garden-variety reblogger

tax-paying adult, she/her, one of the dozens of people who are neither american nor european

[tamamita]

[sacred-portal]

[charlesoberonn]

Female Dwarves - With or without beards?

With beards

Without beard

Remaining time: 3 days 21 hours

[charlesoberonn]

Child Dwarves - With or without beards?

With beards

Without beards

Remaining time: 3 days 21 hours

[charlesoberonn]

Baby Dwarves - With or without beards?

With beards

Without beards

Remaining time: 3 days 21 hours

[charlesoberonn]

They shed their baby beards to make room for their adult beards. Like with baby teeth.

[ryan-sometimes]

[anarchistmemedistro]

[buttonsgoblin]

Many queer people are just fundamentally not normal, because “normal” is socially constructed. It is an arbitrary category meant to be weaponized against marginalized people. If you limit your advocacy for queer rights to those who can be crammed into that category, you won’t have a leg to stand on when that category gets smaller and you suddenly aren’t in it anymore.

[loveandragethelikesofwhich]

"Too often these days I find myself in the position of defending someone I think is annoying from someone I know is dangerous."

[vvanillavveins]

I think "throwing the most cringe members of our community under the bus doesn't stop it from barrelling towards you next" is a phrase that desperately needs to become a piece of calligraphy or cross stitch that people hang on their wall in a little frame

[plecopsar]

[the-problematic-trolley]

Transhumanism, acceptance of progress - furry, specifically protogen.

(Furry has a lot of political weight/associations).

Argument for disability rights with the protogen.

Body acceptance - hip dip, pouch, tig ol’ bitties

Sex positivity - furry, toaster/toast placement

Censorship- toaster/toast placement

[Refer to male/female gaze]

LGBT rights - bi logo on headphones

Freedom of speech/expression - sarcastic “‘all art is political’” to try and disprove it.

Artistic intent/audience response

Argument to be made for symbolism of food insecurity - use of toast for censorship instead of some luxurious food.

[mevil]

[nehirose]

i'm still losing my mind over this, that is EXACTLY what the weed store in Splatoon would sound like.

[skarchomp]

dracula after bdsm (bat dracula sex monster): and now i vill perform the afterscare

[dailymanners]

I feel as though what drives most rude / inconsiderate behavior I experience IRL on a day to day basis comes from a place of having this unearned and unnecessary sense of urgency in situations that aren't actually urgent. I think if more people became aware of this completely unnecessary sense of urgency in situations that actually aren't urgent, it might make co-existing and sharing public spaces with other people a lot easier and more tolerable.

That text post that's been making the rounds that goes something like "Omg you made it to the same red light as everyone else but faster and more dangerously and recklessly, should we call nascar? Do you want a medal?" summarizes exactly what I'm trying to talk about.

It's like when I have to change buses at one of the bigger and busier bus stops, and the people who get off the same bus as me shove and elbow past me to get off before me, and then shove and elbow past anyone even slightly in their way on the way to the bus they're switching, only to end up on the same bus as all the people they shoved and elbowed with several minutes to spare before it leaves and plenty of open seats left.

I think this unnecessary urgency a lot of people feel in their day to day lives drives a lot of bad behavior. I'm not saying I'm innocent of this, I've felt it too in plenty of situations that didn't call for it, and regrettably was less kind than I should have been as a result. But I try to be aware of it, and always try to ask myself it it's really as urgent as my lizard brain is trying to tell me it is, and even if it was that urgent, does that still justify unkind behavior?

Is shoving or elbowing another person aside going to make the difference between whether or not you make it to the bus before it pulls away? (hint: at least where I live, most of the time that's a no because the drivers usually won't leave if they see people from another bus heading towards their bus). Is shoving and elbowing people aside in a crowded grocery store going to make any noticeable difference in how quickly you get your shopping done?

Does a few extra seconds of time actually justify cruel and unkind behavior towards people you perceive as slightly inconveniencing you?

[purlturtle]

Someone pointed out to me once how a lot of people, when out grocery shopping, amble through the aisles at a leisurely pace, maybe checking out this new product or that tester... But when the time comes to queue for checkout, all of a sudden everyone is super impatient and not leisurely at all.

That fully rewired my brain.

Ever since then I've tried to keep that in mind when I shop. If I'm not hurrying through the store, I'm not gonna be impatient in line for checkout.

[dailymanners]

#the urgency and impatience tends to drive a lot of ableism too#Gods forbid someone need help or walk slower or get stuck somewhere#people will walk into my chair because they're not looking where they're going#and I've almost gotten run over at intersections because I wasn't crossing the street fast enough even though I still had right of way#people who rush tend not to signal or say excuse me either which is both rude and unsafe

Thanks for these tags @disability-etiquette, because this unnecessary urgency (in situations that aren't actually urgent) really is a massive driving factor for ableism, and that needs to be addressed and discussed.

