’ve done to me

[lieutenant-storm]

I’m mad at society for ignoring my abuse

[officialotpgirl]

I’m angry that when I spoke out about my abuse I was “being dramatic”

[utterly-unhallowed]

Im angry that people say its okay because i was a “hyper child” so it was okay to hit

[general-alicia]

I’m angry that when I tried to defend myself against his abuse, I was treated like the villain and taken away to Juvenile Hall for 13 months.

[queer-birb-rights]

I’m angry that my parents only tried to do something about him until after I started telling other people about it, ruining their image as Good Parents

[theman-themyth-themoth]

I’m angry that when I finally reached out to a teacher and spilled all my secrets to a social worker, when they called home (because it was a rule, they had to do it and the social worker I was talking to was very against it) and my dad came to pick me up, he dismissed everything with just, “you’ll be fine, you’re going through puberty.”

[lilbabyrose420]

I’m angry that everyone blames my hatred towards my parents as “teenage hormones” when really it’s because of all the abuse everyone blatantly ignores.

[artisticallygay]

I’m angry that my parents forced us to act like we were fine the first time CPS was called on them then cut us off from the family that actually loved us for years after CPS didn’t take us away.

[classy-asthmatic]

i’m angry at all the “friends” (read: enablers) who turned a blind eye to me/my parents and did everything from belittling and ignoring me to attacking my character when i insisted i was in danger and needed help

[autisticbambi]

I’m angry that when I finally get the courage to run to the police with a huge bruise on my face from my mother slapping me and tears and panick in my eyes from my step dad screaming at me, the police did nothing but call my mother to come get me and when she arrived, fake crying, and pretending to care about me. They believed her story that I faked it all and she glared at me and guilted and scared me into agreeing…

[shieldmaiden19]

I’m angry that my parents didn’t believe something was wrong in my abuser’s class, defended HIM, and left me there to be harassed and humiliated.

I’m angry that when I finally put the pieces together that yes this was abuse, nobody believed me.

I’m angry that when I told my parents everything, gave them every bit of evidence I had, they still sent my sisters to that school, knowing the people there will lash out at them when I go public.

I’m angry that when I told a friend everything, she locked me out of her life and shamed me into silence.

I am ANGRY

[flamesandpages]

I’m furious that extended relatives and other adults always side with my parents, and tell me I’m being unreasonable when I try to articulate just how oppressive and emotionally devastating my ‘perfect’ lower middle class upbringing was. 

I’m tired of older adults ignoring me because apparently the twenty year age gap that is physically impossible to close makes my opinions and feelings invalid.

And I’m so fucking over always having to be the one to apologize, and never hearing it back, because parents know best, right? -_-

[theghostofaname]

I am angry that no one even thought to question why my head was split open when I was 4, that the doctors didn’t even suspect what my mother had done.

I am angry that social services left us in that house even after they saw what it was like inside. Even after they saw the piles if moldy dishes, the floor piled with trash. After they heard that a single parent with no job had 7 children. After my sister called the police because my mum took an axe to her door.

I am angry that when we were all huddled into one room, hiding from an abuser, we were urged by our father (over the phone) not to call the police. But I am even more angry that if we had they wouldn’t have listened.

I am angry that they tore my out of the arms of the one person who was trying to protect me, as I screamed and cried. And when I expressed fear about my mum entering the room the school Chaplin said “either she is coming in or i am calling the police”. I am angry that when she grabbed a tissue to stop the glob of snot from falling from my face they said “see, your mum loves your, no one else would do that for you” when I knew she was just protecting their carpets.

I am angry that there are 2 little kids still living in that hell. That no one will save them. That I can’t save them, because I’m just a kid too.

I am angry that at 16 instead of planing my future in accordance to how it will be best for me, I am planning what I can do to be able to take in one of those children.

I am angry that I was the only one of us who was ever saved, but even now I still think it is too late for me. And I am ashamed I never told anyone what was happening.

[starsh0riz0n]

I’m angry at my dad, who confronted me about why I was feeling the way I did, and made it seem like HE was the victim.

