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I know we make jokes about the proverbial asexual pervert who has written hundreds of thousands of words of smut on ao3, but also shoutout to the aces who aren’t perverts. to the aces who skip the sex scenes and wince at sex jokes and awkwardly leave the conversation when your friends start talking about sex. your boundaries aren’t childish and fuck anyone who says otherwise.

#my people as much as me #because we come in very variety #asexuality #ace #asexual

tegandumpleton

Ace and Aro flag Fairies! These are the first of a small series I'm doing. Am I late for Pride? Yes. Will that stop me? Nope! Let's see if you can figure out the hidden details! And I might make an aroace flag version.

#asexual #aromantic #aro #ace

sex-favorable-aces

Y'know what? I want to give a special shout out to the sex favorable aces who fit the stereotypes people always jump to label as harmful.

If you really were "too young" when you first started identifying as ace, and realized when you got older that your sex repulsion was just you being too young, and now that you're older you're sex favorable.

If you really did just "meet the right person" and for the first time you felt comfortable or safe or wanted or anything enough, ir if someone finally made the right accommodations for you to enjoy sex (and even want it).

If your sex repulsion was a phase.

If you thought you were sex repulsed, tried it, and realized that you changed your mind after actually trying sex.

You are not a bad asexual for your experiences. You are just as real and valid as anyone else. We all have different paths in life. Your experiences are not bad, the people use use those experiences to invalidate others are.

#asexual #asexuality #Ace

anistarrose

my futile wish is for people to understand that "sex scenes in movies/TV don't have to serve the plot and can genuinely just be for pleasure" and "sex-repulsed people are allowed to complain about how rare it is for media made for adults like them to be something they can enjoy completely" are both true statements. unfortunately society hates both sex and people who don't like sex, so everyone gets far too defensive about any sex or lack thereof in fiction to actually have this conversation

#asexual #ace

lilviathan

Update: Re Being an Ace Ally, Split Attraction, and Other Things.

Slight warning: Talks over sex, lack thereof, mentions of dead bedrooms, etc etc below. So if you're one of the people that actually follows me you know that for YEARS I've been a very big proponent of the Bi-Ace alliance basically ever since high school and I realized asexuality was thing via my best friend. I always talked about how important it was for both of these identities, the "all or nothing" to stick together. I did my best to uplift ace voices and go and help them. I even made a big post about this awhile back, hence, this "update" post for anyone who listens to me talk on here. Recently, I came to what one might call a "realization" of sorts, namely when me and my friends were talking in depth about our different forms of attraction, we got to me, and whoopsie, turns out what I was describing veeery much matches up to being on the ace spectrum. It's not me being an ally, its dual citizenship apparently. Its honestly a relief to know about this. I've struggled with a lack of sexual attraction to people I had feelings for in the past I'm in a purposefully celibate marriage with my husband. I fretted for YEARS over not experiencing sexual attraction towards the man I love with all my heart. I remember crying to him when we got engaged that I knew guys who complained about their partner not sleeping with them for weeks at a time (gross), but that would be his always, and he needed to be okay with that. He promised me it was and kept that promise. I would feel massively guilty sometimes over seeing fictional characters and talking about how hot they are. I'd feel bad when I'd see couples escalate from kissing in movies and how we never did that, because the idea of doing something like that repulsed me. Not to get too graphic here, but we did attempt to actually have sex once. It didn't go well, I tapped out before anything could happen, and he said that it was for the best since it also felt bad to him. I still feel some level of sexual attraction but its not to people in my life. Fictional characters, but even then, I would never want them to touch me and am content to sit in the Fujo/Hime cuck chair. I don't have an exact label for my niche picked out yet, but its good. Its good to know that I'm not a broken bi, but a perfectly fine and normal bi-ace person. (And I might be demi for both romance and platonic attraction but that's for future me to stew on, we've had enough revelations for 2026)

kickedoutofthecommunity-acesaros

I got one!

I'm the bestie btw.

And of course I love my best friend but I really feel like this is an excellent example of knowing intellectually about asexuality without realizing that applies to them.

