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sometimes i struggle to use the word ‘bootlicker’ in a negative sense because of sexual desires i will not disclose here

bagofcoldnoodles

Is it licking boots?

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because of sexual desires i will not disclose here.

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interesting kink assortment on the dash

blackshvck

the idea that every summer will be as hot if not hotter than this for the rest of my life is unbearable i need to (remembers suicide jokes are bad for my mental health) murder an oil executive

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TLDR: this white queer person tried to hold other white queer people accountable for their racism and they DID NOT LIKE THAT

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Being asexual and racist is embarassing as fuck. Being racist at all is obviously embarassing as fuck but the amount of racism and especially antiblackness i have been seeing from asexuals recently is obscene.

One of the only asexual activists is Yasmin Benoit, a Black woman. She has raised so much awareness for the community. She was the first asexual person to lead Pride in London, she started the #thisiswhatasexuallookslike movement and is THE leading voice for the community.

And you all will celebrate international asexuality day on April 6th but we wouldn't even have that if she hadn't cofounded it.

Edit: why are you all too scared to repost this. Cmon. Be vocal about being against racism

Edit 2: if you feel the need to announce in the comments that you're not reblogging for whatever reason just know that I genuinely do not care.

But also know that I will look through your account and if I notice that youre actively a racist or you just dont reblog stuff about that I will ridicule you in a reblog. Idc idc. Not reblogging is fine but if you feel the need ti announce it youre annoying asf.

Edit 3: seeing as you guys need evidence that white queers are sometimes racist

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all babies are baby gender. you dress them stupid, in pumpkins and teddy bear suits

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Attraction Types, Aspec Identities, & Other Orientations

[PT: Attraction Types, Aspec Identities, & Other Orientations.]

(Check out sex & gender terms here [link], gendered attraction terms here [link], and relationship orientations here [link.])

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Attraction Types

[PT: Attraction types.]

Social Attraction: An umbrella term for any attraction that is social in nature. What is considered under this umbrella is up for personal interpretation, but oftentimes it includes platonic and familial attraction.

Emotional Attraction: An umbrella term for any attraction that is emotional in nature. What is considered under this umbrella is up to personal interpretation, but oftentimes it includes platonic, familial, romantic, queerplatonic, and alterous attraction.

Platonic Attraction: A platonic desire for someone/something. What is considered "platonic" varies from culture to culture, however it typically includes desires such as sharing hobbies, sharing emotions, and oftentimes some degree of physical touch (though that is not always necessary.) It is often described as "a desire for companionship." The platonic desire for someone/something is a Squish (ie; "I have a squish on Dustin.")

A Passionate Friendship/Affectionate Friendship is a platonic relationship that holds a high level of commitment and/or energy, and is ranked towards the top of an individual's personal relationship tier list. The platonic partner of someone with a passionate friendship is called a PF. The desire for a passionate friendship with someone/something is a Pash. Some people consider passionate friendships to be QPRs.

Familial Attraction: A familial desire for someone/something. What is considered "familial" varies from culture to culture, however it typically includes similar desires to platonic attraction, except it usually has more focus around starting traditions and sharing assets. Familial attraction is not limited to blood/legal relatives, nor is it necessarily always felt towards blood/legal relatives either.

Romantic Attraction: A romantic desire for someone/something. What is considered "romantic" varies from culture to culture/person to person, however it typically includes desires such as sharing hobbies, sharing emotions, having dates, potentially living together/sharing assets, potentially marriage/legal partnership, potentially starting a family together, and/or intimate physical or emotional interactions that the person would not be comfortable doing with people they have non-romantic feelings for. The romantic desire for someone/something is a Crush.

People with romantic attraction often have physical sensations around their crushes. This might include fuzzy/tingling feelings in the stomach or chest, heart-racing or heart-pounding, feelings of warmth in the stomach/chest or neck/face/shoulders, goosebumps or an electric feeling when touched by them, difficulty breathing (or an easier time breathing around them), and lightheadedness.

They may also have emotional responses to being around their crush, such as increased anxiety in comparison to when they are around non-crushes (typically worries of embarrassing themself, seeming weird, or offending their crush) or lessened anxiety/a feeling of ease and comfortability they don't experience around non-crushes.

A Soft Romo is a romantic relationship that holds a low level of commitment and/or energy, and is treated rather casually. The desire for a soft romo with someone/something is a Fluff.

Queerplatonic Attraction: A queerplatonic desire for someone/something. “Queerplatonic” generally describes attraction that is intensely platonic with traditionally romantic qualities (while having no romantic attraction involved), or somewhere in-between romantic and platonic attraction. A queerplatonic relationship is often called a QPR. The queerplatonic partner of someone is sometimes called a Marshmallow/Mellowfriend or Zucchini. The queerplatonic desire for someone/something is a Squish, Squash, Plush, or Crish.

Alterous Attraction: An alterous desire for someone/something. “Alterous” generally describes a deep emotional attraction that is not distinctly romantic or platonic, but from an outside lens is misinterpreted in that way. Sometimes queerplatonic attraction is considered to be under the alterous umbrella, however alterous attraction can also describe emotional attraction that is completely disconnected from platonic and romantic attraction whatsoever. The alterous desire for someone/something is a Mesh or Hush.

