Itâs been a while since I wrote a new post on Tumblr. Considering the fact that a this school year is coming to and end soon I decided to write about something I think is very important for everyone (not just studyblrs) to understand.
                BE THE BEST VERSION OF YOU
I often get carried away with all the posts on social networks and I try to be something I am not. Iâm not super rich or talented and it took me a long time to deal with it. My bedroom is messy, my study-desk is a disaster and so is my closet. My room is not decorated the way I want it to be. The thing is, those things donât define YOU. People you hang out with, movies you watch, books you read, music you listen to - that is you. Itâs your personality. Just because a song is popular it doesnât mean you have to listen to it. Itâs the same thing with eveything else. Now Iâm getting a little bit off topic here, because what I really wanted to write about is HOW to be the best version of you and how to find the real you.
P.S. Try not to think of school when you read each of these. I know education is a big part of our lives, but there is life out and after high school/college. Instead, recognize yourself in family/friend relations while you read.Â
WHAT NOT TO DO
1. Change yourself for someone else.
I feel like when you meet new people you kinda try to fit in better by pretending to like the things they like. This usually happens when youâre new in high school or in college.
2. Be embarassed of who you are.
Okay, you like that terrible Kesha song but we all have our âdirtyâ secrets.Are you a criminal, have you betrayed your family and friends, have you cheated on your so ? And again these are only some things I find bad. Not everyone has same standards. So thereâs no point in being embarassed, because you will never please everyone. Itâs impossible and frankly not healthy for your well being.Â
3. Blindfully follow trends.
Whether itâs fashion, technology or something else donât. Itâs okay to be modern, but itâs not okay to let it takeover your whole life.
4. Force yourself into things
Donât do things just for the sake of saying you do them. If you go to the gym - do it for getting healthy and looking better and because you enjoy it. Not so you could title yourself as âfitâ. Donât go to concerts, parties, trips so you can say you went. You need to have strong, personal reasons for doing sth in order to meet the real you.Â
5. Distinguish yourself
From friends, family and other outer influences. You are you, a unique human being in and out. We are all easily influenced by people and events, so easily that we let them shape us. Know that no matter where or with who you are, your mind and soul should stay the same - untouched.
WHAT TO DO
1. Think about what you truly like.
 You donât have to say âI only like pop musicâ, âit would be better if you put it like this âI like romantic songs with a good beat to followâ (e.g.) Try to be specific in what you like and dislike, but leave room for exceptions.Â
Helpful questions to ask
When are you the happiest?Â
When does time fly by so quickly you donât even notice?Â
When do you forget about all the troubles?Â
Are you happy beingÂ
a) alone
b) around people
c) both?
Is what you are doing now aligned with your anwers to previous questions? (If not, I suggest you start doing what you like, itâs your life to live.)
2. Organise yourself.
No, I did not just tell you to go and clean up your room. What I really mean is, delete/throw away/get rid of stuff you donât like/need. Ok, maybe I did tell you to clean up your room, but I also tell you to, most importantly clean up and organise YOUR MiND.Â
3. Donât overthink.
I know this is a difficult one, but from my experience spending too much time thinking about any topic, makes it worse. Itâs always better to do sth about it (if possible) or to focus on easier things that donât bother you.Â
Also, spending too much time analysing yourself (personality, actions, thoughts) leads to too much stress (my case). To really get to know yourself try putting yourself into different social situations instead of clinging onto one event and analysing it in your head over and over.Â
4. Prioritise self care.
I cannot stress this enough. Self care (mental and physical) should be your priority 24/7. Start with physical (itâs easier for some) by taking a bath, washing your hair, getting your nails done etc. Slowly get to know what mental self care is for you. Everybodyâs different but hereâs a list of things that could work:
1. Reading a book, watching a movies/show, listening to music.Â
2. Sleeping (mental and physical one win-win)
3. Eating.Â
4. Activity you love - shopping, dancing, drawing etc.Â
5. Being alone/Â going out - depending on you.Â
5. How do you see yourself in 20/40 years?
No, I am not hiring after this text. What I mean to say is - when you have a clear idea of what you want your life to be like in the future itâs easier to achieve it and you will feel more motivated daily. Hereâs a small checklist to help you:
1. Dog/cat
2. House / apartment
3. Sexual orientation
4. Foreign country yes/no
5. Kids (if yes, how many)
