hi i’m here to try and explain the psychological aspects of ‘why incest bad’ - the thing is, incest can Never be with an equal power imbalance! full stop! family, sadly, always has a heirarchy built into it. two siblings aren’t equal in their parents eyes (the older sibling may have more pressure on them than the younger, a cousin may have more affection towards them than another cousin, etc.) there is a built in issue that, if you ignore the repercussions of biology, it’s still going to be imbalanced. that’s not even considering stuff like parent and child, which is inherently damaging no matter what (by a grooming aspect). no incestuous relation is going to be healthy, i can’t say all if them will be DAMAGING, but the family heirarchy is always going to mess up any ‘romantic’ dynamic you can form
Now heres a valid point to say "we're so interested in learning why incest is wrong" (cough rather that using One fucking question we had and a "dont fucking use this as a support because it littally has nothing to do with this and its not even WOOO INCEST GOOD TELL ME MORE!";; great now you have us many. your welcome i suppose.)
Question however: Children on the same age (range?) both abused or neglected, and people who never knew they were related until they looked into it? what about them?
bad example i know but isnt alot of the royal family and such seems to be incentous? alot of royal familys actually. and some significant-in-deaf-history-places. Mind you there's definitely a problem there because they reproduce where as not all people will?
they (the royal family) are looked down on with this matter, i understand that,,, but its not as big of an issue to people it seems as some of you make it on here? which is a point where we're curious.
also? most people form alot of jealousy streaks for others, or,,,,, what is the positive word for that- admirations? for people who arent closely related anyways? sometimes i find, not in all cases and not at all most, but sometimes i find it to be strikingly similar to a normal relationship? they simply were raised in the same house?
also how much family closeness is too incentous?
People who live and were raised with you? Would two orphans be incentous?
Two people with blue eyes? They apparently all have the same ancestor yknow?
People who you can remember are family? People your parents can remember? is it okay theyre royal? is it just gross at concept and therefore taboo?
i feel like, rhetorically, I could make a dozen situations where incest is nearly thensame to.. any relationship. sometimes the grey of it all is frighteningly similar, and it makes us wonder, say, why isnt it a more "be careful of xyz" and more of a "NEVER. EVER. TERRIBLE TABOO GROSS WRONG"?
Okay: we dont need deep examples for pedos and age differences and reproductive reprocussion, which is grand. (not mad at you im just cutting your answer into pieces so i may ask the nitty gritty of the greys i am questioning about)
So. Family hierarchy, yes? This is what's wrong with incest, essentially? Please correct me if im wrong or if i missed one of your points, I do promise i will listen and read it as best as can.
dont most relationships have hierarchies as well? "ask your mom", "tell dad to get the shoe" dad cooks mom cleans, dad is better at making burgers so you should ask him, babys saying dadda first, etc- also family hierarchy, no?
How about a general social hierarchies?: popular kid and weirdos, friends and (as patton would say) ' ' besties ' ' , knows multiple languages and people who only know one, taller people n shorter people, art kids and theater tecs, therapy friends, favorite people, etc.
theres an inherent admiration, affection, jealousy, distaste in almost any relationship, no? Is it simply Wrong because its familial? I understand personal discomfort but i feel as if i went up to ask most people, no one would give me a real answer and thus i thank you for this one?
another question: how about two who are of the same age and raised about the same?
in all seriousness, I'm sure almost no one is raised the same but hey: neglected twins. about same age, i do hope, both pretty much same "I dont care about you enough to be a good parent". the problem is they grew up with sibling relationships? what about neighborhood kids who grew up like that as well? its not truely the same, nothing is, but it is too similar for me not to wonder. of course, to some people "big sibling relationship to lovers" without any incest at all is uncomfortable, and disliked, which i can understand but wish to know more about.
that also leads me to my last question: how much incest is "too much" incest?
just direct siblings?
came out of the same womb?
had the same/similar sperm cells?
from siblings to cousins?
siblings, cousins, and anyone you grew up in the same house with?
anyone who attended family parties?
anyone who you remember/know has a familial relationship?
anyone your parents know to be family?
anyone your grandparents know to be family?
anyone with blue eyes?
anyone whos family has been in the same small town as yours?
anyone with the same gene problems as you?
historical people; royal blood lines, Martha's Vineyard, isolated groups of people?
are some people okay because it was Important? because they had to? because it felt safest to them? because it made the most sense for their time?
genuinely, just, where is the line between no and eh?
unrelated note (as you decided not to delve into reproduction things, which a i respect but do want to make note of); I have no scientific proof or papers directly for this, so most certainly go research it yourself for your own opinion;;;; but based on some digging, people having children at an elder age is seems to be likely to have reproductive problems (from conception to child birth to the child itself than incestual reproductive problems, it seems. I've found no studies of actually comparing the two, but if you look into separated research... yet you know of which being absolutely Taboo while the other is merely judged for? It is an interesting thing, in my eyes.
final thoughts for now are: i feel like yes, rhetorically anyone could make so many incest rhetorics that are on the fine line of "ehhh...okay",,,,, therefore why isnt it simply "be weary of xyz" rather than taking such a grey grouping and going THIS IS BAD. TABOO. NEVER TALK ABOUT IT. ? incest seems to be more of a taboo than abusive relationships now a days, how did that happen? ... do any of you find that odd at all? I feel it is. Thus all these questions. Thus us asking all these "whys" and "what about?".
if someone answers this with "because theyre incestual" and calls it a day i'm. not even going to respond. for the record. and you dont have to either, nonny, youve done already above and beyond for explaining.
for the people in the back: we are searching for a deeper and better understanding of things around us. something we are curious about is incest. we are asking questions from a pro-incest seeming side, as we are trying to see an argument from all sides. again, we do NOT necessarily condone incest and we DO NOT and WILL NEVER CONDONE PEDOPHILES. IF SOMEONE USES THAT AS A "THIS IS WHY YOUR WRONG" REMUS IS GOING TO TELL YOU TO "SHUT YOUR DIDLY DONG ASS UP AND ACTUALLY. FUCKING. READ.". theres a whole foot note for you! read it! thanks!
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for the people in the back: we are searching for a deeper and better understanding of things around us. something we are curious about is incest. we are asking questions from a pro-incest seeming side, as we are trying to see an argument from all sides. again we do NOT necessarily condone incest and we DO NOT and WILL NEVER CONDONE PEDOPHILES. IF SOMEONE USES THAT AS A "THIS IS WHY YOUR WRONG" REMUS IS GOING TO TELL YOU TO "SHUT YOUR DIDLY DONG ASS UP AND ACTUALLY. FUCKING. READ.". theres a whole foot note for you! read it! thanks!