Ladylike Slobs

So… what's a ladylike slob? I'm not always sure but I'm trying to figure it out. Basically, I'm here to ask why slob kink stuff can't be adorable and femme and cute. Not because I think its bad when its not, but because I really dig it when it is. Wanna know more? Well, I wrote a mission statement because I'm a huge freaking nerd.

[ladylike-slobs]

Something I often wrestle with is having a bunch of “gross” kinks and not wanting that to overshadow my wholesome and affectionate nature.

Like, especially in loving fat people. That’s who I am first and foremost and has nothing to do with my kinks. That is something different.

I’m myself a fat person who doesn’t want to seen as a slob even if I also happen to be a fat person who very much adores expressing slobby tendencies privately. Those two things coexist within me and that’s okay.

I think especially because my slob kink is about intimacy and maybe decadence, it’s something I choose to celebrate. Someone else seeing me as a slob just for being fat is an unwanted imposition. I worry that distinct can be confused, tho.

But whatever. Having weird kinks often means other people being confused and not knowing what to do with you. I don’t like it, but you kind of don’t get to do anything about that other than hide yourself away at all times even in your own tiny spaces. I won’t do that.

[notbop]

you should pee yourself for the sexual amusement of other girls

[innumerable-voices]

[ladylike-slobs]

I’m lucky I don’t have a humiliation kink, because while this does sound hot as fuck, I have a shy bladder and I would be desperately scared that I couldn’t pee on command and would spoil the whole scene. 😅

[ladylike-slobs]

Struggling with feeling like a fraud because I’ve never done any kind of slob play with a partner. Just always on my own. I fooled around with DL stuff last weekend and it was so fucking intense and hot but I guess my “post nut clarity” was just feeling very alone. It always felt so hard just wanting to find a fat positive partner that I just never tried to find a partner who shared any of my kinks. But then I never even found a fat positive partner either, so I guess I just feel really lonely right now. Blah.

[gnarlyafterdark]

When someone says anything about a diet around me I get the negative sims interaction bubble over my head

[ladylike-slobs]

Sometimes I feel like I’m not into “slob” so much as I think fat people getting sweaty is really cute and I like to sniff them. And myself. And in terms of kinks, this put me into a silo of “slob”.

And, like, there is a lot of other stuff in this silo that I really dig, too. But I don’t always vibe with “slob” as an umbrella. I don’t hate it, obviously give my account name, but I don’t fully identify with it either. Which is fine. Like, whatever. Not everything has to fit into little boxes. Lease of all, great big fat people dripping with sweat… 🤤

Sorry, what was I talking about? 😅

[gaytanic-panic]

Being rly into diapers but not as into age regression is so awkward bc im out here fetishisizing the idea of a girls night out at the club all wearing bulky diapers under tight pleather leggings and pissing ourselves instead of waiting in line for the bathroom and meanwhile everyone else's fantasy with them is like hi i have no been hypnotized into being two years old so you better be down to watch 3 hours of Little Einsteins with me

Like I don't dislike age regression and it can def be rly cute but its not like, my exact kink scenario that gets me super wet, you know?

[ladylike-slobs]

Being squarely on the DL side of ABDL, I really feel this. Nothing against the AB side, it’s just not where I’m at. I think of diapers in terms of decadence, hedonism, intimacy, indulgence. Sometimes it feels isolating. ¯\_(ツ)_/¯

[abundantbelly]

"slob" is such a cursed label for me bc I enjoy sexualising being kind of messy and lazy so sometimes I want to read abt it/listen to audios etc. then suddenly I accidentally read the grossest thing ever about farting or something

[ladylike-slobs]

Honestly, even as someone who is into most of the extreme stuff under the "slob" umbrella, a lot of what's out there is also way out of of my sweet spot. I know I've posted about it an annoying amount, but I relate to slob—even the extreme stuff—as indulgent and intimate. When I'm reading smut and it starts going on and on and on about how gross and rancid and disgusting everything is, I just kind of check out. Which isn't a judgment if you like that sort of thing. Gosh knows I get judged just for what I'm in, but it's nice to feel like you've found your space and that can be tough sometimes. Is what it is. *shrug*

[ladylike-slobs]

Stuffed myself with extra cheese pizza and now I’m wallowing in bed, getting gassier by the second and ready to fart the night away like a lazy sow. 🥰

[dionysian-bob]

Girl who sweats through her deodorant but still wants to cuddle.

Girl who forgets her deodorant because she knows you don't mind.

Girl who stops wearing deodorant because she likes the attention.

