Sinew and Spite

thirtysomething bi/pan trans femme enby. she/they/it. professional sadgirl this blog is 18+ so MINORS PLEASE DONT FOLLOW ME!!! Everyone else please send me asks. I get bored easily. feel free to ask for podcast recs, if I can help I will. I listen to a few.... Worm/Pact/Ward blog: @rosie-self-reflections

[rox-and-prose]

I'm gonna make a new pinned post so i can search my own damn tags more effectively

[grungixfungi]

Sorry I started sobbing uncontrollably when you expressed the slightest concern for my lack of human connection, and casually mentioned you think I deserve better than a life of isolation and loneliness. Super weird. Not sure what was up with that lol. You still think I’m cool and mysterious and sexy, right?

[catgirlfingies]

Can anyone help me with my rent for Pride Month 🥺💙

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[zoesupreme]

generational abyssmal dogshit coming down the pipe

[zoesupreme]

he's so real tho

[mortalityplays]

really really really detest it when (usually older millennial and genX) cis women say shit like "welcome to being a woman!" or "that's how you know trans women are women!" and so on in response to hearing about instances of catcalling, sexual assault, workplace chauvinism etc. directed at trans women. in the first place it's blisteringly patronising, as if transfems are not and have not been constantly subject to misogyny throughout their lives both pre and post transition, but in the second it perpetuates this vile mindset that somehow receiving misogynistic abuse is validating of your womanhood. it's a head on the very same hydra that makes girls shamefully privately feel that they must ugly and undesirable if they're not catcalled or objectified or 'chosen' by sexual assaulters.

your identity, your dignity and your worth as a woman have absolutely nothing to do with how or why abusive people lash out at you. the insidious narrative that survivors should feel special on some level for having been worthy of their abuse is battered wife rhetoric. it's the perpetrator-system of violence grooming you to accept, and even shamefully yearn for, violence it always intended to inflict. and women are so often complicit in repeating the narrative back to each other. sometimes it's very well meaning and springs up out of the solidarity of shared experience, trying to reclaim power from situations where power was wielded against you, but sometimes it's lana del rey sadgirl coquette I need a man who'll slap me around so I know he cares. sometimes it's eating disorders and self harm. the twinning of femininity and female worthiness with suffering, associating the scars of misogynistic violence with acceptance of one's femininity by somebody who hates you, is profoundly unhealthy and profoundly unfair.

bottom line: trans women have never needed to be identifiable by their abusers at a glance to be subject to misogynistic violence. they have never even needed to be out. remember the early days of the internet when online culture was so outspokenly misogynistic as a baseline that most women just never disclosed their gender, never went on mic, never posted pictures? would anyone ever seriously argue that women weren't subject to misogynistic abuse online until they broke anonymity? and that being the case, would it ever ever seem appropriate to hear someone had been doxxed or sexually harassed for disclosing her gender and respond "heh, proves you really are a woman"?

womanhood is not contingent on suffering. womanhood is not contingent on suffering. womanhood is not contingent on suffering. the cart does not define the horse.

[derovalfnolem]

[rocatex-deactivated20260317]

this feels like dragging around a mummified corpse thats dressed as a clown

[dragirlinstall]

taking my gamer dog out for a walkthrough

[cad-comic]

[babushkaat]

[hunter-rodrigez]

kitty perfect weight for picking up for cuddles! kitty very Soft and warm and will purr comfortably in your arms. Pick up kitty. no problems ever when picking up kitty because good weight and size for picking up after surgery.

[fishing-princess]

Novice swordswoman hellbent on a revenge quest (A): “Let me get this straight, you want me to bring you with me into the bath?”

Possessed demon blade she recently acquired (B): “Yeah? What’s it matter to you?”

A: “You, the cleaver of 10,000 souls, the blade which relished in the blood of armies and its wielder alike, and the judgemental sword that won’t stop mocking my techniques. Why would I ever take a bath with you?”

B: “A blade is an extension of the self, you should never let yourself be parted with it. And even if you’re a lackluster swordswoman, we’ve already made enough enemies that you cannot risk an opportunity to be ambushed while unarmed.”

A: “Even if I did buy that, why do you want this anyway?”

B: “As miserable as traveling with you has been, it is at least slightly more entertaining than being abandoned in a crumbling ruin for hundreds of years. I don’t want you dying until we run into someone who at least knows the basics of the sword arts.”

A: “You expect me to believe it’s not just because you’re a pervert who wants to see me naked?”

B: “What?! As if I would have any interest in you. If you must know it’s because temperature is one of the few things I can still feel, and I find the warmth to be pleasant. Yet you aren’t skilled enough for me to bathe in the fresh blood of your enemies, so hot water will have to do for now.”

A: …

B: “Besides, I’m a sword, what would I even get out of seeing you naked anyway?”

A: …

B: “And even when I was alive I was a woman who used public baths often, your naked body doesn’t even interest me in the slightest.”

A: …

B: “…my limited perception of the world around me means I can’t really ‘see’ anything anyway.”

A: “You sure have a lot of excuses on hand.”

B: “…it would also help to strengthen our bond as weapon and wielder?”

A: “You know, I was actually considering accepting until you said that.”

[sleepy-bebby]

If anyone wants to know what a leopard seal sounds like 🦷🩸

[bandydear]

Leopard Seals are what happens when god needs a lizard and all he has is a mammal

[gallusrostromegalus]

I'd recommend turning the sound on. The seal is not screaming. It's not very loud at all, actually, but the noise it's making is Much Worse.

[human-pet-they]

Your therapist asks you "Who in this image do you see yourself as?" and then shows you a drawing of two shirtless skinny anime catboys with a thread of saliva going between their lips

[sour-charity]

It was actually just an ink blot but thank you, this gives me a lot to work with

[star-mom-selkie]

happy pride month

[star-angel-selkie]

this one kinda hurts when i see it every pride month. im glad to see an art piece of mine still circulating, and with nearly 100,000 notes too! it just hurts that im separated from it. everyone in the notes thinks im gone. im still here, but my potential community and connection is lost because im forgotten in place of the art. yeah, my deactivated profile does add to the profoundness of what i was saying, but i am still removed.

[cheeseanonioncrisps]

I see your “Rocky swears like a sailor but only in pitches humans can’t hear/refuses to teach Grace what those words mean” and raise you “Rocky swears like a sailor and now has to explain to Grace that ‘bad bad bad’ isn’t actually a sequence you play on your Eridian speech piano in polite company.”

Grace is both horrified and amused to realise that a more accurate translation for what Rocky’s been saying is “shit shit shit”.

[cheeseanonioncrisps]

Eridian government representative: Greetings Rocky, Saviour of Erid, and Grace, Saviour from Beyond the Stars. We are pleased to welcome you home.

Grace, haltingly on the keyboard Rocky built for him: Wassup bitches. Fucking jazzed to—

Rocky: GRACE STOP TALKING NOW NOW NOW I EXPLAIN LATER

[toskarin]

do you think insight can be gained about an author from the stories they write?

no. authors are like squids and can only be understood through spirited but ultimately futile combat

[beyourghost]

i think more final girls should be forty and kind of weird and off-putting

[thecindercrow]

Widow's Bay 1.05 What To Expect On Your Trip

[rhube]

Where's that stupid fucking Mulder drawing...

THERE WE GO.

I haven't seen Widow's Bay yet, but these images give off strong Same Energy to me.