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Roleplayer, cosplayer, and artist

[lil-miss-daffy]

Making a post because there's a notification fir this blog and tumblr won't let me fucking see it

[lil-miss-daffy]

WHERE'S THE NOTIFICATION, TUMBLR?!?!

[lil-miss-daffy]

Making a post because there's a notification fir this blog and tumblr won't let me fucking see it

[sosuperawesome]

Decorative Mirrors

The Sweet Karma Bar on Etsy

See our #Etsy or #Moon tags

[autistic-twilight-sparkle]

my time as an anti

so like

I used to be one of the most prolific antis. I did tag patrol, I reported pedos, I gave advice.

But it all came to an end over a bit of miscommunication. You see, my girlfriend (of 3 years, i love her so much) was accused of defending someone who made rape threats to a minor. I was told to break up with her and for this reason, I flew into a serious anxiety attack. I described how my body was feeling, and I was told I was guilt tripping. People ganged up on me, made memes, and art of me in horrible, dehumanizing ways. I fled the anti community. People sent terrible anons to me, and even attacked my main blog. Death threats rolled in. It was a constant barrage of negativity and I almost didn’t survive. I considered suicide, self harm, and I had nightmares for months afterwards about being doxxed. Now, I rely on things like nicotine, alcohol, and marijuana to cope. They hunted me for months afterwards, and my old url has been taken and they continue to tell people I was a horrible and shitty person.

They’re vicious. The moment an adult commits the smallest transgression they turn on you. There was no mention how I’m autistic and I can’t pick up on social cues. My reputation was destroyed. My old urls were taken. My girlfriend’s old url was taken. I fear I won’t ever know peace because of these people. They’re dangerous and attack in swarms. If they knew I was still active, they’d probably target me until the day I die.

They claim to protect autistic people, but I guess that’s only when it benefits them.

[fableh-deactivated20190607]

gods i am so sorry you went through that. *sending virtual hugs*

i too had similar experiences in anti circles where i was all but crucified for saying or doing the wrong thing. i remember how i once said in a group chat that i liked art of a character doing a bad thing and everyone spammed me until i took back the comment. another time someone threatened to kill me bc i didnt have an issue with genderbends. ive changed names, moved blogs, dropped projects–all for the sake of getting away from the ppl i used to talk to when i was an anti. even now, when im more confident in sharing my writing and being vocal about my opinions, i get serious anxiety attacks whenever i get notifications or asks bc of what i went thru.

the fandom police are vile and cruel, thru and thru. full stop.

[neurodivergent-karen]

People who make callout posts about people whos only crimes are liking hentai/anime that doesn’t even involve underage characters are actually shitting on children currently undergoing CSA and survivors of it.

There is a serious problem with people’s mentality on this site when it’s uncovered that massive amounts of actual CP (actual photographs of real children being abused) were being hosted on tumblr and that’s why it got removed from the App Store. Not only that, some of these blogs were apparently run by parents who talked about sexually abusing their own children.

And you know what the anti-kink/anti-shippers response immediately was, and why it makes me so sick to my fucking stomach as a survivor of CSA?

They completely ignore that there was actual CSA and trafficking happening and immediately start whining about voltron shippers and “the hentai freaks” getting tumblr almost deleted. Like, did they even read the fucking news? Are they even capable of reading? Or do they actually not give a shit about actual real life victims? Honestly I’m leaning towards both at this point. They don’t care about victims unless they can be used as pawns by the “leaders” of this movement on tumblr.

You have callout posts on this site that are like “this person is a pedophile here’s proof” and the “proof” is anime drawings they’ve reblogged of characters who aren’t even canonically underaged. Or people calling a drawing of Mina Ashido in a cheerleading outfit child pornography.

You know what this is doing? It’s literally watering down the meaning of important and useful terms such as “pedophilia” and “child pornography” which are supposed to have clear definitions so that people know that someone is a danger to children/children are being harmed.

This isn’t actually something that’s too far off from what I’ve seen actual pedophiles do. I’ve read MAP tumblrs out of morbid curiosity and something I often noticed is whenever MAPs talked about legalizing child pornography they wouldn’t specify that “actually we only mean fictional stuff such as lolicon :)” until other people rightfully jumped down their fucking throats. (Note: I don’t trust that they only mean fictional content.)

Antis are also like this however in the vagueness of how they use terms such as “pedophilia” and “child pornography” but in the opposite direction. To them, almost anything can be defined as “actual child pornography” at this point and that is dangerous.

I got shat on by people saying that I was defending child pornography for this post despite the picture in question that was called out being a non-sexualized completely sfw drawing of Mina from BNHA.

When someone uses a sentence such as “jack off to child porn” most people will assume they are literally jacking off to images of real life children being abused, not a fucking sfw anime drawing.

This is dangerous because it creates a “boy who cried wolf” scenario and literally gives ammunition to actual fucking pedophiles to abuse children.

Whenever people hear about someone who “jacks off to cp” or is a “pedophile” their immediate first response shouldn’t be conditioned to be “okay is this person actually a pedo or do they just fap to fictional anime characters?” Eventually, people will become fatigued and will just stop even checking.

