✨Good + important Daddy tips✨
1) Know how to comfort your little. When they get depressed or anxious or something, you need to pay attention and learn what helps them feel better, so you can apply it next time. If you can’t figure out how to help, perhaps ask them, “What can I do, baby?” Or something like that.
Some things that you could try doing: treat them little, baby talk with them, hold them, ask them why they’re upset, promise them they can tell you anything, remind them that you love them no matter what, etc.
NOTE: If your little is speaking badly about themselves, you can try several approaches. Try being calm and gentle, reassuring them and letting them know how you feel about them. You could also try the more assertive/protective approach, with telling them to stop, and they’re not allowed to talk about your little baby that way.
2) Discipline, but don’t over-discipline. Littles can be bratty and naughty at times, and need punishments. But not always. If your little is giving you attitude, maybe give them a few warnings, but don’t just punish them right away. Warnings and “daddy looks” are always good. And be calm. If you speak harshly towards them because of some small back talk, it can upset them. Basically, patience is important.
3) Help them with self care. Lots of littles have difficulties with taking care of themselves due to mental illnesses or other circumstances. Try making a daily task chart, or some rules for the things they have difficulty with. (Example: brush + floss, do homework every day, go potty, stay hydrated, etc.
Ask them throughout the day if they’ve done things they’re supposed to to take care of themselves. “Did you remember to brush AAAND floss your teeth baby? Did you remember to shower so you can be squeaky clean?”
4) Always make time for your little. If you’re going to be very busy that day, send them a cute text or something to let them know, and tell them you love them. If your little has anxiety, it might help for you to tell them what you’ll be doing, so they don’t worry.
Try to plan some frequent days or activities for you to do with your little. For the littles who need a lot of attention, talk to them every day if possible. If you’re long-distance, send them cute messages throughout the day: it could really make them smile.
Always say good morning and good night, to show your little that you care about them and that you’re thinking of them. Plus, what better way to start the day than to hear Daddy’s voice?
5) Communicate. One of the most important aspects to a sub/dom or cgl relationship is good and clear communication. If you can’t be honest with your feelings, your little will feel the same.
Arguments happen with almost every couple. It’s inevitable. But as daddy, your job is to protect and take care of your little. So if there’s a problem between you two, it’s important to try to solve it. Never just give up.
If your little is uncomfortable or unhappy with something (like certain rules or things you’re doing), let them talk to you about it. Yes, you’re the daddy, and you’re in charge, but your little’s feelings matter too.
6) Make them feel little. When you cross the road, make sure to always hold their hand. If they’re trying to use scissors or knives for something, “let daddy do that”, because they’re “too little for that”. If they’re doing something dangerous, be sure to scold them, so they know not to do it again, and assure them that you care. Baby talk, being silly, reading them stories, coloring with them, talking to their stuffies OR talking through their stuffies, offering to fill up their sippy cup, or calling them cute nicknames are all examples of things that can help put them in little space.
7) Small gifts. This is completely optional, but if you want to make your little really smile, giving them gifts occasionally can show how much you care. For example, maybe give them a coloring book or new sippy cup. These can be found cheaply at the dollar store, but you could also spend a bit more at places like Walmart or target. Giving them gifts related to their little space is a good way to put them in little space, and is easily a way to a littles heart.
8) Trust. This is the MOST IMPORTANT aspect to a sub/dom or cgl relationship. Stay loyal to your little, show them that they can trust you. Make sure to stay loyal to them, and not to stray to other people. If your little gives you all of their trust, and you break it, it can be extremely difficult to get it back again. Especially if they’ve been broken before. So make sure to be honest with them, stay true, and be the loyal and loving daddy they deserve.
🎀it’s very early in the morning when I writed this, so I may have phrased things strangely. I have a difficult time portraying what points I’m trying to get across, so I apologize if any of this was confusing. A couple things to remember: I say “daddy”, but these obviously apply to all caregivers, not just daddies. I just use it because that’s what I call my significant other. Another thing, these may not apply to all littles or caregivers. Everyone is different, so be sure to talk to your little about what they want.🎀
🎀feel free to add anything you think is important!🎀
