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#ITS WET IN THERE #LOL #video

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hedwig-dordt

a reCAPTCHA will not request a sequence of keys, and what to do if you got scammed

elamarth-calmagol

I dont know that I would have recognized that

coruscanttojerusalem

Fake CAPTCHA scams trick users with “I’m not a robot” tests to install malware and steal data. Learn warning signs and how to protect yourse

Real source that's not a tiktok video added.

#important #single boost

mournfulroses

Cecilia Martinez, from a poem titled "Winter Then," featured in A Magnificently Ordinary Romance: Poems

#writing #poetry

remanence-of-love

#facts

tiktoks-for-dead-pope

#LOL #video #i fckin cackled #THATS GOOD

snakepyre

TABLET WEAVING INTRODUCTION

When i started i was going off of diagrams from old websites, and struggled a good bit. I hope this post will help you get started! Feel free to ask questions!

This video shows the very basics (not in english, but quite clear). This video explains how to read patterns before you start doing it backwards, mirrored and upside down (which is what i did!).

Basic tools; the beauty of tablet weaving is that you need minimal supplies to get started.

Cotton yarn (I use 8/4)

Cards (thin cardboard and a hole punch will do)

A chair or door handle, to tie the threads to

A belt, to tie the threads to yourself

A shuttle (you can start with a pencil, old credit card, ruler, your fingers,... i use a bone folder)

Variables to understand before trying to use a pattern

S/Z card slant or threading

The direction the cards face

Forward or backward turns

ABCD or DCBA

This video (mentioned above as well) explains these variables and how to read different patterns you will find. There is no universal way to write a tablet weaving pattern, resulting in different patterns directly opposing one another (& lots of frustration on my end </3).

General tips from me, a novice

Start with a thin band

Start with a simple pattern, where the cards all turn forward for the whole band, like this one

Then move to a pattern that alternates forward and backward turns, this one is simple but very pretty

After that, try a pattern that has you divide the cards into groups, like a ramshorn or dublin dragons

Be sure to use contrasting colours (in hue and/or tone). A black and white filter can help you here

Get some bag clips to prevent tangles (ikea!)

Always turn the edge cards in the same direction. This gives a neater end result. The edges can be the outer two cards, or a group that forms a decorative trim

Personally, i like looping the thread around a door handle instead of tying it, which makes untwisting threads very easy

You can eventually omit the written ABCD on the cards, but it is a good crutch to lean on when learning

I use some scrap wood with bolts that i tie to my belt, making it a little easier to manage tension and move the woven band along as i go

Finding patterns

I use pinterest for the most part. Twisted threads has many patterns, with a built-in program, but the search function is not great.

I made you four pinterest boards; for the sake of simplicity, the patterns are all GTT which means tablets face RIGHT, S/Z refers to the THREADING direction, use ABCD, forward turns the tablets AWAY from yourself (forwards = D over A)

Level one: all forward turns

Level two: alternating forward and backward

Level three: groups of tablets that turn differently

Level four: a fuckton of tablets with complex patterns

This video made me understand double-face weaving, this one is shorter and easier to follow. Double-face is a fun technique but i would reccommend getting good at following a regular pattern first.

My main mistake when i was starting out:

Whether the slant is S or Z, the cards should all face the same way. For some reason, I made the S-cards all face right and the Z-cards left. Simple, repetitive patterns will turn out fine but anything slightly more complex will be distorted, and you will be frustrated:

Your first few projects will likely be messy! Don't be too discouraged. Here's a couple of my firsts:

#neat idea #art #weaving

fox-bright

hi any life advice for 21yo

Don't date thirty-year-olds until you are at least 25.

Having a glass of water for every glass of alcohol will give you a 50% reduction in hangover viciousness.

Bad people will use your willingness to be quiet as a weapon against you. If someone's being awful to you and trusting you'll be quiet to keep from making waves, surprise them.

There is no physical object in the world that is worth as much as your honor.

Honor is not the same as dignity. Retaining one sometimes means leaving the other aside.

Don't have any sex you don't want to have; have as much as you want of the sex that you do, whether that's a lot, a little, or none at all. Nothing you can do to your own body is immoral, unless you're doing it as an act of self-punishment.

Food is morally neutral. You do not have to earn the right to eat calories. Fat and sugar keep your brain from eating itself.

Learning to sit still and breathe--in, in, in, hold, hold, hold, out, out, out, out, out, out--can give you five feet of clear space around yourself in a maelstrom.

