Kitty Bandit

✰ Queer ✰ INFJ ✰ Scorpio ✰ D.Gray-man Fic Writer ✰ OFFICIALLY CROWNED Queen of Laven Smut ✰ PRO-SHIP ✰ ANTI-CENSORSHIP ✰ Follow LETSPLEASURETOGETHER, LAVENLOVERS, & DGRAYRAREPAIR for DGM content! ✰ If you like my fanfiction, please consider donating to my Ko-Fi!

[kitty-bandit]

Welcome to my main blog! I post all my fanfiction here, as well as a smattering of aesthetic, anime, and writing related posts. Occasional discourse and shitposting occurs. Sometimes I post pictures of my pets and knitting.

Check out my writing on AO3! If you like what I write, please consider donating to my ko-fi so I can keep it up!

I do fanfiction commissions and fic/book binding commissions.

If you’re into D.Gray-man, please check out my DGM specific blogs:

@letspleasuretogether - General DGM posts and reblogs

@lavenlovers - Lavi x Allen specific blog. Laven Week is hosted on this blog every August.

@dgrayrarepair - DGM RarePair Week event blog. RarePair Week is hosted on this blog every October.

@dgraymanbigbang - DGM Big Bang event blog. On indefinite hiatus.

Reminder: Fancops can see themselves out the door. This space is not for you.

[lianedegrenade]

people really do have such short memories about lots of things but specifically gay sex was a crime in much of the usa less than 25 years ago like i remember it and gay marriage wasn’t legalized until 11 years ago and i was a grown woman waiting to get my hair cut when i found out. on a beautiful june day!!!

[thestuffedalligator]

A regular part of my job is trying to reach out to people who have been quietly trying to make their community a better place; the volunteers, the teachers, the fucking. People who rehabilitate injured wild owls in a Quonset hut in the woods, and to a one this is the kind of person who immediately reviles at recognition. The kind of person who immediately says that they never got into this to get praise for it, and that they’d infinitely prefer to quietly plug away at this anonymously forever.

And from this I’ve always drawn two conclusions:

To always distrust Mr. Beast and his ilk who always want their acts of charity done on film, because the people who really want to do good and have no motives to do it besides the doing it never want recognition for it, and

That there are, in the dark, in the quiet, always people who are doing good, and the reason you don’t hear about it is because they’d rather die than receive recognition for it, but they’re real; they do exist. And you are never alone

[ineffectualdemon]

Every time I apply my oestrogen gel because of menopause I think "there is a trans woman somewhere who is also sitting in her underwear post shower waiting for the gel to dry before she finishes getting dressed" and I feel happy and a sense of kinship and camaraderie with her even though I am not a trans woman or even trans femme in anyway

But I know how to apply the gel because I saw posts from trans women how to apply it and I feel that even though are reasons for using it are different that we are not so different

So for any woman or non binary person out there who are sitting post oestrogen gel application and scrolling on their phone as they wait for it to dry...we are doing this together and this genderqueer person lovee you

[alchemistdoctor]

I am begging you. Please learn about stress/discomfort tolerance. Practice raising it. You need this to survive. If someone online can ruin your day with a throwaway comment, you desperately need to understand discomfort tolerance and consciously, systematically build that shit.

Also! Stress tolerance is such an important skill that having a learning disability in that area is a major symptom of a whole lot of other disabilities/mental illnesses! Struggling with it is a huge part of life! It sucks!

Am I saying everyone with misophonia needs to listen to chewing noises all day? No. But you need to find ways to tolerate it enough that you don't treat others like shit if they make a mouth noise near you.

No, you don't have to read the fic with your trigger tags. But you do need to be able to handle scrolling past the tags without being upset.

It is hard! But not having it also makes you so so so easy to manipulate. That grandma is racist AF because her mom raised her to be uncomfortable around black people and she never fought that discomfort. Trans people make so many cis people uncomfortable and that discomfort turns into bigotry real fast.

Letting your discomfort dictate your actions and beliefs about things is a great way to become a terrible person. Learn. Discomfort. Tolerance.

[buttertoothbrushvanillafloss]

As a preschool teacher, this is a skill you need for parenting. I cannot tell you how many kids I work with who are having an incredibly hard time because their parents don’t have the distress tolerance skills to cope with being a parent. I have so many kiddos who parents never let them be distressed (swooping in as soon as they’re crying, fixing natural consequences, flexing boundaries) because they themselves do not have the skills to cope with a crying child. This also sets their kid up to not have any distress tolerance skills of their own because they don’t see them practiced by adults and have no opportunities practice it themselves.

[bidyke]

PSA: When therapists receive bisexual clients and try to convince them that they’re actually gay or straight, that’s conversion therapy.

This has happened to so many people I know it’s not even funny.

