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will never not be bitter about how much revisionism the “sfw agere” community did to the kink community. will never not be mad that they treat us like predatory stains on society when their community was only created to rebrand nonsexual ageplay and give minors an “okay” to publicly engage in bdsm. will never not be mad that there is no place for us here anymore because of them.
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but they won. they get to be able to proudly wear OUR fetish gear (onesies/adult pacifiers/abdl diapers+) and call their partners parental names and get infantilized while acting like what they’re doing is entirely divorced from ageplay because they get to slap a big ugly banner on all of their posts detailing all the people and groups they view as subhuman (and people are supposed to think you are a safe and trustworthy individual for doing so)
they get to be proud of it while we have to hide ourselves in shame, worry about the next termination, face endless amounts of harassment, doxxing, mass reporting. we bear the full brunt of the stigma and danger that comes with being our authentic selves. while they get a free pass to acceptance as long as they explain it in all the therapized language they can, and make sure to explicitly shun those Weirdos that have Nothing in common with them!
they steal our terms (little/littlespace), even our fucking community names (putting “re” at the end of cgl, taking the dom part out of ddlg and mdlb), they buy our fetish gear, post about sucking their pacis and pissing their diapers and having a daddy, steal our content to repost and put in “sfw moodboards,” copy our posts and fantasies almost word for word, rip off our aesthetics entirely
and they do all of this while actively encouraging minors to do it publicly and engage in power exchange dynamics, telling them it’s entirely safe, and that the gross ageplayers are actually the predators and unsafe individuals.
when all we wanted was to keep our communities safe and minor free. the “sfw agere” community bullshit was only fucking invented out of a personal vendetta against ageplayers on tumblr in 2015-2016 who said that no, you cant be in our community while you are underage. grow up and come back. and what do they do? they make a fucking community where it’s acceptable for minors to publicly ageplay and post themselves in fucking fetish gear while looking for mommies and daddies!!!! get real you guys
and they KNOW their community has no real basis, no real history or grounds to exist. thats why they have to trip over themselves backwards with their excuses. “but my coping mechanism! but im doing it nonsexually! i cant cope any other way except spending hundreds on fetish gear to emulate ageplay aesthetics online!! i just have to wear diapers and suck on pacifiers and have power exchange with my partner because i just have to! it could never be a kinky thing! it’s not like i ENJOY being infantilized! thats totally not why i have aesthetically curated blogs dedicated to my lifestyle! you weirdos would never get it!”
if you’re an ageplayer you need to get madder and louder about this shit. we have been so fucking utterly wronged that i can’t even put into words how unfair this is. they stole our community, our everything, and outcasted us from our own spaces. theyre convincing a generation of gullible mentally ill youth that innocent consenting adults are a DANGER to society and shouldnt be trusted and actively shunned away. the youth have been getting increasingly conservative and reactionary towards sexuality and there is a NON ZERO chance that this isnt partially related to it. truly dangerous mentality we’ve reached here
they’ve spent the last ten years calling ageplayers pedophiles, predators, groomers, weirdos, unsafe, degenerate, and the list goes on. i csnt even count all the vile abuses this community has spewed upon us. all because some impressionable fucking teenagers got really into ddlg aesthetics in the mid 2010s and wanted to drink from bottles and shit and got mad when we told them they can’t be doing that shit online when they’re underage. thats literally fucking it. “age regression” as the phenomenon they’ve invented NEVER existed before this. the only people talking about regression before were ageplayers and medical professionals regarding people with dementia and severe cognitive impairment. literally invented overnight so they could justify being minors in kink somehow.
(i am not saying that regression is not a real thing, but it is Not what the “sfw agere” community makes it out to be. im talking about the community/specific echo chamber thst exists here on tumblr and migrated elsewhere. not “regression” as a concept. also ageplayers regress. we’ve been doing it. the two terms have historically been pretty much synonymous with each other since the ageplay community has existed but that’s another discussion)
i cant say it enough: if youre an ageplayer you need to get louder and prouder about it now more than ever. we can still resist this before it’s entirely too late.
