How can you be so reckless & irresponsible???
Since my grandbaby was born, she has been in & out of doctor offices & hospitals due to the pure negligence of her father. Because explain to me how in the world does a 1 1/2 year old get a UTI?? Not once, not twice, but MULTIPLE times!
Fast forward to the separation, than divorce and shared custody, like clockwork EVERYTIME my grandbaby returns from her week with her father she is sick. If it wasn't a cold or fever, she was returning with a diaper rash! How!?! She's FULLY potty-trained! Then here we go again with the UTI's.
Literally since the moment she was conceived, he has made it crystal clear she NEVER would be a priority over him. Try being at the first prenatal visit & hearing your son-in-law share how he thinks he was "trapped." Like WHO says that!?! or the multiple times he yelled, "Get an abortion!" or "Put it in a blender!" or the countless excuses after she was born of WHY he didn't spend as much time with HIS own child.
As a newborn, the "Oh, she's boring...I'll wait till she's a lil older..."
As a non-verbal, wiggly lil infant, "I can't wait till she's older & she does more than just lying there.."
As a mobile infant, "Oh I can't wait till she can run around..."
As a toddler, "I can't wait till she can talk..."
It's been excuses, after excuses of how she was NEVER just enough. So it was no surprise when the shared custody arrangement started to falter and the visitation seized to exist. But what he did quickly realize is that he helped create his own cash cow.
And sadly that's all my grandbaby has been to her "father" aka sperm donor. A cash cow during tax season and a photo op for his family & friends events & holidays, nothing more, nothing less. Just a photo op to brag that he's this great "father" without putting in the work, let alone effort to actually being one. And let's not talk about your monthly financial obligation. To pay the state MINIMUM of child support of $100 a month, meaning if you were unemployed you would be ordered to pay that much. That equates to $1200 annually, for most it's ONE of your paychecks.
And the sad thing is, he has never voluntarily offered to pay more, is late on payment regularly, and is completely content in just paying $100 a month to support his growing child. And only in the last few months has he become financially reponsible for paying HIS portion of her medical insurance. Yet he works full-time, according to him has had multiple promotions and works over-time regularly (an excuse he uses quite often when he ends up canceling or is a no-show on HIS visitation days).
So fast forward to the beginning of the pandemic, it was no surprise that he agreed to having his child remain physically in her mother's care. And during this crisis we have adjusted accordingly following the safety protocols per the CDC, WHO & local health authorities. And despite the many attempts in keeping the lines of visitation open; still the no-shows, the cancelations and the countless excuses continue, ofcourse until it's CONVENIENT for him.
Fast forward to yesterday, against the advice of their child's Pediatrician (as she is NOT fully protected & is barely a week in of her FIRST Covid vaccination) and chose to not follow any requests of your child's mother in regards to following safety guidleness, he took her for a "daddy-daughter day."
Not only did he abuse his child's trust by telling his daughter she was so healthy that she wouldn't catch covid, he showboated her around, willingly exposing her unmasked to multiple households & individuals, ate out at a restaurant, exposed her unmasked to individuals who recently tested positive for Covid....like HOW could you be so careless, so reckless, so irresponsible??? Does she really mean that little to you??
But then again, does it surprise me? Not really. Given that he has tested positive a number of times, willingly put himself in high risk situations, mingles with people who share the same reckless values during this Covid crisis and continues to live life like pre-covid.
I've never met someone so CONSUMED with such selfish behavior. To put your OWN CHILD at risk knowing her medical history, knowing she is NOT fully protected, knowing the rise in Covid cases within our own state, that's pure negligence! HOW can you be AWARE of all the risks and still proceed confidentally in exposing your child!?!
I hope and pray she stays as healthy as she has been and that she dodged the Covid bullet. But God forbid she doesn't, we will do whatever it takes to protect her from the monster that he is!
He will NOT continue to be allowed to subject her to his selfish, reckless, and irresponsible ways. She deserves to be loved and cared for by the people who truly have her best interest at heart ALWAYS, not when it benefits you. She is not to be used as a pawn or a cash cow. She deserves to be healthy, safe & secure, to be respected, not abused and taken advantage of. We have and always will put HER best interest first!