Pedophiles love this. They clearly love the fact that these terms are getting watered down because it creates “reasonable doubt” that when they talk about “legalizing child pornography” they’re clearly capitalizing on it by using the same vague broad definition that antis use that encompasses even sfw anime drawings. It also draws the attention away from them so they can continue abusing children.

This is so fucking horrifying.

[the-real-seebs]

I always wondered why this is, but since then, several antis have told me: It’s because they don’t care about the children, only about the pedophiles. One viewed “how is it any better for a pedophile to jack off to cartoon porn than to for them to touch an actual child” as an amazing game-winning “gotcha!” question to which no one could possibly have an answer. Another responded to my suggestion that maybe the cartoon porn case was better with “no it’s fucking not! well, technically…”

They don’t care what happens to the kids. They care what happens to the pedophiles.

[cyborgbutterflies]

This is consistent with my model of anti behavior.

I get the feeling that a lot of the problem is that they base their morality on things like disgust rather than on realistic consequences involving other people.

If you have consequence-based ethics then hurting real people is usually clearly worse than anything that could happen in your thoughts or to fictional characters. Real people can suffer while fictional characters can’t.

This is how they seem to justify abusing real people over dumb voltron ships. Their moral framework doesn’t actually treat anime space twinks as being something morally separate from people who actually exist.

You need to actually push them into talking possible real life negative consequences from voltron shipping, and when they do it always seems like an afterthought. Like they just copypasted the old conservative/radfem argument of “if you enjoy something in fiction you will train yourself to enjoy it in real life” and didn’t give it further thought. They just accept it as true because it serves their emotions.

A combination of moral outrage and an abusive personality seems to be central to a lot of anti behavior.

[floisdonewiththisbullshit]

“how is it any better for a pedophile to jack off to cartoon porn than to for them to touch an actual child” I can’t believe I had to read this. I can’t believe an anti ACTUALLY SAID THIS. I am absolutely FUMING right now. IT’S BETTER BECAUSE A LITTLE KID ISN’T FUCKING HARMED. I hate pedophiles, I really absolutely do. But I rather them fucking masturbate to some lolicon then ACTUALLY HARM A REAL LIFE CHILD???? ARE YOU KIDDING ME? I’m fucking done with antis. Fucking done.

[friendlyalien]

They didn’t. They did not say that. That’s not real. They did not just say that cartoon porn and real life child abuse is on the same level of bad. I refuse to believe it. I don’t want to believe it.

[space-coyote-judal]

If you ever say or imply that fictional content is as bad as actual child abuse, you do more to hurt children than anyone who creates fictional content, no matter what type of content it is.

[writeworld-blog]

SYNONYMS FOR WORDS COMMONLY USED IN STUDENTS' WRITINGS

by larae.net

Amazing- incredible, unbelievable, improbable, fabulous, wonderful, fantastic, astonishing, astounding, extraordinary

Anger- enrage, infuriate, arouse, nettle, exasperate, inflame, madden

Angry- mad, furious, enraged, excited, wrathful, indignant, exasperated, aroused, inflamed

Answer- reply, respond, retort, acknowledge

Ask- question, inquire of, seek information from, put a question to, demand, request, expect, inquire, query, interrogate, examine, quiz

Awful- dreadful, terrible, abominable, bad, poor, unpleasant

Bad- evil, immoral, wicked, corrupt, sinful, depraved, rotten, contaminated, spoiled, tainted, harmful, injurious, unfavorable, defective, inferior, imperfect, substandard, faulty, improper, inappropriate, unsuitable, disagreeable, unpleasant, cross, nasty, unfriendly, irascible, horrible, atrocious, outrageous, scandalous, infamous, wrong, noxious, sinister, putrid, snide, deplorable, dismal, gross, heinous, nefarious, base, obnoxious, detestable, despicable, contemptible, foul, rank, ghastly, execrable

Beautiful - pretty, lovely, handsome, attractive, gorgeous, dazzling, splendid, magnificent, comely, fair, ravishing, graceful, elegant, fine, exquisite, aesthetic, pleasing, shapely, delicate, stunning, glorious, heavenly, resplendent, radiant, glowing, blooming, sparkling

Begin - start, open, launch, initiate, commence, inaugurate, originate

Big - enormous, huge, immense, gigantic, vast, colossal, gargantuan, large, sizable, grand, great, tall, substantial, mammoth, astronomical, ample, broad, expansive, spacious, stout, tremendous, titanic, mountainous

Brave - courageous, fearless, dauntless, intrepid, plucky, daring, heroic, valorous, audacious, bold, gallant, valiant, doughty, mettlesome

Break - fracture, rupture, shatter, smash, wreck, crash, demolish, atomize

Bright - shining, shiny, gleaming, brilliant, sparkling, shimmering, radiant, vivid, colorful, lustrous, luminous, incandescent, intelligent, knowing, quick-witted, smart, intellectual

Calm - quiet, peaceful, still, tranquil, mild, serene, smooth, composed, collected, unruffled, level-headed, unexcited, detached, aloof

Come - approach, advance, near, arrive, reach

Cool - chilly, cold, frosty, wintry, icy, frigid

Crooked - bent, twisted, curved, hooked, zigzag

Cry - shout, yell, yowl, scream, roar, bellow, weep, wail, sob, bawl

Cut - gash, slash, prick, nick, sever, slice, carve, cleave, slit, chop, crop, lop, reduce