So many strangers have been so cruel to my elderly and disabled family members for being "too slow" in public.

And not to derail from the ableism, but this urgency / impatience also fuels a lot of fatphobia too. I've already had to block some people in the notes of this post for making fatphobic comments. People often get very angry at fat people for moving slower and/or taking up more space, and will use their unnecessary urgency and impatience to justify being mean and impatient with fat strangers in public.

[disability-etiquette]

Oh absolutely, and not derailing at all in my opinion, the struggle for fat liberation goes hand in hand with ableism! The overlap is significant - many disabilities can affect body size and shape, so it's very much connected to ableism in my eyes! You're 100% right and should say it.

[victusinveritas]

[adhdemonic]

here's a link to Ember's website, where you can download a high quality version!

https://www.betterthanember.com/

[ufo-offical]

*flies past*

[the-actual-ocean]

The Entirety of Tumblr from Tumblr has been Chucked in to the ocean! You're all wet now.

[goldenretriever-boyfriend]

[aidashakur]

[chambre-grenouille]

@abluescarfonwaston’s idea

[floating-goblin-deactivated2021]

the unholy trinity of piss-poor caretakers, tag yourself:

tomboy, meaning "this child is clearly queer but let's hope it goes away"

sensitive, meaning "clearly neurodivergent and often distressed but let's keep going until they grow numb"

mature, meaning "traumatized but let's ignore that"

[sepiascissors]

quiet, meaning "has been yelled at or ignored a few too many times and now considers all attempts at communicating with others to be pointless"

self-sufficient, meaning "next to zero trust in parental figures' ability in various aspects of parenting"

lazy, meaning "depressed, but expected to preform tasks or actions without positive support or knowledge of how to do things"

[finnglas]

when i was a tiny baby queer (aka a 24-year-old), i went to my first pride festival probably three months after i kicked ex-gay therapy to the curb and came out to my parents. being the people they are, my parents came with me. they weren’t really sure about this whole gay thing, but they loved me and wanted me to be safe and happy and wanted to be involved in what was important to me, so they came along. (i also think my mother still might have thought i might get drugged or murdered or beaten by a protester of which there were plenty.)

anyway i wanted a memento of my first pride, you know, and this one vendor was selling keyrings, and i liked it, so i bought one. do you remember those italian charm bracelets that were all the rage like 10-15 years ago? it was a keychain like that, and it had a rainbow rooster, a rainbow cat, and then just a rainbow, and so I bought it.

i run into my mom a couple of vendors over and she goes oh you bought something? what’d you get? so i showed her, and i was like, “I’m not sure why it’s a rooster and a cat. Seems kind of random. But I liked the rainbows.”

and my mom, who was some form of minister’s wife for most of my childhood and teenagerhood, stares at me like she thinks i’m joking.

“What?” i say.

“…it’s a cock and a pussy, Jules,” she says flatly, and that is the story of how i died at the age of 24 while attending my first pride festival.

[finnglas]

I love how every June this one gets dug up and passed around again, lmao.

[finnglas]

oh no is this what we’re doing now

[finnglas]

…relic…

*crumbles and blows away on the wind*

[mandatoryrollercoaster]

This is Progress

[manuciruja]

awww the like button turns into a rainbow when you press it! that's so cute...hey staff what's with all the trans women you keep nuking?

[manuciruja]

i think we should be ridiculing them more for this. you don't get to try and go all "queer website" when your staff likes to go on nuking sprees targeting the trans fem users

[smadsel]

would be remiss not to mention that the rainbow notably straight up just removed the trans flag colors from it. like they’re gone. it’s the progress flag minus the trans flag colors.

[smadsel]

that’s not the whole flag, now is it

[manuciruja]

hey staff what the fuck

[villainessbian]

hey staff don't you think you're being too on-the-nose

[shrodingers-catgirl]

HEY STAFF DONT YOU THINK YOU'RE BEING TOO ON-THE-NOSE

[byjove]

About the hikers in Indonesia that were killed climbing an active volcano that you are prohibited from climbing, I don’t think local authorities should have to foot the bill for rescue & recovery efforts for tourists that came to their country and turned off their brain. I don’t know what it is about traveling that makes (read: mostly white) people think that that they’re immune to natural disasters, the hazards of the local landscape and wildlife. I can’t afford to go anywhere and if I could afford to go to the beautiful, culturally & historical rich and diverse country that is Indonesia, I would have thousands and perhaps millions of better things to do than scale an active fucking volcano.

[byjove]

And FUCK those 5 Italian fucks who just killed themselves and a rescue diver in the Maldives while cave diving at depths they were not equipped for and not allowed to. OOOOOOH I’M HEATED ABOUT THAT ONE.

[byjove]

Lots of great places to scuba dive in the Maldives, especially for someone with a background in marine biology but nooooooo let’s go in a FUCKING CAVE with a maximum depth of 230 feet.