Physical Attraction: An umbrella term for any attraction that is physical in nature. This includes aesthetic, sensual, and sexual attraction.

Aesthetic Attraction: An aesthetic desire for someone/something. “Aesthetic” (in this context) generally describes a person’s physical characteristics (hair, eyes, shape, voice, etc), a person’s presentation (fashion, hairstyle, etc), and/or how a person carries themself (body language, “vibe”, etc.) The aesthetic desire for someone/something is a Swish or Thete.

Sensual Attraction: A sensual desire for someone/something. “Sensual” generally describes non-sexual physical touch, however it can also include voice and scent. A sensual relationship is often called a Senseship. The sensual desire for someone/something is a Lush.

Sexual Attraction: A sexual desire for someone/something. This generally includes a desire for touching/groping and/or enacting kinks/fetishes that provide sexual pleasure. A purely sexual relationship is often called an Intimaship, while a sexual & platonic relationship is often called a Casual Relationship/Friends With Benefits.

Libido describes a body’s physical desire for sex. This differs from sexual attraction, because sexual attraction is directed at someone/something, meanwhile libido is the body craving sexual release. Libido and sexual attraction can align for people who experience both, however they can also occur unaligned.

Allolibidoist/Normolibidoist describes a person who experiences regular spikes in their libido. Hyperlibidoist describes a person who experiences more spikes in their libido than most other people. Hypolibidoist describes a person who rarely experiences spikes in their libido, or whose libido spikes are dull and don’t last very long. Non-Libidoist describes a person who has no libido.

Sexual Arousal describes the body’s physical response to touch in a sexually sensitive area, or the body’s physical response to sexual attraction or libido. This includes genital arousal (wetness, erections, heat, etc), and/or physical responsiveness elsewhere in the body (ie; blushing.) A person can experience sexual arousal while not experiencing sexual attraction or a libido spike (ie; a person who is accidentally touched on their crotch may grow aroused, even if they do not find the person who touched them to be attractive.) Arousal is not the same as desire, as a person can be aroused and distressed or uncomfortable by their arousal.

Waveric Attraction/Waverous Attraction/Fluidic Attraction: A fluid desire for someone/something. For example, a person who feels platonic attraction towards someone one day, and romantic attraction towards them the next. The waveric desire for someone/something is called a Wish.

Nonrose Attraction: An umbrella term for any attraction that is not romantic or sexual ("ro" being for romance, and "se" being for sexual attraction.)

Loveless: A person who feels disconnected to the word “love”, and wishes to describe their enjoyment or attachment towards things with other words (ie; appreciation, admiration, connection, etc) or with no words at all. This could be due to neurodivergence, feeling rejected by the culture surrounding love, etc. Heartless is a similar term, describing a person who feels disconnected from love and romance.

Attraction Stances: A collection of terms to describe how a person feels about attraction-based experiences/actions. The stances are generally sorted into five categories - favorable, indifferent, averse, repulsed, and ambivalent.

In terms of experiences/actions, it is generally sorted into the following categories - social, emotional, friendship/plato (platonic attraction), family, romance, queerplatonic, alterous, physical, look (aesthetic attraction), touch (sensual attraction), and sex.

A person's stances may sometimes change over time, either randomly or due to psychological exploration and/or traumatic experiences.

-Favorable describes a person who has positive feelings towards the experience/actions. For example, a friendship-favorable person enjoys platonic interactions.

-Indifferent/-Neutral describes a person who has neutral feelings towards the experiences/actions. For example, a look-indifferent person who has no strong feelings about aesthetic attraction.

-Averse describes a person who experiences personal dislike towards the experience/actions, but not necessarily dislike towards it as a concept. For example, a sex-averse person who dislikes the idea of being in a sexual setting (ie; strip club), but doesn’t mind hearing about other people’s experiences there.

-Repulsed describes a person who experiences repulsion towards the experiences/actions, often to a point where they feel physical distress (anxiety, nausea, etc) at even the concept. For example, a romance-repulsed person who feels visceral discomfort at romantic actions, even when it's exchanged between other people.

-Ambivalent describes a person who experiences complicated or fluid feelings towards the experiences/actions. For example, a touch-ambivalent person who feels extreme discomfort towards touch sometimes, while seeking out touch other times.

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Relationship Orientations

[PT: Relationship Orientations]

(Check out sex & gender terms here [link], gendered attraction terms here [link], and attraction types, aspec identities, & other orientations here [link.])

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Singlehood: A situation where a person who desires a relationship is currently unpartnered.

Non-partnering/Nonamory/Agamy/Afidelity: A situation where a person does not desire any intimate relationship ever. This could be for any reason, such as personal preference, being aspec, religious reasons, mental health reasons, etc. They may refer to themself as Nonamorous/Agamous/Afidelitous.

Monogamy: An intimate relationship that is exclusive between two people. A person who exclusively desires monogamy would refer to themself as Monogamous.

Although monogamy is often used to refer to both unmarried and married couples, some people distinguish monoamory (an unmarried couple) from monogamy (a married couple.)

Ambiamory: A relationship that can be monogamous or polyamorous. A person who is fine with either monogamy or polyamory would refer to themself as Ambiamorous.

