The Life of a Demisexual Transboy :)

Demiaroflux asexual, afab they/them or he/him pronouns. Ask box is always open. I want to contribute to the trans and ace conversations This is a blog of experiences, being a demisexual, and being on the asexual spectrum in general.  I am a college student, therefore my posting is spuratic. 

[cadavercorvus]

Trying to date as an autistic transman is hell because you're either gonna find people who don't get your silly swag or treat you like a cartoon character wooby boy.

[lifeofademisexualtransboy]

O-M-F-G. This hits home. Especially since autistic masking and my closeted masking were one and the same.

I also HATE the infantilization of trans men. I am a complete adult and responsible for my actions. Don't treat me like im this innocent kid.

[transfaguette]

How long do you have to be on T until you can start on R, A, N, and S

i can’t even think of a worthy reply this is the best ask ive ever gotten

[bravegrumpy]

[lifeofademisexualtransboy]

I started a new blog so I can blog about my new creative works.

Follow @bravegrumpy if you want to see the creative ramblings of a guy who recently learned "Why am I like this"

Huetopia is the name of a fictional world I have been noodling on, for about as long as I've been away from tumblr.

My new blog will be focused less on my queer journey of self-discovery, and more about expanding my creative outlet, and juggling my need to be creative, my neurospicy lack of understanding time, and my dislike of capitalism.

[lifeofademisexualtransboy]

I can't believe I could log back into this. Its been 8 years since I've touched tumblr. I wonder how similar nd different things are.

I don't know if I'm going to continue on this, but I will be starting a new blog, that is more related to my creative works, and less related to trans things.

[lifeofademisexualtransboy]

Ahhh

TFW you tell your work crush you like them on your last day of working there. And they tell you it was reciprocated.

[lifeofademisexualtransboy]

The best thing just happened! xD

I was walking through a door into the library, and I almost bumped into a guy, and he was like “sorry dude”.  So it sounds like I passed, given that I didn’t open my mouth! xD

[transgooglesearches]

How to take out my uterus and give it to a trans girl who wants it

[lifeofademisexualtransboy]

I don't know if this is a smart decision or not. I reconnected with my ex from a few years ago. They were my first relationship, and my first love. And although they have a new SO, I haven't really fallen in love with anybody since. (If you don't count my dead cousin, whom was in love with me, and was somewhat scared of him, but also intrigued. I don't really count this as love.) I am okay with this. I have found peace with this. It is an awkward conversation, especially giving that I haven't intentionally interacted with them since we broke up back in 2014. I am remembering why we were together, and why we broke up. I am glad that they have found a new partner. I have found peace with them. I am just scared that they will die next week, because I connected with them this week. A similar thing happened to my cousin.

[fuckyeahsexeducation]

List of Non-sexual forms of intimacy

[incapableofgivingup]

watchingtv/movies together

going to events together like carnivals, festivals etc.

going on dates like to the movies or shopping

sharing secrets

hugs

sharing drinks

phone calls

talking

touching noses

cuddling

philosophical discussions

hand holding

sharing jokes

sharing smiles

laying your head on someone’s shoulder

linking arms

massages

tickling

playing with hair

scratching backs

tracing designs on arms

talking about the future

a hand written note

moving your head to their chest and listening to their heartbeat.

singing together or playing instruments together

dancing

feeding each other

drawing/writing on one another

brushing your partners hair

sharing food

sitting knee to knee across from each other

doing beauty treatments like facials or manicures, hairdying or face masks

reading books together

take care of your partner when sick

talking about the relationship (how I feel with you, How I feel w/this relationship)

cooking together

head-scratches

hugging

discussions about yourselves (like flaws, shortcomings, passions, stuff)

being physically/emotionally vulnerable

just sleeping together,

an actual open honest conversation

bathing and taking care of hygiene together

butterfly kisses

nuzzling

telling on-the-fly stories

meditating or sharing spirituality

grooming

sharing hobbies

studding

sharing personal stories

shaving

seeing each other without make-up or all dressed up

moral support for major events

crying, sharing emotions, comforting each other

listening to someones heartbeat or breathing

camping/hiking

sleepovers

being with animals together

going on trips together

sharing clothes/jewelry/personal items

sharing online social media

cleaning someone else’s living space

going with them to a doctor/therapist

doing art together

kissing different body parts

making out

volunteer together

work together

talking about wants and desires

experience new things together

do an extracurricular together

play games together

play sports together

walking together

being respectful and kind to one another (helping them do things, open doors for them etc.)

