Lonely Soliloquy

Lifelong Cleveland Native. Still speaking my mind.

[lonelysoliloquy]

https://mayday.health

Because I can’t take you camping. Share this with friends who may need it.

[soberscientistlife]

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[truth-has-a-liberal-bias]

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[demilypyro]

I dunno I mean I knew a lot of Americans were against it but I assumed they were all elitist right wing weirdos.

What's the mainstream left wing position then if it's not socialism?

[demilypyro]

Oh

Oh no

[grandalchemistpt]

Your first warning sign should have been when they called the Bismark Model of healthcare, literally named after the nationalist monarchist and noble statesman who invented it, far left.

[the-library-alcove]

[thesuburbanerd]

I don’t know how to explain to people that, in any other country, Biden would be a conservative and somehow most Americans have been convinced he’s a commie.

[memeuplift]

[wilwheaton]

[wilwheaton]

Judge Donna Scott Davenport oversees a juvenile justice system in Rutherford County, Tennessee, with a staggering history of jailing children. She said kids must face consequences, which rarely seem to apply to her or the other adults in charge.

This woman needs to be kicked off the bench and disbarred. Then, she must be prosecuted for abuse of power.

https://www.propublica.org/article/black-children-were-jailed-for-a-crime-that-doesnt-exist

[neil-gaiman]

Read the article. It left me shaken.

[lonelysoliloquy]

If this doesn’t shake your core…. Something is wrong with you.

[somethoughtseeds]

[fuckyeanihilism]

[theunitofcaring]

A lot of the advice I got about learning to enforce my boundaries was framed as an adversarial thing. Like, ‘yes, it might upset and disappoint the people around you, but you have to learn to tell them ‘no’ anyway.’ At best, ‘good people will still like you if you enforce your boundaries’.

What I wish I’d been told is that good people will think it's awesome that you enforce your boundaries, that there are people who will respect the hell out of you for it, that there are people who will admire you not despite you telling them no, but because of it. That most people don’t want to make you do something you don’t enjoy,and so they’ll actively be happier and more relaxed around you if they know they can trust you to decline to do things you don’t enjoy and to ask them to stop things that bother you.

It helped me a lot, personally, to stop thinking of ‘enforcing my boundaries’ as something I did for me and more as something I did to empower the people I was close with, to build a situation where they and I felt sure everything that was going on was something we all wanted.

Most advice isn’t good for everyone and this advice seems maybe bad for people in abusive situations, because sometimes you do need to learn to enforce boundaries against people who will try to violate them. But if there are other brains like me out there: your partner will be really happy you can say no to them. your friend will be really happy you change the subject when you hate it. your roommate will really appreciate that you tell them to turn down the music. most people will feel safer and more comfortable around you if they know you’ll reliably express your needs, AND they’ll feel better about voicing theirs.

[intosnarkness]

I was giving a friend this advice the other day and I told her “setting boundaries is just helping people love you the way you need to be loved.”

On a basic level, some people don’t like to be touched. That’s a boundary. I’d rather 100% of them say no to a hug than 1% of them make themselves uncomfortable to please me. But if they never tell me they’re not touchy people, I’ll never know and I may hurt them. So I need their help to love them the best way I can. That’s all it is. Helping people love you better.

[lonelysoliloquy]

As a person finding the road to recovery from being 1000% a people pleasure very difficult, this is good to read and learn from.

[omghotmemes]

Local fire department with the severe weather analogy we can all understand

[gotterhag]

This is life changing

[teechcartoon]

[dudeinthestacks]

I see this is the universal charter school experience. 

[dudeinthestacks]

The longer I am alive, the more I understand the jokes about grandma sleeping with the mailman or milkman. These letter carriers carriers get finer and finer everyday.  

[lonelysoliloquy]

But my great grandma really did marry her milkman. It’s the one true “joke” in our family. :p

[introvertdear]

THIS!

[corancoranthemagicalman]

Reblogging this too for folks with anxiety like myself who feel bad when they say they’re too busy but they don’t have every second accounted for doing something so they feel almost like they’re lying. Self-care goes on your schedule too, lovelies.

[highschoolconfidentialteacher]

When my admin asks me to take on an extra prep.

[injuries-in-dust]

Source: BuddyGator.com

[thefingerfuckingfemalefury]

Do you ever just see something that’s just

SO NICE

And so cute and wholesome

That you start crying because you just want the whole world to be this adorable all the time <3

[between-stars-and-waves]

😊 Heartwarming

[thefingerfuckingfemalefury]

Nancy and her friends are lovely :)

[guerrillatech]

[thestrawberrydreams]

[alberto-balsalm]

link to the relevant section on Wikipedia

[tyrantisterror]

Man I hope they cancel standardized testing, any education professional can tell you it’s a bunch of useless horseshit that does nothing except make students and teachers miserable while utterly failing to accurately gauge understanding.

[harriyanna-deactivated20221223]

“why yall gotta make everything about race?”

because everything is about race. you just upset cause we’re talking about it.