Syndeamory describes an ambiamorous person whose preferences for polyamory or monogamy are based on their partner's preferences (ie; if their partner prefers polyamory, they will prefer that too.)

Monoflexible: A person/relationship that is usually monogamous, but on rare occasion becomes polyamorous or nonamorous.

Polyflexible: A person/relationship that is usually polyamorous, but on rare occasion becomes monogamous or nonamorous.

Fluidamory: A person/relationship that is fluid or fluctuating between multiple different amory/gamy categories (ie; fluctuating between nonamory, monogamy, & polyamory, fluctuating between multiple different forms of polyamory, etc.) A person who desires fluidamory would refer to themself as Fluidamorous.

Mutoamory is a subtype of fluidamory, where a person’s relationship orientation changes based on the scenario or circumstances (ie; a person who usually has the same relationship orientation, but becomes syndeamorous during vacations.)

Virtuamory is a subtype of mutoamory, describing a person who desires polyamory for online relationships, but is monogamous or nonamorous for offline relationships - if they were to take their online relationships offline, they would lose interest in it, or find it too difficult to maintain.

Divisuamory/Diviamory: A person who has different amory/gamy desires depending on the attraction type. For example, being monogamous towards romantic relationships, ambiamorous towards senseships, polyamorous towards QPRs, etc. A person who experiences divisuamory would refer to themself as Divisuamorous/Diviamorous.

Ethical Non-Monogamy (ENM): An umbrella term for people/relationships which include the desire for more than one consensual partnership. This includes ambiamory, some forms of monoflexibility and polyflexibility, some forms of fluidamory, some forms of divisuamory, and polyamory.

Relationship Anarchy (RA): A person who believes that relationships shouldn't be given “rules” by society (aside from rules of consent and ethical treatment), and that the only rules that matter in a relationship are the ones given by the people involved within it. Relationship anarchists support all forms of atypical relationships. Some people identify as a relationship anarchist if they wish not to further label their relationship orientation, similar to how some people use the term “queer” if they wish not to further label their attraction.

Polyamory: A person/relationship that includes/desires more than one partner. A person who desires polyamory would refer to themself as polyamorous.

Polygamy describes the marriage of more than two people, and a person who is married to multiple people may refer to themself as Polygamous.

While a relationship between two people is known as a "couple", a relationship between more than two people is known as a "polycule."

Paramour is a word to describe a polyamorous person’s partner. Metamour is a word to describe the partner of a partner. For example, Tomas is dating Miram, and Miram is dating Lora - this means Miram is Tomas’s paramour, and Lora is Tomas’s metamour.

Multiamory describes a polyamorous relationship that is a complex mix of attraction or structures. For example, a polygynous polyaffectionate octad in an egalitarian paxamorous relationship that participates in swinging. Another example would be a full triad where A & B have a senseship, B & C have a casual relationship, and C & A have a romantic & sexual relationship.

Kitchen Table Polyamory/KTP: A structure where all of the paramours or metamours have close relationships, and frequently interact. The metaphor is that people in a KTP relationship would “all gather around a dinner table to have dinner together on a frequent basis.” Garden Party Polyamory/GTP: A structure where the paramours or metamours interact with each other less frequently than with KTP, but are still relatively well-acquainted. The metaphor used is that people in a GTP relationship would “all meet up during special occasions (garden party, neighborhood grill party, birthday party, etc), but wouldn’t necessarily go out of their way to interact with one another aside from that.” There might be a few close relationships, but not enough to constitute a KTP. Parallel Polyamory: A structure where the paramours do not discuss the relationships of metamours with each other, but still know of the metamours existence and baseline information (ie; age, name, pronouns, etc.) They may also be close with their partner’s metamours, but do not discuss the relationships. For example, Miram is dating Tomas, Olivia, and Lora - Tomas is friends with Olivia and Lora, however he prefers not to hear about Olivia & Lora’s romantic or sexual involvements with Miram. Egalitarian Polyamory: A structure where all paramours and metamours have equal control over relationship decisions (finances, scheduling, etc) and equal time/effort spent together. Hierarchical Polyamory: A structure where different paramours/metamours have different “ranks” in the relationship, and are assigned different levels of responsibility and effort. This is sorted into three tiers - primary, secondary, and tertiary. People can have one or multiple partners in each category - it just depends on the individual (ie; a person who has five primary partners, one secondary partner, and two tertiary partners.) Primary Partner describes a partner with the highest priority. They are usually nesting partners and often have the most control of finances and decision making for the polycule. Secondary Partner describes a partner with a lower degree of involvement than a primary partner. How low that degree is depends on whether there are also tertiary partners involved. Tertiary Partner describes a partner with a lower degree of involvement than a secondary partner. A Competitive Relationship is a hierarchical relationship where the ranks (primary, secondary, or tertiary) are determined based on a frequent (ie; monthly) competition. This competition is done in good fun (ie; a building competition in Minecraft, a board game, a water gun fight, etc), and there are some pre-established rules for the winners (ie; “don’t overspend our shared money.”) Solo Polyamory/Free Relations: A polyamorous relationship where a person has intimate relationships with others, while prioritizing oneself. It may be described as “making oneself the primary partner, and all other partners are secondary or tertiary.” Solo polyamorists don’t desire a relationship-centric life; they may not wish to share homes or finances with their partners. They still tend to their partners’ emotional needs, and do not neglect them; they just live a self-focused life (which all partners are aware of before joining the relationship.) Some solo polyamorists refer to themselves as Singleish. Equiamory/Pluriamory/Synamory/Polyfidelity/Polyexclusivity/Polyfaithful: A structure where every member of the relationship is equal (egalitarian) and are all dating each other. There are no metamours, only paramours. An equiamorous relationship might be called a Pluriad/Group Relationship. Paxamory: A structure where a person desires for only a few partners, and for their partners to either only date each other and/or only have a select few metamours. They wish for their polycule to be small, and to close the relationship once everyone has selected their few partners. It could be egalitarian or hierarchical.

