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[lambdoctrines]

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Greetings! This account mostly exists for me to discuss/reblog feminism-related issues, as well as some fandom-related lurking.

My views are always changing over time, and I do enjoy discussing issues in good faith. I try to give people the benefit of the doubt, so please do not be reluctant to reach out if you want to talk. I will be civil so long as you are.

The Doctrines:

Sex is binary and immutable.

Gender is a social construct.

Race is a social construct.

No human is naturally superior than another.

Religion can be a tool to unify a community and a weapon of oppression.

Human identity is not innate - it develops over time through one's interactions with society.

Adult humans have the right to do as they wish with their bodies. Such choices do not exist in a vacuum.

Every human is entitled to food, water, safety, and education.

Do not inflict on others what you would not want inflicted on yourself. Do not inflict on yourself what you would not inflict on others.

To be expanded.

I am incredibly fortunate to live in a time where so much information is available at my fingertips. I am also privileged to have an education that has equipped me with the tools I need to comprehend and to think critically about this information. I show my gratefulness for these blessings by being welcoming to new viewpoints and ideas.

I am also a human! Sometimes I respond immaturely or rudely. Sometimes I make mistakes or share incorrect information. The beauty of being alive is continuing to learn from such mistakes and trying to grow from them. You may contact me through direct messages or through the ask box. I do not have any other Tumblr blogs, accounts, or social media profiles.

The lamb/doctrine stuff is because I like the video game Cult of the Lamb. I'm not part of an actual cult.

[sodomit]

Ways in which ageists talk about the youth similar to how misogynists talk about women:

- it's impossible for an adult and a "minor" to just be friends, since they have nothing in common, so there's something else going on;

- all "minors" in a public space need to be accompanied by an adult responsible for their behavior and safety;

- mixed age spaces are no fun because adults can't make sex jokes or honestly express themselves without being called out;

- a "minor" talking to an adult is a liability because they're always one wrong move away from making a sexual abuse accusation;

- "minors" ruin all fandoms they join because they police adults;

- "minors" are inherently less capable of understanding complex topics and can't be reasoned with;

- adults should take full responsibility for how "minors" in their life dress, talk, or engage with media.

If you think it makes more sense than its misogynist counterpart, think again, because misogynists think their views are founded in objective biology too.

[foxboytail]

As a young adult, I used to think what messed me up as a kid was having completely unfiltered access to things I wasn’t ready for, like NSFW content, gore, heavy discourse, and the existence of predatory adults online. But now that I’m older, I see it differently.

The problem wasn’t what I had access to. It was that I didn’t have access to a safe adult I could actually talk to; someone I could trust to help me without immediately cutting me off from everything and everyone. I remember getting messages from strangers on Skype. I didn’t even respond. But when my parents found out, they banned me from using it entirely. That meant losing most of my contact with friends outside of school. So what did I do? I went behind their backs. And once I was hiding, I couldn’t tell them when something actually dangerous was happening, like when I started being groomed. By the time things escalated, I was already alone with it.

I think about an episode of Scared Straight where a girl was dragged through a prison because she’d been talking to adult men online. She wasn’t doing that because she was reckless or malicious; she was lonely. Her parents weren’t present, she was being bullied at school, and these men gave her attention, told her she was pretty, told her she mattered. She was already being harmed. And the adults in her life responded by terrorizing her. Humiliating her. Calling her a slut. Telling her she deserved it. Breaking her to pieces.

What lesson does that actually teach? Not “this is dangerous, come to us.” It teaches: If you get hurt, we will hurt you more. Do you really think that makes her stop, or does it just make the predators look safer by comparison? They might as well have driven her straight into the jaws of those predators with torches and pitchforks. Because when every path back to safety is lined with punishment, kids don’t run away from danger. They run deeper into it.

If you want kids to be safe, stop treating them like problems to control and start treating them like people worth protecting. Stop ripping away their autonomy the second they make a mistake or encounter something risky. Stop teaching them that honesty will cost them everything.

Be the person they can come to without fear of losing their entire world. Because safety isn’t built through control, it’s built through trust. And if you aren’t safe for them to tell the truth to, then you aren’t keeping them safe at all.

[lambdoctrines]

HUH?

So I tried logging in a few months ago (January-ish) only to find that my account had been randomly deactivated. I hadn't really done anything wrong, so I was confused.

There wasn't a reason listed or anything. I sent in a support request, but didn't get a response.

Then, this month, I randomly got one of the typical Tumblr marketing emails addressed to my blog. So, I tried logging back in...and I guess I'm back?

Anyways. To whoever it may have concerned, I am back now. No idea why that happened (maybe an automated ban due to mass reports)

[sweetstench]

The Cost of Beauty..

[redditreceipts]

what’s so ironic to me is how much prostitution enthusiasts stress "listening to sex workers"—but the moment those very "sex workers" they claim to love so much disagree with them, suddenly they’re not worth listening to anymore.

"listen to sex workers" I'm listening! are you?

[lambdoctrines]

So basically, the most important "workers" in this industry are in it due to one or more of: - PTSD - Force/coercion - Being a literal child And we let this continue...why?

[disobedientbrowngirl]

Whenever we label veils like hijab, dupatta, ghoonghat etc as oppressive, the most common defense of people is to bring up a few exceptional examples of women like Malala, some athletes or women who fought against British rule, and say "See these women were able to achieve success in their personal lives and even fight for others' rights as well while wearing those veils so how can you call them symbols of oppression?" But that actually only proves our point that those veils are soooo oppressive that even for a woman who is intellectually aware, independent and successful in her life or is also actively fighting for others’ rights, its still hard for her to escape it and that she must negotiate, not only with external societal barriers for the access to opportunities but also with her own mind, shaped by years of conditioning. This is how deeply entrenched oppression is! Just because a woman succeeds while conforming to certain societal norms it doesn't mean that those norms themselves symbolize freedom too. The society that once actively stopped you from entering male dominated fields would now soften its backlash as your embrace of the veil, a cultural and religious symbol helps polish their image and conveniently erase the very injustices that culture and religion imposed on you. They pose it to others as an evidence of the absence of history of oppression "See she's comfortably wearing it, meaning we never used it to oppress her"

[joykillerrr]

[astraeaswheel]

Coercive patriarchy (left) and consentment patriarchy (right). It's such a good picture to exemplify both!