Dangerous - perilous, hazardous, risky, uncertain, unsafe

Dark - shadowy, unlit, murky, gloomy, dim, dusky, shaded, sunless, black, dismal, sad

Decide - determine, settle, choose, resolve

Definite - certain, sure, positive, determined, clear, distinct, obvious

Delicious - savory, delectable, appetizing, luscious, scrumptious, palatable, delightful, enjoyable, toothsome, exquisite

Describe - portray, characterize, picture, narrate, relate, recount, represent, report, record

Destroy - ruin, demolish, raze, waste, kill, slay, end, extinguish

Difference - disagreement, inequity, contrast, dissimilarity, incompatibility

Do - execute, enact, carry out, finish, conclude, effect, accomplish, achieve, attain

Dull - boring, tiring„ tiresome, uninteresting, slow, dumb, stupid, unimaginative, lifeless, dead, insensible, tedious, wearisome, listless, expressionless, plain, monotonous, humdrum, dreary

Eager - keen, fervent, enthusiastic, involved, interested, alive to

End - stop, finish, terminate, conclude, close, halt, cessation, discontinuance

Enjoy - appreciate, delight in, be pleased, indulge in, luxuriate in, bask in, relish, devour, savor, like

Explain - elaborate, clarify, define, interpret, justify, account for

Fair - just, impartial, unbiased, objective, unprejudiced, honest

Fall - drop, descend, plunge, topple, tumble

False - fake, fraudulent, counterfeit, spurious, untrue, unfounded, erroneous, deceptive, groundless, fallacious

Famous - well-known, renowned, celebrated, famed, eminent, illustrious, distinguished, noted, notorious

Fast - quick, rapid, speedy, fleet, hasty, snappy, mercurial, swiftly, rapidly, quickly, snappily, speedily, lickety-split, posthaste, hastily, expeditiously, like a flash

Fat - stout, corpulent, fleshy, beefy, paunchy, plump, full, rotund, tubby, pudgy, chubby, chunky, burly, bulky, elephantine

Fear - fright, dread, terror, alarm, dismay, anxiety, scare, awe, horror, panic, apprehension

Fly - soar, hover, flit, wing, flee, waft, glide, coast, skim, sail, cruise

Funny - humorous, amusing, droll, comic, comical, laughable, silly

Get - acquire, obtain, secure, procure, gain, fetch, find, score, accumulate, win, earn, rep, catch, net, bag, derive, collect, gather, glean, pick up, accept, come by, regain, salvage

Go - recede, depart, fade, disappear, move, travel, proceed

Good - excellent, fine, superior, wonderful, marvelous, qualified, suited, suitable, apt, proper, capable, generous, kindly, friendly, gracious, obliging, pleasant, agreeable, pleasurable, satisfactory, well-behaved, obedient, honorable, reliable, trustworthy, safe, favorable, profitable, advantageous, righteous, expedient, helpful, valid, genuine, ample, salubrious, estimable, beneficial, splendid, great, noble, worthy, first-rate, top-notch, grand, sterling, superb, respectable, edifying

Great - noteworthy, worthy, distinguished, remarkable, grand, considerable, powerful, much, mighty

Gross - improper, rude, coarse, indecent, crude, vulgar, outrageous, extreme, grievous, shameful, uncouth, obscene, low

Happy - pleased, contented, satisfied, delighted, elated, joyful, cheerful, ecstatic, jubilant, gay, tickled, gratified, glad, blissful, overjoyed

Hate - despise, loathe, detest, abhor, disfavor, dislike, disapprove, abominate

Have - hold, possess, own, contain, acquire, gain, maintain, believe, bear, beget, occupy, absorb, fill, enjoy

Help - aid, assist, support, encourage, back, wait on, attend, serve, relieve, succor, benefit, befriend, abet

Hide - conceal, cover, mask, cloak, camouflage, screen, shroud, veil

Hurry - rush, run, speed, race, hasten, urge, accelerate, bustle

Hurt - damage, harm, injure, wound, distress, afflict, pain

Idea - thought, concept, conception, notion, understanding, opinion, plan, view, belief

Important - necessary, vital, critical, indispensable, valuable, essential, significant, primary, principal, considerable, famous, distinguished, notable, well-known

Interesting - fascinating, engaging, sharp, keen, bright, intelligent, animated, spirited, attractive, inviting, intriguing, provocative, though-provoking, challenging, inspiring, involving, moving, titillating, tantalizing, exciting, entertaining, piquant, lively, racy, spicy, engrossing, absorbing, consuming, gripping, arresting, enthralling, spellbinding, curious, captivating, enchanting, bewitching, appealing

Keep - hold, retain, withhold, preserve, maintain, sustain, support

Kill - slay, execute, assassinate, murder, destroy, cancel, abolish

Lazy - indolent, slothful, idle, inactive, sluggish

Little - tiny, small, diminutive, shrimp, runt, miniature, puny, exiguous, dinky, cramped, limited, itsy-bitsy, microscopic, slight, petite, minute

Look - gaze, see, glance, watch, survey, study, seek, search for, peek, peep, glimpse, stare, contemplate, examine, gape, ogle, scrutinize, inspect, leer, behold, observe, view, witness, perceive, spy, sight, discover, notice, recognize, peer, eye, gawk, peruse, explore