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Gendered attraction terms

[PT: Gendered attraction terms]

(Check out Check out sex & gender terms here [link], relationship orientations here [link], and attraction types, aspec identities, & other orientations here [link.])

Here are some umbrella terms that apply to both mono and m-spec attraction (ie; "sapphic" could refer to a mono lesbian or a m-spec person):

Sapphic: Attraction to women (and potentially enben) that is queerfeminine or genderqueer in nature. Often used to discuss WLW, but can also describe NBLW/WLNB and even MLW/WLM (if the man involved is genderqueer in some nature.) Achillean: Attraction to men (and potentially enben) that is queermasculine or genderqueer in nature. Often used to discuss MLM, but can also describe NBLM/MLNB and even (genderqueer) MLW/WLM. Trixic: Enben who are attracted to women (and potentially other enben). Often used to discuss NBLW, but can also describe NBLNB or NBLGqM (GqM = genderqueer man.) Toric: Enben who are attracted to men (and potentially other enben). Often used to discuss NBLM, but can also describe NBLNB or NBLGqW (GqW = genderqueer woman.) Enbian: Enben who are attracted to other enben. Often used to discuss NBLNB, but can also describe NBLGqW or NBLGqM. Maedic: Women who are attracted to enben. Often used to discuss WLNB, but can also describe WLGqW or WLGqM. Adonic: Men who are attracted to enben. Often used to discuss MLNB, but can also describe MLGqW or MLGqM. Binitian: A binary person attraction to enben; an umbrella term for maedic and adonic. Diamoric: An umbrella term for any relationship or attraction that involves an enban. This includes trixic, toric, enbian, maedic, adonic, or binitian attraction/relationships, and some sapphic, achillean, julietian, romeric, and duaric attraction/relationships. Julietian: Women who are attracted to men (and potentially enben.) Often used to discuss WLM, but can also describe WLNB or WLGqW. Romeric: Men who are attracted to women (and potentially enben.) Often used to discuss MLW, but can also describe MLNB or MLGqM. Duaric: An umbrella term for julietian and romeric.

Here are some more specific terms:

Straight/Hetero-: A person who primarily experiences duaric attraction. May also be spelled as Strayt when being used by an enban/genderqueer person. Lesbian: A person who primarily experiences sapphic attraction. Uranian/Turian/Veldian: A person who primarily experiences achillean attraction. Feminamoric: A person who primarily experiences trixic attraction. Viramoric: A person who primarily experiences toric attraction. Contraic: An enben who is primarily attracted to genders they consider to be different from their own. Symmaic: An enben who is primarily attracted to genders they consider to be similar to their own. Tria-: A person who primarily experiences enbian or binitian attraction. A non-binary or genderqueer tria person may use the term Ceteramoric as well/instead. Lunaric: A tria- person who is primarily attracted to feminine enben. Solaric: A tria- person who is primarily attracted to masculine enben. Saturnic: A tria- person who is primarily attracted to androgynous enben. Neustellic: A tria- person who is primarily attracted to neutral enben. Nullstellic: A tria- person who is primarily attracted to null enben. Ageninic: A tria- person who is primarily attracted to genderless enben. Spacialic: A tria- person who is primarily attracted to xenine enben. Oustellic: A tria- person who is primarily attracted to outherine enben. Apstellic: A tria- person who is primarily attracted to aporine enben. Multiellic: A tria- person who is primarily attracted to multigender enben. Fluidellic is a subset of multiellic, describing a person primarily attracted to fluid/flux enben. Mono-: A person who is attracted to one type of gender (ie; a person who is attracted to only women.) Mspec/M-spec/The Multiattractional Spectrum: An umbrella term for people who are attracted to more than one type of gender. Bi-: A person who is attracted to two or more types of genders. Ambi- describes a bi person who is attracted to both similar and dissimilar genders. Dyo/Di- describes a bi person who is attracted to exclusively two types of genders (ie; a person who is only attracted to maveriques and women.) Bin- describes a bi person who is only attracted to the binary genders. Ply-/Poly-/Poli-: A person who is attracted to three or more types of genders, but not all types of genders. Neptunic: A ply person who is attracted to all genders except for masculine ones. Uranic: A ply person who is attracted to all genders except for feminine ones. Trixenamoric: A ply person who is attracted to all genders except for binary men. Torenamoric: A ply person who is attracted to all genders except for binary women. Omni-: A person who is attracted to all types of genders, but has gender preferences, presentation preferences, and/or is attracted to different genders in different ways. Fin-: An omni person who is attracted to all genders, so long as they present feminine qualities. Min-: An omni person who is attracted to all genders, so long as they present masculine qualities. Lin-: An omni person who is attracted to all genders, so long as they present androgynous qualities. Nin-: An omni person who is attracted to all genders, so long as they present neutral or null qualities. Agin-: An omni person who is attracted to all genders, so long as they present agenrine qualities. Ouin-: An omni person who is attracted to all genders, so long as they present outherine qualities. Pan-: A person who is attracted to all types of genders and has no gender or presentation preferences. They may have physical preferences (ie; preferring muscular people, preferring green eyes, etc), but gender plays no role in their attraction. Abro-: A person whose orientation is fluid or fluctuates (for example, they may be fin one day and uranic the next.) How often it changes varies from person to person. Mutoic- describes a person whose orientation changes under specific circumstances (ie; a person who is usually apstellic, but shifts to lesbian during the summer.)