Friend here has known about asexuality as long as they've known me, twelve years. But! They're still valid and their experience is important.

Because it takes some people a long time to find out who they are.

#asexual #bisexual #split attraction discussion #ace

zmpl

before we start posting that july is gay wrath month let’s consider that july is disability pride month first and foremost. the “be gay do crimes” memes can wait

zmpl

before this post breaches containment and people start going “why not both hehehe” i want you to seriously consider the very long history of disabled people’s existence being pushed aside and/or seen as secondary. i promise you it’s not going to hurt to hold onto the memes and give disabled people space for visibility and celebration.

i say this as a disabled trans person whose trans identity is made front-and-center to the (mainly cis) people who know i’m trans but my identity as a disabled person is brushed off by the very same people.

#disability pride month

aspecpplarebeautiful

Sex is optional. This is true for everyone, not just asexual people.

Romance is optional. This is true for everyone, not just aromantic people.

#asexual #aromantic #ace #aro

Happy disability pride to:

Disabled asexuals

Disabled aromantics

Disabled aromantic asexuals

Disabled graysexuals

Disabled grayromantics

Disabled demisexuals

Disabled demiromantics

Everyone under the ace and aro labels

Everyone under all the other a-labels such as afamilial, aplatonic, etc

And to every other disabled queer person

#asexual #ace #aromantic #aro #disability pride #graysexual #grayromantic #demisexual #demiromantic

Happy Disability pride month!

These words are a direct quote from my bestie @lilviathan in our Discord server and I don't think I could say it as well as this.

"Friendly reminder to everyone before you say "Gay Pride month is over time for Gay Wrath month!!" or anything like that, that July is actually Disability Pride month.

I don't wanna be a buzzkill or anything, but it is frustrating to watch everyone act like July is a meaningless month that can get claimed for whatever you want when its for Disabled people, who often times find themselves in a hyper-invisible space in our society due to the way ableism creeps everywhere"

There's so much overlap between queer and disabled communities and as an aroace person who's also visually impaired with chronic illness and chronic pain, disability pride is close to my heart.

#asexual #ace #aromantic #aro #aroace #disability pride month #disability pride

Pride is coming to a close but we are not. As we find ourselves in another eleven months between this and the next, let's not let anyone forget us.

Because we aren't queer only in June.

#asexual #aromantic #ace #aro #ace positivity #aro postivity

It is a point of pride of mine that I didn't start this blog during pride month. I actually started this blog back in October, 2024.

Not to say that it's bad to start a pride blog during pride.

But I wasn't high on pride. I wasn't high on events and parades and parties. I didn't create this while in the flush of my sexuality being openly celebrated.

What I was was tired. Locked in a bad job, at the end of a project I had poured my heart into. That project has continued but at the time in genuinely thought it was out of my life forever.

And most importantly, I was tired of not seeing the posts I wanted to. So out of desperation I started designing a blog. Little bit of design and a couple of queued posts and I was off.

Now I've posted a post every day for pride. And when it's over I'll likely go back to my all over schedule.

But importantly, I'm not going anywhere. Pride maybe over, but I'm not.

#asexual #aromantic #ace #aro #ace positivity #aroace #asexuality #acespec #aromanticism

kickedoutofthecommunity-acesaros

It's super important for people to realize that sexual attraction and libido are not the same thing.

Plenty of aces have a high libido (myself included). I masturbate almost every day. That doesn't change my identity.

Plenty of allos have low libidos. That doesn't mean they're not experiencing sexual attraction, just that they don't have the drive to just sex.

The amount of sex you're having/not having or want/not want doesn't impact your identity.

#bringing this back #asexual #ace

aro-ace-culture-is

teen aroace culture is telling an adult that you’re aroace, end up having to explain what it means, and being met with “and what if that changes?”

if it changes, it changes, but at least try to accept the fact that as of now and for the foreseeable future I am very much aroace

🫂

#aro #ace #aroace #aromantic #asexual #aromantic asexual

It's nice to see more blogs talking about ace and aro issues but we still have a long way to go. Until the ace umbrella is up there with the other sexualities there's still work to do.

#asexual #ace #aromantic #aro