Love - like, admire, esteem, fancy, care for, cherish, adore, treasure, worship, appreciate, savor

Make - create, originate, invent, beget, form, construct, design, fabricate, manufacture, produce, build, develop, do, effect, execute, compose, perform, accomplish, earn, gain, obtain, acquire, get

Mark - label, tag, price, ticket, impress, effect, trace, imprint, stamp, brand, sign, note, heed, notice, designate

Mischievous - prankish, playful, naughty, roguish, waggish, impish, sportive

Move - plod, go, creep, crawl, inch, poke, drag, toddle, shuffle, trot, dawdle, walk, traipse, mosey, jog, plug, trudge, slump, lumber, trail, lag, run, sprint, trip, bound, hotfoot, high-tail, streak, stride, tear, breeze, whisk, rush, dash, dart, bolt, fling, scamper, scurry, skedaddle, scoot, scuttle, scramble, race, chase, hasten, hurry, hump, gallop, lope, accelerate, stir, budge, travel, wander, roam, journey, trek, ride, spin, slip, glide, slide, slither, coast, flow, sail, saunter, hobble, amble, stagger, paddle, slouch, prance, straggle, meander, perambulate, waddle, wobble, pace, swagger, promenade, lunge

Moody - temperamental, changeable, short-tempered, glum, morose, sullen, mopish, irritable, testy, peevish, fretful, spiteful, sulky, touchy

Neat - clean, orderly, tidy, trim, dapper, natty, smart, elegant, well-organized, super, desirable, spruce, shipshape, well-kept, shapely

New - fresh, unique, original, unusual, novel, modern, current, recent

Old - feeble, frail, ancient, weak, aged, used, worn, dilapidated, ragged, faded, broken-down, former, old-fashioned, outmoded, passe, veteran, mature, venerable, primitive, traditional, archaic, conventional, customary, stale, musty, obsolete, extinct

Part - portion, share, piece, allotment, section, fraction, fragment

Place - space, area, spot, plot, region, location, situation, position, residence, dwelling, set, site, station, status, state

Plan - plot, scheme, design, draw, map, diagram, procedure, arrangement, intention, device, contrivance, method, way, blueprint

Popular - well-liked, approved, accepted, favorite, celebrated, common, current

Predicament - quandary, dilemma, pickle, problem, plight, spot, scrape, jam

Put - place, set, attach, establish, assign, keep, save, set aside, effect, achieve, do, build

Quiet - silent, still, soundless, mute, tranquil, peaceful, calm, restful

Right - correct, accurate, factual, true, good, just, honest, upright, lawful, moral, proper, suitable, apt, legal, fair

Run - race, speed, hurry, hasten, sprint, dash, rush, escape, elope, flee

Say/Tell - inform, notify, advise, relate, recount, narrate, explain, reveal, disclose, divulge, declare, command, order, bid, enlighten, instruct, insist, teach, train, direct, issue, remark, converse, speak, affirm, suppose, utter, negate, express, verbalize, voice, articulate, pronounce, deliver, convey, impart, assert, state, allege, mutter, mumble, whisper, sigh, exclaim, yell, sing, yelp, snarl, hiss, grunt, snort, roar, bellow, thunder, boom, scream, shriek, screech, squawk, whine, philosophize, stammer, stutter, lisp, drawl, jabber, protest, announce, swear, vow, content, assure, deny, dispute

Scared - afraid, frightened, alarmed, terrified, panicked, fearful, unnerved, insecure, timid, shy, skittish, jumpy, disquieted, worried, vexed, troubled, disturbed, horrified, terrorized, shocked, petrified, haunted, timorous, shrinking, tremulous, stupefied, paralyzed, stunned, apprehensive

Show - display, exhibit, present, note, point to, indicate, explain, reveal, prove, demonstrate, expose

Slow - unhurried, gradual, leisurely, late, behind, tedious, slack

Stop - cease, halt, stay, pause, discontinue, conclude, end, finish, quit

Story - tale, myth, legend, fable, yarn, account, narrative, chronicle, epic, sage, anecdote, record, memoir

Strange - odd, peculiar, unusual, unfamiliar, uncommon, queer, weird, outlandish, curious, unique, exclusive, irregular

Take - hold, catch, seize, grasp, win, capture, acquire, pick, choose, select, prefer, remove, steal, lift, rob, engage, bewitch, purchase, buy, retract, recall, assume, occupy, consume

Tell - disclose, reveal, show, expose, uncover, relate, narrate, inform, advise, explain, divulge, declare, command, order, bid, recount, repeat

Think - judge, deem, assume, believe, consider, contemplate, reflect, mediate

Trouble - distress, anguish, anxiety, worry, wretchedness, pain, danger, peril, disaster, grief, misfortune, difficulty, concern, pains, inconvenience, exertion, effort

True - accurate, right, proper, precise, exact, valid, genuine, real, actual, trusty, steady, loyal, dependable, sincere, staunch

Ugly - hideous, frightful, frightening, shocking, horrible, unpleasant, monstrous, terrifying, gross, grisly, ghastly, horrid, unsightly, plain, homely, evil, repulsive, repugnant, gruesome

Unhappy - miserable, uncomfortable, wretched, heart-broken, unfortunate, poor, downhearted, sorrowful, depressed, dejected, melancholy, glum, gloomy, dismal, discouraged, sad

Use - employ, utilize, exhaust, spend, expend, consume, exercise

Wrong - incorrect, inaccurate, mistaken, erroneous, improper, unsuitable

[feebledungeons]

“I roll to seduce...” D100 Random Encounters

So… I’ve heard on the grapevine that a lot of PCs have been smooching it up with NPCs, much to my fellow DMs’ dismay.