Special mentions:

Mono Lesbian: A lesbian who is only attracted to one type of gender in all forms of attraction that they deem significant enough to label (ie; a person who is both romantically and sexually a mono lesbian, and doesn't deem it significant to label what genders they are attracted to in a nonromantic & nonsexual sense.) Mspec Lesbian: A lesbian who is also mspec in one or multiple forms of attraction. (Ie; a bisexual lesboromantic, an abrosexual who is most frequently a lesbian, a pansexual lesboalterous person, etc.) Lesboy: A lesbian who connects to the term "boy" or otherwise is connected to masculinity. This could be a trans man who was heavily involved in the sapphic community before transitioning and remains connected to it, a multigender lesbian who is partially a man, a butch lesbian, etc. Straight Lesbian/Straightbian/Lesbihet: A lesbian who is also straight in one or multiple forms of attraction, who is abro and fluctuates between straight and lesbian, or who is non-binary or genderqueer and considers their attraction to be simultaneously straight and lesbian at the same time (ie; a genderfluid person who feels lesbian when they are a woman, and straight when they are a demiboy.) Mono Uranian/Mono Turian/Mono Veldian: A uranian who is only attracted to one type of gender in all forms of attraction that they deem significant enough to label. Mspec Uranian/Mspec Turian/Mspec Veldian: A uranian who is also mspec in one or multiple forms of attraction. Turigirl/Uranigirl: A uranian that connects with the term "girl." This could be a trans woman who was heavily involved in the achillean community before transitioning and remains connected to it, a multigender uranian who is partially a woman, a femme uranian, etc. Straight Uranian/Straight Veldian/Straightcian: A uranian who is also straight in one or multiple forms of attraction, who is abro and fluctuates between straight and uranian, or who is non-binary or genderqueer and considers their attraction to be simultaneously straight and uranian at the same time. Gaybian: A person who is both uranian in one form of attraction and lesbian in another, or who is non-binary or genderqueer and considers their attraction to be simultaneously lesbian and uranian at the same time, or is multigender and considers their attraction to be lesbian or uranian depending on their gender.

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Sex & Gender Terms

[PT: Sex & Gender Terms.]

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Sex Terms

[PT: Sex Terms]

Varsex/Sexqueer: A person with a sex identity or sex traits that are not typical of perisex cissex standards. This includes intersex, dysex, ersex, and transsex.

Perisex (sometimes also called Endosex or Dyadic): A person/creature with the most commonly viewed natal sex traits within their species. For humans, this includes SPETE and SPETA.

SPETE (Someone Perisex Expected To Estrogenize): A perisex person with XX chromosomes, who natally developed a vulva, two average-sized (or large) ovaries, a single average-sized (or large) uterus, two fallopian tubes, and (without the influence of HRT, physical damage, or tumors) is expected to estrogenize (at a typical range) during puberty.

Their vulva will have two labia minora with a clitoral hood, two labia majora, a single pea-sized clitoris, a single moderate (or deep) vaginal entry, and a urethra between the vaginal entry and the clitoris. It may or may not have a hymen that surrounds the vagina, covering it minimally.

SPETA (Someone Perisex Expected To Androgenize): A perisex person with XY chromosomes, who natally developed a moderate (or large) penis, two moderately-sized (or large) testicles within the scrotum, an average-sized prostate, two vas deferens, two average-sized seminal vesicles, and (without the influence of HRT, physical damage, or tumors) is expected to androgenize (at a typical range) during puberty.

Their penis will have a phallus, a scrotum beneath the phallus, foreskin protecting the head of the phallus, and a urethra on the tip of the penis. It is straight or slightly curved when erect.

Cosexual: A species whose perisex standard is being capable of both fertilization and egg production at the same time. (Ie; Snails, slugs, certain fish, etc.)

Dualsex: A species whose perisex standard is having mixed sex traits, typically both a penis and a vagina, though other combinations may apply as well. This usually refers to fictional species.

Intersex: A person/creature with natal sex traits (as in, sex traits that are not from physical damage, surgery, or HRT) that do not fall within their perisex norm. Usually this refers to natal primary sex traits (sex chromosomes, sex hormones, genitalia, and/or reproductive organs), but some people consider natal secondary sex traits (breasts, nipples, etc) to be intersex as well.