[lucythechatterbox-blog]

[snip]

[escapingadulthood]

No but!!!!!!! This happened to me!!!!!!!!!! It really did!!!!!!!!!! The MOMENT I said that I was bisexual my (very new) therapist stated that “in her professional opinion bisexuality doesn’t exist,” to which I firmly replied that I am indeed bisexual and have been since coming out and had no intent on changing that. Then she had the nerve to ask if maybe a past toxic relationship with a man lead me to believe I was a lesbian, to which I corrected her and stated that I was not a lesbian. I’m bi. And that no, it had nothing to do with that. Long story short I felt very uncomfortable talking to her and stopped seeing her after another session specifically because of that and one other incident that happened the following session. It made me feel like shit, though, hearing that my identity was not valid in “her professional opinion.”

[a-little-bi-furious]

In my professional opinion your therapist is a complete asshat. I wish I could say this was a uncommon thing but sadly I’ve heard many similar horror stories from bi people in therapy, here’s a guide on how to find a i-competant therapist here, as well as links to classifieds for bi-friendly therapists.

It doesn’t help that bisexuality was officially part of the diagnostic criteria for a lot of conditions such as borderline personality disorder up until quite recently, hell it still can be found listed as a “symptom of mental illness” in a lot of psychology texts today and privately by a lot of therapists’ confirmation biases.

[bidyke]

JFC, I did not know that O.O

[infiniteglitterfall]

Reblogging for that last bit. 

I was just saying yesterday that it was fucked up that one of the original reasons that the movement and its various organizations has almost always said gay and maybe lesbian, never bi or trans, was that everyone was fighting to get homosexuality out of the DSM. Have it stop being classified as a mental illness. 

And yet the very instant it was removed, trans people were plugged right in to fill the void. And the movement shrugged and wandered off. 

But I didn’t realize that bisexuality was also plugged in there. Or that they had gotten smart enough to realize that they couldn’t get away with putting it in as a disorder on its own, and instead wove it in throughout as a “symptom of mental illness” and a symptom of lots of different specific disorders. 

This is why I am not here for people who act like bi people don’t face any real oppression, don’t have specific problems that the gay community no longer faces or has not faced. 

Because this stuff is shoved so far under the carpet that WE’RE still in the “holy shit” phase about it. You know – back in the utter dawn of time, when you knew what kinds of abuse and discrimination YOU had faced coming out, but you didn’t know, say, that in the next state over there was a huge, well-choreographed police brutality problem against people like you, or that the next city over had numerous laws specifically targeting people like you, or whatever. And then you’d start meeting people like you and hearing about their stuff and going, “Holy shit!!” And eventually a movement emerged. 

We’re still in that “Holy shit!!” phase, after decades of fighting solely for things that also (or sometimes only) affect gay and trans people. Because we’re scattered and depoliticized and silenced, to the point that non-bi people don’t even know what’s been silenced and erased. (And usually we don’t either.) 

[scxrlet64]

He picked up smoking to accentuate his cheek hollows.

[kitty-bandit]

I broke the damned pop-socket off my phone again!

How am I supposed to comfortably read smut on AO3? This is an outrage.

[kitty-bandit]

I know I haven’t posted much personal stuff here in a while, but here is my umbrella swift for winding yarn. I painted it rainbow because I could and now I’m in love with it. 🌈🌈🌈

[cowboyhatesithere]

Daily gratitude

I don’t have kids

I don’t spend money on nicotine

I don’t gamble my money away on sports

I’m not reliant on a chat bot for all my life functions

My books/CDs/DVDs collection is plentiful

[girlikeahole]

morning/night person is a false dichotomy because its impossible to have any energy at any point of the day

[poetry-protest-pornography]

This is the best one

[ruffboi-mags]

(in case anyone needs context, since i know there's a bunch of younguns who didn't even know the "It's gonna be May" meme... The song playing is NSync's song "It's Gonna Be Me", the guy in the mint green t-shirt is NSync member Lance Bass, and the guy in the pink hoodie is his husband Michael.)

[elephino-but-i-need-a-name]

I need to you all to know that the original caption for this is : “POV your friend mispronounces a word once and now it’s a national holiday.”

[estrogirlie]

call-out post for my 5 year old cousin:

i just caught her “playing pretend” with her hot wheels and simulating high speed car crashes. not only is this disrespectful to people who have died or been injured in a car crash, but it also likely indicates that she will go on to intentionally cause car crashes in the future. please everyone reach out to her friends, extended family, and possible future employers to let them know she’s an irredeemable monster and is contributing to real world harm!

[andhumanslovedstories]

There’s an emotion only unlocked when you live in a house with multiple stories. I call it “the stair emotion” and it’s when you realize the object you need is on the other side of yet another trip up and down those goddamn stairs. It’s the closest I get to transcending the desire for material goods. Maybe I don’t need that notebook. Maybe I don’t need anything.

[angryschnauzer]

Happy April 25th Everyone. Remember your light jacket.

[moonbasealpha]

[ID: an image set of the interview scene from miss congeniality. cheryl fraiser (miss rhode island) is told, "describe your perfect date." she responds, "that's a tough one. i'd have to say april 25th. because it's not too hot and not too cold. all you need is a light jacket." /end ID.]

[mmhhch]

based on ref

[scullys]

James Marsters as SPIKE BUFFY THE VAMPIRE SLAYER (1997 - 2003) | 7x16: "Storyteller"