“What do I do? I didn’t even give this NPC a name and now I have to role play Hanky Panky at my table? In front of the dice gods?”

Fear no more, DMs! For I have made you a D100 Random encounter table to determine how your thirsty PC’s naughty activities will go, without the awkwardness of actually having to squick yourself out by looking your friends in the eye and describing the down-and-dirty details!

Simply have your Player roll a D100 and use the following table to decide their fate.

DM WARNING: The following Random Encounter table can seriously break your game. Use with caution and make sure you read it through before deciding whether you actually want to use it. Seriously. It’s so ridiculously unbalanced and broken, my friends.

FYI you can see the full table at my wordpress site here. 

And, as always, if you’re going to GM stuff that could make people uncomfortable (including yourself) make sure to check everyone’s comfort levels first and avoid anything that’s going to ruin people’s fun.

Keep reading

[dnd-apothecary]

Here’s the list!!

Seriously, some hilarious stuff!! Thanks for taking the time to make this!

[feebledungeons]

Aw shucks 😊 thanks @dnd-apothecary 💖

[tilthedayidice]

This is absolute GOLD

[abessinier]

Stuff kids on tumblr better relearn

1. You are responsible for your own media experience. 

2. There is such a thing as a healthy level of avoidance towards topics that make you feel unwell or even (in a real-life clinical definition of the term) trigger you - but you are the one to actively take care of what you view.

3. Avoiding does not mean policing others.

4. You have no right to tell artists to censor themselves - you may criticize what others do, you may dislike it, that’s fine - but actively asking for censorship when you could easily unfollow or block a person just makes you look incompetent in your use of the internet.

5. Do not give people on tumblr or /any/ website the responsibility for your emotional well-being. Because these people do not even know you so no, you have no right to ask them to take care of you.

[apolapets-blog]

-HELP SAVE THE HUMMINGBIRDS-

“Many people are unaware of the harmful effects that the red dye in the store bought nectar has on these tiny birds. It leads to kidney failure and eventual death. We are taking donations to continually help in educating people all over the world to stop using the premade nectars and to simply make your own by using 1 cup of granulated sugar in 4 cups of water that has been boiled. Please help fund this important campaign. Every amount will help in a huge way.

I have created a GoFundMe page for donations to help our bird rehabber who works 24-7, 365 days a year using their own money to help save these lives. This money will be sent to her to use to continue to provide resources for the birds. Rehabbers who also help others in other countries such as Mexico who have limited resources to save these lives. We can all help. If we reach our goal and go past that goal, there is a chance we could have an autopsy done on one of the hummingbirds to prove the deadly effects of the red dye on them. 100% of the funds donated will go towards helping the hummingbirds. We are their voice! Thank you everyone! PLEASE SHARE!

Lisa Meyers Swanson”

https://www.gofundme.com/savehummingbirds

_________________

Please reblog, share on Facebook, on twitter, share anywhere you can.

If you can’t donate it’s ok, just spread the world so more people know about it.

People, please do not use red dye néctar on hummingbird feeders.

[witchyfishyfun]

Time to throw away that bottle I’ve been saving for spring damn thank you for this

[todaysbird]

the GoFundMe campaign is over, but this is important to remember. if you can’t find or make your own hummingbird nectar free of dye, plant native plants for backyard hummingbirds instead.

[kittyofinsanity]

PLEASE USE PURE CANE SUGAR From a FB page (Help Save Our Hummingbirds HSOH): “It seems there are many that think they’re helping hummingbirds by using everything but the recommended ratio of water and pure cane sugar which is the closest constituent to flower nectar. 4 parts water 1 part sugar The birds cannot metabolize the items listed below therefore it causes kidney damage/failure and a slow painful death! So please …. DO NOT USE:DYES ORGANIC /RAW SUGAR ARTIFICIAL SWEETENERS HONEY KOOLAID JUICES SPORTS DRINKS BROWN SUGAR MAPLE SYRUP ANY TYPE OF SYRUP STORE BOUGHT NECTAR ETC.Raw, organic, turbinado and brown sugar are harmful to hummingbirds. You should only make your hummingbird nectar with granulated white sugar. Cane sugar is preferable, but beet sugar is also acceptable. Don’t use confectioner’s sugar either, as it contains an anti-caking agent. Raw, turbinado and organic sugar is made by taking sugar cane and squeezing out the juice. The juice is then evaporated and spun in a turbine (hence the name “turbinado”) to produce the sugar crystals. These crystals are a golden color and are rich in vitamins and minerals. This is great for humans, but NOT for the hummingbirds. One of the minerals these sugars contain is iron, and hummingbirds have very little tolerance for it. Brown sugar is white sugar that has had molasses added to it. Molasses is rich in iron. Agave nectar also contains iron. Not good for the hummingbirds at all!!Hummingbirds, being very tiny birds with fast metabolisms, must eat a lot of food to survive. Since they are so small, they are susceptible to excess dietary iron buildup in their system. The oversupply of iron is stored in the liver and is toxic to liver cells.If you use ^^^ and claim to see the same birds every year, I’m calling bs because unless your birds are banded, you’ve no idea if the same birds are coming back year after year.If you love watching hummingbirds like you say you do, then please only feed them pure cane sugar and water.NO, you do NOT have to boil the water either. If you do, boil unmeasured water first then measure out your 4 parts water, then add your measured 1 part of the sugar. The water evaporates down abit making the nectar abit sweeter than it needs to be and will not give your feeder extra hang time. The sugar water gets contaminated as soon as the bird’s beak touches the nectar. Change out nectar and clean feeders every 1 to 3 days. DO NOT USE soaps or detergents of any kind to clean the feeders. Only hot water and vinegar. The bird’s can taste the residue from soap left behind and may possibly make them sick or worse.“

