one step closer

[ladyhypatia]

Perfect Summary of the Human Condition

I love(d) Key and Peele already but when i saw this video I knew i would have to post it.

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=Ngk3VX405GE

[kimchicuddles]

SCANDALOUS!! :D I love telling overly-curious monogamous people how extremely boring I actually am… Like my comics? Throw me a dollar on Patreon! https://www.patreon.com/kimchicuddles

[ladyhypatia]

this is absolutely me.

[lewd-plants]

New goddess idea: She’s an earth goddess of the new age who’s domain is spinning and weaving, but specifically spinning and weaving gigantic structural steel cables for construction and other industrial purposes. Her skin is steel grey and hard to the touch and her hair is like long dredlocks of woven steel. She laughs at shitty architecture deigns that will fall apart if actually built and protects well-made bridges and buildings she likes. She might warn you of unforseen danger if you always wear your proper PPE.

Okay now what do I name her

[systlin]

O’sha. 

Obviously 

[lewd-plants]

THAT’S PERFECT

[systlin]

I AM ALWAYS HERE FOR QUALITY WORKPLACE SAFETY REGULATION PUNS

[fishmalazahn]

That’s my goddess. 👍🏻

[systlin]

May O’sha bless you with earplugs that are comfortable and respirators that fit perfectly. 

[lewd-plants]

And good steel. Always good steel.

[systlin]

May your steel deliveries be always on time and your rebar strong

[skiptomy]

I’m just gonna…. put this here…..

hope you don’t mind

[nonsensicallycereal]

BEAUTIFUL

[dullgecko]

I’m only disappointed that she isnt wearing ppe. give her a tiny hardhat >3<

[ladyhypatia]

as the only female in the room at most of my construction meetings, this was an absolute must to repost.

[ladyhypatia]

my graduation speech

if someone asked me to give a graduation speech on the keys to being successful - i would say the following:

1. listen

2. be prepared

3. be lucky

4. don’t make repeated errors

5. listen

[ladyhypatia]

goals

goals are great for milestones in your life, but in reality not good for building yourself.  we cannot control outcomes, external conditions, or anything else in life.  all we can control is our process of building ourselves up and our reaction to the world.  the article below is a great synopsis of this with sports as the focus.

https://work.qz.com/1314801/the-best-way-to-accomplish-your-long-term-goals-is-to-ignore-them/

[ladyhypatia]

one little thing

one little thing that you forgot, one little thing you didn’t do, one wrong turn after so many right ones, a small stumble, a guaffe, i wonder when two paths diverge because of the difference of initial conditions, or when the strong reoccurring pattern takes hold and settles the rhythm back down - when is that one little thing, the straw that broke the camel’s back, the grain of rice that tipped the scale, and how do we even know what is a good thing or a bad thing, if we don’t know what comes after. 

sometimes the worst thing in the world at the moment leads to the best thing because it breaks us from our patterns, forces us to look at where we are in the our cycle, and asks us to make a choice - do we really want to follow that same path, or is there a new way.  maybe we didn’t even know there was something wrong, because our old pattern always camouflaged it.  then something shakes us up - distrupst our rhythm, forces us to reassess and things bubble to the surface. that is the pivotal moment - do we have a catharthis and allow the poison to leave, or do we push it back down, ignore it and deal with it later?  

how can we be honest with others if we can’t be honest with ourselves?  what do we want with our lives - and what lies do we tell ourselves to allow us to continue in our old patterns... to ignore the one little thing that might bring to us to the edge and force us, call us to see things as they are and decide how we want them to be.  for that we would have to change, to acknowledge a wrong, a hurt, a mistake, because before you can change something, you have to acknowledge that there is a problem.  

[no-chill-at-all]

[nanajitter]

ok but, that’s p much exactly what it is lmao

[randomitemdrop]

Spell: Chaos Defrost, a targeted burst of heat that instantly and safely thaws any frozen item or creature not lawfully-aligned

[ladyhypatia]

Reblogging because i love chaos.

[ladyhypatia]

The “others”

Can we think of a way to have a Society exist without externalities?   Can we live in a way that benefits or at the minimum is neutral for others.  Why must others suffer as a cost of our success?  As per wikipedia, in economics, an externality is the cost or benefit that affects a party who did not choose to incur that cost or benefit.   Forget about any particular economic system as being a solution, it seems that all of them have a lower tier of people built-in for the system to function.  Others that will suffer in order to serve the ones above them.   

[ladyhypatia]

I have a terrible habit of posting lyrics from songs because I don’t want to forget them.  Even the one below, which i heard years ago is still relevant every time I read it.

my love is the type of thing that you have to earn, and when you earn it you won't need it

bo burnham

[ladyhypatia]

Journal Entry 2014- Silver clay workshop at La Mano pottery

I wrote this draft entry four years ago and never posted it. I made some minor edits from the draft, but it is interesting for me to see how strongly i felt about getting out the house, but i actually didn’t make it a habit. Another interesting note is that i just made a silver clay piece for my mother for Christmas and did it at home on the stove top, but didn’t remember any of the steps from my previous experience.  Probably would have been useful to have read this beforehand, but i forgot it was here. 