and if you’re a “sfw age regressor” you NEED to acknowledge where your community came from, give your respects to the people who came far before you, and advocate for us. find some solidarity with us. we are literally no different. please. dont leave us in the dust. we are so fucking vulnerable now and none of us ever deserved this, only for the crime of playing pretend with consenting adults. start correcting people and calling them out on their bullying behaviors. yall have let it run rampant for far too long. honestly i encourage you to just distance yourself entirely from that community as it’s unsafe and shouldnt exist but i know thats not exactly easy nowadays. there aren’t really any good “in between” spaces that exist. it’s better to align loyally to one community or just keep it private tbh there’s nothing wrong with that. regression/ageplay/whatever is a vulnerable state that you should be skeptical about being so open with online.
but i will say this, there has always been room for nonsexual ageplay in the ageplay community. always. that’s what we’ve always been trying to say. that just because you’re doing it nonsexually doesn’t mean you’re not a kinkster, but it also doesn’t make it minor safe. but not a lot of people listened. they entertained “sfw agere” for way too long that it actually entered popular culture and people fully believe that it’s a Real thing functionally separate from ageplay. no one knows anymore that it was originally created as a subset of nonsexual ageplay open to minors. and it’s so fucking frustrating. i feel like i’m the only one who is aware of it and notices the glaring elephant in the room.
and the worst part? there’s no fucking evidence for this anymore. the porn ban OBLITERATED every post in the ageplay and agere tags pre 2018. if you want to find proof of this you would have to go find blogs that are 10+ years old that havemt deactivated yet and piece together bits and pieces from whatever discourse they reblogged about it. thats the only evidence that exists now about the true origins of the agere community and its all fucking buried. but i know! i was there! i saw it and i fell for it!!! i was one of the minors interested in kink who went to their side, fully believing i was doing the morally correct thing, while parroting abuse and misinformation about kinksters. that should have never been allowed to happen and im fucking pissed about it.
oh actually there is this abomination i forgot about. one of the very first (if not THE first) agere communities to exist. this should tell you enough.
yeah. and this community still exists btw and is very active. minors calling themselves littles and using littlespace while adults tell them it’s fine. “non-kink cgl.” let that sink in for a minute. tell me how what you’re doing is any different from ageplay because youve done nothing to show it except virtue signal and hide behind your diagnoses to escape accountability. anyways im out because i made myself mad with all of this.
i have a really big mean discourse thing in my drafts about “sfw agere” and i just don’t know if i should post it or where or if it’s even worth it. it’s just me yelling into the void and i don’t think itll strike a chord with as many people as i want it to
it’s always astonishing how often i see “age regression is never a kink! it’s always sfw!” because like. you do realize that ageplayers have been using regression since forever right. you do realize that age regression has been a kink long before you were even born. ageplayers have been regressing, y’all dont get a monopoly on this just bc a bunch of minors in kink showed up ten years ago and tacked “sfw” in front of a tag and acted like the grand authority (literally how y’all’s community was born, no one was talking abt regression outside of ageplayers and medical contexts obviously)
the sfw agere community has done too much revisionism and blurring of the lines than im comfortable with and we really need to have a conversation about it
imo everyone is too concerned about differentiating regression and ageplay into two functionally different experiences when most of the time it’s impossible because the two overlap so much and get intertwined all the time. most ageplayers are regressing and most regressors are ageplaying.
if this is an uncomfortable conversation to be having, you should not be acting as an authority figure and being concerned about separating these two things in any meaningful way. youre just not ready to be in these spaces so get out of them.
yall actually havw long lasting effects on our community when you say shit youre not 100% confident or educated about and im so sick of it. especially since yall were not here first.
it’s always astonishing how often i see “age regression is never a kink! it’s always sfw!” because like. you do realize that ageplayers have been using regression since forever right. you do realize that age regression has been a kink long before you were even born. ageplayers have been regressing, y’all dont get a monopoly on this just bc a bunch of minors in kink showed up ten years ago and tacked “sfw” in front of a tag and acted like the grand authority (literally how y’all’s community was born, no one was talking abt regression outside of ageplayers and medical contexts obviously)
the sfw agere community has done too much revisionism and blurring of the lines than im comfortable with and we really need to have a conversation about it
i bring a “dni lists only exist as a form of virtue signaling and if you really cared youd just block people without saying anything” vibe to the function that people really don’t like
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