Sinew and Spite

thirtysomething bi/pan trans femme enby. she/they/it. professional sadgirl this blog is 18+ so MINORS PLEASE DONT FOLLOW ME!!! Everyone else please send me asks. I get bored easily. feel free to ask for podcast recs, if I can help I will. I listen to a few.... Worm/Pact/Ward blog: @rosie-self-reflections

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I'm gonna make a new pinned post so i can search my own damn tags more effectively

[parme-san]

everybody's got that one homie posting straight from the valley of the shadow of death

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[adventures-in-mimesis]

this format is fucking horrifying

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[aroace-ryland-grace]

the sewing machine is like if a horse and an inkjet printer had a child

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[grungixfungi]

Sorry I started sobbing uncontrollably when you expressed the slightest concern for my lack of human connection, and casually mentioned you think I deserve better than a life of isolation and loneliness. Super weird. Not sure what was up with that lol. You still think I’m cool and mysterious and sexy, right?

[catgirlfingies]

Can anyone help me with my rent for Pride Month 🥺💙

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[zoesupreme]

generational abyssmal dogshit coming down the pipe

[zoesupreme]

he's so real tho

[mortalityplays]

really really really detest it when (usually older millennial and genX) cis women say shit like "welcome to being a woman!" or "that's how you know trans women are women!" and so on in response to hearing about instances of catcalling, sexual assault, workplace chauvinism etc. directed at trans women. in the first place it's blisteringly patronising, as if transfems are not and have not been constantly subject to misogyny throughout their lives both pre and post transition, but in the second it perpetuates this vile mindset that somehow receiving misogynistic abuse is validating of your womanhood. it's a head on the very same hydra that makes girls shamefully privately feel that they must ugly and undesirable if they're not catcalled or objectified or 'chosen' by sexual assaulters.

your identity, your dignity and your worth as a woman have absolutely nothing to do with how or why abusive people lash out at you. the insidious narrative that survivors should feel special on some level for having been worthy of their abuse is battered wife rhetoric. it's the perpetrator-system of violence grooming you to accept, and even shamefully yearn for, violence it always intended to inflict. and women are so often complicit in repeating the narrative back to each other. sometimes it's very well meaning and springs up out of the solidarity of shared experience, trying to reclaim power from situations where power was wielded against you, but sometimes it's lana del rey sadgirl coquette I need a man who'll slap me around so I know he cares. sometimes it's eating disorders and self harm. the twinning of femininity and female worthiness with suffering, associating the scars of misogynistic violence with acceptance of one's femininity by somebody who hates you, is profoundly unhealthy and profoundly unfair.

bottom line: trans women have never needed to be identifiable by their abusers at a glance to be subject to misogynistic violence. they have never even needed to be out. remember the early days of the internet when online culture was so outspokenly misogynistic as a baseline that most women just never disclosed their gender, never went on mic, never posted pictures? would anyone ever seriously argue that women weren't subject to misogynistic abuse online until they broke anonymity? and that being the case, would it ever ever seem appropriate to hear someone had been doxxed or sexually harassed for disclosing her gender and respond "heh, proves you really are a woman"?

womanhood is not contingent on suffering. womanhood is not contingent on suffering. womanhood is not contingent on suffering. the cart does not define the horse.

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[rocatex-deactivated20260317]

this feels like dragging around a mummified corpse thats dressed as a clown

[dragirlinstall]

taking my gamer dog out for a walkthrough

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