Find out how to make three good meals: A comfort meal you can make for just yourself relatively easily, a fancy meal you can use to wow a date, and a meal you can feed a bunch of people. All the other cooking can come later, but you can build a community on those three meals.

If you ever get to the point that things are so bleak you can see no other way forward but to die, make any other choice. If that means leaving everything you own and being a beach bum, or quitting your career, or taking up or leaving a religion, or deciding to bicycle across the country, so be it; living means more chances, dying means everything stops and you don't get to see any more interesting things. As you have not yet seen all the things that can interest you, it is better to live.

ivycopper

When I was 17, one of my online friends was 14. Things were tough, and we were dealing with a lot of the same problems. We were deep in a horrible mess. If you were EDed in the 2010s, you know what I mean.

To me, she was this little girl, too young to shoulder any of it. Today, I know I wasn't equipped to handle it either, but I had those 3 additional yrs, and I just had to try and save her.

In the end, she saved herself, of course. And oof, is she strong. I still know her, and she's this absolutely radiant person now.

Back then, she'd cling to me. Every day, I would write a diary entry style blog post, all very cryptic, cringy and emo, and she'd leave these long messages discussing them with me, bc being the younger one, she obviously thought it was all very brilliant and a complete revelation. She would turn to me with all these questions abt life and people.

And then one day, she asked me what to do if there ever came a day she couldn't bear it anymore. And sleep-deprived, on a 4 week fast, in the midst of my final exams, I said something that's really not all that clever or extraordinary, but that's still the thing I'm most proud of to this day. Just bc I'd never read or heard it anywhere before. I said "you buy a train ticket and then you message me and I'll come and get you and we'll run away together and figure it all out". And I meant it.

In that moment, typing it out, I allowed myself to hope, too; and I made myself that same promise, that I would run away somewhere if life became truly unbearable. That I'd figure it out. For the first time in my life, I decided that the one thing I would never take away from myself was a second chance. Or a millionth chance.

So. If life ever gets truly too much, buy that train ticket. You can always buy that train ticket.

ohmightydevviepuu

Stand With Minnesota is a hub for supporting, learning, and taking action to support Minnesotans impacted by ICE and federal enforcement.

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If you're strapped for cash or just wish you could do more, Stand with Minnesota has a section on their website where you can write messages to these brave people! Let them know how much you appreciate their hard work and send them love!!

#stand with minnesota #single boost

secondbeatsongs

Visit Original Link

“Hampsterdance” with every second beat removed

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oh, and before I forget:

#crank it UP #music

athingofvikings

Academically speaking, I still find the whole “anti-shipper” movement to be fascinating from a sociological perspective.

You have what amounts to a extremist purity cult whose beliefs align nearly precisely with those of Conservative American Christianity in terms of sexual purity politics (admittedly with some additional flourishes that I’ve watched develop in real time), but is mostly composed of minority members whose sexual-and-gender identities are opposed and oppressed by Conservative American Christianity. Additionally, their tactics also mirror religious pro-censorship groups (such as Warriors For Innocence), but their rhetoric is entirely secularized and derived from leftist theory.

Did they arrive at this structure via convergent evolution? Via socially dominant concepts in the greater socio-cultural space that they occupy? I doubt it was by direct emulation but the possibility does exist on some levels.

kallinite

I’m literally doing my sociology research paper on them right now.

athingofvikings

Ooh? Go on.

kallinite

It’s a qualitative study looking at the ways that Tumblr antis define the word “pedophilia”. It’s pretty interesting stuff because the definitions are so unique to Tumblr anti culture. I’ll have to go through my coding more thoroughly, but I think I’ve broken them down into four categories:

1. Legality based arguments where they’re very stuck on the idea of Age of Majority. Usually these people believe that it’s pedophilia if an 18 year old dates a 17 year old because they view age 18 as a hard and fast line from childhood to adulthood.

2. Psychological-readiness based arguments are a lot more subjective. These people often use arguments about differing life stages as a reason to call something pedophilia. Some even bust out that “peoples brains don’t fully age until 25” factoid. For this group, age gaps are a real no-go, even if both partners are legally consenting adults. The acceptablity of age gaps varied.

3. Physical appearance based arguments are focused against people who like young looking or young acting characters, even if those characters are adults. These people define pedophilia as an attraction to the perception of youth. This belief is strongly correlated with anti-DD/LG posting.