sharing responsibilities (chores, babysitting etc.)

giving each other presents, special things from the heart

talking about and respecting each others boundaries

public displays of affection

grooming in front of each other

wrestling or play fighting

texting/talking online

looking in each other’s eyes

complimenting each other

falling asleep over skype or chat

making faces at each other

sky watching

write poetry

inside jokes

respect each other

tell them how you feel about them

get to know each other better (playing 20 questions)

go for a ride together

close your eyes and memorise each others faces with your fingers

walk arm in arm

make a playlist together

make up your own words or slang

go out to eat

list each other’s best features

bring your faces close without touching and feel each other breath

go shopping together

throw a party or other event together

leave love notes

exercise together

exchange something meaningful

try to have a whole conversation with only eye contact and facial expressions

sit back to back and feel each other’s heartbeat

learn their favorite food and make it

run errands together

look at photos together

take photos together

go people watch

have a staring contest

learn something new together

take turns leading each other on a nature walk blindfolded

get to know each others family and friends

draw or sculpt each other

paint each other’s bodies

play with kids together

practicing a skill together

sharing food

being in comfortable clothes together

waving goodbye

being comfortable with each other’s bodily functions

any others you can think of?

[biro-ace-of-hearts-blog]

For aces everywhere!

[boned-furry]

For anyone everywhere

[cynopansy]

TAKE NOTE

[lifeofademisexualtransboy]

I forgot how much it hurts to be called a "she". I mean I'm not. But I have breasts and a "female" junk. And I've done "femme" things in the past. Why can't I be a boy now?

[lifeofademisexualtransboy]

Well fuck

I forgot how much it hurts to be called by the wrong name.

[lifeofademisexualtransboy]

You are loved, valid, and appreciated ⭐️💛🌙

Thank you! I really need to hear this. I am in a dark time in my life.

[thedoctorisadhd]

GUYS IM LITERALLY CRYING OVER THIS OKAY! FINALLY!!!!!!!!! ACE AND ARO REPRESENTATION!!!!!!!!!!! IN SOME VERY POPULAR MEDIA!!!!!!! AND ITS NOT EVEN JUST ONE CHARACTER!!!!!!!!! AND ITS CONFIRMED!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! THIS IS THE FIRST REPRESENTATION OF ANY KIND IVE EVER SEEN IN POPULAR PUBLISHED BOOKS AND STUFF!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! IM SO HAPPY!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

THE BEST PART IS: THIS IS ALSO ONE OF LITERALLY TWO POPULAR MEDIA THINGS I’VE EVER WATCHED WITH CONFIRMED ADHD REP!!!!!! AND THE ONLY THING I’VE EVER SEEN WITH CONFIRMED GENDERQUEER CHARACTERS!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! I LOVE THE PERCY JACKSON BOOKS AND @rrriordan IS A GIFT TO HUMANITY!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

and to think, just today i tried to post about ace/aro representation not being a thing that exists just when the wifi cut out! what a coincidence!!!

[tasteoface]

MY SOUL. MY SOUL

[lifeofademisexualtransboy]

Which character is gender queer confirmed?!?

And xD.

[transgooglesearches]

can i trade my uterus for the new pokémon game

[lifeofademisexualtransboy]

Same

[lauren-is-always-tired-deactiva]

reblog if you think trans women belong in female and lesbian spaces .

[lifeofademisexualtransboy]

It is hard to cope with death when it is mixed with sexual assault and coercion.

[lifeofademisexualtransboy]

What do you say to the dad of a man who was in love with you. When now that man is dead? Especially when you never fully reciprocates?