[not-like-other-girls-much-worse]

“The woman who checks her makeup half a dozen times a day to see if her foundation has caked or her mascara has run, who worries that the wind or the rain may spoil her hairdo, who looks frequently to see if her stockings have bagged at the ankle or who, feeling fat, monitors everything she eats, has become, just as surely as the inmate of the Panopticon, a self-policing subject, a self committed to a relentless self-surveillance. This self-surveillance is a form of obedience to patriarchy. It is also the reflection in woman’s consciousness of the fact that she is under surveillance in ways that he is not, that whatever else she may become, she is importantly a body designed to please or to excite.”

— Sandra Lee Bartky, “Foucault, Femininity, and the Modernization of Patriarchal Power (via aishawarma)

[lambdoctrines]

People in the notes whining about how they choose to wear makeup, how we should just let women do what they want...

Like THIS ISN'T ABOUT YOU. We can talk about societal problems that affect women as a whole without you making it about your own personal experiences. It's so narcissistic to look at this and immediately jump to your own defense when the passage isn't even meant to attack women who do this stuff, but rather point out how these things can subconsciously affect them in their everyday lives.

A bit of a tangent but bear with me:

I recognize that eating a lot of sugar isn't healthy, and I'm happy to discuss and look into the ways that sugar can negatively impact people, especially how high-sugar products have been a major factor in obesity rates globally.

BUT I STILL EAT SUGAR. I CAN STILL MAKE MY OWN PERSONAL CHOICES ABOUT MY BODY.

Moral of the story, everything in the OP is valid and true. If you wear makeup/shave/etc. in spite of that, then IT'S FINE, nobody is gonna hunt you down for it. But that doesn't mean we shouldn't be allowed to talk about these things. Don't be selfish.

[very-big-dove]

[kittensnax]

you won't begin to believe how much I pace my house going "I like dry food! I like playing with shoelaces!" like I spiritually am this cat

[lambdoctrines]

by ButterFaces

[kasira-rr]

Sydney and Sabrina are not setting women back, they’re just symptoms of a society that’s already headed that way.

[lambdoctrines]

I definitely agree with you. As much as I am annoyed with them (and other prominent female figures) for behaving this way, they don't have control over the entire situation. As popstars/actresses they're naturally drawn to what's trending, and what's trending right now just happens to be horribly misogynistic.

[rosemarieposey]

Kind of hate how utterly nuanceless progressive types are when it comes to trans ppl. The classic "conservatives hate it, we should support it!" The complete disregard for any issue that affects only women. The way that women and children and neurodivergent ppl are acceptable collateral damage when it comes to owning terfs. The way that owning conservatives is more important than actually being right or good, to the point that they can't even they can't even do that properly and just end up being homophobic too. And this weird slippery slope fear that criticising anyone in your in-group in even the tiniest of ways will instantly destroy solidarity (while they actively force gay ppl, lesbians, and feminists out of the community because they they want to stop prejudice by allowing ppl on "our side" to be prejudiced bc they are marginalized and that cancels it out) The complete inability to focus on 2 issues at once (except for when ppl in the in-group are transphobic, suddenly we understand how activism works again and being marginalized doesn't make you except from criticism) They way everything is just now US vs Conservative instead of Us vs Immorality and nobody questions that

[girlanarchy-blog]

this website’s attitude toward gender non-conforming children and its universal insistence that boys who wear skirts aren’t really boys and girls who like short hair and non-feminine colors aren’t really girls is SO primitive and harmful.

how is ~othering~ children who don’t meet your performance standards for their sex NOT reinforcing oppressive patriarchal gender roles and expectations?

[chamomilechaos1999]

This post is from 2014.

[miamignonette]

girl on tiktok was saying that getting cosmetic surgery is about women taking back their bodily autonomy in a time where our rights to our bodies are being taken away

[lambdoctrines]

which is exactly why so many conservative women get plastic surgery that there's a name for their look (mar-a-lago), they're just so hashtag empowered queens ✨✨✨

[lambdoctrines]

the funniest thing is seeing tra bots/spammers unironically falling for "radfem confessions" blogs that keep popping up. like yesss let the garbage fester together

[ratqueen40]

No, it’s not normal that your boyfriend or husband wants to watch porn before/while having sex with you. It’s also weird to think that men virtually cuck themselves when they watch other men have sex with women on film. It’s not normal to watch porn, and it’s not normal for it to be part of foreplay. Women desire to be feel emotionally and physically safe and comfortable with their male partners, and the women who want opposite need psychological help, not to be shamed or abused by men who take advantage of vulnerable women. Why would a man think to himself it’s ok and normal when a woman asks him to strangle her, slap her, punch her or verbally degrade her? Do you realize that you can say no and leave, you’re not obligated to engage in that sexual violence just because she “consents”. And if you really care about that woman you’d advise her to get help and support her, not abuse her and take advantage of her. Wanting to be hurt, especially in sexual/intimate settings is a cry for help, it’s attempting to cope with unresolved childhood or sexual traumas. It is not healthy or normal to want to relive and emulate trauma, regardless if it’s your own trauma.

PORN KILLS AND HARMS WOMEN AND GIRLS.