I’m angry at my school, for confronting me about what was going on at home, because I ‘looked a little different’. I had an unironed shirt on. As usual. Maybe greasy hair because I forgot to have a bath. As usual.

I’m angry at my former social worker, who has suggested and maybe even tried to get me to see my dad again, even though I had made it obvious I don’t want to see him, or hear him, or even step n e a r him

I’m furious at my dad and his side of the family, that he tried to blame this on my mum, who he had kicked out, and forced her to leave to a place where she felt safe, which was America. He told me lies and manipulated me and so did my aunt. And when I went back to get some of my stuff, that he had the nerve to even suggest that my mum abandoned me and what he did was all for me and my brother. Forgetting I have another brother. That he was always there for me and that I should come home. When my mum and brothers have done more for me than he has ever done.

[doomdaysdecays-deactivated20251]

I’m angry at a certain family member for expecting me to be like the cute bubbly eleven year old I was when I last saw them. I’m anrgy at them for believing that everything could be exactly like it was back then, before I learned about what they had been doing to the family and themselves. I’m anrgy at them for not taking any responsibilty, for putting others’ health at risk and for being abusive to my mother.

At the same time I’ve learned to stop being angry about it all too much, because it would be harmful to me. But deep down I really am angry at them for all those things.

[terrorfromtheabyss]

I am angry at my family and family friends that knew what was happening and did nothing.

I am angry that they were shocked and angry when me and my brother left.

And i am fucking furious that when i called them out on all of it their responce was either to block me or try and guilt trip me for it.

[onlinecounsellingcollege]

7 Tips for Improving your Social Life

1. Ignore your feelings when they say to put walls … and actively decide to build a bridge instead.

2. Don’t compare yourself to others, or attack yourself. Appreciate your talents and the things that make you “you.”

3. Pay attention to your thoughts when you feel anxious or afraid. Imagine being successful, and relaxed, and popular.

4. Focus on what’s best in others; validate their gifts and strengths.

5. Avoid touchy topics; don’t be boring or offensive; and notice when it’s time to let another take the stage.

6. Try to focus more on others and the things that interest them. Avoid the trap of talking about me, me, me!

7. Be genuine and real – as that puts others at their ease … and others are more likely to be natural as well.

[wahtdahel-blog]

never forget when Beyoncé’s camera man started doing her choreography

[karamkaur]

Kiran why you so beautiful #mytwinisthecuteone

[dailypluto]

hello my loves and my starlights!!! how are you today? today is gonna be a bit short and repetitive cause i don’t have my glasses and im kinda typing this outta memory!!! (i will put my contacts in later!)

you are good enough! your best is always enough! you are good enough! your best is always enough! you are good enough! your best is always enough! you are good enough! your best is always enough! you are good enough! your best is always enough! you are good enough! your best is always enough! you are good enough! your best is always enough! you are good enough! your best is always enough! you are good enough! your best is always enough!

i love you. i love you. i love you. i love you. i love you. i love you. i love you. i love you. i love you. i love you. i love you. i love you. i love you. i love you. i love you. i love you. i love you. i love you.

your eyes light up a million skies of darkness brighter than the stars of the night sky do. your smile lights a fire within my heart and makes me grin automatically. you glow effortlessly and brighter than even the warmest of fires and bonfires my precious angelbeam!

thank you for existing. this world needs you. you make me happy. and my heart go boom boom and flutter flutter and lovey dovey. love you! i see great magic in you!!!

Keep reading

[bnmxfld]

a gentle reminder:

you are still learning. you are still changing. you are still growing. breathe. you will find your way.

[anxietyproblem]

[notesforselflove]

The abuse is not your fault.

The abuse is not your fault.

You do not deserve how you are treated.

The abuse was not your fault

The abuse was not your fault

You did not deserve how you were treated

Even if you don’t get out of the situation.  Whether you can’’t or didn’t realize how bad you were treated until you were out of it, IT WAS NOT YOUR FAULT.

You did nothing wrong.