12:30 pm to 4:30 pm silver clay class It was great . I learned how to handle the clay and I am so glad I brought the clay for my husband’s project.  There were no complicated tools. Just the clay, some dentist tools which I had, and olive oil. The process: roll, press, stamp and sculpt clay.  Let it dry on a cup warmer.  Then put it in the kiln.  After it comes out, brush it with a harsh brush, then put it in sliver sulfate to darken the impressions. Then scrub it with pumice atone to get off the dark.  Then put it in the tumbler with soap water and buckshot.  After that rub it with a polishing cloth.  La Mano let's you use their kiln for 50 bucks.  Maybe I will make silver gifts for Christmas.  The class made me realize that I need to start taking Sundays for myself and getting out.  No more staying in the house. Even if it means taking a craft project and going to a different place a park or museum. I need to go by myself. 

My life is so funny and strange. I have many responsibilities, and I like it that way. But I also need to get my balance back.  And get my future back.  And let things flow with love.  I have been missing my flow and I think I am getting that back.  Letting life flow through me. When things are right, when I am balanced, life just flows through me.  

[ladyhypatia]

Tell me this, put up your fingertips If you're living your life exactly the way that you wished, yeah And for the rest of us with our hands on our hips Our work is never done, we are Sisyphus

- This is our Science, Astronautilis

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=PbnumphZdPE&index=2&list=PLij6np6NTE9F7ER8o8R0uu6UAxcatGjL4

I love this song and i love the lyrics, especially the verse above.  we are not alone in trying to make our lives better and it is hard.  but i don’t feel hopeless.

[ladyhypatia]

If the sun will rise one more time, so will I, so will I.

-Flobots

just wanted to share my mantra for the day.

[ladyhypatia]

Take your cautionary tales Take your incremental gain And all the sycophantic games And throw 'em all away

Burn your TV in your yard And gather 'round it with your friends And warm your hands upon the fire And start again

Take the story you've been told The lies that justify the pain The guilt the weighs upon your soul And throw 'em all away

Tear up the calendar you've bought And throw the pieces to the sky Confetti falling down like rain Like a parade to usher in your life

Take the dreams that should have died The ones that kept you lying awake When you should've been all right And throw 'em all away

With the time I waste on the life I never had I could've turned myself into a better man 'Cause there ain't nothing you can buy And there is nothing you can save To fill the hole inside your heart So throw it all away Won't fill the hole inside your heart Help me empty out this house What I've gathered all these days And thought I couldn't do without And throw it all away

Toad the Wet Sprocket

Just wanted to share the lyrics of one of my favorite songs - it combines looking at capitalism, commercialism, over ambition, and the realization that none the things that come from those  forces will actually make you a whole person or will, in the long run, make you happy.  

Here is the actual song:

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=y1KFHu6Wzak

[ladyhypatia]

Being "who we are" requires that we can talk openly about things that are important to us, that we take a clear position on where we stand on important emotional issues, and that we clarify the limits of what is acceptable and tolerable to us in a relationship.  "Allowing the other person to do the same" means that we can stay emotionally connected to that other party who thinks, feels, and believes differently, without needing to change, convince, or fix the other. Source: The Dance of Intimacy

In the past, I think I never really thought about my emotional connection with my husband.  I most definitely took it for granted - assumed that it would be there forever, no matter what.   So I didn’t really think about what was required to develop an emotional connection.  I assumed I knew the answer and that I was doing a fine job at it, so I didn’t bother to ask the question.  

One of the things that comes out of being polyamorous is that there are no givens - any weaknesses in your relationship or assumptions you have made come quickly to light and are examined thoroughly.   I believe that we are now rebuilding our emotional connection with each other, bit by bit, and, unlike the quote, we both are changing because what we need from each other has changed.  And that is ok.

[ladyhypatia]

Time.  It is written about endlessly by people across the millennia, ranging from Lucius Seneca to David Allen.  We are seemingly obsessed about time, time management, understanding what makes up time, and most importantly, how to properly spend our time.  One of the things I appreciate about being polyamorous is that I get alone time.  At certain times of the week, I am guaranteed a couple of hours of time where I am kid- and husband-free.  I tell my friends this and they ask if I am lonely at those times.  I tell them not a chance.  It is during these times that i decompress, that I can reflect upon everything - my relationships, my kids, the house, our lives together, and our future.  Because of this, I have begun to crave our time together, without regretting our time apart.  

[niqabisinparis]

My goal isn’t to make people feel beautiful. It’s to make them realize that feeling beautiful doesn’t mean jack shit. Beauty fades. Beauty is not reliable. Beauty is subjective and fluctuating. You take up the space you want and say “I might not think I’m beautiful. Hell, I might be ugly to some people, but I still deserve to be here, to be loved, to do what I want.” I don’t think I’m beautiful at all, but I try not to stop that from getting in the way of living my life. That’s a much more powerful thought than “I’m beautiful too.” Don’t be afraid to be ugly and stop holding yourself to impossible standards in public. Ignore the male gaze. Ignore all gazes. Focus on yourself and what you’re trying to accomplish. 

[rhianruari-deactivated20180622]

Absolutely this.  I have never read a better description of why I find all of the “find and accept your own beauty” bullshit to be so toxic and problematic. 

Beauty is one facet on the diamond that is a person.  They also have their movement, their charm, their friendliness, their honesty, their ability to commit, their mental health, their physical health, their ability to be kind, their compassion, their willingness to be aware of the world around them, their curiosity, and much more.  It isn’t all about beauty, nor should it be.

[entervaults]

When you understand that time spent with a partner is a gift and not an entitlement, this will help you cultivate a sense of gratitude for it, and gratitude is a powerful shield against jealousy and fear.

‘More than two’ By Veaux and Rickert (via entervaults)