[uppityamy]

Oh thank god my broke ass always has used sugar water instead of that red shit

[sushinfood]

i s2g if humanity kills off the hummingbird, the purest bird other than a chickadee, i will give up

[yandere-drabbles]

SAVE THE HUMMINGBIRDS Y'ALL

[slumberinggirl-deactivated20210]

Damn I had no idea

[antis-delete-your-blogs-pls-thx]

Like if y'all really wanna talk about retraumatising yourself, imagine having a fucking anti as your therapist

[shiggy-stan]

The suicide rate would go up. I’m not even kidding right now, imagine if your therapist was constantly judging you, putting you down and telling you deserved your abuse because of what you read and you tell me there wouldn’t be a body count.

Imagine telling your therapist you have intrusive thoughts that you can’t stop having them and your so scared and your managing them the best you can and imagine that therapist telling you your a fucked up individual who belongs in a psych ward for having INTRUSIVE THOUGHTS.

Imagine telling them you wrote about your experiences and posted it on your private blog, tagged so that anyone with those triggers can avoid it, and imagine that therapist tells you your as bad as your fucking rapist.

Now imagine after you leave that therapist because you can’t take being verbally and emotionally abused and then you find out they called your parents to tell them what you told them in confidence in their office. Then the cops show up at your house because they said you were a predator and didn’t mention they reached that diagnosis because you ship Sheith.

Just fuck them. They’d break people.

[thriftshop-faith]

Actually, there’s evidence of those with Anti / pros censorship / puritan mindsets attempting to wiggle their way into therapy and psychiatry.

(X)

They are literally capable of causing more damage than good in the real world, with victims and the mentally ill.

As someone who goes to therapy and psychiatry this scares me.

[fandomsense]

I hate this.

[antis-delete-your-blogs-pls-thx]

That very tweet was what inspired this post. It gave me chills.

[pro-survivors]

Holy fuck.

[korrasera]

In case you need anymore reason to encourage people to not become antis, to not support antis, and to learn how to spot anti bullshit coming so they can head it off.

[hazel2468]

Yo, in case anyone is wondering why I am so against antis, not personally, but as a Social Worker- THIS is why. 

Antis are dangerous. Antis having access to vulnerable people is dangerous. Antis being able to do things like this and push their own ideology on those seeking help for what are complicated issues, where no two people are the same, is dangerous. 

I cannot imagine someone sitting in a room with a client who is speaking about trauma and telling them, point blank, that they are hurting themselves by engaging in something like safe and consensual BDSM. The idea that that to me, as a Social Worker, is not only ridiculous, it is malpractice. I can PROMISE you that if anti rhetoric and this kind of bullshit makes it into the therapy scene- and I am sure it already has in some places- people will get hurt. 

Antis are vile and disgusting because they are willing to take advantage of and put down vulnerable people seeking help. And for those of you who insist that this isn’t always the case- at BEST antis are so violently ignorant of psychology, sociology, the human psyche, and how trauma operates that they are doing serious harm to people. That’s the BEST case scenario. Which I am less inclined to believe for every time I see an anti disregarding what is common, best practice knowledge- that everyone copes in their own way, that a “thought crime” is not a thing, and that approaching trauma as something black and white will ALWAYS do more harm than good. 

[dancinginlosangeles]

So last month we had 8 providers in my area robbed and raped. This man had fake escort accounts that he paid for himself on eros to provide fake referrals for himself, provided ID, provided pictures, talked on the phone, etc. In other words, he seemed legit…because he was a professional thief.  

But.

The real kicker here is that he’s been blacklisted 20+ times on Verify Him. I’ve seriously I’ve never seen a guy blacklisted so many times. If these girls had known to check this site, he would never have gotten the chance. So please Sugar babies and escorts, get on Verify him. It’s free. Its been around forever. Even when you run out of credits, you can use the “browse blacklist database” and search with emails, names, phone numbers, etc. Just screen everyone and make no exceptions. It pisses me off that hes been able to do this to so many women and he knows hes going to continue to get away with it, because the police will never do anything about it. 

I know we know this, and I know we talk about how important it is to screen all the time…but clearly the message isn’t getting out there for this man to be doing it for decades and getting away with it. He continues to victimize women all over the country. 