[ladylike-slobs]

It feels almost sad that I spend so much time online feeling anxious that expressing my kinks online will push people away. I’ve never shared any of my kinks with any of my actual partners beyond fat, which i don’t relate to as a kink. Like, fat is just who I am and fat attraction is how my sexuality works. Both are just fundamental stuff while kinks are situational. If shared, awesome. If not, and usually not, that’s fine too. But I get so scared people will assume I can’t put my kinks away even if that’s all I ever do. Meh.

[ladylike-slobs]

Every once and a while I just wake up and feel every bit as bloated and gassy as I did the night before because that’s just how much of a pig I was that my body is still struggling to digest it all. 😳

[daughter-of-sapph0]

wlw positivity post "we need more appreciation for hairy and fat lesbians"

stupid comments "omg just say butch" "that's what butch ment before people ruined it"

are femmes not allowed to be hairy or fat? 🤔

[daughter-of-sapph0]

like, as a femme who's struggled with my physical appearance, it really fucking sucks when people say my body type is "butch"

butch and femme are not body types. they're appearances, personalities, styles, traits, roles, sexual positions, and more. but there is no physical requirement on who can be butch or femme.

[eviebrat]

the new update from tumblr this afternoon

ppl using the tumblr app on iPhone/iOS who want to be able to view my tumblr (or other restricted tumblrs). you can do so by doing the following:

1. delete the app and reinstall from App Store

2. login to tumblr via your browser (one off)

3. go to Settings > Account > Filtering

4. turn this toggle off

5. close browser login and login to the app.

you should now be able to view all the restricted accounts, including mine, once this toggle is disabled.

hope this helps!

[sah-ruh]

EVERYBODYYYY 📣

[ladylike-slobs]

I swear, nothing makes me feel more validated being trans than reading a cis het dude talk about kinks I also have. It always sounds so comprehensively alien and unrelatable that I hardly know how to parse it out.

[strawdogs]

growing up on tumblr is weird bc they let you say anything on here except show tits but on tiktok you have to censor curse words and say things like d1e and then instagram calls it hate speech for saying u dislike men

[idk-my-aesthetic]

They used to let us show tits

[old-manrupee]

They used to let us show tits

[cinnamorolli-deactivated2022031]

If you are a fat person who exists on the internet, especially if you post content related to being fat (like bopo, plus size fashion, even feedism), then you need to understand that there is a good chance you will be posted as f*tspo. And the larger your platform becomes, the more likely that chance becomes.

I don’t say this to discourage fat people from posting content or to victim blame. But I think this is something not enough people talk about openly, especially in the feedism space. Before you post your body here, you need to know that these f*tspo and pr*-an* accounts know the hashtags we use, the lingo and things to look for. They will constantly seek out fat content to trigger themselves and, unfortunately, that means it is not uncommon for our content to be spread without our consent into those spaces. You need to understand that risk when you’re posting here.

I have had so much of my non-feedist content posted in f*tspo threads simply because I dare to regularly speak about fat liberation on my other social media. As much as I would rather not be, I am very familiar with how that space works. They do not care about your th*nspo DNIs. They do not care that they are violating your consent. Yes, the things they post are pathetic and disgusting and reflect way more on them than they do any fat person they’re trying to insult, within feedism or otherwise. But we still have to protect ourselves, and this is a very unfortunate reality of posting feedist content that I think needs to be spoken about way more openly.

[ladylike-slobs]

You know what I hate most about this? Fat people created “f*tspo” as a response to thin-idolatry blogs stealing our pics and calling them “reverse th*nspo” go back 8-10 years and that tag was almost all fat positive content. Thin people stole it from us and used it against us because their tags started getting blocked.

It’s not even an isolated event. It fits snuggly in decades of history of fat liberation being appropriated and commodified by the weight loss industry in order to sell fat hate and fat stigma. The culture of thinness despises and resents fat people and will destroy everything we create lest we ever have a chance to live our lives fat and free.

[cinnamorolli-deactivated2022031]

i’ve had my content from other socials (not fetish related) posted on f*tsp* twt 100 times. and something i find interesting/frustrating about that space is how they’ll often post feedist content and call it “ethical” or “consensual” f*tsp* bc the people posted like being humiliated. but these are alwaysssss stolen pics of models any of us who are in the feedist “community” would immediately recognize. it’s a really gross disregard of what consent actually means. plus most of the time the people making these twitter threads are underage but still coming into adult fetish spaces to trigger themselves. it’s just so violating and gross on every level.