(Note: "Inter" does not just mean in-between. Inter can also mean "among" or "to destroy". Therefore, intersex =/= a sex in-between SPETE/SPETA. In humans, intersex can describe a mix of sex traits, but it can also describe small/absent/undeveloped genitals/reproductive organs, genitals/reproductive organs that are split/duplicated, a penis with an atypical appearance, a vulva with an atypical appearance, high sex hormones, low sex hormones, unresponsiveness to sex hormones, "mismatched" sex hormones, "mismatched" sex chromosomes, SRY-negative XY chromosomes, SRY-positive XX chromosomes, more than two sex chromosomes, and/or less than two sex chromosomes.)

SETE (Someone Expected To Estrogenize): A person (perisex or intersex) who (without the influence of HRT, physical damage, or tumors) is expected to estrogenize during puberty. This could be expectation of micro-estrogenization, average estrogenization, or hyperestrogenization. Sometimes, this expectation may be inaccurate, if the person has unpredicted hyperandrogenism or hypoestrogenism.

SETA (Someone Expected To Androgenize): A person (perisex or intersex) who (without the influence of HRT, physical damage, or tumors) is expected to androgenize during puberty. This could be micro-androgization, average androgenization, or hyperandrogenization. Sometimes, this expectation may be inaccurate, if the person has unpredicted hyperestrogenism or hypoandrogenism.

SETAE (Someone Expected To Androestrogenize): A person who (without the influence of HRT, physical damage, or tumors) is expected to have a mix of androgenization and estrogenization during puberty. Sometimes, this expectation may be inaccurate, if the person has unpredicated hypogonadism.

SWPE (Someone Without Puberty Expectations): A person who (without the influence of HRT, physical damage, or tumors), is not expected to experience any puberty. This is usually due to having bilateral gonadal agenesis, or gonads that are fully streaked and/or too small to produce sex hormones, or similar variations.

Dysex: A person with atypical primary sex traits caused by non-natal events (ie; labial hypertrophy from pregnancy, gynecomastia from red fatness, a person with hyperestrogenism from tumors, etc), minor atypicalities in primary sex traits (ie; a minorly bicornuate uterus), or atypical secondary sex traits (ie; extra nipples, no breasts, etc) who does not feel as though the label of "intersex" fits them. This is considered the grey area between intersex and perisex.

Ersex: A person who is unsure of whether they are intersex or perisex, due to physical events that could have changed their sex traits. (Ie; A person who had an accident that could have potentially injured their ovaries, and they have no way to tell if their low levels of estrogen are a result of their accident, or if they have an intersex variation that causes hypoestrogenism.)

(Note: Perisex, intersex, dysex, and ersex are not labels a person can "transition" into, as they describe natal sex, not internal sex identities. So a perisex person cannot "transition to intersex", an intersex person can't have their intersexuality "removed" from them through procedures, etc.)

Cissex: A person who identifies with their natal sex traits.

Transsex: A person who desires sex traits that differs from the ones they natally developed. A person can be transsex while not being transgender.

Transgenital: A transsex identity for people who desire genitals that differ from the ones they natally developed.

Transreproductive (Transrepro): A transsex identity for people who desire reproductive organs that differ from the ones they natally developed. Transgonadal refers specifically to someone who desires different gonads than what they natally developed.

Transhormonal: A transsex identity for people who desire a hormone profile that differs from the one they natally developed.

Altersex: A transsex identity for people who desire sex traits that are mixed, null, or not natally seen within humans. (This identity is sometimes also used by sysmates within systems whose innerworld bodies have those sex traits.) Duomorphic, multisex, nullsex, and xenosex fall under this.

Duomorphic: A person who desires a mixture of sex traits that they did not natally have (ie; a person born with a vulva who desires a penis & vagina together.) You may also hear people using terms like "salmacian" or "aphrodisian" in reference to this identity, however the intersex community finds these terms problematic due to their connection with the origin of the intersexist h-slur. (Read more on that here [link.])

Multisex: A person who identifies as multiple sexes at the same time.

Sexnull: A person who feels that their sex is best described as lacking or absent, or who desires for their sex traits to be null.

Xenosex: A person who feels that their sex is best described through concepts, objects, or nonhumans.

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Gender Terms

[PT: Gender Terms]

Genderqueer: A person whose gender or gender presentation is queer in some sense.

Transgender: A person who identifies differently from the gender socially imposed upon them and/or whose sense of gender differs from the cultural norms around them.

Cisgender: A person who identifies with the gender socially imposed upon them and/or whose sense of gender is aligned with the cultural norms around them.

Ultergender: An intersex person who identifies against the gender assigned to them at birth, while not necessarily feeling as though "transgender" applies to them (possibly due to being reassigned a gender later in life, or due to experiencing coercive intersex medical interventions, such as genital mutilation, reproductive mutilation, hormone abuse, etc.)

Ipsogender: An intersex person who identifies with the gender assigned to them at birth, while not necessarily feeling as though "cisgender" applies to them (possibly due to being reassigned a gender later in life, or due to experiencing coercive medical interventions.)

Intergender: A person who feels like their intersexuality impacts the way they view their gender.