All we can do is warn each other. stay safe girls. 

EDIT: It was brought to my attention by ‘thecringeandwincefactory’ that this man  is also a registered sex offender in Georgia for attempted child molestation.  

[dancinginlosangeles]

Update guys: He’s currently in Durham North Carolina. He’s robbed 7 escorts there and counting. 

[feministism]

[sixpenceee]

[antis-delete-your-blogs-pls-thx]

What steps can we take to make it more difficult for abusers to use fiction as a tool against their victims?

Education! Education, education, education. I understand the actual education system itself is on a societal level, but if you’re interested in combatting this on an individual level, I can think of a few things that could help. If you have kids, tell them (in an age appropriate way) the signs of abusers/predators, how important personal boundaries are and being able to say no, internet safety and privacy (don’t reveal personal information to people you don’t know, etc), some red flags to watch for, etc. You can make educational posts here on Tumblr about the same thing. Obviously most people know abuse/pedophilia/incest is wrong, but it’s essential to give them the tools to actually recognise dangerous behaviours rather than just saying it’s wrong and not explaining why, or how these things can happen.

A few red flags for anyone reading:

The person in question tells you how to feel about an event/denies your experiences actually occurred or were as severe as they felt

Pushing boundaries, insisting on sexual topics if you’re underage (or an adult who has made it clear you’re uninterested)

Encourages you to see things you’re not comfortable with, not necessarily on a sexual level

Threatens you with suicide/self-harm if you don’t do as they say (or threatens you at all)

Guilt tripping for maintaining personal boundaries/saying no

Insisting you’re special or more mature for your age (in cases of grooming) and can uniquely handle topics you’re uncomfortable with/aren’t ready for

Constantly messaging you and expecting you to drop everything and answer

Claiming they “need you to live” or “would give up without you”

Insulting or belittling you, or encouraging you to insult and belittle others

Shaming you

Isolating you from your friends or alone time

Insisting you can’t hang out with other people unless they’re around

Going through your personal messages and information without you wanting them to

Tracking your location/activities

These are just some of the signs someone is abusive. It’s important to be able to recognise these!

[as-thou-will]

to expand and veer sideways onto the manipulative side of some of this:

constant questioning of your feelings for them if you try to say no to something you’re uncomfortable with, i.e. “Don’t you love me?” “it’s just a little thing, don’t you want me to be happy?” “if you really liked me you’d do this for me” “it’s like you don’t trust me enough”

Abandonment- they’ll ignore or neglect you until they want contact again, particularly if you try to set boundaries or want space. Or do something they don’t like. Particularly something to be wary of if you’re not allowed the same space.

Lovebombing- floods of attention and gifts when you do something they’ve pushed you into, or apologise for the crime of saying no or wanting space. In more overtly abusive relationships, this is also the stage after the abuse- the apologies, the affection, the promises to never do that again- but it can happen in pretty much any manipulative situation. The carrot half of the equation; look how good it could be, if only you do what they want.

You often see the latter two together, I’m led to believe.

[antis-delete-your-blogs-pls-thx]

Lovebombing happened to me with my abuse. It’s super common and not always on a list of things to look out for. Thanks for mentioning it.

[thepiscesactor-deactivated20121]

Just an experiment. Reblog if you actually give a fuck about male victims of domestic violence and rape.

[minotaursauce]

Of fucking course

What sick bastard doesn’t

[xaldien]

“You’d be surprised”, said Xaldien, who just lost four followers and received a lovely “men can’t be raped” anon shortly after reblogging this the first time.

[snapdraqons]

It’s world autism day so, from someone who’s autistic, here’s your reminder that

-autism speaks is a disgusting group who portray autism as a burden and a struggle that people suffer with. It’s not. It’s just a part of who we are.

-relating to the last point, don’t ‘light up blue’ for autism awareness. go ‘red instead’ or ‘light up gold’ if you want to show support and help raise awareness.

- don’t just spread awareness. spread acceptance and love. autistic people are constantly being bullied, belittled and intentionally excluded.

- don’t just say things like ‘dont be mean to autistic people’. you can preach this all you like but in the end many of us are bullied and left out because of ‘weird’ behaviours or interests- if you’d make fun of someone for acting ‘strange’, you’d make fun of an autistic person.

-autism is a spectrum. different people have totally different experiences and to generalise about autism is ignorant and wholly incorrect.

- if you are not autistic, it’s your job to support us and boost our voices, NOT to speak for or over us.

- some good autism charities include National Autism Society (UK), Autism Self Advocacy Network (USA), Autism Women + Nonbinary Network (USA). if you know of any more please let me know in the comments!!!!

- finally, don’t make this an annual thing. I see a lot of people caring a lot about autism and autistic people during April and then forget about it for the rest of the year. Make sure you stay supportive and continue to boost the voices of autistic people throughout the year, not just when there’s a ‘day’ for it!!!!!!

[onthebirdroads]

And ASAN is not just in the USA, the’ve got an Australian and New Zealand branch too (and maybe more, but nothing good was coming up in my quick Google so I’d recommend putting in your own country to see if they’ve got a branch there)

[snapdraqons]

Oh thanks for letting me know!!!!

Guys reblog this version if u can!!!!

