annoyed fem

the url is a lie

[kindradical]

There are many things to hate in the mindset that false accusations ruin mens lives. But one thing in particular that drives me insane is that, true accusations can ruin both his life, and mine.

And I don't think people ever think about how difficult is to come forward, how traumatising it is to have to beg to be believed over and over and over again. I'm constantly at risk of being blamed, my reputation still is questioned. But no one talks about how even the fact of accusing someone of something they did, can ruin you in the process. Because its not only the rape that ruins lives of victims, it's society's reaction too.

[kindradical]

People sometimes say they believe - because of course if you don't youre a bad person, right? - but they don't really want to. Its uncomfortable to them to admit such thing, and so they'd rather humiliate and abuse the victim than to accept rape is something that happens and it happened to someone they know.

Because its difficult to, and there's virtually no social script for that, so they push it away. Or they look for excuses how it was a 'misunderstanding' or how 'she wanted it and then regretted'. Without as much as a single thought that if a woman is going to the police, or telling her family and friends it'll cost her a lot too. She'll be disbelieved, her reputation is at risk, her friends might turn their backs on her. She can be called a liar, a whore, and everything in between and more.

Why on earth do they think women will willy-nilly go through all that, risk so much (because even if you have perfect experience and everyone is supportive and they believe you - you will still be forever branded by that, there will be this discomfort in the back of their mind always) just so she could what? Ruin a mans life, even though true accusations rarely do? Excuse herself from cheating? Do they really think we're this stupid or sociopathic to use rape accusations as a tool of social manipulations? Even though everything in society is wired *against* us, so why on earth use something that puts you in a harms way so much?

[goth-queen]

[schoolbookdepository]

mesopotamia, iraq

[longnuts]

Does anyone know what to do

[princecarlton]

[gluten-free-pussy]

Swinging at the hornets nest here (the “sex work is work” crowd won’t like this one lol) but there was a post going around about like “if you work in hospitality and you think you see a sex worker, no you didn’t. Keep your mouth shut and let them make their money” is honestly sending me. As many of you know, one of my jobs is working front desk at a hotel and like no lads…we can’t “look the other way” at times. Yes, we know when the working girls check in (many are regulars who are open about it, plus after working their long enough you Know™️ when a woman is because you can clock the signs) and of course we can’t stop them but there are times when you literally have to say something. Here are a couple of instances that have happened on my shifts alone:

-I was checking in two girls and knew something was off and asked to see both their ID’s. Only one had a passport and her 18th birthday was literally a week ago. The other one handed me her high school student card. We had to call the police when their pimp came in and started making threats bc we refused to check them in.

-a sex worker checked in the night before and a housekeeper went into the room the next morning and found the woman in a bloody mess. There were chunks of human tissue scattered throughout the room (the housekeeper quit after that. Honestly, housekeepers are literally on the front lines of the bullshit but that’s another story)

-something about a “couple” was offfffffff at check in. The woman was standing with her hands behind her back, had her eyes glued to the floor, and wouldn’t answer questions despite her name being on the reservation. The man was answering for her. When I asked to see her ID, he hands it to me, and when I handed it to her, her arms were covered in bruises. We didn’t let them check in

-there are two properties and one of them has an agreement with a women’s shelter. I’ve checked in women into one property only to see them come in months later to the other property under the womens shelters’ reservation with bruises and broken limbs (many of whom are indigenous women).

So yeah bottom line: with the World Cup soon approaching, all of us -front desk, maintenance, housekeeping, the kitchen staff, sales, you name it all departments- have had to do extensive modules on clocking the signs of human trafficking. You can’t just look the other way because it can mean missing the underaged girl or preventing horrific violence. Yes we have our regulars and yes sometimes it is what it is but no you can’t just look the other way and let them “secure the bag” because I guarantee there’s a pimp in the lobby/parking lot who’s the one getting the bag at her expense.

[neatlyvaliantchampion]

I just realized that the term "penetrative sex" strips women who participate in it off of agency and focuses solely on male perspective of things. If such sex was framed from a woman's perspective, it'd be called something like "enfolding sex" or "encasing sex", as if the woman attaches her vagina, which is an autonomous organ that doesn't need to be filled in order to be complete, onto something unnecessary. Kinda like grabbing a rock with your hand or something. We: 1) fully acknowledge our active participation in the process of grabbing a rock; 2) fully realize that our palms are complete, autonomous organs without a rock in them – and that's why we don't say that a rock enters, or penetrates, our hands, we say that we actively grab it, or encase it.

[lezkissgifs]

La Petite Dernière (2025) dir. Hafsia Herzi

[shewolfbite]

Trans issues are not gay, lesbian or bisexual issues. Not even close. And should not be in the same discussion. Sexuality is not a gender topic. The rights of LGB people should always be separate from T people.

LGB.