Non-binary: A person who isn't a monogender binary man or monogender binary woman. This can be an umbrella term for all genders (or lack thereof) that stray from a monogendered binary, or it could be used as a lone identity. A non-binary person is an enban/enby (used like man/woman) and a group of non-binary people are enben/enbies.

sickbitterandcoveredinglitter

Like a month ago I messaged a craft group about accessibility for wheelchairs and the answer I got was “there’s a lot of stairs but we have cute boys who can carry you”. And it’s…not good. As a wheelchair bound person I largely depend on people when I want to go out and do *anything* so I’m used to it, I laugh it off, make an annoyed post about it and off I go. But I wanna just say a thing real quick.

Even if I wasn’t gay, wasn’t a survivor scared of men, getting help as a disabled person is just…Not a pleasant thing to us! Imagine for a sec how you’d feel being carried up a flight of stairs. You’re a grown person. You’re being touched in an awkward way. You’d rather do it yourself. You’re So Uncomfortable. It’s not where I look for the beginning of a romantic relationship. So like…could abled people stop doing this thing where they think helping us in a condescending and infantilizing way is cute? Cause I’m real tired. Just get me a ramp or lift and I’m cool. I don’t need a dating service when I’m just trying to go about my day

sickbitterandcoveredinglitter

If you’re abled please reblog it cause like…the more ppl knows the better

this-is-infantilization

This is infantilization of disabled people (here specifically of wheelchair users).

To further explain this to abled people. This situation isn’t a moment of “oh I’m in danger and this is basically a prince charming saving me!” —which in most cases is also extremely awkward/stress inducing as most tend to be in very bad conditions emotionally/physically, it’s mostly a fantasy situation/something that if done by someone you already like/love/have a crush on you’ll like. — but it’s a moment where the disabled person has to repeat this situation again as they aren’t being accommodated for. It’s always going to be repeated ocurrance if we don’t fight for accommodations and accessibility.

It’s not fun to lose autonomy because of lack of accessibility. It’s not fun to have to do this actions that are commonly done and expected to be done alone forcefully with help when you could have done it if you were accommodated. Especially considering this is recurrent. This is going to repeat itself with that specific situation and with others. It’s a constant loss of autonomy and independence.

aprilbrowines

THIS IS IMPORTANT!!!!

KOSA IS MOVING FORWARD IN THE HOUSE!

It's part of a package called the KIDS Act, filled with digital ID and age verification and censorship!

MAKE THOSE PHONES RING!! CALL YOUR HOUSE REPRESENTATIVES ALL WEEK

202-224-3121 i HIGHLY encourage everyone to read the bills in the KIDS Act, because you will be doing more than 95% of people who read and introduce these bills

thisrobothasnosoul

All of the bad internet bills. One website.

nothorses

Crucially, this is being led by a lot of Democrats. This is not just Republicans sneaking bullshit in while they have the power to simply not listen to anyone; your democratic representatives will continue to co-sponsor and speak in support of this unless they know you, their voters, do not want them to.

this-is-whorephobia

i genuinely hate the fact that being a sex worker is legal but paying for their services isnt.

and i was talking to my roommate abt it and she says it's to deal w trafficking but i don't see how it does. she also said that the majority of sex workers are trafficking victims and that the workers for whom it's just a job are a minority? is that true?

Hi, and thank you so much for your question!

This form of "legalized sex work" is known as the Nordic model and is actually not what sex workers want or advocate for! Sex workers push for decriminalization! Let's go over what the differences are!

The Nordic model: "[aka] The Entrapment Model refers to the theory that criminalizing clients and third parties (e.g., managers) will reduce demand in the sex trade, thereby “freeing” sex workers, who are often seen as victims. This framework has vocal proponents among certain prohibitionist feminists, but its impact has been devastating where it has been implemented. Unambiguous data shows a clear correlation between laws that criminalize clients and an increase in violence against sex workers, sexually transmitted infections (STIs), and exploitation within the sex trade. While the Entrapment Model may seem enticing in theory, it’s impossible to create a safe environment for sex workers and their clients when one side of the transaction is criminalized." (source: https://decriminalizesex.work/why-decriminalization/#:~:text=The%20Entrapment%20Model%20refers,the%20transaction%20is%20criminalized. )

What can legalized sex work look like in practice?

"Mandatory registration with the government as a sex worker

Licensing requirements for sex work establishments and sex workers

Restrictions on the number of sex work establishments allowed

Discriminatory zoning and location restrictions dictating where sex workers can work, excluding areas such as residential zones, and areas near schools and businesses

Mandatory HIV and STI testing and treatment in government health facilities

Restrictions on advertising These regulations undermine sex workers’ human rights by restricting where sex workers can live and work, violating their privacy and bodily autonomy, and placing extra burdens on them which do not apply to other workers. In this way, legalisation does not treat sex work as a form of work like any other, but as a special form of work that needs to be heavily controlled and monitored by the state."

(souce: https://www.nswp.org/sites/default/files/guide_to_legal_models_english_prf04.pdf )

Why should we decriminalize sex work instead?

"Decriminalizing sex work means that consenting adults who buy or sell sex are not committing a crime. With the decriminalization of prostitution, there would, of course, still be laws against trafficking, rape, violence, and sex work involving minors."

(source: https://decriminalizesex.work/why-decriminalization/ )

Now as far as the overlap between the number of sex workers and trafficking victims, it's important we know these terms are not interchangeable, and also why someone might be both a victim of human trafficking and choose to be a sex worker. Definition of a sex worker:

"Sex workers include female, male, trans and gender diverse adults, and young people (over 18 years of age) who receive money or goods in exchange for sexual services, either regularly or occasionally."