[ultrafacts]

According to the CDC, in 10 percent of those drownings, the adult will actually watch the child do it, having no idea it is happening. Drowning does not look like drowning—Dr. Pia, in an article in the Coast Guard’s On Scene magazine, described the Instinctive Drowning Response like this:

“Except in rare circumstances, drowning people are physiologically unable to call out for help. The respiratory system was designed for breathing. Speech is the secondary or overlaid function. Breathing must be fulfilled before speech occurs.

Drowning people’s mouths alternately sink below and reappear above the surface of the water. The mouths of drowning people are not above the surface of the water long enough for them to exhale, inhale, and call out for help. When the drowning people’s mouths are above the surface, they exhale and inhale quickly as their mouths start to sink below the surface of the water.

Drowning people cannot wave for help. Nature instinctively forces them to extend their arms laterally and press down on the water’s surface. Pressing down on the surface of the water permits drowning people to leverage their bodies so they can lift their mouths out of the water to breathe.

Throughout the Instinctive Drowning Response, drowning people cannot voluntarily control their arm movements. Physiologically, drowning people who are struggling on the surface of the water cannot stop drowning and perform voluntary movements such as waving for help, moving toward a rescuer, or reaching out for a piece of rescue equipment.

From beginning to end of the Instinctive Drowning Response people’s bodies remain upright in the water, with no evidence of a supporting kick. Unless rescued by a trained lifeguard, these drowning people can only struggle on the surface of the water from 20 to 60 seconds before submersion occurs.”

This doesn’t mean that a person that is yelling for help and thrashing isn’t in real trouble—they are experiencing aquatic distress. Not always present before the Instinctive Drowning Response, aquatic distress doesn’t last long—but unlike true drowning, these victims can still assist in their own rescue. They can grab lifelines, throw rings, etc.

Look for these other signs of drowning when persons are in the water:

Head low in the water, mouth at water level

Head tilted back with mouth open

Eyes glassy and empty, unable to focus

Eyes closed

Hair over forehead or eyes

Not using legs—vertical

Hyperventilating or gasping

Trying to swim in a particular direction but not making headway

Trying to roll over on the back

Appear to be climbing an invisible ladder

So if a crew member falls overboard and everything looks OK—don’t be too sure. Sometimes the most common indication that someone is drowning is that they don’t look like they’re drowning. They may just look like they are treading water and looking up at the deck. One way to be sure? Ask them, “Are you all right?” If they can answer at all—they probably are. If they return a blank stare, you may have less than 30 seconds to get to them. And parents—children playing in the water make noise. When they get quiet, you get to them and find out why.

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[mermaibee]

BOOST FOR THE SUMMER. PLEASE PLEASE PLEASE.

[1q8njk-deactivated20221112]

Can I just say thank you to OP for putting such a detailed description on this?

I’ve been a lifeguard for 6 years now and of all the saves I’ve done, maybe two or three had people drowning in the stereotypical thrashing style. And even those, like the save I made last weekend, it was exactly like OP describes where the person’s head is going in and out of the water but it isn’t long enough to get any air. Mostly you recognize drowning by the look on someone’s face. If someone looks wide eyed and terrified or confused, chances are they’re drowning. That look of “oh shit” is pretty easily recognizable. And even if you can’t tell for sure: GO AFTER THEM ANYWAY. I’ve done “saves” where a kid was pretending to drown and I mistook it for real drowning, but that’s preferable to a kid ACTUALLY drowning.

Also please remember that even strong swimmers can drown if they have a medical emergency, get cramps, or get too tired. If your friend knows how to swim but they’re acting funny get them to land. And even if someone can respond when you ask them if they need help, if they say they do need help? GO HELP THEM.

However . If the victim is a stranger, I can’t recommend trying to get them. Lifeguards literally train to escape “attacks,” because people who are drowning can freak the fuck out and grab you and make YOU drown as well. If you do go in after someone, take hold of them from the back and talk to them the whole time. IF YOU ARE GRABBED: duck down into the water as low as you can get. The person is panicking and won’t want to go under water and should release you. Shove up at their hands and push them away from you as you duck under. Don’t die trying to save someone else.

Please guys, read and memorize this post. Not all places have lifeguards. Being able to recognize drowning is such an important skill to have and you can save someone’s life.

[rangergirl3]

This knowledge is important.

About eight years ago, this information saved my youngest sister’s life. She was swimming in a hotel pool in the middle of the day, with adults sitting not ten feet away from her, and she almost drowned all the same. 

She was 11 years old and a good swimmer. I was in the pool too and thought she was fine.

But I’d heard that drowning people don’t look like they do in the movies. So when she went quiet (which NEVER happens), I turned around and saw her doing exactly this in the deep end of the pool. By the time I got to her she was going under again. She told me later that she couldn’t breathe at all. 

Even though I swam to her from the front, I took an extra second to maneuver so that I could be at her back when I brought one arm around her chest. I swam towards the shallow end while pulling her backwards, making sure to keep her head above the water. 

No one else had noticed a thing. We weren’t alone in the pool, and there were adults not ten feet away. I was 22 and had absolutely no rescue training.

Knowing the signs of drowning, and that you should come at the person in distress from the back saved my sister’s life.

Be Aware of your surroundings and never assume someone is fine just because they know how to swim.