[gendiebrainrotreceipts]

[emeritusprofessorofnothing]

Man, these kids bum me the fuck out.

[pussy-in-biome]

Here's an example of how the normalization of patriarchal beauty standards hurts us all. Im perfectly able to believe that this person has never seen a woman with a happy trail, even though plenty of us have them naturally (I have one myself). The fact that the vast majority of women are removing this totally natural, harmless feature makes women feel like freaks for having it themselves.

[evenif-iwantedto]

[teawiththegods]

Thanks to my ADHD medication (sorry I keep mentioning it but it REALLY has been life changing for me! 🥹) I was able to clean my kitchen finally and give Demeter and Hestia their counter space back!

Now I just need to take care of Aphrodite’s altar in my bedroom. It’s such a mess unfortunately. I feel so bad! I’m sorry Dite! 🥺

I think I also want to create a mini shrine for Apollo on my desk since my first summer class starts this week! 🫠

[hedyke-remaking]

[cakedupwhiteboy]

this scared my cat so bad he bigged his tail about it

[oliviambensons]

Mariska Hargitay for People.

[doingitatmybirthdaydinner]

if i had a superpower, i would like to erase the phrase “organic strap” from the minds of every single person on earth. if lesbians can like and enjoy “organic strap”, which is just a real life penis attached to a male, why were strap-ons ever invented in the first place? seriously think about that, think about how tiny the lesbian dating pool is, and how slutty males are and how they will sleep with anything with a vagina, and then think about why a woman would go out of her way to find a lesbian sexual partner and purchase and use a strap on when she’s capable of being attracted to actual penises and males. that’s a lot of work, when she could probably find an “organic strap” haver who would sleep with her in about 10 minutes on a dating app. is it perhaps because lesbians are only attracted to women? that whole concept makes no sense, strap-ons were not created as a pitiful stand in for the “real thing”. there is no shortage of the real thing, 50% of the population have them! if lesbians wanted and liked real dick, we could get it a lot easier than getting a lesbian partner and a strap-on. strap-ons represent a LACK of attraction to actual men. you literally sound like the conservative homophobes under masc/femme lesbian couples posts who ask them why don’t just get with a “real man” who has the “real thing” instead of being with a masculine woman and using a strap-on. “if one of the girls has a strap naturally” no girl has a penis, and no one has a natural strap on, because a strap on is not a natural organic set of genitals. it is an inanimate object purchased at a sex shop and taken home in a bag. quite different to an entire male body, which lesbians are not attracted to. this shit actually makes me depressed. the lesbian community is absolutely fried

“if you like strap why not just use organic strap?”

okay if a straight guy likes his girlfriend to peg him, why not just let another man fuck him in the ass with an actual penis? probably because he isn’t attracted to men!!! probably because of that!!!! this is literally what you’re saying to lesbians!!!!

if gay guys like anal sex, why not just do anal sex with a woman? because they aren’t attracted to women!!!! no one ever asks this to gay men though. funny how that works.

LESBIANS DON’T LIKE PENIS!!!! LESBIANS NOT LIKING MEN WAS LITERALLY THE CATALYST FOR THE INVENTION OF STRAP-ONS!!! STRAP-ONS DO NOT DISPROVE THE EXISTENCE OF FEMALE HOMOSEXUALS!!!

[doingitatmybirthdaydinner]

see, like this. this is y’all but with a “progressive” spin

[kindradical]

I'd also add the 'not my business, i don't care' attitude. Its such a privileged take. Of course someone who has never had their sexuality invalidated or who never had to worry about having their life at risk because of their homosexuality. Or of a person who doesn't have to worry about being labelled a terf for not sleeping with someone they're not attracted to. This is the most ignorant you can get imho. Because you're not only showing lack of sympathy for a vulnerable minority, you're *proud* of it.

I genuinely hate this and how it gives people free get out of jail card. TRAs love to cite this poem 'first they came for communists and I stayed silent...' etc, but this is exactly what they're doing, they stay silent. People are against conversion therapy rhetorics and all they can say is 'not my business' and be fine with their cruelty. Because I do think its cruel to tell someone 'i dont care' when they're trying to bring attention to dangerous ideas. that are promoted in posts like these.

Sorry, I'm just rambling here, but this attitude is infuriating to me precisely because it makes lack of sympathy seem to be a progressive stance

[catsofyore]

This is one of my favorite sets in my collection. Somewhere out there in the 1960s, a kitten and bird were pals. 💕

[pillarsalt]

LGBeetles

[rollinrockabilly]

[uncomfortablecliche]

“our surrogate” you mean the mother? the impoverished mother you paid to grow a baby you could take? you mean the mom whose baby you bought? who can’t afford to keep her baby she just created with her own body? okie dokie

[achapstickdyke]

human trafficking but make it progressive 👍🏽