Definition of human trafficking:

"Trafficking means the recruitment, transportation, transfer, harbouring or receipt of persons, by means of the threat or use of force or other forms of coercion, of abduction, of fraud, of deception, of the abuse of power or of a position of vulnerability or the giving or receiving of payments or benefits to achieve the consent of a person having control over another person, for the purpose of exploitation."

(source: https://www.nswp.org/sites/default/files/terminology_guide_english_prf03.pdf )

Sex workers participate in selling of consensual sexual services, while victims of human trafficking are being abused. This being said, some people who have experienced human trafficking do choose to become sex workers for many reasons, but even if their reason is linked to their past, consensual work does not equal abuse. There is no real way to know the exact number of overlap between these two groups of people, as collecting accurate data on either group is difficult to begin with, not to mention the conflation of the two muddies the waters further.

If you'd like more reading/resources on this here are more links:

Here are some helpful links, articles, and reference materials relating to sex worker rights and the decriminalization of sex work

The Entrapment Model, also known as the Nordic Model, or Equality Model, refers to the theory that criminalizing clients and third parties.

https://www.nswp.org/sites/default/files/en_challenging_the_nordic_model.pdf

https://www.nswp.org/sites/default/files/guide_to_legal_models_english_prf04.pdf

https://www.nswp.org/sites/default/files/10-reasons-decriminalize-sex-work-20150410_0.pdf

https://www.nswp.org/sites/default/files/terminology_guide_english_prf03.pdf

There are many popular myths about trafficking -- frequently voiced in the media and by government officials -- that have distorted proper u

left-lateral-incisor

People with NPD deserve a wonderful dessert of their choice.

People with HPD deserve a wonderful dessert of their choice.

People with ASPD deserve a wonderful dessert of their choice.

People with BPD deserve a wonderful dessert of their choice.

People with AvPD deserve a wonderful dessert of their choice.

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People with SzPD deserve a wonderful dessert of their choice.

People with STPD deserve a wonderful dessert of their choice.

Sanists die by my blade and eat shit.

self-harm-harm-reduction

Happy disability pride month to people with mental health disabilities

Happy disability pride month to Mad people

Happy disability pride month to people whose disability was caused or worsened by psychiatric meds

Happy disability pride month to people who caused or worsened their own disabilities

Happy disability pride month to people who self-harm

Happy disability pride month to people with eating disorders

Happy disability pride month to people who use substances

Happy disability pride month to people with self-injuries stims

Happy disability pride month to people with trichotillomania, dermatillomania, and other body focused repetitive behaviours

Happy disability pride month to people with self imposed factitious disorder/munchausen syndrome

Happy disability pride month to people with BIID

Happy disability pride month everyone!!

only-knives

harm reduction is ANY positive change

you can practice harm reduction while still using substances! changing your substance use directly is a great way to reduce harm - tapering down, using a safe supply, not mixing substances together, etc - but it's also okay if that's not where you're at.

there are so many other parts of your life that you can still bring positive change to. you can engage in hobbies more. you can be more cost-effective when you buy substances. you can practice self-compassion. you can clean your living space.

anything in your life that you can make work better for you counts as harm reduction. anything you add that gives you joy safely counts as harm reduction. any habits you kick that have held you back counts as harm reduction.

you don't have to be abstinent to start recovery. you are allowed to exist as a full person outside of your substance use. you matter, and you are the expert on you. you deserve to be proud of yourself for any of your accomplishments, no matter what anyone else says or thinks!

gracehasaspacesuitquestion

Please read this because it is EXTREMELY important me (a transgender man) and to other trans individuals.

The US Government is currently trying to pass an incredibly dangerous national law for trans youth called HR 2616.

This bill would ban all Federally funded schools from teaching about gender identity or sexual orientation, prevent teachers from using the correct pronouns and names for trans students, remove books with any trans representation in them, and even go as far as to prevent teachers from acknowledging trans identity AT ALL.

Any school that does not follow this will lose all federal funding. This bill would also require teachers to forcibly out trans students to their families, which would be fatal to any trans student with a transphobic Family or just hateful family in general. Trans people are already a group that already has some of the highest rates of being victim to suicide, domestic violence, and sexual assault.

This bill actively makes teachers put those innocent children at such a big risk. This bill has rapidly passed the house this week with support from all 209 republicans, as well as 8 democrats. But, it's still being voted on in the senate, which means there is still time to help stop this.

To help stop this, you can visit 5calls.org (look up 2616 in the search bar), one of the most top issues filed Oppose Attacks on LGBTQ+ Students. Once you put in your general location, it will pull-up contact information for your senator, and give you a script for calling them.

If you are a minor and/or do not feel comfortable doing this, PLEASE repost this on here, or any other platform you are on/can find! This needs to be heard and fought against.

Thank you for reading this, my lovely people!

(My moots/friends that I'm tagging: @syrupppppppppp @s4pphicfurryr4ve2769 @starstarstarrystar @histrynerdss @billiloveyouso @ultimatebikergangleader69 @trixthemagemain @otlantispearlxox @jaxwithabow)

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