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i'm sorry you can't deal with the truth that jo march is nonbinary and bisexual

#she is going to the gardiners in a maroon frock w a gentlemanly collar #girl i see you wearing feminine fashions w a masculine sensibility #i see you #also jo x prof bhaer 4ever thx

lady-dulcinea

Erik & Christine Takarazuka Revue’s all-female production of Yeston and Kopit’s PHANTOM

#okayyyy

pride-knightess

Since people seem to like my pride outfit!

pride-knightess

Woah woah this has 1000 notes. I'm super flattered and I will bench press each and every one of you.

ambientradiation

I can't believe you're this many notes in and nobody knows you handstitched the flag.

pride-knightess

Oh hell was i supposed to mention that?

I handstitched the flag.

pride-knightess

I clearly should've mentioned it sooner.

aidashakur

You literally just have to get really good at continuing.

dogzcats

inside the actors' studio with Colin Firth

jetix

‘やるんか？やるんかっ!?’ (You gonna fight? You gonna fight!?) Needle felt art by Chachakinana, 2025

hollowedskin

NEEDLE FELTING?????

uberfluss

first 5 faceless emojis are how your summers gonna go

#👍🎉🤎🤞💪#sounds okay actually

enki2

#goals

sockth

Hey if you See This can you reblog this or comment on this with a character you headcanon as aromantic, asexual, or both. It can be canon it can be founded on absolutely nothing I just need more aroace stuff on here #yay

#lady sandrilene fa torennnnnn #ace queen. to me

buffysummers

Rupert Giles + 🔥 🔥 🔥 [requested by Anonymous]

sentient-tent

This is Tie, she is going to eat all of the notes

sentient-tent

reblog to feed her notes

elodieunderglass

How is she doing this

lemontongues

shoutout to slow growers, late bloomers, people whose plans got derailed by circumstances beyond their control or their own choices, people who never had a plan to begin with, people who have had to start over when theyre too old to feel like theyre supposed to be where they are, people who cant pretend theyre built for the environment theyre in, and everyone who's not living the life they thought they would. im proud of you for making it this far and i hope you keep going until youre happy ♡

creekfiend

although if we ARE talking about passive aggression my technique is generally (and I have had a LOT OF PRACTICE developing it lmao) is to interpret what I think they're implying and then say "are you asking me to (x)?" in a very polite tone with a friendly (sincere! not mocking!) smile. I find that this often 1. ceases the tiresome cycle of ignoring passive aggressive behavior -> behavior escalates -> ignore it -> it escalates, and on and on that you get if you simply ignore it, 2. lets the person know that in the future they can just fucking ask you directly for god's sake, and very importantly 3. although I strive not to sound condescending when I do this, it is inescapably and obviously something that I learned to say when talking to toddlers. the people I use this with the most (mostly older female relatives but not infrequently on men as well) will often catch a hint of that and sort of realize that their method of approaching me was childish, not in a derogatory sense, but in the sense that they don't need to try to get me to do stuff in the way they got used to working in the past. they can do it differently.

obviously how effective this is varies wildly based on the relationship, or lack thereof, that you have with the other person. but I find it effective with people who are In Your Life but don't meaningfully have any control over you. quite often it DOES result in increased directness in the future, especially if it's something I end up doing fairly often. and it's not rude; I'm just politely seeking clarification about what is being communicated. it makes the person have to think about what effect they were expecting their behavior to have on my behavior, and then just... tell me straightforwardly. but without escalating the situation or making the person feel 'called out' most of the time.

its very simple but I so much more often see people say "always ignore passive aggressive communication" and while I think that's absolutely a good approach much of the time, especially especially from strangers. it is not especially EFFECTIVE at helping them change how they're approaching communicating with you in the future. in my experience. so. I prefer to use my method when I determine that it might be effective.

gayofgaymark2

I use this technique on my grandmother a lot.

She frequently makes requests by telling me what I want, eg "oh wouldn't you like to.." "don't you think it's be nice if..."

It used to drive me up the wall, but now as an adult with better understanding of what's happening I say "Actually I'm fine with x, but I'd be happy to do y if that's what you want?"

One day she actually asked me, "Why is it so important to you that I say that y is what I want?"

and i got to say "Well I don't like being told what I want. I have enough life experience to know my own desires and limitations, and I can advocate for them when I need to. However your opinions do matter to me and I want to take them into account. It's much less stressful for me to do so when I'm not guessing what's in your mind."

And folks, she Actually Listened.

Later that day she wanted something that ended up not being possible, but because she said so directly I was able to help her find a different way to achieve the same goal!

She still slips up, of course, but it was so good to see her Understand.

creekfiend

I love thissssss. yes I have had similar experiences modeling this behavior for older female relatives. I think a lot of them got real used to having to be indirect to get their needs met and it becomes maladaptive but they get stuck.