4. I’m having trouble naming the fourth category. It’s based around an argument of sneaky pedophilia or maybe an uncovering of the fan creators hidden desires? These antis argue that aging up characters past canon ages and shipping them is pedophilia because they believe that the shipper REALLY wanted to ship the child but didn’t because they were worried it wasn’t socially acceptable. In this instance, the character is portrayed as an adult by fandom and there is nothing childish in their appearance or mannerism. Because the character was depicted as a child in canon, however, the anti believes that the character must always be depicted that way in fandom and that only tricky pedophiles would be interested in exploring that character’s future.

Similarly, I noticed a newer trend of calling adult ships between people who canonically knew each other as children/teens to be called pedophilia or at the very least jailbaity, predatory behaviour. This is particularly true when the characters are a couple years apart. The idea there is that, if they knew each other as children, they’d never be able to see each other as adults. So if they have sex as adults, they’re mentally thinking of the child version of their partner and are therefore a pedophile. I wonder if this is a projection of the beliefs from #4. Perhaps it is the antis who, once introduced to a child/teen, are never able to see them as anything but a child and therefore they believe that everyone else must feel the same? That’s only a guess. I only saw this one a handful of times and it was all pretty recently, so I didn’t include it in the data for my paper. It does seem to indicate a level of escalation in these definitions though. I’ll have to check in again at a later date and see if it sticks around.

athingofvikings

I’ve seen all of those as well, and I’d be fascinated to see your results when you’re published.

As for names for the fourth category, can I suggest Canonical Stasis arguments? As in, “the characters are forever frozen at the ages that they are presented”.

ruffboi-mags

This is fascinating.

Infuriating as always, but fascinating.

im-da-bronx

Could pedophilia be defined as “using the authority of one’s age and greater life experience to manipulate those of younger ages and less life experience, most always children or teenagers, sometimes to the point of demanding complete dependence of the younger, and almost always demanding sexual favors of the younger.”?

Because, yeah, a 20 year old is an adult, but they have the Adult Free Trial, which gives you some, but not all, of the perks and responsibilities of adulthood. They’ve barely had any time to be an adult. And if a 50 year old is dating them, it’s probably for an underhanded reason.

But then you could get into the “What if they don’t realize it? What if they genuinely want to be a good person, they were just raised to expect this?” And then the fault would be on society and not the 50 y/o, UNTIL you tell the 50 y/o. Then whether they change or not is on them.

And you could also get into the “if they’re ‘attracted’ to children, but they know it’s wrong, and are seeking help/make sure they only interact in a safe, respectful way, are they pedos?” Etc.

And I forgot where I’m going with this but someone less emotionally/mentally tired please respond with your intellectual findings b/c this topic has been bugging me for months

firelxdykatara

To answer your first question–no. No, it absolutely could not. A fifty-year-old dating a twenty-year-old may very well be a creep, and the relationship could be unbalanced and unhealthy and even unethical, depending on the power dynamics involved, but being attracted to another adult, no matter how young an adult, is not pedophilia. Period. You cannot dilute the meaning of a condition like pedophilia (which is a paraphilia–healthy human adults are not sexually attracted to prepubescent children, that’s the point) without doing real harm to actual children who may be targeted, because suddenly resources and attention are being diverted from the actual problem (which is adults being attracted to prepubescent children who may then act in it–or, more broadly, adults coaxing minors into relationships with them even if they’ve gone partially or mostly through puberty) (that second bit is, incidentally, why romeo&juliet laws are important–an 18-year-old should not face the same penalty for sleeping with a 16-year-old that a 25-year-old would).

Are there valuable conversations to be had about why an older adult may choose or even prey on younger adults when they could conceivably be dating people closer to their own age? Sure. But you do those conversations no favors by pulling the ‘pedophilia’ card on people who’ve never expressed an attraction to children. And, especially when it comes to shipping, all you accomplish when you do something like that is start a shouting match where one side is defensive because an extremely charged buzzword has been pulled out over a fictional ship that didn’t even involve children, and the other side just starts calling everyone involved pedos or pedo-apologists and absolutely nothing of any worth to anyone comes out of it.

Your post is actually a perfect example of what the OP and the following commenters are talking about, in fact–the way tumblr has taken upon itself the duty of changing the definition of pedophilia (and, as pointed out in other comment chains on this thread, incest) so that it can encompass all the ships any given anti shipper has decided are Not Morally Pure Enough to Pass. And it’s a legitimate problem which provides a fascinating (if horrifying) look at the way fandom spaces have developed over the decades, and where the Purity Police really got their start.

#interesting read